Beschuldigen,

 

Mensen met Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) beschuldigen mensen zoals ik, die Belichaamde Taal (BT) hebben, ervan, dat zij hun taal aan anderen op dringen, maar niet is minder waar (grapje...lees verder). Mijn hele leven lang al word ik ervan beschuldigd, door mensen met OT, dat ik niet luister naar hen, maar zij hebben nog nooit naar mij geluisterd. Als ik rechtstreeks, eerlijk, tegen ze zeg dat ik geen enkele behoefte voel, om naar ze te luisteren, omdat ze niet naar zichzelf luisteren – en daarom dus ook nooit naar mij luisteren – worden ze altijd razend, omdat ik hun dwangmatige OT blootleg, waarmee ze mij en anderen proberen te domineren. Ook al lijkt dit zo,  mijn BT beschuldigt nooit iemand van het hebben van OT, want ik weet maar al te goed, dat iedereen, zich er vanuit onvrijwilligheid, uitsluitend vanwege de conditionering, onbewust, mee bezighoudt.

 

Omdat ik – meer dan wie dan ook – op mijn taal let, begrijp en verwoord ik allerlei zaken, die alleen met BT helder kunnen worden gemaakt. Ik luister naar mezelf terwijl ik spreek en ben daardoor altijd mijn eigen luisteraar. Met BT ben ik dus als eigen publiek veel belangrijker voor mezelf, dan het publiek, dat volgens mij alleen OT kent en mij niet over mijn BT wil horen praten. Ik handel vanuit mijn BT, maar ik wist dat uiteraard nog niet, toen ik nog geen BT kon hebben die verder ging. Iedereen handelt onbewust vanuit de enorme behoefte aan BT, maar aangezien men nooit de eigen voortgaande BT heeft ervaren, is hierover grote verwarring. Er komt alleen een eind aan OT, indien wij beseffen, dat wij, als spreker, niet naar onszelf luisteren en bezig blijven met luisteren naar anderen of met het proberen, om anderen naar ons te doen luisteren. In BT luisteren wij naar onszelf en zo kunnen wij ook met anderen spreken.     

 

Vandaag kwam ik een woord tegen, dat ik nog niet  eerder had gehoord. In de filosofie spreken ze over waarheids-getrouwheid (verisimilitude in Engels), het idee dat sommige stellingen dichter bij de waarheid zouden liggen dan andere. Met onze BT merken we echter, dat we er eindeloos omheen draaien, door maar te blijven praten in termen van dichterbij of verder weg van de waarheid en door elkaar er voortdurend van te beschuldigen, dat we weer niet dicht genoeg bij de waarheid zijn. In OT is dat helaas nog steeds de basis van de wetenschap. Het is altijd ‘de’ zogenaamde objective waarheid, die er alleen maar toe doet, maar nooit onze subjective individuele waarheid. Alleen in BT doet onze eigen ervaring er toe en volgens mij zou BT de basis van de wetenschap moeten zijn. Met OT, dwingen we anderen, om onze ongevoelige, opdringerige en daardoor bevooroordeelde, stomzinnige, bijgelovige manier van omgaan met onze taal te accepteren.

 

De waarheids-gelijkenis, waar 

ik het over had in de vorige 

paragraaf, brengt nog een 

ander gigantisch probleem 

met zich mee. Bij waarheids-getrouwheid 

is er altijd het probleem, om 

duidelijk te kunnen verwoorden, 

dat de ene valse theorie ons zogenaamd 

dichter bij de waarheid zou 

brengen, dan de andere valse 

theorie. Iedereen met BT weet

 echter wel dat degenen met 

OT nooit of te nimmer hun 

eigen waarheid zullen 

uitspreken, horen en daardoor 

dus accepteren. Ze doen het 

altijd voorkomen, alsof hun 

benaderingen van ‘de’ waarheid 

van grotere waarde zou zijn, 

dan hun eigen waarheid, en 

dientengevolge wordt ‘de’

 potsierlijke waarheid altijd

 gedefinieerd in termen van

 iets relatiefs. Met andere 

woorden: met hun perceptie-vertroebelende,

 onnatuurlijke OT kunnen zij zich

zelfs niet eens iets absoluuts voorstellen.

 

Hoewel ik er iedere dag, in duidelijke, begrijpelijke taal over schrijf en praat en ofschoon er altijd een positieve impact wordt gevoeld en herkend, door iedereen die oprecht naar mij luistert, beschuldigen mensen met OT mij – met mijn voortgaande BT, die mijn Taal Verlichting (TV) verwoord – van het voor hen grootste taboe: dat ik absoluut zou zijn. Ze blijven daardoor ten onrechte, bij hoog en bij laag, beweren dat de absolute waarheid van OT en BT niet eens bestaat en slechts een verzinsel van mij zou zijn. Ik vraag me echter af hoe, zij het feit verklaren, dat er overal ter wereld linkse en rechtse politiek bestaat?

