Settled,

 

Things seem to have permanently settled, as I no longer worry about anything. I am no longer upset about anything or feel sad about anything. The new me doesn’t seem to have any emotional upheavals anymore and it is kind of strange, that someone like me, who has had such a turbulent life, at long last, came upon this peaceful, clear, enjoyable experience.

 

I am amazed to feel so satisfied and accomplished, as I don’t do any of the negative things anymore, I used to do. So much of my old behavior has simply stopped and it doesn’t even look like, I am going to replace it with other behavior. Whenever an old behavior stops, this is a beautiful non-event. All of a sudden, there is space, where, before, I was doing something. On the whole, I do less and less and this means, I live a spacious life. I have so often done something totally different from what I am doing today, but at this point, there is nothing else I want to do then what I currently do.

 

I am already doing what I want to do and there isn’t any self-defeating behavior that still needs to be stopped. This is peculiar, as it just seems yesterday, that I felt so overwhelmed by traumatic behaviors and couldn’t even begin to imagine how to stop these behaviors, let alone, be without them. Yet, they have disappeared and I do not even remember anymore what it all was about.

 

What was is no longer important to me and only what is happening now keeps me busy. What is happening to me these days is not very much and I like it that way. I have made a cup of tea and wait until it has cooled off enough to drink it. I smell the Camille and look forward to filling myself with this warm fluid. I have just taken a shower and after I have drank my tea and have finished this writing, I will go to sleep. I also look forward to going to sleep. The warm tea will make me fall asleep quickly. When, after another sentence, I stop my writing, I feel still and complete.

 

I am grateful to my wife Bonnie, who reads her book in bed, while I am doing this writing. She is retired and still getting used to not working anymore and looking for something she wants to do. Buddy, our cat, sits in the bedroom. I see him down the hall. He looks at me, as I drink a sip of my tea. I create this world. This afternoon, when I drove home from work, I saw a rainbow. I like to sit a while longer in this chair and doze off a little. This writing pleases me, as there is nothing in particular I try to address.

 

To me, nothing is something and I find it fascinating to write or speak about nothing. Everything comes out of nothing and returns to nothing. Whenever something happens, it only seems as if something was going on, but upon further verbal inspection, expression, and exploration, it turned out to be nothing, as it, often even unnoticeably, dissolved. I am reminded of the family-gathering, for the spreading of the ashes of my dear father-in- law on the ocean water, near San Francisco’s Golden Gate bridge. I was in awe with his death as with his life. I was at his death-bed. One moment, he was still there and, next, he was gone forever. That moment, changed my life. Something in me had died as well.

 

I realized, I no longer wanted to pursue the PhD in Psychology. Although I had successfully completed all the course work, advanced to candidacy, was accruing my clinical hours, and writing on my dissertation about attachment and unresolved loss, I could no longer tolerate the enormous stress. Bonnie’s father had been such an incredible inspiration, to believe in myself. I studied for many years to become a psychologist, but I was so glad that I didn’t become one. Instead, I used my master’s degree to teach at Butte College. It was a great honor and pleasure to teach Psychology, but it was also very demanding, especially, when the on-line teaching became so important, due to the Covid epidemic.

 

When I gave up teaching in 2021, I felt so relieved. Soon afterwards, I also gave up on teaching people about Embodied Language (EL). With that, came an end to my involvement in the field of psychology. I find it still stunning, that after all these years, I have left all the problems of other people behind me. And, with that, also came an end to the problems I myself was having. I once wrote a small poem. It goes like this:

 

                                     I erase

                      to put new words in place

                      this is how I make my case

 

This writing is almost coming to its end, as the page has filled up with my writing about many things, which came and went. This space is now full of grace. It makes me touch my face. This nothingness is my home-base.  

 

Voice-Lift,

 

Those who complain, that it is difficult or even impossible to be funny these days – as it is so easy to step on someone toes and to hurt someone’s feelings – are, in my opinion, simply too blunt and too stubborn, to admit, that humor badly needs a make-over or a face-lift. We must face the fact, that ingratiating, loud, hyped-up ranting does not cut it anymore. In-your-face humor is totally outdated, as it paints a muted picture. The desperation becomes bigger and bigger with each so-called funny act. Any intelligent person feels irritated, listening to the meaningless, hopeless, repetitive, bullshit, which people accept, because, supposedly, it is humor.  

 

Face-lifts do not work. With age, our appearance changes. There is nothing anyone can or should do about it. However, when we mature, we speak in a different tone of voice, as we can now laugh about things, which we used to get so worked up about. You can hear, we have become wiser, as we sound calmer, milder, and friendlier. We sound up-lifting. I consider this voice-lift the future. Without it, humor is dead, as we refuse to grow up. You hear it is not funny, as you keep laughing for the wrong reasons.  

