Innocence,

 

With our habitual Disembodied Language (DL), we try to feign innocence, but the reality is, that we are polluted, twisted and carried away by our language. We can only be innocent, sensitive, open, truthful, authentic and full of delightful energy, when we can experience the silence of our Embodied Language (EL). To know, who we are, is to be who we are and to hear and feel, that we speak with an enjoyable, natural, effortless voice, which doesn’t ask anyone’s attention. Our EL is the language of our innocence, which expresses our Language Enlightenment (LE).

 

Once we know the crucially important difference between our DL and our EL, we can’t help, but fully acknowledge and mourn the painful fact, that our innocence has always been disrespected, abused, taken for granted and neglected by our DL. Although we have always felt, who we were, we were unable to be who we were, because we didn’t have access to the language of virtue, goodness and simplicity.

 

Each time we have expressed our innocence, we did so, because we couldn’t help ourselves, that is, we expressed our EL, unknowingly. Whenever there is a situation in which there can be peace, togetherness, wellbeing, honesty and love, we, inevitably, briefly, express our EL, but it is always short-lived, because we don’t do it consciously, skillfully or continuously. Our delightful innocence is one moment there, but next moment, it is gone, and we are at a loss, about has happened. We are in despair, and we feel afraid, as we have no way of finding it back. Our anguish of not having the language, to express our innocence, continuous, until we can finally have ongoing EL.

 

Even once we have stopped our dreadful DL and are able to continue with our wonderful EL, we are still learning how to live with our innocence, which is, of course, our LE. While it is true, we have always been who we are, we still fear our precious experience of innocence won’t last, as this was always before the case. However, when we were imprisoned by and unconsciously engaged in DL, we still believed, that language existed inside of us, but once we have EL, we realize, this was just an effect of DL, in which we couldn’t be ourselves, as we couldn’t say what we wanted to say and, therefore, we began to imagine, we were having private speech, thoughts or a mind.

 

During our blunt DL, our innocence is replaced with guilt and shame, and, consequently, paradoxically, we feel bad about who we really are, that is, we feel bad about feeling good about ourselves. It isn’t until we say this out loud and hear the sound of our own wellbeing, that we recover from this trauma and laugh about the false notion of our inner, supposedly verbal turmoil. Stated differently, once we can verbally, with our EL, accurately address our own innocence, we feel the silence, which emerges from our pre-verbal sense of being. We have come full circle with our language.    

 

Our innocence makes us recognize the innocence of others. We are all, unknowingly, enlightened, but, as of yet, we don’t have the EL, which fits with who we really are. Without stopping our DL, every attempt to find back our innocence is doomed. None of our religions, or spiritual, therapeutic, psychological, philosophical or cultural practices have ever resulted in EL, as they have never properly addressed DL, as the language of evil. When, at long last, we stop our miserable DL and are able to express our – for the lack of a better word – sacred innocence with our EL, we are not selfless, mystical, fantasy creatures, but we are courageous, knowledgeable authorities.

 

We have lost our ability to feel, express and know the beauty of our innocence, due to how we deal with our language. Obviously, only another way of dealing with our language could bring us back to who we are. In EL, we listen to ourselves, but in DL we don’t listen to ourselves. In EL, we can speak as an individual, but in DL, we act out our conditioning history, as we can only see ourselves, as a member of some group, which, we imagine, we belong to.      

 

Shame,

 

Our common notion of shame, is determined by how others have spoken and written about it, but not by how we ourselves have spoken about it – with ourselves – let alone, by how we – also with ourselves – have written about it. In other words, shame – the painful, verbally-impairing emotion  about how one appears to others and to oneself, without having done anything – is based on our almost permanent involvement in Disembodied Language (DL). I would say, DL is the language of shame. In DL, we make a distinction between shame and guilt. I have never been able, to quite tell them apart, because my reasoning has always been based on my Embodied Language (EL), even while I was still incapable of fully, consciously, recognizing the great difference between my own DL and my EL.

 

In DL, our sense of shame pertains to a person, whereas guilt pertains to an action or actions and to blame and remorse. With our self-defeating DL, we, unknowingly, blame ourselves, because others have blamed us. Stated differently, we were conditioned to constantly beat ourselves up and that is why we can never be happy or satisfied, as long as we keep having DL. Our shift from DL to EL is so relieving, as we finally experience our language without shame.

 

Guilt – during our mechanical DL – involves the awareness of having done something wrong and always arises from our actions. Obviously, in DL, we are always – no matter how much we can dominate,  deceive or manipulate others – feeling guilty about our own language. The sad fact, that we don’t and can’t express our own language in DL and that we don’t and can’t express our own experience, doesn’t mean, we don’t have our own language and also doesn’t mean, we don’t have our own experience.  