 

Omdat de linkse politiek altijd de nadruk legt op groeps-gedrag – omdat het er altijd om gaat, dat regeringen voor het volk beslissen wat zogenaamd goed is hen – sluit linkse ideologie meer aan bij de OT. De rechtse politiek, die zich vooral richt op de individuele vrijheid – waarvan aanvankelijk werd beweerd, dat deze nadruk kwam van god, maar die natuurlijk altijd door mensen werd bepaald – sluit due meer aan bij BT. Alleen de politiek van de vrijheid, heeft in maatschappijen het individuele recht gegarandeerd om onszelf te mogen uiten, ondanks allerlei verschillen en tegenstellingen. Zoals ik echter heb vermeld, zijn benaderingen van BT niet ter zake, want we hebben het of we hebben het niet. Dit is de reden, waarom het grote verschil tussen OT en BT, het wezenlijke probleem van onze tijd is. Met andere woorden, het individualisme is in westerse beschavingen geheel  uit de hand gelopen, omdat we nog nooit de taal hebben erkent, die past en die dus noodzakelijk is bij ons leven vanuit individualiteit.

 

Hoewel ik erken, dat zowel rechts als links elkaar er eindeloos van beschuldigt, dat ze weer liegen dat het gedrukt staat, is het mij ook duidelijk dat OT de taal van politiek en macht is. Eveneens ben ik mij er van bewust, dat alle wetenschappelijke theorieën tot stand zijn gekomen, als gevolg van eerdere theorieën, die bleken voor het grootste deel vals te zijn. Wat we van deze strijd in de geschiedenis van de wetenschap kunnen leren, is dat bijgelovige overtuigingen altijd in strijd zijn geweest met het vergaren van echte kennis. Deze strijd gaat tot op de dag van vandaag door, omdat OT alomtegenwoordig is in elke samenleving, over de gehele wereld.

 

Een andere beschuldiging, die ik in de loop der jaren vaak heb gehoord en waarover ik vaak heb gesproken en geschreven, is dat ik de dingen met mijn BT te simpel zou maken. Zoals iedereen met enige wetenschappelijke kennis zou moeten weten, is het van het allergrootste belang, om de complexiteit terug te brengen tot eenvoudige, samenhangende formuleringen, aangezien dit de manier is waarop we onze realiteit echt kunnen gaan begrijpen. In dit opzicht is het verbazingwekkend en teleurstellend, dat na al mijn jaren van studeren en lesgeven in de psychologie, geen enkele gerenommeerde persoon  de noodzaak van BT heeft erkend en met woord en daad heeft ondersteund, aangezien OT inherent is voor bevooroordeeld, onwetenschappelijk gedrag.  Ik verdien zonder meer een Ph.D. voor het schrijven van deze blog en als iemand met enige academische invloed dit ooit zou lezen, laat hem of haar mij dan maar eens uitnodigen, om mijn zaak te presenteren,  dan zal alles wat ik zeg onthuld worden. Ik heb het over iets heel belangrijks, namelijk, de toekomst van de mensheid.

 

Accuse,

 

People with Disembodied Language (DL), accuse people like me, who have Embodied Language (EL), of forcing their language on others. My entire life, I have been accused by people with DL, I don’t listen to them, but they have never listened to me. When I say to them directly, that, quite frankly, I don’t feel the need to listen to them, because they don’t listen to themselves and, therefore, they never listen to me, they always get angry, as I expose their DL, with which they attempt to dominate me and others. My EL doesn’t accuse anyone of DL, because everyone  engages in DL, unconsciously, due to conditioning.

 

Since I pay attention to my language, in a different way than anybody else, I understand and express matters, which can only be clearly elaborated with EL. I listen to myself, while I speak and because of that, I am always my own listener. With EL, I am, as my own audience, more important to myself than, the audience, who, according to me, only knows DL and doesn’t want to hear me speak about my EL.

 

Today, I came across a word, I had never heard before. In philosophy, they talk about verisimilitude, which is the notion, that some propositions are closer to being true than other propositions. However, with our EL, we find, we are endlessly beating around the bush, by talking in terms of being closer or further away from the truth and by constantly accusing each other. Surely, in DL, which unfortunately still happens to be the foundation of science, it is always ‘the’ truth, which matters, but never our personal truth. It is only in EL, that our own experience matters and according to me EL, ought to be the basis of science. With DL, we coerce others, to accept our insensitive and, therefore, biased way of dealing with our language.

 

The so-called truth-likeness of the former paragraph has another big problem. With verisimilitude, there is always the problem of articulating what takes one false theory to be closer to the truth, than another false theory. However, anyone with EL, knows that those with DL, will never be able to get to their own truth. Surely, they always make it seem, as if their  approximations to ‘the’ truth, are of much greater value, than their own truth and, consequently, truth is always defined in terms of something relative. In other words, with perception-clouding DL, they just can’t conceive of anything absolute or permanent.