 

Nobody cares about how things are said anymore, these days, as speakers will only get the listener’s attention with forceful, manipulative, rehearsed verbal acrobatics. Surely, the change in humor and the change in our usual way of talking, is going to come from how we sound, not from what we say. I need to address the words, which you wear, like a mask on your face. Interestingly, the word person, comes from Latin, per-sonare, which means: sound coming through the mask. In ancient theatre, actors wore masks as they acted their roles. I am against masks, as it seems to me, you are hurting yourself, because your words distort your sound. When what you say is more important than how you say it, you sound horrible, as your words are disembodied. You got your words from a script, but you do not dare to speak without your prepared, boring verbal garbage.

 

I criticize you for your stupidity and brag about my intelligence, because, unlike most people, who do this, I am funny, because I speak the truth. Get with the program, the future of mankind (if there is any), is going to be that we enjoy speaking together and hearing the truth, and, we are going to have a lot of fun. I bring you happy tidings, as I believe our future sounds good. Who wants to hear all that old crap again, anyway? I do not and you do not want to hear it either, although you are not yet as focused on how bad our so-called humor sounds, as I am.

 

I claim that all comedians sound lame and the same. This is not insulting, but liberating. It makes sense, to stop being busy with what I say, so that you can finally have some fun. I know that my words are not funny, it is okay, but my sound is where it is at. Of course, I would not get anyone to laugh by sounding dreadful, angry, stressed, or arrogant and I do not sound like that. I cannot fake my own sound, because if I would be frustrated, you would still hear it, even if I tried to sound happy. If I would be boring, I would sound even more boring, if I tried to sound interesting. If I sound tired and tried to sound as if I am full of energy, I would completely wear you out, as I would suck all the energy out of you. Yes, I would make you angry, if I tried to sound funny. However, if I was truly funny and sounding funny, you would probably not even hear it, as you are not used to hearing what it sounds like, when someone is sounding funny. When we say, someone sounds funny, we mean, something is wrong with him or her. Of course, there is nothing wrong with me, when I am having fun and when I sound funny.

 

The sad fact that you cannot hear I have fun, is because you do not listen. The reason people do not laugh anymore in their lives is: they do not hear how funny they sound, when they themselves say something funny. They want others to say it, as they believe to be incapable of saying something funny themselves. They can still say something funny, but this would only happen, if they would listen to themselves and stopped listening to others. Since I would like you to listen to yourself, I suggest you repeat, to yourself, this small sentence. Do not try to convince yourself, as that would not be funny at all, just say it in such a way that you can hear it. Also, do not try to sound meaningful, as that takes all the fun out of it. And, lastly, do not try to sound, as if you already know what having fun sounds like, as that sounds so incredibly dumb. Now slowly and carefully, say this to yourself: I CAN HAVE FUN.                    

 

Gaslighting,

 

I was not surprised to read, in the daily news feed on my computer, that gaslighting is in 2022 the word of the year. If you consider what it is, you are bound to get a better picture of what Disembodied Language (DL) is. Like virtue-signaling and cancel-culture (two other popular buzz-words), gaslighting has to do with how we deal with our own and each other's language.

 

When you discover, you can also have Embodied Language (EL), you cannot miss the realization, that you have been engaging in DL, all the time, and, unknowingly, you were undermining all your relationships by gaslighting, virtue-signaling, and cancelling. Generally, people do not want to admit, that they are lying about something, that they are denying something, even if it is obvious, in the sound of their voice, that they do. This is a perfect example of gaslighting. When you bring attention to how they sound, they turn you down or refuse to talk.

 

Refusing to talk is a version of gaslighting, which is gaining more and more popularity these days. Our technology facilitates this cowardice. When what we see or hear, on a small screen, matters more to us, than what we ourselves can experience and express, we begin to doubt and reject ourselves and we dissociate from what is happening to us. An event or behavior, we witnessed ourselves, supposedly never happened and while nobody tells us in our face, we seem to remember wrongly what has happened and, therefore, we abandon our verbal descriptions and, we turn away from our language.

 

The essence of DL, our common way of talking, is that we keep telling ourselves and each other, that it is not really happening... If you insist on bringing it up, people will treat you, as if there is something wrong with you and, obviously, we end up suffering a variety of so-called mental health issues, because of this gaslighting.

