October 10, 2014
Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Behaviorist
Dear Reader,
It became a habit for this writer to write at least one
page in his journal every day. In the past he made many audiotapes to which he still sometimes enjoys to listen to. Although he
realizes that writing is not the same as talking, he has come to enjoy it almost
as much as speaking. He hasn’t made his writings public and also his audiotapes
were never listened to by anyone. This writer has not published a book or a
paper and hasn’t made his audiotapes about Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB)
public.
During class students were talking about video-recording
the interaction and putting it on YouTube. This writer would be grateful if
someone who knows how to operate this technology could help him with that, but given
the fact that people have often said such things in the past and never did anything, he is not that eager put much energy into it. The best results so far have always come from immediate contacts with people
and not from any publications or promotional activities.
While reading the book “Running
Out Of Time” (2014) by Stephen Ledoux, it occurs to this
writer that even this knowledgeable man doesn’t recognize
the need to distinguish between written and spoken aspects of the
verbal episode. It is odd that this writer, who is so against writing, is now
writing about speaking, which can’t be replaced by writing. Yet, under the
circumstances that he is currently in, it is easier to write for him than to speak about SVB. This
wasn’t always the case and it is interesting to look into why this has changed.
In recent times, this writer – as a speaker – has so often been acknowledged
and validated, that his need to speak and to be validated has dramatically
decreased. Before, he had an intense urge to speak, but that urge has calmed
down. Also, almost on a daily basis, he receives requests to write about his
views. The few times that he let people read his writings, he received positive
reinforcement. He now has a better understanding of the possibilities of the written
word and is open to reaching people with his writing. Yesterday’s classroom discussion was a direct result of that.
Class Room Memory Assignment
Discuss in groups of 5 any of the following :
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What does it take for you to remember?
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When you forgot something…what happened?
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Why is it difficult to forget or easy to
remember?
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Where was it that you kind lost it (?)..your
mind?
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When did you find yourself back?
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When did you forgive and remember the good
times?
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When do positive memories become painful
memories?
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Do you have trouble remembering what is
important to you?
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What does this exercise remind you of?
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What are your first memories?
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Can you think of memory without asking yourself
a question?
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What distracts you from remembering your
purpose?
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Why do you always only remember certain things
and not others?
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How are meaning and memory related?
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How does your emotion effect memory?
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Does your body remember things..give an
example.
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Does one place remind you of another place?
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Does music bring back memories?
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What do you recall about those times in which
you felt free?
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What has being in the moment has to do with
memory?
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Does trauma affect memory? Increase it or
decrease it?
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Is memory a real thing or is it something we
imagine?
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Does someone who is bilingual have two memories
for each language?
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When was the last time that you felt happy that
you forgot something?
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Do we only remember what we want to remember?
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How does knowledge change memory?
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Is knowledge memory or is memory knowledge?
Another reason why speaking and listening
is much more important than writing and reading, is because reading and writing
is always done alone, while speaking and listening is done together. Stated
differently, Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB)
involves the simultaneous behaviors of the verbalizers and the mediators. During
SVB our individual behavior doesn’t matter, because what really matters is how the
communicators behave together. During Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB), however, it
is the individual behavior of either the speaker or the listener, which
matters. In NVB, the behavior of the verbalizer and the mediator never matter
simultaneously.
This writer had not made this
distinction, which is of importance for a functional account
about our interaction. It is necessary to describe, explain and predict the
behavior of individual organisms, but that description is not sufficient to explain how
we behave together while we communicate. Whether we are having SVB
or NVB signifies two different worlds, one in which we are at peace, the other
in which we are perpetually at war. The consequences of our verbal
behavior are far-reaching. When we are unable to analyze how our individual behavior separates us from our behavior together, we lose our sanity. Individual behavior only makes sense in terms of how we behave together. During
SVB we make sense of ourselves and each other.
In SVB we notice how we affect our
environment and how we ourselves are affected by our environment (by others). Whether we
are verbalizers or mediators is not relevant, because in SVB there is
turn-taking and thus, we switch back and forth between being a verbalizer and a mediator. Another way of stating this is that our endo-environment and
ecto-environment are continuously interacting with each other and that this
interaction sets the stage for SVB. However, the lack of interaction between an
individual’s endo- and ecto-environment, sets the stage for NVB. Thus, in SVB
we adhere to the fact that we exist in one natural environment, but in NVB, we
claim the falsehood that we exist in separate idiosyncratic worlds.