I am speaking,

 

I am speaking, because I listen to myself, while I speak and, therefore, I am able to have ongoing Embodied Language (EL). Kamala-la-land Harris wasn’t speaking, because she wasn’t listening to herself and, consequently, she demanded to be listened to. She smilingly, seemingly politely, charmingly, supposedly, assertively, said, the president wanted people to remain calm, but she wasn’t calm, as she was clearly, arrogantly, agitated, that she was interrupted by someone, who had a different opinion and she couldn’t handle such a confrontation, and, that is why, she authoritatively said, in a hostile, insidious manner, during her totally failed debate with Mike Pense, Mr. Vice President, I’m speaking, I’m speaking, I’m speaking, while she was not speaking, but acting, as she only knew how to coerce, intimidate, dominate, manipulate and humiliate the other speaker, with her dumb, superficial, phony Disembodied Language (DL).

 

What is really so incredibly cringeworthy, about our presidential vote-less candidate, LalaKamala, is that she says everything, with a big smile, showing her white teeth. Moreover, the ugly wrinkles in the neck, of this rapidly aging, vindictive cougar, won’t go away, no matter how much the plastic surgery experts may try to stretch it. And, since she has no policies to comment on, there are only her suits, that we can talk about. We have all seen the crooked shawls, she is wearing, to bring attention to her neck, which clearly is the worst part of her declining physique. It is fashion, these days for failed women, to do that, to rub everyone’s face in their worst body-part, by accentuating this disgusting, mostly hated body-part, with the drabby, femininity-denying clothes they are wearing. Kalamitala Harris wears the most stupid, clunky outfits, that have ever been worn by anyone in public office. It is clear, she is, presumably, dressed for battle, but it is the battle she is going to lose, because her despicable, inauthentic DL is being exposed.

 

What people, who are used to having DL, don’t and can’t understand, is that the DL of others, is always just as stupid as their own. I am talking, I will use anyone who is famous - I am just getting started - and my EL implies the end of everyone’s DL. In that sense, we might actually all be fortunate, whether Communistala wins or loses, because her idiotic DL illustrates something to us, from which we might eventually learn, although it may be the hard way. Like angry Joe Biden, this bullying apparatchick, absolutely hates and will punish everyone, who justifiably questions her so-called authority. In DL, people always claim to be in charge of others, as they fail to be in charge of their own behavior. Their acting out is visible, audible and is continuously leaking. The perfect picture they try to create is totally false.

 

There can be no doubt, that it is, of course, her leaking, stinking, soiled diaper, which makes Bravadomala say ridiculous, uncomfortable, insulting things, like, if you don’t mind letting me finish – to Mike Pence – then we can have a conversation. Although I have no love for Mike Pence, I admire him for his ability, to treat this psycho-bitch so very kindly and maturely. I hope we will retain our freedom of speech, so I can continue to enjoy saying that, because I have to admit, I really enjoy writing about the DL of K.H.   

 

Like everyone else with DL, Kakamala speaks, but doesn’t say anything. She is just performing. If we are to believe, what the fake-news media writes and says about her latest annoyance, we must admire her for her ability, to turn efforts to rattle her, to her advantage. Supposedly, the Pro-Palestinian protesters were really caught off guard, lost for words and in awe of her great communication skills, when she responded to their accusation, with a gentle smile and calmly stated, I am speaking now. However, it didn’t work, as the crowd roared, Kamala you can’t hide, we won’t vote for genocide, and then, she quickly added, much like an angry parent, who had enough of a child that was acting out, you know what, if you want Donald Trump to win, then you say that, otherwise I’m speaking. The crowd roared again, but Kampainalia showed her true colors, as she clenched her jaws and stared them down in silence. Her theatrical flair was the talk of the day, because, supposedly, she had demonstrated, she could turn efforts, to undermine her, into a political weapon. This was a perfect demonstration of the mechanics of DL. Surely, nobody should ever take anything she says personal and everyone, especially her, insists – with DL – while they attack others, that personal attacks are absolutely unacceptable.