 

The other day, a former class mate, contacted me and asked me how I was doing. We had not spoken with each other for more than thirty years. She had recently reconnected with a few other people, we both knew back then and was excited to find out, they were all, according to her, still the same. Then, she bragged about her children, her marriage, and her professional life, but also casually mentioned, she was recovering from a nervous breakdown, as she proudly stated, she had overworked herself. She talked non-stop, for about fifteen minutes, before I was able to get one word in, about how things were going with me. I spoke briefly about the fact, that my life has been shaped by EL and tried to describe to her, that in EL we listen to ourselves while we speak. Alarmed, she interrupted me and assertively insisted, she was already doing that, but it was very clear to me, she was not listening to herself at all. As I calmly told her that, she totally denied what I just said and argued adamantly I was wrong. Our short reunion ended shortly afterwards and I have not heard anything from her (or the others) since.   

 

Another aspect of gaslighting is that people spread rumors and gossip about you or tell you, that other people are saying negative things about you. This is the reason why, I stopped having contact with my family members. In one way or another, I already knew, as a kid, there was a difference between EL and DL, but my clumsy childish attempts to address this were always explained, as if I was a bad kid. I did many wrong things, which were bad and I often wondered, why I was doing these things, because I did not really want to do them? I now know, I acted on what was expected of me, as I was set up for my failures. For instance, I got caught lying again, but I felt envious of those kids, who got away with their lies. I wished, I could one day be like them, but did not know how to. I always admitted and was many times beaten and humiliated, to confess my faults, which made me the black sheep of the family. It was only after I immigrated to the United States, that I became aware of the dysfunctional family I grew up in. For me, it was the hardest thing to acknowledge that my EL could only continue, after I was, at long last, able to permanently reject my own family, instead of constantly feeling rejected by them. I strongly believe that millions of people are gaslighted by DL just like I was. 

 

If you explore, on your own, why your EL, even after you have acknowledged its benefits, cannot and does not continue, you eventually will conclude that others continuously change the subject and deflect from talking about DL. This is because we cannot talk about DL with DL. We can only sensibly talk about our DL with EL. People always change the subject and have forever refused to talk about DL, it is really is the history of mankind. To prove that they are right, they even insist that EL does not exist and fabricate a so-called higher power. Surely, confronting people on their DL never works and only makes things worse. We refuse to listen, if we do not listen to ourselves. Everyone wants others to listen to them, while they engage in DL, but the reality is that they do not listen to themselves. We can only listen to ourselves and to each other, if we are no longer forced to listen to others and have ongoing EL.            

 

1998,

 

The year before I emigrated to the United States, was a very busy and exciting year. In 1998, I created Open Communication and facilitated hundreds of workshops and individual sessions for government, profit, and non-profit employees, business owners, teachers, seekers, dancers, police officers, parents, couples, nurses, actors, meditators, psychologists, therapists, persons with mental health problems, public speakers, and other seminar leaders. It was remarkable, to witness that so many people, from such totally different walks of life, agreed on what I then simply described as listening to yourself while you speak.

 

Although I made pretty good money, I remained very dissatisfied with the necessity of having to do presentations, to supposedly, inform people about my service and gain more clients, because word of mouth,  would not have kept me alive. I felt that selling myself was not what I was about. To me, listening while you speak was never a method, but, to my dismay, people kept treating that way. Of course, it was and still is inevitable, that people give and go on with their own interpretations to the new way of talking, Embodied Language (EL), which I have conceptualized. Sadly, for the most part, they simply continue with their automatic Disembodied Language (DL), but in new jacket.

 

Looking back on these early days of exploring and experimenting with what I then called "the language that creates space" – which, here in the US, continued for another year and then, as I got sick and tired of having to promote myself, resulted in studying psychology, working with traumatized, so-called mentally ill patients and teaching psychology at Butte College – I realize, what a long path I have travelled, to get to where I am today. I do not believe anyone must do what I have done, to get where I am. It was a great adventure. I kept adjusting and changing what I was doing. It took me many years to figure out, how stop being busy with others and to focus on and continue with my own EL.

 

Someone in the Netherlands, who had been in one of my workshops back in the days, now supposedly gives seminars in listening to yourself while you speak, but, oddly, she also includes prayer, talking with angels, seeking guidance from spirits, and talking with the dead. Of course, such nonsense has absolutely nothing to do with EL and represents DL, but I guess it sells. This watered-down version of EL pisses me off, as EL is about the importance of our interaction and is more needed than ever. I feel profoundly disappointed in academia, science, and the mental health profession, as I have not met anyone, who had the integrity to show real interest in this quintessential issue. Regardless of their status or level of education, most people merely want to continue with their preconceived ideas and superstition. This is why many immediately interpret EL in some spiritual fashion. I am particularly averse to such religious fabrications, as I was raised in an abusive Catholic family. Each time, I explored my EL with others, I noticed a defensive tendency to compare it with something people already know about. People cannot stand the idea, that we are dealing with something new.