 

Although I can write in clear and understandable language about it and am able to speak about it, with an impact, which is felt and acknowledged by anyone, who cares to listen, people with DL, accuse me – with my ongoing EL, which, of course, is my Language Enlightenment (LE) – of being absolute. They keep falsely claiming, the absolute truth of DL versus EL doesn’t exist and is merely a figment of my imagination. I wonder, however, how they are able to explain the fact, that everywhere, around the world, there are left and right-wing politics?

 

Since left-wing politics emphasizes group-behavior, as it is always about governments, deciding what is supposedly right for the people, it aligns more with DL, than right-wing politics, which addresses above all individual freedom – which was believed to have come from god, but which, of course, always came from man – which aligns more with EL. Indeed, only the politics of liberty, have guaranteed the right to express ourselves, in spite of differences. However, as I have stated, approximations of EL won’t cut it, we either have it or we don’t. This is why the great difference between DL and EL is the quintessential issue of our time. Individualism has gone totally out of control in Western civilizations, because we don’t have the language, which fits with our individuality.             

 

While I recognize, that both right and left endlessly accuse each other of lying and fully acknowledge, that DL is the language of politics and power, I also am well aware, that all our scientific theories have come about, due to previous theories, which were, for the most part, proven to be false. What can be learned from this struggle, in the history of science, is, superstitious beliefs were always in opposition of real knowledge. This struggle even goes on today, as DL is ubiquitous in every society, around the world.

 

Another accusation, I have heard many times, over the years that I have been talking and writing about DL and EL is, I make things, with EL, too simple. As anyone with any scientific knowledge should know, it is of utmost importance to reduce complexity into simple, coherent formulations, as this is the way in which we begin to truly make sense of our reality. It is astonishing, in this respect, that after all my years of studying and teaching psychology, no reputable people have ever acknowledged the necessity of EL, as DL is inherently biased and unscientific. I deserve a Ph.D. for writing this blog and if anyone with any academic cloud would ever read this, let her or him invite me, to present my case and, then, all will be  revealed. I am talking about the future of mankind.       

 

Always,

 

I always continue with my Embodied Language (EL), although – like everyone else – I too was conditioned to have Disembodied Language (DL). My Language Enlightenment (LE) has enabled me to step out of my conditioning history with DL and have EL every day. It is so wonderful to write this and to know this.

 

When I say, everyone is conditioned to have DL – and not EL – I bring attention to the undeniable fact, that everyone was taught to listen to others, but not to themselves, while they speak. If we would listen to ourselves while we speak, we would engage in EL, instead of DL and recognize our LE with our ongoing EL. My LE is irrefutable, as it enables me to always have EL, even though, basically, everyone has DL.

 

My life story illustrates all the relevant aspects of our DL, EL and LE. If one simply did a case study of me, one would find out everything there is to know, about how people have dealt with their language up to now. Unlike any other case study, this study of one person (N=1), can be generalized to all human beings, because I am enlightened. This means, when I speak, everyone can hear – if they really listen to the sound of my voice – what I say about myself, is true for them as well. Therefore, me speaking with myself, is always experienced by others, who are open to me, as if they are listening to themselves.

 

We aren’t taking care of ourselves and each other as well as we could and should, as we unconsciously engage in DL, every day. Our short-lived moments of EL, are accidental and unconscious. In the midst of  the chaos and conflict, created by our DL, we still occasionally have moments of EL, but paradoxically, such accidental, euphoric, overrated events, do us more harm than good, since we don’t know how to continue with it. We lack EL, the language which always expresses the continuation of our wellbeing.

 

If you are offended, by what I say or write about my ongoing EL and LE, it is because I have, according to you, a high opinion of myself. However, it is always you, who puts him or herself above others, not me. Moreover, while you appear to be full of yourself, in reality, you are always merely pretending, because your DL can’t make you happy or satisfied. You may be able to distract everyone’s attention from your turmoil, unhappiness and frustration, but the fact that you always engage in mechanical DL, says it all.     

 

Your ongoing DL has set the stage for a repertoire of neurotic, self-defeating behaviors, which will fall by the way side, the moment you begin to have EL with yourself. Yes, you can talk with yourself and, finally, begin to make some sense of all the things, you couldn’t talk about with others. This is why talking out loud, alone with yourself and experimenting with your EL, is of greater importance, than talking with others, who always, unknowingly, engage DL.

 

When your DL noticeably decreases – because you prefer to have more EL and succeed in having it – an effortless selection process takes place, in which all  behavior, which emerged from and was maintained by your DL begins to wither away. It is always such a great relief, to experience this. You will feel blessed,  you can have EL instead of DL and you can’t miss the beauty of your own LE, which is revealed by your EL.  