 

Anyone who is dominating someone else in DL, hates to be interrupted, because it means, they are losing power. It has nothing to do with finishing a sentence or having a conversation. It has to do with winning the battle for attention of the audience. Only a speaker, who manages to forcefully get the attention, supposedly, has something important to say. This struggle for attention, which is the basis of DL, which is our ordinary, habitual way of talking, is the cause of everything that is wrong in this world. It is interesting how she deflected and drowned out the protesters, by quickly blaming Trump, by accusing him of supporting Project 2025, which he doesn’t and by saying, it’s a plan to weaken America’s middle class. As her Fascistic, Communist, Marxist, Anti-Semitic, gas-lighted, weird and crazy fans were screaming Ka-ma-la, Ka-ma-la, she added, it’s all good, it’s all good, I am here because we believe in democracy, everyone’s voice matters, but I’m speaking now, I’m speaking now, but her voice doesn’t matter to her. She wants to be adored and listened to, but she has nothing to say except some slogans, as she has no connection with who she truly is. If she would listen to herself, while she speaks, she would hate what she is hearing. There would be no cackling, but tears of sadness. I am talking, because this is the sad truth about K.H. and everyone, who still engages in DL.  

 Layers,

 

I want to speak about the various layers of my Embodied Language (EL). Naturally, my EL was made possible by my Disembodied Language (DL). However, my DL was preceded by a stage, in which I was without language. Every human being is born without language and grows up in a verbal community. The baby only hears the surrounding sounds and imitates these sounds until he or she is forming his or her first words, such as Mamma or Pappa. Once that happens, there is great delight, as the child has taken its first steps of his or her verbal development. This switch from being pre-verbal to verbal, is a major milestone in our lives. Later, much later, when we switch from DL to EL, we switch back from the being verbal, to not being verbal, as we are able to let go of our language during EL.    

 

I am once again reminded of what my mother told me, a few days, before I emigrated to the United States, in 1999. She took me aside and said, that before I go, there was something, she had to tell me. I was feeling kind of alarmed and instantly knew, she was about to tell something very serious. Although she was going to tell me, she hesitated, but she braised herself and told me the following story. I am the oldest son, the third child of a family of six children. Similarly to my two older sisters, I was born at home with the help of midwife. In The Netherlands, it is very common for babies to be born this way.

 

The midwife, whose name was also Anna – like my mother – was a cheery friend and a former colleague, from an earlier time, that my mother, as a young woman, had been working at a big department store. She was always singing and was single and independent. In other words, the woman, who had supported my mother, while giving birth to her first two daughters, had always reminded my mother of a brief period – right after WOII – that she was free and without the burden of having to care for her big family, which, unfortunately, would weigh heavier and heavier on her, as the years went by. My mother felt very comfortable and confident with her friend-midwife, and I was to be born, in the same way as my older sisters. However, days before my birth, Anna died in a car-accident, leaving my mother bereaved.

 

As my mother told me, that the new midwife, who was a young, inexperienced, impatient woman, she and I cried. We both knew, how the loss of her dear friend had set the stage of my life. Surely, I was surprised to hear, she had been keeping this story from me for so many years. My mother expressed a sense of shame about not being able to love me enough, as she felt so saddened. However, she felt, I must have heard Anna sing, while I was still in her womb and when I came out, the voice and the positive energy, I had – like her – enjoyed listening to so much, was gone. I cried a lot as baby, and it was difficult for my mother to calm me down. At the time of my departure to the United States, I had already spent many years, giving sessions and workshops about listening to your voice, while you speak. My sensitivity, to the sound of the human voice, according to my mother, was the result of the situation in which I had been born.

 

After immigrating, in the first couple of years, I made many audio recordings, on which I talked with myself in Dutch and in English. Only now, do I realize, how incredibly important it has been – and still is – for me, to speak, first, in Dutch and, then, in English, about my language experience. And, of course, everything I have written, was always preceded by my speaking and listening. Currently, I write on this blog and have returned to a steady speaking with myself, because I make video-recordings on my You Tube channels (Maximus Peperkamp and maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw). I feel so fortunate to be able to express myself in two languages. My mother’s tongue, my Dutch, represents my emotional history with my language, but my English refers to my verbal maturity, my reason, my intellect, as I became an educated person and have achieved the Master of Arts and Master of Science in Clinical Psychology. I am so grateful for being able to explore and acknowledge all these different layers of my language. It seems as if my English translates my Dutch experience, in the same way, that my EL translates my DL experience.