 

Shame is the inevitable, paralyzing emotion, which is elicited by our common way of talking, which has set the stage for how we deal with language. Since all our other behaviors are regulated by how we deal with our language, our entire behavioral repertoire is contaminated by shame in DL. To be able to continue with our EL – rather than having only a few brief haphazard moments of it – we will have to recognize and abandon all behaviors that were associated with our DL and continue only with those behaviors, which are in support of our EL.  

 

There is a reason why, in everyday language, people use the terms shame and guilt interchangeably and why I used to feel so confused about this presumed difference. Since I happened to be the person, who – because he began to repeatedly talk out loud with himself, and, therefore, was able to hear the sound of his own voice – has discovered the big difference between his DL and his EL, I have been made to feel ashamed and guilty, like no one else. I have studied psychology, and I am well-aware, that according to psychologists, there is a difference, between the experience of shame and guilt, but I will use this opportunity, to point out, that psychology hasn’t delivered and couldn’t improve human relationship, as it has never addressed the difference between DL and EL. Stated bluntly, our DL has continued unabated.

 

Our dreadful, unnatural, coercive DL is not only the language of shame, but also the language of guilt and, I should add, the language of distraction. Our DL has endlessly distracted us – as individuals – from our how we – ourselves – have continued to use our language. This whole issue of consciousness has always obfuscated how we use our language. DL inevitably results in meaningless hair-splitting and in definitions and concepts, which make things worse.

 

With ubiquitous, highly problematic, unintelligent DL, we were led to believe – actually, we have all been punitively indoctrinated – that our guilt and shame sometimes go hand in hand. Surely, the same action may give rise to feelings of both shame and guilt, where the former reflects how we feel about ourselves and the latter involves an awareness that our actions, supposedly, have injured someone else. As long as we have not acknowledged the difference between our DL and EL, we interpret everything according to our DL. 

 

Although it may appear that way, in the beginning, when you engage in EL and leave behind those who still continue with DL, it seems as if you harm them, but in fact, you do them a great favor, because you no longer reinforce their DL. Our DL isn’t continued because we decide to continue it, but because it is reinforced in the environments, we are in. We have never been in stable environments in which our EL is reinforced. It was due to DL, that our feelings of shame, seem to only relate to who we are, but our feelings of guilt are about others. This meaningless distinction doesn’t address DL, which creates and maintains the notion, that talking with ourselves and listening to ourselves is of no importance at all. When you, for the first time, by yourself, all alone, engage in EL, you will begin to really sense, how ashamed you are, to speak by yourself. You haven’t done anything to anyone, and you don’t do anything to yourself either, but you simply speak and listen to yourself and find, how different this is from how you speak with others. As you notice the change in the sound of your voice, you will hear less and less fear, anxiety, stress, distraction or judgment about saying something wrong. Whether you talk about yourself or about someone else, with your EL you always talk about yourself, that is, you always express your own wellbeing. The other, with whom, for the most part, you couldn’t have any EL, as he or she still engages in DL, always makes you feel ashamed, as you will notice, that your EL can never meet with their DL.

 

The typical guilt feeling of having remorse for some offense, crime, wrong – real or imagined – always is an indication of our involvement in insensitive DL. Likewise, shame – the painful feeling arising from the awareness of your real self, by saying, admitting, accepting, recognizing, and, acting on, what is true, and what is, therefore, good for you – turns EL, the language of freedom, success and happiness, into something ridiculous, improper, shameful or dishonorable.

 

I heard someone tell an anecdote, which hopefully will bring home my message, which is that DL our usual way of dealing with language really sucks. This person had been at some dinner party, where he had argued and reacted to a friend and then he had said something hurtful. Later, he felt guilty about what he had said, but he felt also embarrassed and ashamed, that he had been the sort of person to behave in that way. It is very clear, that he regretted his DL, but since he doesn’t view it that way, he will go on with DL, in the same way it always continues.

 

Another utterly useless distinction is the difference between shame and humiliation. These meaningless concepts haven’t addressed, let alone, stopped the DL, which creates and maintains them. Presumably, shame is an internal, but humiliation is an external matter. However, there absolutely is no such a thing as an internal process, as language is always overt. The fact that this isn’t acknowledged in psychology doesn’t make it any less true. In closing, I want to also define DL as the language of humiliation. We are continuously publicly humiliated, when in the name of DL, we are told to know our place in our inherently violent and conflicted social hierarchy. We have all been traumatized by our long history of conditioning with DL, which has deprived us of our dignity, which is who we really are, and which can only be expressed with our ongoing EL. Moreover, our Language Enlightenment (LE), which, of course, can only be expressed by our ongoing EL, is the only way to truly overcome the humiliation which occurs – every day – when a person is publicly or privately shamed, with DL, by another person or group.     