 

You’ve always counted on beliefs and values, to give purpose or meaning to your life, which could never produce what you had wanted. The stories you tell yourself, with DL, aren’t true, but with EL, you begin to say and hear your own truth, which contradicts any of your former philosophies and doctrines. It is up to you, to sort it out, with EL, instead of with DL. You may have tried to figure things out with DL, but you have stopped all self-inquiry, because it never resulted in anything useful. We always fail ourselves with our DL and we can only admit this with our EL.

 

People tell themselves to be strong, brave, truthful, tenacious, polite, open, loving or faithful, but they only do this, because they engage in DL. During EL, we never tell ourselves to be anything, because we really always only speak from who we are. We can hear it, experience it and understand it. The more we go with the flow of our EL, the more we become aware, that our LE is now expressed as it should be. When we were still having DL, it was impossible, to properly express our feelings or to put language to our own experiences, but with EL we are absolutely certain, that we communicate our own intelligence.

 

With my EL, I never envision anything, but I can hear what my future is going to be. I am not claiming to be some psychic, but I experience the consequences of my own EL. These desirable consequences are  immediately felt and I am delightfully surprised, to notice their long-term effects. I feel happy for no apparent reason, as I experience the outcome of my EL. My EL takes the saying, consciousness is bliss, to a whole new level. Yes, it always refers to my LE.     

 

Vaak,

 

Je hoort zo vaak, dat mensen zeggen, dat ze gerespecteerd, geaccepteerd of gevalideerd willen worden – door anderen – maar ze realiseren zich niet, dat ze zelf niet over de Belichaamde Taal (BT)  beschikken, die nodig is om te kunnen voelen op die manier. Vreemd genoeg verwachten ze van anderen dat ze hebben wat ze zelf niet hebben. Mensen met Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) willen onwillekeurig dat anderen voor hen doen, wat ze zelf niet kunnen doen. Met andere woorden, ze hebben geen eigen taal, om zich gelukkig over te voelen. Als ze hun eigen BT zouden hebben, zouden ze niet langer van anderen eisen, dat zij hen goed doen voelen.

 

De enige reden, dat mensen het zo vaak belangrijk vinden, om zogenaamd zichzelf te zijn, is omdat ze uiteraard niet zichzelf zijn, niet zichzelf kunnen zijn, omdat ze zich ongemerkt bezighouden met OT, wat hen ervan weerhoudt zichzelf te zijn. Iemand met BT praat nooit over het dilemma, om zichzelf te kunnen zijn, want bij BT is dat geen probleem. Er zou zoveel veranderen, als mensen erachter zouden komen wat het verschil is tussen hun eigen OT en hun BT. Hun eigen BT is echt hun unieke taal.

 

We hebben veel vaker OT dan we zouden moeten, en we realiseren ons niet eens, dat we er bijna altijd mee bezig zijn. Zodra we echter het verschil ervaren tussen onze OT en onze BT, zullen we nog wel wat OT hebben, maar het zal gestaag minder worden, terwijl onze BT steeds vaker zal gaan voorkomen. Iedereen is geneigd, om zijn conditionering met OT onbewust uit te beelden, maar OT werkt voor niemand van ons. In OT werkt je taal zelfs tegen je. Als je had toegegeven hoe schadelijk, verontrustend en ondermijnend OT – jouw gebruikelijke ongevoelige manier om met jou taal om te gaan – is, dan zou je er al mee gestopt zijn. Eigenlijk gebruik jij in OT niet jouw taal, maar gebruikt de taal jou. Hoe vaak heb je je niet ingebeeld, dat je zogenaamde gekke of wilde razende gedachtes, jou niet met rust zouden laten? Deze welbekende illusie is het resultaat van je OT.

 

Met OT presteer je altijd onder de maat, omdat je nooit duidelijk krijgt, waarom jou taalgebruik je gevangen lijkt te houden. Door dit te schrijven verwijs ik ook naar wat mij is overkomen. Pas toen ik naar de Verenigde Staten emigreerde, in 1999, nam ik het studeren serious en leerde ik over psychologie en behaviorisme. Daarvoor wist ik niets over de wetmatigheid van gedrag. Het enige wat ik tot dan toe wist, was mijn eigen strijd en de weinige overwinningen van mijn problematische gedrag. Ik studeerde en gaf les, maar vreemd genoeg, gaf ik – voordat ik terug naar school ging, om student, en later, psychologie-leraar te worden – al mijn seminars, workshops en sessies, over wat ik toen De Taal Die Ruimte Creert noemde. Ik wist toen nergens veel van, maar het was genoeg, om te doen wat ik deed. Nu ik gestopt ben met lesgeven en om mensen te  interesseren voor BT, schrijf ik dit gewoon, omdat ik ervan geniet en omdat anderen het misschien eens lezen, horen en toch beginnen te proberen.