 

It has taken me a long time, before I was able to have ongoing EL. For many years, I kept having episodes of DL, in which I again had problems. Currently, my EL is steady and, as I have always said, this is my Language Enlightenment (LE). I couldn’t have come to my ongoing EL – which is my LE – without endlessly going back and forth between my DL and EL and by acknowledging, that I wasn’t listening to myself again and again. I couldn’t help it, as I was conditioned that way. My dear mother has given me gift, by telling me her story, because it made me understand, why I am the way I am. She knew, I needed to know. Also, my dear father, who loves classical music, has played a big role, in how I came to be so concerned about language, as he told me, over and over again – in spite of all his inadequacies – that talking is the most important thing in life.       

Valt mee,

 

Als je eenmaal eindelijk wat voortgaande Belichaamde Taal (BT) begint te hebben, dan krijg je door, dat het allemaal wel mee valt en dat er, ofschoon er wel degelijk echte ellende uit voorkomt, vanwege Ontlichaamde Taal (OT), heel wat drukte wordt gemaakt, over storm in een kop thee. Het is merkwaardig, om om al die afgrijzelijke toestanden onbeschaamd te kunnen lachen en de opluchting te voelen, dat je er niets aan hoeft te doen, kan doen of wil doen. Het valt gelukkig zogezegd allemaal wel mee, afgezien van alle tragische misstanden, die door onze gebruikelijke, onbewuste OT worden veroorzaakt en in stand worden gehouden.

 

Ook al zei ons moeder – nadat wij ons, als kind,  huilend hadden bezeerd, omdat wij van onze step waren gevallen – geruststellend, dat het, zo te zien allemaal wel mee viel, dat het enkel een schrammetje was en dat, met een kusje of snoepje erop, de pijn weer over was, toch was er met onze gewone wijze van praten altijd iets helemaal verkeerd. Ook al werd er gezegd, zo te horen valt het allemaal wel mee, dit was niet waar, want er werd helemaal niet geluisterd.

 

Achteraf gezien, luisterde ik, als kind, maar ook als volwassen, heel vaak niet naar wat er werd zogezegd, omdat ik het niet wilde horen. Ik kon het heus wel horen, maar ik vond het niet mee vallen, hoe men tegen mij en met elkaar sprak. Als men het doet voorkomen – wat iedereen dus dag in dag uit doet – dat het allemaal wel mee valt, met onze geaccepteerde, gemaakte,  ongevoelige wijze van communiceren, dan stuit mij dat tegen de borst, want – ook al had er vroeger niet de woorden voor, die ik er nu voor heb – ik heb altijd al het verschil gevoeld tussen OT en BT. Het viel niet mee, om daar altijd voor gestrafd te worden. Ik ben blij, dat ik nu volledig kan begrijpen, dat er niets verkeerd met mij is.  

 

De OT, die ik overal hoor, vind ik niet om aan te horen. Iedereen die het onderscheid kan maken tussen zijn of haar OT en BT, is daartoe alleen in staat, omdat hij of zij – net als ik – de klank van de stem, van iemand die OT heeft, niet om aan te horen vindt. Ik hoor het verschil en jij, die dit leest, kan dit verschil ook horen, als je er eens op zou letten. Als het ooit zover mocht komen, dan zou jij er ook achter komen, dat het echt niet mee valt, om OT te hebben of om ernaar te moeten luisteren. We hebben allemaal geleden.  

 

Van allerlei ongemakken zegt men vaak, er valt mee te leven, maar wanneer men dat zegt, dan is dat, omdat er geen andere keuze is. Iedereen heeft, zonder daar echt erg in te hebben OT en doet alsof het heel normaal is, maar zodra wij het verschil erkennen, tussen OT en BT, is er geen ontkomen meer aan, want dan pas gaan wij beseffen, dat er met OT eigenlijk absoluut niet te leven was. Het is heel pijnlijk en het valt niet mee, om aan onszelf toe te geven, dat wij vanuit onze onwetendheid en het gebrek aan vaardigheid, zolang met OT bezig zijn gebleven.