 

More,

 

I think no more, because there is no language inside of me and there never was. It was an illusion. I have said it, I have written it, I have heard it, and, also, I have read it, just like you do, right now. Because it is true, my conditioning history with Disembodied Language (DL) is no more. I have no more requests, as my Embodied Language (EL) has answered all my questions. My DL has stopped, since I have gained access to a new way of dealing with my language.

 

With DL, you are never satisfied, as it doesn’t allow you to recognize and fulfill your needs. You always want more love, more truth, more sex, more money, more adventure, more entertainment, more knowledge, more control, more drugs, more alcohol, more time or more silence, but all your meaningless demands derive from your DL. No one could be more stuck than you, because with your unhappiness, you keep competing for attention. You win the first price.

 

You are afraid to find out more about yourself and that is why you continue with DL. Obviously, you are never really yourself with DL, why else would you be so distant, angry, argumentative, hostile, frustrated, defensive or eternally distracted? If you would talk with yourself and tell yourself about what is going on with you, you would hear in the sound of your voice, that what I say is true. You will hear that your voice is changing, as you finally begin to sound calm, relaxed, energized, present and authentic and then you will say to yourself: that’s more like it, this is who I really am, what a relief to be myself once more. Yes, it is still possible.   

 

After you have said – to yourself – you would like to have less DL and more EL, all your other behavior will begin to change, because your language, which regulates all your other behavior, has changed. This is not another one of your unachievable goals, but it is an irrefutable reality, from which you can no more turn away. In effect, with EL, you become conscious.

 

The undeniable fact, that there never really was any inner language, private speech, thinking or mind, is what you previously called being consciousness. Yes, you were always conscious, but you didn’t have the ongoing EL to express it. May be, you had a little EL - unconsciously, accidentally or momentarily - but it was no more, it was already gone, before you knew it or could enjoy it. In the past, each time you felt a little bit more comfortable, open and expressive, your habit to have DL, destroyed this wonderful experience.  

 

You have never even acknowledged, that it is your DL, which keeps making your run around in circles, after your non-existent tail, your imaginary identity, who you believe yourself to be. Only when you have ongoing EL, will you no more be deluded by this appendage of your DL. It is inevitable that during DL, you were always only fantasizing about who you are, because your language was more about others than about you. In DL, you, unknowingly, do as you were told and that is why you react and keep trying to speak truth to power. In EL, you don’t feel that obligation anymore.

 

I know of no man or woman, who is more honored than he or she, who is him or herself, with EL. I have no respect for anyone’s DL, as it represents always more of the same senseless conflicts, struggles, tragedies and violence. Surely, my EL is more important than everyone’s DL, which is going on everywhere, and that is why I consider talking with myself to be more important than talking with you. I can only continue with my EL, because I don’t want to get involved no more in your disgusting DL. I have nothing to do with your DL.

 

DL and EL result in very different consequences, but only with EL can we accurately predict what is going to happen. In DL, we are sold on so-called wishful thinking. Things supposedly will get better, tomorrow, but one day, our life will end and then, there is no more tomorrow, and we have wasted our life on a pipedream. This is why we say may he or she rest in peace, because life was one big continuous hassle.

 

The alarming, but, unaddressed fact, that everyone, everywhere, almost permanently, engages in DL, makes it more of an urgent challenge, but also more of an adventure, to step out of this madness and go on with our own EL. Since there is basically no one to have EL with, one has to go on alone with one’s EL. However, once we are done crying, complaining and asking for attention, we find, even if our EL is no more than a whisper, we enjoy it tremendously, we are stimulated by it and we are fulfilled by it. With ongoing EL, we no more believe in miracles, but our EL surely is the gift that keeps on giving.

 

Of course, we talk a lot about victims these days. There is a big competition going on about who is the biggest victim, who deserves the most attention and who is allowed to dominate public discourse with their particular unique, special kind of victimhood.  There is definitely more than one victim to DL, but nobody seems to wonder, how many? When are we ever going to be able again, to converse upon more pleasant subjects? It is only going to happen, if we call a spade a spade and recognize our common way of talking – DL – as the total disaster it has always been and say, in unison: no more of this bullshit.   