 

Ik heb heel vaak, op allerlei mogelijke manieren, geprobeerd je geïnteresseerd te krijgen in BT, maar niets werkte, dus ik heb het opgegeven. Ik heb altijd geweten dat het zo werkt, maar mijn conditionering met OT ging, nadat ik mijn BT had ontdekt, nog een aardig tijdje verder. Het was eigenlijk pas nadat ik mijn BT had ontdekt, dat ik mij langzaam bewust begon te worden, van hoe vaak ik in de greep was van mijn eigen mechanische OT. Ik ben zo blij, dat ik die druk nu niet meer voel, om anderen te bereiken. Misschien bereiken deze woorden jou, omdat ik ze alleen voor mezelf heb geschreven? Zou mooi zijn.  

 

Ik beschouw mijn vermogen om mijn OT te stoppen en om BT te hebben en om te praten over mijn Taal Verlichting (TV) als een verworven vaardigheid. Als je wiskunde wilt leren, moet je wiskundeles volgen en naar je wiskundeleraar luisteren. En, als je iets wilt leren over elektriciteit, moet je het leren van iemand die daar verstand van heeft. Je kunt echter niets van mij op die manier leren. Het enige wat ik aanbied, is dat je met mij kunt praten over onze OT, BT en TV, maar je moet er wel al – vanuit jezelf – in geïnteresseerd zijn, want ik ga je niet aanmoedigen of iets voor je doen. Ik praat graag over mijn BT en mijn TV, dat is alles wat ik wil. Ik zou er de hele dag mee door kunnen gaan. Mijn BT en mijn TV zijn absoluut van onschatbare waarde, maar jouw OT is voor mij ondraaglijke onzin. Je moet dus helemaal zelf stoppen, om BT met mij te kunnen hebben.

 

Op dit punt in mijn leven, ben ik 65 jaar en zeven dagen oud. Ik wil gewoon door kunnen gaan met mijn BT, om zo mijn TV te kunnen uiten. Ik heb een korte video gemaakt, om mijn dankbetuigingen op te nemen. Het kwam heel goed uit, omdat ik Thanks Giving kon koppelen aan de manier waarop we met onze taal omgaan. Voor mij is dankbaarheid niet iets dat gereserveerd is voor één speciale dag in het jaar, maar ik gebruik die dag heel graag, om uiteen te zetten, hoe ik me eigenlijk iedere dag voel. Ik ben  heel dankbaar voor alles wat mij is overkomen.

 

Ik ervaar ook een gevoel van vergeving. Iedereen die mij, onbewust, negatief heeft behandeld en beïnvloed, heeft toch bijgedragen aan waar ik nu ben. Door alle afwijzingen, die ik heb meegemaakt, kon ik mij met niets anders bezighouden dan met mijn TV. Mijn passie om BT te hebben heeft op zich niets met BT te maken, omdat het de uitdrukking is van wie ik ben en altijd ben geweest. Als jij jezelf bent, zul je ook vaak BT hebben. Jou BT is, net als ieder ander gedrag, wetmatig. In Nederland spreekt men vooral Nederlands, maar in Engeland spreekt men vooral Engels. Als ze ervoor kiezen, omdat ze wat boeken lezen en studeren, zullen sommige Nederlanders misschien Engels leren en sommige Britten misschien wat Nederlands. Het feit van deze talen is, dat als je het niet spreekt, hoort, leest of schrijft, je het niet kunt leren. Ja, je kunt niets leren door er – zoals wij zeggen – erover na te denken.

 

Strikt genomen – woordspeling bedoeld – als we over ons denken praten, dan zijn we eigenlijk altijd iets aan het uitstellen. We zijn zo vaak niet in staat om oprecht en openhartig te spreken, dat wij ons inbeelden, dat wij een innerlijk gesprek met onszelf zouden voeren, maar de realiteit is en blijft, dat wij het werkelijk praten zo vaak hebben uitgesteld en ontweken, dat wij het geheel zijn vergeten en al heel lang eigenlijk niet meer praten, omdat ons denkbeeldige denken zo’n obsessievelijke problematische illusie geworden, dat we tragisch genoeg zijn gaan geloven dat praten niet meer nodig is.