 

In OT is altijd sprake van een vorm van vallen, van falen, van schaamte en van verdriet. Mij zei  vroeger vaak over mij: met hem valt geen land te bezeilen en ik werd steevast uitgesloten en vermeden. Ik heb alleen kunnen leren van hen, die gevoelig naar mij waren. Het viel beslist niet mee, om te erkennen, dat iedereen OT heeft en daardoor niet in staat is, om mij te ontmoeten, waar ik ben. Jarenlang verkeerde ik, in de met OT ontvangen veronderstelling, dat er iets niet in orde met mij zou zijn, maar met mijn BT ben ik gaan begrijpen, dat ik niet meer aan mijzelf hoefde te werken. Zolang ik met OT bezig was faalde ik. Ik viel, keer op keer, maar ik viel niet mee. Nee, ik viel door de mand van mijn OT, want hoe ik ook probeerde om, net als iedereen OT te hebben, het lukte mij eenvoudigweg niet.

 

Voor iemand die nog nooit gehoord heeft van OT en BT, klinkt het misschien heel ingewikkeld, maar het valt allemaal wel mee, als je eenmaal met jezelf gaat praten en naar de aangename  klank van je eigen stem gaat luisteren, die jou vertelt, wat je nog nooit eerder aan jezelf heb kunnen zeggen. Met OT zou men zeggen, het valt echter te bezien of jij dit gaat doen, maar ik heb BT, omdat ik hoor of jij het doet of niet.

 

Ook al is er door OT heel wat leed veroorzaakt, het valt mee en de schade kan worden hersteld. Het valt echter vies tegen, hoe weinig mensen er zijn geinteresseerd in BT, maar het is precies juist daardoor, dat iemand er toch mee verder wil gaan, omdat het zo enorm de moeite waard is. Wanneer jij die prachtige, betekenisvolle, ontroerende, verrijkende resultaten ervaart van je BT, dan blijkt het toch allemaal wel weer mee te vallen. Met BT valt er altijd wel een mouw aan – ieder zogenaamd probleem – te passen en ben je dus altijd positief. Dit blijkt vooral, als je aan jezelf gaat zeggen en gaat luisteren naar wat jij geloofd te denken. Het valt wel mee, dat het niet waar is en dat er geen denken bestaat.     

 Dissociation,

 

Whoever reads this must somehow know, that being busy with these words, is different from reading what is usually read. This text is a result of my daily involvement in Embodied Language (EL). Everything that is written elsewhere – yes, this is a big claim, but I am convinced it is true – is based on Disembodied Language (DL), our usual way of talking, in which we, as speakers, don’t listen to ourselves and dissociate from our body. Since we don’t experience our body in DL, we are out of touch with the reality, but once we express again, what we feel in our own body, we find, we listen to ourselves and we engage in Embodied Language (EL). Dissociation or detaching from the reality, is common, as we engage mechanically in senseless DL each day.

 

Psychologists explain dissociation as a feeling of daydreaming or being intensely focused, as well as the distressing and depressing experience of being disconnected from the reality. It should be immediately obvious, they – like everyone else – firmly believe in the fantasy of inner language, private speech, the mind or thinking, which is created by DL, in which we can never express, let alone be, ourselves. Therefore, they inadvertently refer to dissociation, as the disintegration of imaginary, inner, verbal stuff, such as consciousness, identity, memory or perception. Each of these concepts derive from our dissociative DL. Moreover, we have never talked about DL with EL, we have never spoken about dissociation in a non-dissociative manner.

 

During our usual, unintelligent, insensitive DL, we remain preoccupied with what is known as speaking truth to power. Whoever wins the battle for attention, which is the basis of our repetitive, problematic, unnatural, effortful DL, gets to do most of the talking, and, therefore, will gain power. With EL, however, we finally admit, that this intensely-focused, obsessive, inherently-deceitful activity, takes us further and further away from what we experience.

 

Due to DL, dissociation is associated with stress or trauma, but the unaddressed reality is, our habitual way of talking – in which we don’t talk with ourselves, in order to be able to listen to ourselves and only talk with others and listen to others or try to make them listen to us – causes this disconnect from our sensory experiences. Surely, once we have EL, we awaken from the dissociation, which was kept going by our DL. To be more specific, in DL, the speaker disconnects from and dominates the listener, but in EL, the speaker connects and regularly takes turns with the listener, who becomes the speaker, while the former speaker then becomes the listener.  