 

Best,

 

You’ve gotten along without Embodied Language (EL) just fine? What the hell are you talking about, that everything is going to work itself out, with your unnatural Disembodied Language (DL), the way of talking, which you have been used to? You say, you only want the best, why then, don’t you stop your unintelligent, automatic, forceful DL and engage in energizing, insightful, delightful, effortless EL? You can’t, because you have bought into your adherence to the status quo, which is why you are so unhappy.

 

With my discovery of the great difference between DL and EL, the world – yes, not only my world, but your world as well – has permanently changed. Your inability to notice the enormous difference, implies you are a loser, who stubbornly continues with DL, the way you were told. You can’t decide anything for yourself with your DL, as there is no match between your behavior and your language. Whatever you say is the best for you – with your dull DL – is harming you and you don’t even know it. Surely, you never had any ongoing EL, so the best is yet to come.  

 

If you really want the best, you must go and search for gold. I’ve found gold, not by combing through the country side, not by digging out creek beds or by searching on hands and knees, along ridgelines and hilltops, not by panning in icy streams and not by looking for a show of color or gold in the river trail, but by listening to myself while I speak. This is a novel way of prospecting. If you have ever looked for gold, you would know, that prospecting is the first stage of geological analysis. The psychological gold that I am talking about, is your own Language Enlightenment (LE), which will only be found, if you express your experiences with your EL. Prospecting is the search for minerals, fossils, precious metals or mineral specimens. Traditionally, it relied on direct observation of mineralization in rock outcrops or in sediments. However, the prospecting with EL, relies on hearing and enjoying yourself, while you speak.

 

Your prospects with your EL are very good, as you will always find what you are looking for. Since you are not on anyone else’s property, when you have found your gold – your LE – you can proudly stake your claim, and you don’t need to fear anyone will take it away. To the contrary, you can calmly keep exploring and finding more riches. Let everyone know about your precious findings on your You Tube channel. Stimulate them with your EL, to become prospectors of the best of human experience: LE.

 

The phenomenon of stating your claim and letting others know, you have found psychological gold, is something very precarious. One can only effectively tell others about it, if one has acquired ongoing EL. Therefore, discovering EL, is one thing, but having it, as a skill – deliberately, consciously, continuously and predictably – is a psychological transformation, which involves abandonment of the repertoire, that was related to DL and selection and enhancement of the behaviors, which are in support of our EL.

 

People have always been as hyped up, carried away and obsessed about finding gold, as they have been fanatic about finding spiritual truth. However, all the drama, conflict and violence, involved in the Gold Rush or in the search for the Holy Grail or so-called enlightenment, always involved others and never allowed us to stop our DL and continue with our EL. Indeed, none of our religions or spiritual practices could ever bring about any clarity about how we use our language. The distinction between our DL and EL, was buried beneath strata of words and would only reveal itself, if our words were once again listened to and experienced, as our own embodied sounds.

 

In DL, we, unconsciously, merely act, as if we are strong, kind, open, caring, certain, truthful, safe, respectful, calm, powerful, enthusiastic or lost, confused, hurt, wounded, traumatized, needy, helpless, hopeless, incapable or weak. During EL, on the other hand, in which our language no longer distorts our experience, we are genuinely ourselves.

 

The fact, that with our DL, we only know how to act, goes all the way back to ancient Greek drama, which was originally entirely performed by choruses. Note, at that stage, the group is more important than the individual. According to old tradition, the Greek dramatist Thespis, of the 6^th century B.C, was the inventor of tragedy and the first to write roles for the individual actor as distinct from the chorus, and the actor’s exchanges with the chorus were the first dramatic dialogue. Note, this so-called individuation is still determined by the group. Shakespear would later say: all the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. And this is also why DL – in which we act out of conditioning and react, rather than listen and respond – is still with us today. Since Thespis himself performed the individual parts in his own plays, he was also the first true actor. Ever since choruses disappeared from drama, thespians have filled all the roles in plays. Although choruses have disappeared, they are still there in DL, in which we can’t be with ourselves, as we stay busy with others.

 

Actors are the ultimate salespeople. They sell us on whatever their product is. They always say that their product is the very best and is definitely superior to or an improvement on what we have. In effect, they turn prospects into aspiring heroes, by pitting them against an antagonist. However, when I say, your EL is better than your DL, I am not selling you anything. If you notice this difference yourself, you will say it, feel it and understand it. Also, you know, you aren’t imagining about some bright distant future, as you can feel the benefits of your own EL immediately.