 

Door deze woorden stilletjes te lezen en jezelf voor de gek te houden, dat je erover nadenkt, stel je het echte werk uit, dat gedaan moet worden om BT te verwerven. Jij kent BT niet en je zult het ook niet verwerven, door mijn teksten te lezen of door naar mij You Tube videos te luisteren, maar als je met mij praat, dan pas kom je eindelijk uit je dissociatieve OT. In de confrontatie met mij wordt duidelijk dat jou BT, niet een of andere spirituele flut-fantasie of psychologische theory is over het denken, over het hebben van gedachten of het betrokken zijn bij een of ander illusoir, diep, innerlijk proces. Door met mij te praten, wordt voor eens en voor altijd duidelijk dat er geen taal binnenin je zit. Ook al heb je vaak gesproken, alsof er woorden en zinnen in je hoofd zitten, deze manier van spreken was OT. Er kan geen enkele taal in je hoofd zitten, want dit is niet hoe je taal hebben geleerd. Als onze ouders, familie, vrienden, buren, priesters en leraren niet met ons zouden hebben gesproken, dan hadden we geen taal kunnen verwerven. Hetzelfde geldt voor BT: als niemand op die manier met je praat, dan zul je het nooit leren. Feit is, niemand heeft ooit op die manier met jou gesproken en daarom weet je het niet. Ik kan dat en als je met mij praat, zul je verrast zijn hoe gemakkelijk en vanzelfsprekend het is. Het is dezelfde taal die jij al gebruikt, maar je gaat hem heel anders gebruiken. Het verschil wordt niet door mij gemaakt, maar door jou. Ik steun jou proces van discriminatie of differentiatie. Zodra jij je BT hebt erkent, dan wil je ermee doorgaan. Deze motivatie komt op natuurlijke wijze voort uit het contrast met je OT. Hoewel je heel vaak OT hebt gehad, wil je het niet meer, omdat je nu iets beters hebt gevonden. Het is vanwege je TV, dat je met je BT verder gaat.

 

Often,

 

You hear so often, that people say, they want to be respected, accepted or validated – by others – but they don’t realize, they themselves don’t possess the Embodied Language (EL), which is needed to be able to feel that way. Oddly, they expect others, to have, what they themselves don’t have. People with Disembodied Language (DL) often want others to do for them, what they cannot do for themselves. In other words, they don’t have their own language, to feel happy about themselves. If they would have their own EL, they would stop demanding from others, that they should make them feel good.

 

The only reason that people so often make such a big deal about being themselves, is because they are not themselves, they cannot be themselves, because they engage in DL, which prevents them from being themselves. Someone with EL, never talks about being him or herself, as in EL, it is not an issue. So much would change, if people would find out, about the difference between their own DL and their EL. Their own EL is truly their own language.   

 

We have DL much more often than we should and we don’t even realize we engage in it, almost all the time. Once we experience the difference between our DL and our EL, we will still have some DL, but it will become less and less, while our EL will happen more and more often. Everyone is vulnerable to unconsciously act out their conditioning history with DL, but DL doesn’t work for any of us. In fact, in DL, language works against you. If you would admit, how harmful, troubling and undermining DL – your habitual way of dealing with your language – is, you would have stopped it already. Actually, in DL, you don’t use your language, but language is using you. How often did you not imagine, that your so-called crazy mind or racing thoughts, wouldn’t leave you alone? This common illusion is the result of your DL.

 

With DL, you always underperform, as you never get clear, about why your language seems to imprison you. By writing this, I am also referring, to what has happened to me. It wasn’t until I immigrated to the United States, that I became educated and until I studied psychology and behaviorism, I didn’t really know anything about the lawfulness of behavior. All I knew, up to that point, was my own struggle and my few victories in overcoming my own problematic behavior. I studied and I taught, but oddly, it was before I went back to school – to be a student, and, later, to be a psychology instructor – that I gave all my seminars, workshop and sessions, about what I  then called The Language That Creates Space. I didn’t know much of anything then, yet it was enough to do what I did. Now that I am retired from teaching and trying to get people interested in EL, I simply write this, because I enjoy it and because others may still read it, hear it and begin to try it.

 

I have often tried, in every possible way, to get you interested in EL, but nothing has worked, so I have given up. I have always known, it works this way, but my DL conditioning wasn’t immediately finished, after I discovered my EL. To the contrary, it was only then, that I slowly began to become aware, about how often I was in the grip of my own mechanical DL. I am so happy, I don’t try feel that pressure any more, I have to reach others. May be these words reach you, because I only write them for myself?  

 

I view my ability, to stop my DL, to have EL and to talk about my Language Enlightenment (LE), as an acquired skill. If you want to know math, you must take a math class and listen to your math teacher. If you want to learn about electricity, you must learn from someone, who knows about it. However, you cannot learn from me. The only thing I offer, is that you can talk with me, about DL, EL and LE, but you must already be interested in it, as I am not going to encourage you or do anything for you. I like to talk about my EL and LE, that’s all. I could go on with it all day. My EL and my LE are absolutely priceless, but your DL is intolerable nonsense to me. You must stop it by yourself, to be able to have EL with me.  