 

In DL, we remain – even if we are educated in chemistry, biology or physics – unaware about the, in EL, properly communicated fact, that dissociation is not a metaphorical reference about neuronal stuff, in our brains, but a natural phenomenon. In chemistry, dissociation is a chemical reaction, in which a molecule or compound breaks into smaller pieces, such as ions, atoms and radicals. Hydrochloric acid (HCI) dissociates in water, forming the H+ and the CI- ions. Usually, chemical dissociation is a reversable process. The reverse of chemical dissociation is association and recombination.

 

When we apply this knowledge of chemistry to what is really happening, psychologically or communicatively, we will find, ongoing EL, in which we listen to ourselves while we speak, separates DL – our unscientific, superstitious, phony way of talking, in which we pretend to be superior or inferior to each other – from our EL. This separation – as clear as the separation of water and oil, because oil is less dense than water – is needed to finally end our history of conditioning with DL, which burdened us with a metaphoric, inaccurate use of language. We are able with our EL, to realistically and effectively break down what is happening and we can put Humpty Dumpty back on the wall, so to speak.

 

We can also bring in some physics, to solve the problems of human interaction, which, with DL, always escalate into conflict and chaos. Let us consider the Second Law of Thermodynamics, which is roughly based on the notion, that heat always flows from hotter to colder regions or ‘downhill’ in the temperature gradient. Clearly, once we know the difference between DL and EL, we naturally want to stay away from DL.

 

We might as well also take note of the physical Law of Entropy, which states, that in a closed system – a human being with DL – disorder always increases. Since we don’t need to waste any more time, trying to re-invent the wheel again, let’s add some Evolutionary Theory and acknowledge that evolution, which is based on selection by consequences, always selects for anti-entropic adaptations, which expend energy in order to maintain homeo-stasis. If we simply follow our nature, we effortlessly achieve EL. A stable, robust language-behavior – like EL – can and must be understood as an anti-entropic adaptation, which directs energy to maintaining bio-psycho-social order, a wholesome, peaceful, enjoyable recombination of all the disparate, disjointed and meaningless fragments, we are conflicted about and struggle with, due to our DL.  

 

If you put your food in the micro-wave and turn on that machine, you heat up your food, but if you take it out and let is stand, it will cool off. The heat-energy, given by the microwave, is lost once the food is again outside the microwave. However, food cannot magically heat itself, you will have to first put it into the microwave and then turn it on. These are conscious acts. In dissociation, you turn on the microwave, walk away, but you come back too late and your food has cooled off again. Such is the Law of Entropy. There are only a few ways, to heat up food, but there are many ways, it will remain unheated. Likewise, there are only a limited number of ways to build a sand-castle, but there are infinite ways, in which sand will be dispersed.

 

To put it squarely, only our EL creates order, but our DL creates disorder. Moreover, DL creates disorder, because we dissociate from reality. Furthermore, selection of EL and extinction of DL, is an ultimately evolutionary process, which is already happening, but we haven’t woken up to it yet. On the one hand, we are still in denial about evolutionary theory, because there is no end-goal and we can’t stand the spirituality-denying fact, that we, like everyone else, at some point, will just die, on the other hand, we haven’t experienced the possibility of what it is like, to have EL, in which we are not trying to ward off chaos, but in which we live in order. ...You can hear me read this text on my You Tube channel maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw or you reach me on skype: limbicease or send me an email at mpeperkamp@sbcglobal.net  

 Oud Nieuws,

 

Wanneer je eindelijk eerst Belichaamde Taal (BT) met jezelf gaat hebben en daarna met anderen, dan is alle Ontlichaamde Taal (OT), van zowel jezelf, als van anderen, oud nieuws. Men zegt wel, in OT, dat geen nieuws, goed nieuws is, maar in BT gelden er hele andere omstandigheden. In BT is er altijd nieuws en geen nieuws betekent dus OT. De afwezigheid van OT is echter een enorme opluchting. Men zegt dat geen nieuws goed nieuws is, want zolang je niets hoort is alles zogenaamd goed, maar het hele punt van BT is natuurlijk, dat je wel iets hoort en dat jou BT door anderen wordt opgepakt. Indien jou BT tot gevolg heeft, dat je niets meer van anderen hoort, omdat je  schijnbaar geen BT met anderen kunt hebben, dan is waar jij mee bezig bent geen BT, maar OT. In dat geval, ben je toch ingemerkt bezig gebleven met oud nieuws.

