May 14, 2015
Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer
Dear Reader,
The fact that behaviorism isn’t known widely, isn’t
taught everywhere and isn’t talked about very often, is because behaviorists and
non-behaviorists alike are used to a way of talking, which can be
described as immature. Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB) is a way of talking in
which the people who talk believe they can get away with whatever
they say as if there are no consequences. Since the speaker controls the behavior
of the listener with an aversive contingency, the listener in NVB, whether he
or she opens his or her mouth or not, is going to assert some kind of counter-control. As this counter-control can’t be properly addressed in NVB (if it is addressed, it is not
done accurately), it will primarily affect the private speech of the listener as negative self-talk.
Without the institutional recognition and promotion of Sound
Verbal Behavior (SVB), communicators who are aware of the negative consequences
of NVB can only talk among themselves about these negative effects. Moreover, they
do so out of survival as they don’t want to lose their relationship or job.
The fact remains, however, NVB is a form of talking that maintains
and perpetuates inequality. Our so-called acceptance of aversive communicators
is self-serving, that is, it leaves us with a sense that we as
autonomous agents have decided to conform, to be pragmatic, to fit in, to be smart,
because it was better to act in this or in that way. Consequently, we may say
one thing, but do another, because for us saying and doing are two entirely different
things. when in fact they are not. Saying and doing are both behaviors. It is
intellectually immature to think otherwise. Intellectual maturity can only develop
during SVB in which the false dichotomy between what we say and do becomes
irrelevant.
What we say is what we do. Only if we begin to recognize the extent
to which we are conditioned by NVB, we will see an increase of SVB, which is
the way of talking in which we are no longer speaking as individual selves, but
as partners in an ongoing conversation. Our numbers are not determined by the
amount of people who know about behavior-environment relations, but by the
extent to which we are communicating SVB. I think that the learning involved in
acquiring behaviorist knowledge must be preceded by SVB.
SVB is not and cannot be about persuading someone into a
particular way of thinking. However, NVB, on the other hand, is characterized by someone’s attempt
to make someone else think in a particular way, by any means possible. The
means serve the end. In NVB and it doesn’t matter if one succeeds with coercion,
with tricks or by exploiting someone’s feelings, believes or ignorance. Even if
one fails completely to convince someone about NVB or even if people don't buy into one's NVB, it
doesn’t matter, because it always leads to new, more coercive, violent, persistent,
punitive, insidious and inescapable attempts. The whole point of NVB is to
dominate others. Complete dominance can only be achieved and maintained by keeping
alive false belief about choice, autonomy and freedom.
The fact that people imagine a behavior-controlling inner
self in NVB isn’t something philosophical. Although they are, like the consequences ofType II
Diabetes, very real, the consequences of NVB are often denied. The long held assumption by
behaviorists that a cultural belief in an inner agent prevents individuals from
being benefitted by natural contingencies is flat out wrong. People who believe
in an inner agent are better benefitted by the natural contingencies then those who
don’t believe in inner agents. Their majority just shows how much better they
are at benefitting than radical behaviorists, who have for the most part been unsuccessful in changing
their mentalistic ways of thinking. If behaviorists would have known about SVB, however,
they would have had no problem separating themselves from NVB. Rather than doing this, they made tried to separate themselves from the field of psychology.
There is no overlap between SVB and NVB and thus they always only
happen successively. When SVB changes into NVB, this is not a
problem, but it is an opportunity to learn. It is only experienced as a problem to the
extent that a presumed inner agent demands things to be different then they are.
If this agent doesn’t really exist, then there is no problem. When NVB changes
into SVB, this is never seen as a problem. The alteration occurs at a biological
level as a noticeable change of energy within our own skin. Thus, when someone switches from NVB to SVB,
he or she experiences a sense of well-being which he or she wasn’t feeling before. However,
this sense of well-being will immediately end the moment a presumed inner agent
claims it as his or her experience. SVB continues in the absence of someone who
does it, which means, it doesn’t leave any trace of someone who can claim to
have even learned it. We can only say that we
maintain SVB in each other.
When we experience that we can only maintain SVB
together, that is, when we acknowledge that in SVB the speaker is listened to
and understood and the listener can become such a speaker and the speaker can
become such a listener, it is a very small step to realize that we maintain NVB
together as well. However, this step is easier to be taken when we talk with
ourselves than when we talk with each other. While focusing on each other,
chances are much bigger that we will still infer (like we have done for so long)
the inner causation of behavior. It is easy to blame another person for his or
her behavior and to find a reason to justify that blame. When we listen to
ourselves while we speak (which ideally, of course, is done simultaneously with
others), we can catch ourselves asserting our imaginary inner agent, who may at
any given moment claim to think, feel, experience or remember this or
that. When we carefully listen to and
pay attention to the sound of our so-called inner agent, who seems to direct our thoughts, feelings, experiences, mood and attention, we find that he
or she doesn’t exist. By verbalizing in our own words, pace and rhythm,
whatever comes to our attention and by calmly listening to the sound of our
voice, we effortlessly achieve a vastness and peace, which wasn’t there
before. When I first discovered this I called it “The Language That Creates
Space.”
Except in NVB, there are no others to influence, convince or
persuade. Most of what we are accustomed to is based on coercive control of
behavior. Even the idea that one supposedly must pay attention is aversive.
The effect which we have on each other is there without anyone doing anything
and without anyone having to do anything. NVB is so insensitive that we never
took note of this.
During SVB, we put words to our unique, ever-changing
experience and we discover we are energized by talking with each other. Everyone
who has ears can verify that in SVB the sound of our own voice plays a
detectable role in the chain of functionally related events, which enhance the
well-being of both the speaker and the listener. A new way of talking is possible,
when we begin to acknowledge that there are no inner selves, but that we cause each
other’s vocal verbal behavior in the minutest ways possible.