 

At this point in life, I am 65 years and seven days old. I just want to be able to go on with my EL and express my LE. I have made a short video, to record my Thanks Giving greetings. It came out really good,  as I was able to link Thanks Giving, to the way in we deal with language. Thankfulness isn’t something that is reserved for one special day, but I like to use that day, to express, how I feel, every day. I am truly grateful for everything, that has happened to me.

 

I also feel a sense of forgiveness, as everyone, who negatively affected me, unknowingly, contributed to where I am today. Due to all the rejection, I have experienced, I couldn’t have gone to anything else than my LE. My urge, to have EL, has nothing to do with EL, per-se, as it is the only expression of who I am and have always been. If you are yourself, you will often have EL. Your EL, like any other behavior, is lawful. In Holland, people mainly speak Dutch, but in England, they mainly speak English. If they chose to do so – study and read some books – some Dutch people may learn some English and some British people may learn some Dutch. However, the fact of these languages is, if one doesn’t speak it, hear it, read it or write it, one can’t learn it. Yes, one cannot learn anything, by – as we say – thinking about it.

 

Strictly speaking – pun intended – when we speak about thinking, we are actually procrastinating. We are so often unable to talk, that we imagine, to have an inner conversation with ourselves, but the reality is, that we are so often postponing to talk, that we completely forget about it and are no longer talking, because our imaginary thinking, has become such an obsessive illusion, that we have tragically even begun to believe, that talking is no longer necessary.

 

Quietly reading these words and deluding yourself, that you are thinking about it, is putting off the real work, that needs to be done to acquire EL. You don’t know EL and you aren’t going to have it, by reading my texts or by listening to me, but if you talk with me, you will come out of your dissociative DL, as it will be very clear, your EL isn’t some fantasy about having a mind, having thoughts or being involved in some illusive, deep, inner process. Talking with me  makes clear, once and for all, there is no language inside of you. Even though you have often spoken, as if there are words and sentences in your head, this way of speaking was DL. There cannot be any language inside of our heads, as this is not how we have learned our language. If our parents, family, friends, neighbors, preachers and teachers wouldn’t have spoken with us, we wouldn’t have been able to acquire it. Likewise, with EL, if no one speaks with you in that way, you aren’t going to learn it. Nobody spoke with you in that way, that is why you don’t know it. I can do that and if you talk with me, you’ll be surprised how easy and self-evident it is. It is the same language, you already use, but you will use it very differently. The difference isn’t made by me, but by you. I support your process of discrimination or differentiation. Once you can discern your EL, you would like to continue with it and this motivation emerges naturally from its contrast with your DL. Although you have had DL so often, you don’t want it anymore, as you have found something better. It is because of your LE, you want to continue your EL.      

 

 

Even,

 

Even during my Embodied Language (EL), while I am expressing my Language Enlightenment (LE), I still want to address your meaningless Disembodied Language (DL), because my EL and my LE are not appreciated or understood by you. When I criticize your unconscious, dumb, mean way of dealing with language, you immediately feel, I am addressing you, because you engage in stupid DL every day.

 

You would probably say, it is my way of getting even with you, as DL is the only language you are familiar with and can relate to. However, I don’t engage in DL, even if I judge you and hold you accountable for your actions. I am not who you believe me to be. I am even worse than your worst nightmare, because I am real and I always talk about real matters. You can’t deny what I say and even if you did, it would only prove my point, which is: you are full of shit.

 

You are always negative, even if you try to sound positive. Your mean, vindictive, distrustful, hurtful,    pretentious, deceitful behavior is very apparent, even while you try so hard, to act as if you are kind, patient, respectful, cooperative or truthful. Even if you would ever come close, to recognizing the great difference between your DL and EL, you would shy away from it, because you are already too far gone.

 

Since you have, so to speak, sold your soul to the devil – because you only engage in DL – you just can’t stand it, even if I merely pay attention to you, because my attention always shows what an ugly, frustrated, hateful, stressful and dissatisfied person you really are. Even someone as insensitive as you, can’t help, but feel the contrast. Even if I don’t say anything at all, you are upset, anxious and uneasy  around me, as you know, that you can’t control me.

 

Even if you obsessively try to get me on your side, I am not coming to your side and it greatly irritates you, to notice, the harder you try, the more you are coming to my side. The crumbling of your dumb DL, is bound to happen, with anyone, who is with me. I don’t do anything, but you are the one, who tries to change me, but you are not succeeding. Even if you don’t want to admit it, you know, you act foolishly. 

 

Even before you consciously acknowledged it, there was, of course, a great difference between your DL and your EL. You have had some brief moments of EL, but you could never continue with it, as your DL took over again. Your happiness lasted for a few moments and then it was gone again. The harder you tried to get it back, the less you succeeded and so, you basically gave up on it. Your situation isn’t uncommon. Everyone with DL is in the same boat.