 

Het toegeven aan jezelf, dat je het allemaal al hebt gehoord, dat alles wat je zegt herhaling is, is de enige manier, om je OT te stoppen. In OT, doet wat je zegt zich ongemerkt voor alsof het nieuw is, maar het hele zogenaamde begrip van oud nieuws is natuurlijk belachelijk. Nieuws is uiteraard gewoon altijd nieuws en oud nieuws bestaat niet. Nieuws is niet eerst nieuw en daarna oud. BT is nieuw en OT is ouwe koek, die niet te vreten is. Ouwe koek is geen zoete koek, want je gaat echt helemaal over je nek van OT. Je walging van OT is wat je ermee doet stoppen.

 

Met OT, ervaart iedereen eenzaamheid en is er een voortdurend, onuitgesproken, knagend gevoel, dat anderen ons te kort doen en weer in de steek laten. Omdat men het contact heeft verloren, zegt men, dat geen nieuws goed nieuws zou zijn, omdat, zogezegd, geen tijding een goede tijding is. Het is iets droevigs, als men van zijn verwanten in de vreemde niets meer hoort - dat het dan goed met ze zou gaan - want alleen als er droevige dingen voorvallen, verneemt men in de regel iets. In BT, horen wij altijd weer van elkaar, omdat wij van onszelf horen. Wij zeggen niet, dat geen nieuws, slecht nieuws is, want geen nieuws is geen nieuws en het is heel duidelijk OT. Ook is degene, die, zogezegd, niets meer van zich laat horen, natuurlijk degene die OT achter zich liet en is degene, die schijnbaar op iets nieuws zat te wachten van die ander, bezig gebleven met die ander – en niet met zichzelf – en is hij of zij dus degene, die OT is blijven houden.  

 

Iets wat reeds lange tijd bekend is, wordt ook wel oudbakken nieuws genoemd. Als brood of koek niet meer vers is, dan is het oud brood of droge koek. Het zich eindeloos herhalende, leugenachtige, domme verhaal van OT, is niet om aan te horen. De aggressieve, afgrijzelijk-klinkende Michelle Obama – met haar intimiderende, drakonische haarstukje – is een een goed voorbeeld. Gedurende OT preekt men altijd weer over hoop en is men fel tegen angst, verdeeldheid en zogenaamde klein-zieligheid. Haar toespraak, ter ondersteuning van de al even afgezaagde, haat-dragende Kamala Harris, was meer van hetzelfde. Het feit, dat zovelen dit niet horen, is omdat men niet in de gaten heeft, dat OT onze alledaagse wijze van spreken is. Als mensen beweren, dat een zogenaamd speciaal iemand de belichaaming zou zijn, van alle verhalen, die wij aan onszelf vertellen, over het land waarin wij wonen, omdat haar ophitsende, arrogante, ge-acteerde, zeik-verhaal, appeleert aan ons eigen geklaag en gekanker, dan weten we, dat wij zo samen onze hel van OT in stand zullen blijven houden.  

 

Men heeft het, in OT, altijd over het zogenaamde branden van nieuwsgierigheid. Het gaat meestal om een spiritueel verlangen en over de zogenaamde overdracht van geestelijke gewaarwoordingen. Zij, die zich voordoen als geestelijke, morele leiders, doen veel moeite, om iedereen te laten weten, dat zij met vlammend hart, vol passie spreken en dat zij de harten van anderen kunnen doen ontvlammen, ontsteken of ontbranden. Dit alles is pure fantasie, want het gaat wederom over de voortzetting van ons aloude groeps-gedrag: OT. Elke keer wordt ons weer voorgehouden, dat wij de hoop zouden zijn verloren en dat wij daardoor niets meer doen, om de situatie te verbeteren. Wij gaan alleen dan pas echt doen wat goed is - voor onszelf - als wij BT hebben en ons niet meer met anderen bezig houden. Hoop is helemaal niet nodig voor het hebben BT, maar het herkennen van de achterhaalde flauwe kul van OT, is van het allergrootste groot belang.      

