January 28, 2014
Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Behaviorist
Dear Reader,
This author, who is also a Psychology Instructor at Butte
College, has written his syllabus with this spacious and easy-to-read letter
type. Since Spring semester has just started, he had to adjust his syllabus and was
again exposed to this letter type called “Latha.” The author choose to use this
letter type with his first syllabus because he had copied the syllabus from
someone else. It is because of this coincidence that he became familiar with
it.
Although he had used it, he didn’t pay attention to it, but now
that he is key-boarding a new entry in his journal, he realizes what a nice
letter type “Latha” is. We are more likely to read something which is easy to read
and we are more likely to listen to Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB), which is easy to listen to. If it is
difficult to read or difficult to listen to, it becomes Noxious Verbal Behavior
(NVB) to us. SVB and NVB are on a continuum, we either move in one direction or the
other. This writer knows the reader will find it easy to read these words in
the same way that the speaker knows that the listener will have no problem
listening to what the speaker says.
The word “Latha” makes this writer think of milk, grass,
cows, breasts, the mother, new-borns, food, nourishment, attachment and caring.
There is also a whiteness in to this writing, a possibility to see the page.
Usually, we are not aware of the page, but this writing makes the background against which our words appear clear. Once related to this background,
our words become more meaningful, more poignant, in a figure-ground-kind-of
way.
It is important for this writer as a speaker, as a
lecturer, as a teacher, to keep in touch with the page on which ideally the
rest of the class is with him. To keep be on the same page with is class is a challenging, but rewarding task. This semester, this teacher is going to
teach by the book and by the test, so that there is alignment between what is
taught and talked about and what is tested and no confusion for the student.
The nourishing aspect of teaching, the attachment of
connecting previous knowledge to new knowledge, the security of development,
the care, the availability of circumstances in which feeding and learning becomes
possible, all of these will be remembered during this semester by this teacher,
so that he will engage his class. When he read some of the feedback from the
students of his previous class, he was hurt by what was said about him. Some
didn’t think he taught very well. Some said he didn’t know the material well enough.
Others said he was just reading from the slides. It was also said that he did all
the talking, that he was boring and inadequate with the computer and should
take a class himself. It pained him to read some of these critical comments. It was so
upsetting that he drew a blank in front of the class and felt embarrassed about
it. He regained himself, but it was a very difficult first class, so difficult that
he was seriously thinking of leaving this job. The whole day he was upset and anxious. Only
in the evening, when he came home to his wife from his other job with the
mentally ill clients, he was finally able to calm down. When he got home, his lovely wife
had some food and wine and was watching a beautiful documentary about nature with
soft music playing. The next morning he felt much better.
On Sunday this author had another one of his seminars.
There were only five people, which was the smallest turnout so far. It was
still a wonderful event and we had a great time talking together. One participant
suggested we should have SVB regularly in a salon-like setting. This is a great
idea which hopefully will be taken to the next level. Because there were so few
people it was an extremely mellow event. We were very calm and concentrated and
this allowed us to experience the deep relaxation that is caused by SVB. Many things
were said indirectly, that is, they didn’t need to be spelled out and were only referred to. Because it would have been possible to say them, the participants
didn’t feel the pressure anymore to say them. This made it possible for them to
talk indirectly about the things which in NVB simply can’t be said. Being
able to mention these things without having an urge of going into to them is
essential to SVB.
SVB frees us up to say many other things. When this happens,
some of us initially choose not to say anything, while others seize this opportunity
to say what they are now capable of saying. After this went on for a while,
those who listened approved of those who had spoken, by saying that they were
thinking and feeling similar things as they were just talking about. Then,
those who initially spoke were calmed down and listened to those who initially
didn’t speak. As they began to speak, because they were being listened to so
attentively, their words were under control of speech that only happens when
listening is increased across the board. First, those who could speak, spoke, and those who could listen, listened, but then the essence SVB happened: speakers
and listeners switched sides.