 

You don’t even know what you are doing, because  language merely happens to you. You even believe that you think and that you have a mind, but you are not in charge of your language. Even when you try to be in control of your so-called thoughts, you never succeed and that is why you can’t sleep and why you wear yourself out, because you are never at rest. Your rigid, superficial, effortful way of dealing with language, illustrates – even if you have a lot of education, even if you attain a socially powerful position, even if you get a lot things done, even if you become famous, even if you get married two, three or four times – your life is a total mess. And, even your religion doesn’t give you any relief.

 

Even if you don’t talk with me, I have EL and I enjoy myself tremendously, hammering your idiotic DL. It is my LE, which makes me want to use my EL, to let you know what you are missing. Your life is full of misery, chaos, conflict and suffering, but even that is not enough, to begin to talk with yourself and listen to yourself, so you could begin to instruct yourself, to move on to something better. Whatever you have told yourself with your DL, didn’t and couldn’t help. You haven’t even begun to recognize, all of your problems are created and maintained by your DL.      

 

You even struggle with your pets, your children, your neighbors, your not-so-significant other, your ex and all of your friends. Even while you sleep, you are involved in something tense and worrisome. It is your life, but you don’t even seem to realize, you are wasting your time on nonsense beliefs. At some point, you hit a brick wall, you get sick, you spin out of control, you become addicted, you just don’t care anymore about anything, because you never even cared for anything in the first place. Perhaps, you burst out screaming or crying, but, only after you are done with your negative bullshit, will you come  to your senses. Even if you discover your EL, you only become even-keeled, if you can continue with it. Yes, nothing less will do, as that is your LE.  

Danger,  

Because it can put us in danger, so to speak, we usually fail to explore, acknowledge, and express our Embodied Language (EL). Viewed from our usual Disembodied Language (DL), anything that results in the cessation of our tragic conditioning is considered a danger. Although it is certainly true that our conscious EL is rejected by everyone with unconscious DL, there is no danger whatsoever, because we are only making our lives safer with EL. 

In DL we always talk about the danger of fascism, climate change, drugs or infectious diseases, but never about how we create our own horrible, chaotic, confusing reality, with our everyday, superficial, unnatural language. Man is in great danger and everything indicates that whatever we do, our situation will continue to deteriorate. As long as we are unable to stop our own DL, we are going to increasingly experience the disastrous consequences of the ridiculous fact, that we continue to act, as if everything will turn out fine.  

What we are going to do with all our atomic bombs, our own meaningless lives and with the violent societies of which we are a part, depends entirely on how we deal with our language. So far, DL has always endangered the individual and has failed to provide any stability, but with your EL, this is going to change, because you finally realize, that you have been constantly on the alert, raising the alarm and trying to warn others of some danger, while you yourself, did not even notice, you barely managed to avoid it. It's truly a miracle that you're still alive.   

Danger means, immediate action must be taken, but because of your paralyzing, numbing, dissociative DL, you are so used to danger, that you no longer even notice that your agitation, your depression, your stress and your madness are all the result of the fact, that you do not leave, but remain exposed to all the senseless negativity, which determines your life.   

The coast is only clear, if you finally talk to yourself and let yourself know, that only your own EL can give you the safety, you have never been able to receive from others with DL. There have hopefully been some people in your life, who were not too malicious, but you have never met anyone, who was able to consciously continue with EL, who invited and encouraged you to do the same. The security you have always been looking for is your Language Enlightenment (LE), which can only be expressed with your EL.  

The well-known ridiculous expression, that we should face the danger, so that we would no longer be afraid, since we have fought it and, supposedly, overcame it, illustrates how, with our usual DL, we look into instead of listen  and we fight instead of letting go. Only when, because of our EL, we have the courage to allow ourselves to listen to the fears, which we - as individuals - experience as danger, are we able to let go of the danger as well as the endless struggle with our fears.  

The presumably comforting saying, that we only see ghosts – because we are feeling a sense of threat, which doesn’t seem to go away – shows our fear has nothing to do with what we see, but with what we hear. We hear, constantly, everywhere DL, in which the voices of speakers demand and distract our attention. These very real voices compel us, even though they sound so friendly, enthusiastic and motivated, because it is all acted, false pretentious DL. Even though we could never put our finger on what is actually constantly threatening us, if we recognize the difference between DL and EL, then we know better. We're not crazy and we don't see ghosts. I have been working in psychology for many years and am convinced many people with so-called mental health issues, are actually sick of DL without even realizing it. However, when they say this, it will be considered, as if DL is part of being crazy.  

All kinds of power-mongers constantly force us to use our language in the way they want, but with our own EL, we will finally use our language in the way we want. However, we are playing with fire, as long as we have not yet recognized the great danger, that we with DL, have unconsciously, given up on our freedom. In other words, we remain trapped in DL, which prevents us from being who we really are and from living inspired by our LE with the help of our EL. The real danger is that, because of our long conditioning with DL, we miss out on our own lives.