 Reasoning,

 

The reason people don’t and can’t reason, is their common way of talking. In our usual way of talking, which is Disembodied Language (DL), we don’t listen to ourselves while we speak. Using our language effectively, is not a matter of so-called thought – because thinking or having a mind, is the inevitable fantasy of having inner language or private speech, which, of course, is created and maintained by our unconscious, effortful, involuntary involvement in DL – but a matter of speaking with and listening to ourselves, while we speak. Only when we hear our own voice, while we speak, can and will we engage in Embodied Language (EL) and are we capable of speaking rationally, coherently, effectively and joyfully, about our own experiences. Only our EL allows us to finish our sentences and, therefore, we act on how we instructed ourselves. In DL, by contrast, we say one thing, but we do something that contradicts what we are saying. In EL, we are congruent, but in DL, we are incongruent, fragmented, conflicted and dumb.

 

Your Language Enlightenment (LE) is simply the continuation of your EL. Once you have ongoing EL, everything is in place and there is nothing to do or to say. Enjoying your LE is not a matter of having EL, since your EL has subsided. Although you have used your intelligence optimally – due to your EL – you now reap the fruits of your EL and your intelligence. In other words, your LE is the result of your reasoning. You have created order with EL and now you live in that reality. You are neither happy nor sad, as these experiences, at this point, do not matter anymore. Stated differently, because you have followed your own EL to its ultimate rational conclusion, you are happy with nothing. This nothingness, however, is very different from the negative nothingness you experienced with DL.

 

The nothingness, which is experienced, but never acknowledged, by those who engage in DL, is the absence of wellbeing, but the nothingness of EL, is – you can’t miss it – the presence of wellbeing. A nice word to describe your LE is grace. EL makes you graceful and grateful. Also, the nothingness of DL is a sense of permanent restlessness, but nothingness of EL is a notion of timelessness, which was accomplished with great patience, as you have been capable of saying what you were able and willing to say. Elaborate, full expression of your EL took time, but brought you in touch with eternity. Your LE is the nothingness from whence you have come and became who you are today and into which you will certainly one day dissolve again, at the moment of your death. There’s nothing to say about death, as there’s only something to say about life. What has been said about death by people with DL, is a bunch of nonsense.

 

With your DL, you cannot even talk about your own experiences correctly, let alone about your own death. Obviously, you fear the end of your life, as long as you engage in DL, but you will no longer be in denial of your mortality with your EL. You already die, while you are still alive with your EL and your let go of your EL provides you with a sense of deathlessness. To us, who have faith in our own EL, there is no death, as we are the master over our life and our death. Our LE is a transitoriness or wisdom, which was afforded to us by the fluidity of our EL. In DL, everything is stuck, and our words sound like one big failure.

 

Our LE is as much about animals and things, as it is about other people. Here too, the latter makes the former possible and our care about animals, trees, streams and mountains makes us compassionate about the suffering we hear and see in those, who have DL. Furthermore, our forgiveness is our understanding, that those who have DL, cannot understand what they are going through. Moreover, we have – with our EL – no longer any urge, to intervene or help, as our interference would prevent others from discovering their own salvation with their EL. Surely, we can only have EL, if we have had enough of our own DL. No one is able to decide for others, when it has been enough. Likewise, no one with DL is able to divert me from my EL.  

 

I can leave people alone, because I am alone with my LE and no one with DL can appreciate or acknowledge my aloneness. Only someone with EL is able to do this, as they have their own experience of their LE with ongoing EL. No matter how briefly your EL continues, it always indicates your LE, immediately. Brevity of EL stimulates you to stay with it longer, as you experience your participation in DL as a lost opportunity. Simply stated, your EL shows you, you have been wasting your life with DL. In that sense, EL is shocking, as you can’t escape the far-reaching implications of this conclusion.

 

One of your stunning realizations with EL will be, that others can’t help you, as they, unknowingly, engage in DL. Those who have EL, will tell you to figure it out yourself. Each time, you turn to others, your DL is affirmed and turning away from them, doesn’t necessarily result in turning to yourself. Once you recognize and stop your DL, you will attend to yourself with your ongoing EL and instruct yourself very differently.

 

DL of others is irrelevant. You must only pay attention to your own DL. You can only have EL, if you acknowledge your conditioning history with DL. Everyone – in DL – pretends, like you, their DL isn’t all that bad, but you experience this every day, the tragic consequences of your DL are devastating. Perhaps, this is one of the most difficult aspects about DL. You have to admit how ever-present its terrible consequences are, in yourself and others. It is more disturbing to admit your own catastrophes, then to complain about the foolishness of others. Only if you hear – even though you don’t want to – your DL, it stops. You carry on with EL, while everyone goes on with DL. It is possible for you, as you bravely keep doing whatever it takes, to be able to have ongoing EL.           