 

The way we have been taught to communicate, is no longer suited for a world that no longer exists. Moreover, our new way of dealing with language, allows us not only to recognize, that the world has changed, but also that it continues to change, and that EL is up to the task of shaping and benefitting from that change. During EL, we control our own language and, thus, our own destiny, as we are less and less effected by the DL that is going everywhere.

 

Our ongoing EL, which will reliably reveal to us our LE, isn’t some superstitious promised land, but it is the new world, which we instantly become aware of by listening to the sound of our own voice. Your old notion of doing the best you can – and always trying to improve on yourself – derives from your DL, as in EL, it is self-evident, you are the best you can be and you keep on getting better, because you are you.

 

There is no enemy to fight with and your DL is not some monster, which needs to be slayed. DL is our common conditioning history. Anyone, who is able to recognize this, is ahead of everyone else, who is still stuck with DL. When you know the difference between your DL and your EL, you will know, what is best for your future and for everyone’s future. What is best of all, is that all the energy, which was drained by your DL, now becomes available to you in EL. Everyone will notice – whether they say it or not – you have a very different energy, which stimulates only excellence.

 

Even while you read this, you probably still wonder, if I am making up all this stuff? You will continue to remain skeptical, until you really start to speak with yourself and listen to your own sound. It takes some exploration, but you find, you either speak with a sound, you like or with a voice, you don’t like. Now say to yourself, you can stop the latter and go on with the former and see what happens. You will begin to say many things you have never been able to say, because have stopped your own DL and you are now having ongoing EL. You don’t need anyone’s approval as you can say for yourself, this is the best of yourself you have ever experienced. The most wonderful thing is, you are no longer acting, and you know, you will continue to do best, if you go on with your EL.                          

 

Underperforming,

 

Regardless of our denial and our ability to avoid, that we are underperforming during our usual way of talking, it is becoming increasingly more difficult to continue to pretend, as if any of our so-called interactions, conversations, debates, discussions, arguments, narratives or dialogues are working.

 

Although we fail, as a  group, as a tribe, as a race, as a political party, as a religion, as a community, as a town or as a country, it is much more important to acknowledge that we underperform on a personal level. Each of us experiences, individually, the fear, anxiety, stress, frustration and powerlessness of not having any control over our language. As a result, we become more and more demanding, uptight, rigid, coercive and insensitive in our behavior.

 

The meaning of underperform is easily recognized in finance. If an investment or asset fails to produce financial gain, we adjust as soon as possible, before we lose a lot of money. However, when it concerns our language, we don’t even seem to notice, that we could actually do much better, because we are all so used to and conditioned by our dissociative, unnatural, energy-draining Disembodied Language (DL).

 

DL is the language of underperformance, because it is our automatic, common way of talking, which undermines all our actions. The often-lamented difference between saying and doing, invariably, refers to our DL, in which we say one thing, but do something else, that is, if we do anything at all. In Embodied Language (EL), on the other hand, we do as we say, because in EL saying equals doing. In EL, we take action, we are pro-active, we are responsible and accountable.

 

Whether we admit it or not, in DL, we underperform, but in EL we succeed, as no energy is wasted, and all of our efforts are always paying off. Furthermore, our positivity in EL creates a surplus, while in DL we are faced, in one way or another, with deficits. Stated differently, our underperformance in DL is always subject to penalties, terminations or reductions in our business affairs as well as in our personal relationships.

 

Since we keep trying to effortfully, domineeringly, stressfully, strategically, manipulatively, ambitiously, arrogantly, shamefully, tenaciously turn around our presumed failure – our dreadful underperformance – we accept DL as normal and we consider EL as the exception to rule. This has been and continues to be our situation, because we have no understanding about the big difference between our DL and our EL.

 

Currently, there is no incentive whatsoever, to address, let alone, stop and replace our DL, which is normally going on everywhere, as it has always done. Our consistent underperformance, which is maintained by our unconscious DL, manifests as our conflicts, wars, struggles, problems, fears, doubts and as our negative emotions and experiences.

 

Oddly, while each of us individually feels unhappy, dissatisfied, frustrated, superstitiously-confused and eternally-distracted by and endlessly-preoccupied with meaningless nonsense, we never acknowledge or talk about these troubling experiences at the level of the group, we believe to belong to. In effect, we carry, individually, the burden of the group, we identify with. Consequently, we underperform, as a group, as long as we don’t do well, individually.

 

A person may underperform, due to injury, trauma, addiction, abuse, depression, etc., but everyone underperforms, because of our unaddressed DL. In that sense, our DL determines we are in the same boat. Hilariously, while everyone is like crazy trying to out-perform or out-compete everyone else, everyone is unconsciously underperforming. By contrast, when we engage in EL, we perform at out best and, yet, we aren’t trying to out-do each other or beat ourselves up. It is this whole nasty issue of pushing ourselves, to supposedly do better, which makes us underperform. In EL, we behave naturally, without pressure or compulsion. This is why we are more effective, confident and happier than before.  

