August 28, 2015
Written
by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer
Dear Reader,
This is my eleventh response
to Chapter 5.4 “Vocalizations as tools for
influencing the affect and behavior of others” by Rendall and Owren, (2010). Before I continue commenting on this
important paper, I want to write about a dream I just woke up from. It was a
about magnificent feast. Accompanied by
music, a big, canoe-like dish was carried in by eight men and eight women. The
food displayed looked beautiful. It was a piece of art, so colorful and
abundant. As they ceremonially came to the middle of the room that was filled
with the many participants for this celebration, it was apparent to everyone
that the food was alive. People let out sounds of joy, thankfulness and
anticipation and were amazed by the wave-like changing patterns and colors of
the food. The huge dish seemed to float off the shoulders of the carriers, who,
with great care and calmness lowered it to the ground. It seemed to take a long
time for the dish to land and everyone admired the grace with which this was
done. People drew closer and were ready to eat from this gorgeous dish. Plates
had been handed out and while this boat of sacred food came closer to the
ground, it began to overflow. Everyone came closer and held out their plates to catch the
food and plates were passed from one person to the next until everyone had been
provided. Before the eating began, a song was sung by a female and a male singer,
which described the waiting for, the arrival and the meaning of this food. As everyone
swayed to this graceful music, their eyes filled with tears of gratitude. It was now time
to eat, to use our hands and to nourish ourselves.
While we
speak, we either adjust and attune to each other or we don’t. If we don’t, speakers produce Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB), but if we do, we make Sound
Verbal Behavior (SVB) available to the listener. Because of their punitive
conditioning many adults never acquired the ability attune. As
children, we were born sensitive and in need of attunement and attachment.
Without attunement there can be no attachment. Attachment is only possible if
we are and remain attuned. However, even if were fortunate enough to have
good parents, most of us only experience this wonderful attachment and attunement while
we grow up. As we get older, we become
less and less reinforced for this and, consequently, this creates many problems. There is
of course a more obvious need for reinforcement while we are young, because
without it we are unable to learn anything. As we have learned things, we
are capable of reinforcing ourselves, but this never means that we can
completely do without the reinforcement of others.
The authors
wrote “In many cultures, the speech that adults use when talking to infants is
quite different from the speech they use when talking to other adults.
Infant-directed speech is often simplified compared to adult-directed speech, but
it also often involves exaggerated prosodic features, such as wider excursions
of voice pitch; more variable amplitude, tempo and delivery; and more varied patterns
of word stress. These modifications to infant directed speech mean that, as a
physical acoustic signal, it is inherently both more salient and more variable
than adult-directed speech, and these properties also make it more functional
in capturing and focusing infant attention and modulating core arousal.” It is
interesting that we, as adults, also want to see and hear actors and
performers act out “exaggerated prosodic features.” Our emotional need continues to exist. However, we can’t get our need for “salient” and “variable”
speech met by passively listening to actors, performers, leaders, preachers and
professional speakers, who supposedly do the talking for us. Unless we engage
in SVB, our need for interaction can’t be met. Every time we engage in NVB this
need is frustrated and we become more isolated. Also, our therapists
and teachers usually can't help us achieve SVB as they tend to be too
busy with what they are saying. Their common verbal fixation causes NVB and is
based on a misunderstanding about talking and listening. As long as the sound of our voice is not our focus
while we speak we will continue to have NVB.
The
aforementioned more “salient”, “variable” speech, which seems to come natural
when adults talk with children, is needed for adults as well. However, during the course of our normal development
our overt speech becomes covert. Initially, everyone is happy when a child says
its first few words and begins to formulate sentences, but once they acquire
language, speech begins to recede to a covert level, where it becomes what we
say to ourselves and determines to what extent we are able to regulate ourselves. Obviously, negative self-talk is dysregulating and only our positive self-talk is
regulating. Such negative or positive self-talk is a function of the NVB or SVB
which we have experienced while growing up. For most people there is more SVB
while growing up then while being grown up. Therefore, as adults, we are mainly
determined by what we say to ourselves, by covert speech. To the extent that our positive self-talk
allows us to be open to what others say to us, we will engage in SVB, but to
the extent that our negative self-talk prevents us from being open to others,
we will engage in NVB. Thus, how we were being talked with while we were growing up
determines how we later talk as adults. We cannot produce SVB as long as it was not
reinforced. And, of course, then, we also cannot reinforce SVB in others.
Our ability to become an effective speaker is determined by the extent to which we can
be an affective speaker. We don't become fully verbal as long as the sound
of our voice doesn’t support what we are saying. This is only be the case in SVB. During NVB our voice contradicts what we are saying, that is, our negative
affect influences the listener in such a way that he or she experiences our
sound as an aversive stimulus from which they want to escape. To learn, not only children
need to hear a positive sound, adults need to hear a positive sound too. Without that listeners will not fully understand what the speaker is
saying. “The resulting modulatory effects have been shown to facilitate semantic
learning and to highlight additional organizational properties of language. For
example, exaggerated pitch excursions and word stress in conjunction with
manual gesturing and manipulation of concrete objects facilitates semantic
labeling. Variable tempo and pausing help to highlight phonetic boundaries,
clausal boundaries and higher
syntactical units (reviewed in Kuhl, 2000 ).