 Opportunity,

 

If you are fortunate enough, to live in a Western Democratic country, you have the freedom, the opportunity, to engage in Embodied Language (EL), instead of Disembodied Language (DL). Although this opportunity exists, DL rules, even in so-called free societies. Those who have the chance to be individuals, for the most part, waste this opportunity, because they refuse to do the work, to acquire the language, needed to be an individual. They rather immaturely, irresponsibly, irrationally scream and whine about freedom, than seriously talk about it, with EL.

 

There has always been a lot of phony talk going on – in DL – about the presumed possibility of turning a crisis into an opportunity. Instead of calling a spade a spade, we spin it, keep going on with stupid DL and make it seem, as if it is great. Moreover, we are so used to going from one crisis to the next, it seems, as if crises are needed, to create opportunity. This sick gaslighting bullshit is the essence of DL.

 

With insidious, manipulative, unnatural DL, we are constantly told – and this is why we keep telling this to ourselves – we can reframe how we view the unfolding of the crisis. Yes, we can magically take advantage of it, provided – and here is the catch – we learn to stop resisting unwanted change. In DL, we are supposed to welcome these unwanted things, struggle and fight and get out of our so-called comfort-zones – which, of course, weren’t comfortable anyway – and that, supposedly, will make us better. This is such horseshit.  

 

We can only create our own opportunity, to be an individual and to live like an individual, after we have stopped listening to the DL of others and ourselves and started talking with ourselves and listening to ourselves and engaging in EL. A crisis – everyone repeats what everyone else has said – can become a turning-point? Toward where are we turning? Not to ourselves, not to our use of language and not to our intelligence. The real tipping-point only occurs, due to our deliberate switch from DL to EL, which can and will only happen, when we are not in a crisis, and are feeling safe and at ease. The sad fact is, with DL, we never felt that way. So, our opportunity to be who we are only reveals itself, if we turn away from DL. We must, at all costs, avoid it. Moreover, our active avoidance of DL, will have to be the largest proportion of our behavioral repertoire, let’s say 75%. This leaves 25% for two other types of behaviors.   

 

The remaining part of our biologically-driven, innate, autonomically-determined, behavioral repertoire, consists of escape and approach behavior. As living organisms, we only want to approach what sustains us, not what threatens us and from which we must escape. In other words, we must carefully discern, with our EL, what behavior is truly supportive, what creates an opportunity, what has positive outcomes? Thus, we keep our escape-behavior – which, in the worst of circumstances, can be lethal – to a bare minimum, let’s say 5%. This leaves 20% for our approach behavior. Perhaps this is even too high, and the proportion needs adjustment. We have to individually figure this out for ourselves with our EL. We have this opportunity, but we must take it. Perhaps, it is better for us to 85% actively avoid DL, approach only 10% and escape only 5%?  

 

The great opportunity, which is certainly going to be created by our ongoing EL, is that we no longer – involuntarily – have to engage in any kind of the forced, unnatural, neurotic, stupid behaviors, which were demanded from us, by our own DL. We voluntarily, consciously engage in EL and all the behaviors, which strengthen it. We are not bothered by the utterly false notion of inner language, private speech or our so-called mind. Instead of imagining, that we can create opportunity for ourselves, with our thoughts, with mindful, inner, meditative, presumably, non-reactive contemplation, we talk out loud with ourselves, we can listen to and hear ourselves and, therefore, we act and follow through on how we have been instructing ourselves.

 

With mechanical DL, we, inadvertently, focus on the loss of opportunity, rather than on the creation of opportunity with our language. In DL, in our conditioned way of talking, we use language incorrectly, since we don’t listen to ourselves. DL is based on fear, which makes us freeze, whenever we experience or perceive the unfamiliar. We can’t talk and we don’t want to talk about the new with DL, because our ears are trained to listen to others - who threaten us - not to ourselves, with whom we have the opportunity to feel safe, with our EL. Basically, our DL symbolizes anxiety and retreat, while EL creates opportunity and growth. All talk about opportunity with DL is an empty promise, the future, which never comes, while your life goes by. With ongoing EL, you are in control of and you are in possession of your own language, which isn’t happening – as you experienced in DL – unwillingly, but which creates and achieves opportunity.