 

Interestingly, in EL we are free, which means we are not setting any standards or goals for ourselves or for each other and that is why we do so well. To be a catalyst, in a group of underperforming students – I used to be a psychology instructor and know how this works – you should introduce them to EL and have them talk with and listen to themselves, then you will begin to notice, that it was because of DL, that they were underperforming. 

Sadly, as long as this difference hasn’t been properly addressed and therefore, was never even acknowledged, we keep talking, as if people have no motivation, no respect, no confidence, no awareness, no responsibility, no accountability, no pride or just a bad attitude, while in fact, these are the inevitable consequences of our DL.

 

With EL everyone is self-motivated, to do the best they can, as their own language will bring this about. We always speak about underperforming, to describe a situation, in which someone doesn’t the meet the expectations or performs at a satisfactorily level, according to someone else. Surely, our DL is the language of expectation and punishment if this expectation isn’t met. Besides, what is presumably satisfactorily to someone who only has DL, is never satisfactorily to anyone who knows how to have EL.

 

When we, with EL, become aware of what we want and don’t want, it is easy to satisfy ourselves, as this has nothing to do with fulfilling any expectations. To the contrary, EL is the let go of expectations, which allows us to say, experience, hear, understand, feel, recognize, do, approach and achieve, what we truly want. Whatever we will be doing, when we do what we want, is always done with the utmost care and diligence. If, however, it isn’t done in that way, this simply means, it is not what we want and we are just doing something what was expected from us, which we have come to expect from ourselves.

 

Thus, we, unknowingly, underperform, when we don’t want to do what we are doing. In terms of our language, we always underperform in DL, because we do not and cannot express ourselves accurately and effectively. We underperform, as we don’t listen to what we feel, while we speak, we dissociate and are not in touch with ourselves. Our effortless focus on our language can only come about with our EL, which transforms our mediocre underperformance into a marvelous experience of success, clarity, consistency, effectivity, satisfaction and happiness. Our EL expresses our Language Enlightenment (LE).     

 

Validity,

 

There are, of course, limitations, which life itself imposes on each of us. Someone may be high on drugs and believe, he or she can fly, but if such a person jumps off a roof, he or she will certainly fall to his or her death. Likewise, millions of people may be fanatically convinced, they are all very special or chosen, because they are praying to, talking with or even listening to their so-called higher power, but their superstitious reality is, they live in a childish fantasyland. The validity of our concept of reality depends always on how we deal with our language.

 

Reliability and validity are essential concepts in research, especially when designing studies or interpreting results. I have always approached the gigantic difference between Disembodied Language (DL) – our usual unconscious way of dealing with language as a group – and our Embodied Language (EL) – the conscious language of the individual – as a scientific issue. Only our EL can be considered as scientific speech, but our common, automatic DL is hopelessly biased, and, therefore, unscientific speech. Reliability refers to the consistency of a measurement or test. It assesses whether the same method, technique or test produces consistent results when repeated under similar conditions. Surely, our EL is neither a method, technique or test, as it is our natural way of talking with the sound of our wellbeing, yet our EL is absolutely reliable, as it consistently yields positive outcomes. Validity assesses how accurately a method measures what it is intended to measure. If a test accurately measures a particular skill, it demonstrates high validity. Validity is the quality of being logically or factually sound. The soundness or cogency of our EL is self-evident, that is, you can’t really miss it. If you doubt, whether you have EL, you are not having it. In EL, we are without any doubt. High reliability often indicated validity, that is, if a test produces accurate results, they should be reproduceable. Although EL is certainly not a test, but merely our natural, effortless way of dealing with language, it is reproduceable, as anyone who speaks with and listens to him or herself, will find out about the great difference between their DL and their EL.  

 

One doesn’t need to be a hopeless junkie or some humorless ascetic, to live a superficial, meaningless, unintelligent life. Sadly, since everyone, engages, almost permanently, stubbornly, in DL, our false beliefs, generally speaking, proliferate from the cradle to the grave. Indeed, we are conditioned and the only reason for us, to ever move beyond our conditioning history, is a different way of dealing with our language. Obviously, first, our mechanical DL must be stopped, before our EL can even begin to occur. Thus, we can only finally begin to use our language correctly, when we fully acknowledge, our incorrect use of our language has been disastrous.