 

Whenever people say what EL makes them think of – whatever they believe to be thinking of, but at that moment talk about – it takes their attention away from EL. Ultimately, their old beliefs take over and always replace it. Although everyone, of course, wants to use EL for their own purpose – to make money, gain control, to be successful, to acquire self-knowledge, to overcome problems, or to attain peace – this always prevents the continuation of EL. As we engage in EL, we realize, it is not in any way what we expect it to be.

 

To stand up for EL, as I believed I was, prevented my own EL. Therefore, I gave up on teaching and preaching about EL. Now, I only enjoy my own EL and only have it with those, who are ready to have it with me. I am not involved in anything else. This is how my EL wants it to be. If others join me, fine, but if they do not, that is fine too. While I care less and less about whether people join me, I might still occasionally feel the irresistible urge, to expose DL for the incredible fraud it is. I happen to enjoy that part much better, than teaching people to have EL. This rebellious, confrontational, humoristic side of me will probably never completely go away, because the happier I am, the more often, even unintentionally, I somehow suddenly bring attention to, not only DL itself, but also to its devastating, predictable consequences.    

 

Our usual way of talking is a total disaster. While we certainly, but unknowingly, hurt each other all the time with our DL, we primarily hurt ourselves. In that sense, you absolutely do not owe anything to me or to anyone else, but you owe it to yourself, to do better, than to be the superior or the inferior person, who you believed yourself to be. I do not tell you to improve yourself by having EL, as EL shows you, you have improved and there is nothing to improve. Moreover, EL illustrates again and again, until you are done with it, that your DL has never really worked for you and has always created more conflict, chaos, failure, and misery in your life.

 

Everyone,

 

Everyone who reads this, may know that, although I can happily have Embodied Language (EL) alone, by myself, although there are some people with whom I can have ongoing EL, I am still dissatisfied about the fact that there is, overall, no appreciation for EL. It is precisely my relentless dissatisfaction with and my outright aversion for your usual way of talking, which I call Disembodied Language (DL), which has allowed me to crystalize, with my EL, my Language Enlightenment (LE). I write these words from my LE.

 

My discovery of EL, which revealed my LE, deserves more recognition, and should not require any effort on my part. If effort must be made, it is by those who need to actively inhibit their DL, so that they can finally have some EL themselves or allow me to have EL and, in turn, let them feel what happens, once their DL has been stopped, by themselves.

 

I do not teach any course in EL, I do not give any lectures or seminars, I am not going to write a book, and I do not give any sessions, as I do not view EL as a commercial enterprise or something that should be taught or learned. EL has nothing whatsoever to do with being powerful, special, or important. Yet, I still believe people should come to me, to hear from me what EL is all about. EL is not about spirituality, science, politics, psychology, philosophy, culture, or anything else we look to, believing it can provide us with the answers to our questions. Our EL goes against everything we know and is of a different order than anything we are already familiar with.   

 

In this writing, I sum up the common distractions, as I always go on, by myself, with my EL, even if there is nobody else to have EL with. I am fully satisfied with everything EL brings to me, even if it means, the understanding that nobody is really interested.  I, therefore, say and write without any hesitation or shame, that I feel absolutely disgusted by, turned off and disapproving of your cowardly unwillingness to come to me and find out something else than your DL. I understand these words may upset you, as they accuse you of doing something immoral. You do not deserve my praise, compassion, or acceptance for your DL, but confrontation, as you should know better. 

Everyone can know there is an immense difference between your stupid, superficial, mechanical way of talking and my EL. If there is going to be any change for you, it will be, that you hear and experience my EL and realize how terrible your DL is. You will not be able to hear your own EL without hearing it from me first. And, even if you recognize the difference between your and my way of talking, you will not be able to continue with your EL, as there is nobody to reinforce it but me, who has it, who knows it and who will not fool you with cheap, but costly bullshit.

 

I am not anyone’s guru and nobody is my disciple, but I assure you, that you can only acquire EL by listening to me (not on audio or video) in person, for some time, and then, by talking with me, for some time. I do not care about what you believe about me and I say beforehand, it is not true, it cannot be true, as you do not know ongoing EL. I know about you, because I have EL. Only I can talk with my EL about your DL, but you do not possess that skill. I am also not your therapist, motivational speaker, spiritual guide, or psychologist. I find these so-called professions very harmful. I only want you to talk with me and allow me to do the talking, so you can feel and find out, what I am talking about.