 

Our astonishingly, destructive, tenacious ignorance isn’t – as we can read in the publications of clever psychologists – a matter of a lack of appropriate scientific or philosophical training, but rather, it is the habit, we have, to not listen to ourselves, while we speak. Regardless how knowledgeable we have become, our lack of self-listening is still the missing link in all our knowledge, since our self-knowledge can only be acquired, if we talk with and listen to ourselves. Of course, such overt self-talk will only occur to the extent, we find it more important than so-called thinking, our imaginary covert language. Furthermore, our talking, out loud, with ourselves and by ourselves, will only happen, when we sense that all our talking with others, is unreal and phony.

 

The validity of our ongoing EL doesn’t depend on our agreement with others, but on our agreement with ourselves, that is, on the match between our experience and our use of language. During DL, we put the horse – our language – behind the wagon – our experience. Consequently, there cannot be any congruence, between our language and experience, because our language regulates and determines all our behavior. Moreover, it is overt language – not, non-existent, impossible, inner speech or thought – which causes our desirable behavior to increase and our undesirable behavior to stop or decrease. Thus, the self-evident validity of the revealing, powerful process of listening to ourselves while we speak, can only be denied, by not listening to ourselves, while we speak. In other words, DL and EL are mutually exclusive. Once we begin to listen to ourselves, while we speak, DL will stop, and EL will continue.

 

Anyone can understand and acknowledge, that our brains mediate – but do not contain – our language. If we suffer from a stroke, our language production or comprehension is impaired, because our brains have been damaged. Any recovery from such an event requires overt speech therapy. Our language doesn’t mysteriously emerge from inside of us, but it occurs due to antecedent environmental stimuli. Babies born in Rome, learn to speak only in Italian – not Chinese – and, thus they do as the Romans do.

 

When we say, brains interpret stimuli – in terms of whether they are threatening or safe – it is not our brains, which use language, but it is due to outgoing air of our lungs, going over our vocal cords and our lips and tongue moving, that we speak a language. It isn’t until words come out of our mouth, we can hear ourselves or someone else speak. Likewise, it isn’t until someone has written something, as words in this text, that a reader can read what was written. Thus, there exists no such a thing as mind-reading, as there is no mind, as our language is always overt.

 

With our EL, we are, at long last, capable of talking as individuals, about the validity, truth, joy, energy and meaning of our behaviorally created model of reality. There is no me, inside of me, who makes me say what I say or causes or coordinates my behavior. There is no validity, to an inner behavior-regulating agent, but with DL, we keep assuming its existence. Moreover, our utterly false, profoundly problematic, verbal identity, creates a myriad of other convoluted models, which will only be abandoned, when our DL is stopped. However, our DL was never stopped by more of the same dumb, dull, forceful, reactive DL. To stop DL, requires EL. Only when we can talk with EL about our conditioning with DL, will our DL stop.

 

Stated differently, we inevitably engage in DL, due to our conditioning history, as our neural behavior was previously affected only in such a way, that we could speak – as in the previous example – Italian, but not Chinese. Only different – overt – Chinese stimuli, can and will bring about the so-called learning of this other language. Only once our neural structure has been sufficiently affected by such environmental stimuli, can we – without having language inside of us – react appropriately, in a Chinese manner, to a Chinese speaker, by speaking the Chinese language.

 

The saying, the proof is in the pudding, refers to the configuration of our neural structure, which must have occurred, once we can hear, experience and be aware of the enormous difference between our DL and EL, because our DL has stopped, and we can now effortlessly continue with our EL. We are in total bliss, when this is the case, and we experience our EL as a novel form of happiness and a source of understanding and wellbeing. Immediate as well as long-term positive effects of our EL are so tangible. We can’t miss, we are truly ourselves. Indeed, our Language Enlightenment (LE) is due to ongoing EL. However, it is very important to acknowledge, that we have achieved this new way of responding, due to the rearrangement of environmental stimuli. We have controlled and stopped our DL, so that our EL and LE could be expressed and become clear to us.

 

There is no doubt or fear, when we engage in EL, as we experience an environment, which is free from aversive stimuli. Magnificently, we ourselves create and maintain this environment. Our ongoing EL is the most supreme form self-management. With our EL, we can finally behave as an individual, who is no longer inhibited or troubled by the DL, which instills fear-based, inherently, punitive, group-behavior. In effect, with our EL, but also with our DL, we behave our own individually experienced reality. However, with our DL, we, inadvertently, behave a conflicted, chaotic, negative environment, but with our EL, we continue to modify our neural structure, in such a manner, that our reality is peaceful, clear, positive and stable. The discriminative way of behaving, that allows us to stop our DL, so we can express, hear and act on, what we say to ourselves with EL, is made possible by listening to ourselves while we speak. We hear in the sound of our voice, if we engage in DL or EL. The validity of our assessment is always evident in the consequences of our actions.                                        

 

Repetition,

 

There is an enormous difference between repeating something with our Disembodied Language (DL) or repeating something with our Embodied Language (EL). With the former, you are getting deeper and deeper in trouble, but with the latter, you liberate yourself, you renew yourself, and, yes, will you stop repeating. Only those who continue to have DL, are always unknowingly repeating themselves, while they are making it seem as if they are so modern and advanced. They always repeat the same struggle, conflict, misery and tragedy and their problems keep accumulating and escalating. 

 

Anyone, who truly recovers from his or her dreadful history of conditioning with DL, will have to say, out loud, to him or herself, as many times as necessary, everything, he or she has believed, he or she was thinking, while he or she was still engaging in DL. It can be compared with having a bad dream. Upon waking up, you continue to feel upset, confused or frightened about what you dreamed about. Unless you say repeatedly to yourself, it was just a dream, a nightmare, you continue to feel troubled, ashamed, sad, frustrated or even obsessed about your dream.

 

The word repetition comes from Latin, repetitio or  repetitionem, a repeating, repetere, doing or saying things again. Later, in old French, repeter, say what another has said; actions or events recurring or done again; do over again; do, make or perform again. Reputation, as in, upon repetition, I swear; also representative; repertory, Latin, repertorium, index, list, inventory, catalogue; repertus, reperire, to find, get or invent; parire or paerere, to produce, bring forth, procure; repertoire, list of performances an actor or company can stage. Of course, in EL, we repeat not what another has said, but what we say. Thus, we produce and create our own reality. As I have said and written many times, EL is the correct way of using our language, but our DL is incorrect, as it perpetuates the falsehood, that our language occurs inside of our body, as thinking in our head.

 

There is truth to the fact, that if you keep repeating – with DL – the same propaganda, someone is going to believe it, especially, because they don’t know anything about the difference between DL and EL. However, once they have found out about this difference, this doesn’t mean, that the conditioning history with DL has all of a sudden ended, as it is the beginning of becoming conscious about this history. Each time we consciously repeat to ourselves – with our ongoing EL – our conditioning history with our DL, we are reconditioning ourselves, into freedom.

 

Due to our habitual, mechanical DL, an unhealthy process of de-conditioning has occurred. This can be compared to an elderly person, who doesn’t walk anymore, but sits in a chair all day. Our muscles will inevitably atrophy, due to our sedentary lifestyle. Surely, such a decline can perhaps be prevented or at least somewhat reversed, if we exercise again, which would then involve a process re-conditioning. Obviously, doing a regular fitness routine, to retain or regain muscle strength, would involve repetition. 

 

During the transition, from being a nonverbal baby, to becoming a fully verbal human being, our first words – Mama or Papa - were celebrated by others, but, the older we get, the less reinforcement our verbal behavior receives. We were conditioned, to have DL, not EL – because nobody knew about the difference between the two, as there never really was anyone, to socially reinforce our EL –  and we could only retain our access to our EL, by means of automatic or self-reinforcement. Only if we would listen to and enjoy the sound of our voice, while we speak – in the same way, as a guitar-player enjoys to hear the sound, he or she produces, while he or she is strumming some chords on his or her instrument – do we attain the ability or skill to continue with EL.     

 

In every religion people repeat their scriptures, but they do not know, they repeat their DL. Unless they knowingly stop repeating their DL, they are never able to have any ongoing EL. Sometimes, they stop their DL, accidentally, but never skillfully, consciously and continuously and so, whenever their DL stops, they accidentally, momentarily step out of their repetition. They fabricate many superstitious ideas around this issue of having stopped their DL, but the repetition of these assumptions never results in truly stopping their DL. Only if we get clear about the difference between DL and EL, can we stop our DL reliably. We stop our DL only, when we realize, we want to go on with our EL. This natural preference happens by itself, as we will effortlessly choose what is best for us.    

It is necessary, enjoyable, intriguing and so relaxing to repeat to yourself, that it is really true, that you can stop your DL, that you can go on with your EL and that you can experience your Language Enlightenment (LE). It is really needed to let yourself know again and again, to counteract your own conditioning history with DL. Each time, when you say and hear what you appear to be thinking, you find out that thinking dissolves, because it was an imaginary product of your DL, in which you could not say what you wanted to say. Each time you say what you can say, you let yourself know, you are enlightened because your language makes you happy and full of delightful energy.