 

I am so assertive, authoritative, and persistent, as I have what it takes to make an enormous difference. If you cannot stand me, you should not be with me, or you should take the challenge to get to know me and stop your own DL, so that you can experience my EL. I am not going to help you, because you will have to come my way, so that EL can be continued and be known. Do not ask anything from me, because I already give you everything and yet, you remain closed. Admit that you are totally stuck and that it is your way of talking, which has kept you stuck. Let my way of talking show you, what you also can and should do.

 

No matter whether you are willing to consider what I say, your DL is on its deathbed and EL is your only future. I am here, I am alive and you are foolish to not make use of this opportunity. We can talk, I do not charge anything, but unless you are sensitive and open to me, nothing will be possible. Yes, I am not for sale. Do not hold back and experience for yourself, what you believed me to be was wrong, what you believed yourself to be was wrong and what you believed others to be was wrong. Yes, I judge you, but I judge you correctly, while you judge me, yourself, and others incorrectly. If you would talk with me, however, you would be able to judge yourself, me, and others correctly, as we will share our ongoing EL and celebrate our LE together.

 

Fun,

 

The so-called fun you are having in Disembodied Language (DL), is always an indication of the false belief, that you are finally having some Embodied Language (EL), but anyone, who knows about the difference between DL and EL, can tell you that this is not true. No matter how many jokes you are told with DL, it never turns into EL and the nonsensical assumption, that humor and truth go hand in hand, is but an old superstition, you hang on to, as you do not know how to have ongoing EL and real fun.

 

In the exact same way, as your DL must be stopped by you, so too, you will have to turn away from all the so-called entertainment, which goes on in the name of having fun. I can understand, that stopping your own DL – and, consequently, your involvement in phony humor – is not anything to laugh about, but there would be so much to laugh about, if you did. I have done what you can also do. I find it amusing, that fake humor makes you even more miserable than before. How could it be otherwise?

 

With DL, you are in denial about what is happening in your life and that is not a laughing matter. To me, it is hilarious, as I have nothing else to laugh about. I am not in denial of the results of my own actions, which make me recognize and laugh about all your comical struggles and conflicts. Moreover, you just cannot stop fighting, arguing, and, in vain, believing, that your dumb humor is the way out of your mess, but such a belief sets you up for failure. Probably, you have never considered the escapist-aspect of your so-called need for something to laugh about?

 

You do not realize, but the comedian, who tells you funny jokes, always undermines, confuses, distracts, and exploits you, because he or she thrives on the continuation of your unfulfilled desire for common sense, truth, and verbal enjoyment. The illusion of having fun, is sold in many ways, but what I address here, is real fun, which can only emerge from our genuine interaction. Speaking truth to power, is not, as most people believe, real communication, but a neurotic, primitive, always ineffective reaction to the self-imposed imprisonment of your own DL.  

 

You can complain, criticize, argue, debate or reason all you want, unless you stop your DL, there will be nothing to really laugh about. Your only chance, to have a taste of real fun, is by attentively listening to someone like me, who has EL. People endlessly talk about the presumed importance of active listening. Why does it seem to be such a problem? I tell you why: our way of talking, DL, makes it impossible for us to listen. Naturally, I cannot stop your DL and you still must do this yourself, while you are listening to me. Unless you do this, you will not understand why what I say is so funny. Basically, I promise, that you are going to have fun, but only if you do your part.

 

I do not put any effort in trying to convince you, as I consider that a waste of my time. The future of fun is in your hands. I feel confident that you can do it. You can stop your own DL, while I talk and have fun with my EL. I rather encourage you to stop your DL than expect you to have EL. Today, for the first time I realize, it is more fun, for me, to stimulate you to give up on your DL, than to hope for your EL. I do not have any hope for your EL, but I have total faith in your ability to radically stop your own idiotic DL.

 

I do not insult you, by letting you know, I am not in favor of the fact, that you keep hurting yourself, by shooting yourself in the foot and then, putting your foot in your mouth. This is what everyone does with their demanding, forceful, reactive DL. Stop feeling offended by my words and admit, that they are true and funny, as I am not responsible for the sloppy way you deal with your language. There is no other way: you must change yourself. I do not care if you refuse. I am funny, as I enjoy my own words. There is no better way to have fun. You do not like what I say, but I understand perfectly well, that if you do not like your own words, you cannot have any fun.

 

Just face it, your usual way of talking keeps taking all the fun out of your life. You cannot affect me, as my way of talking is very different from yours. My EL gives me all the fun, which you do not have and cannot have. You will not be able to laugh, if you do not change your way of talking. Admit it, that your so-called fun is meaningless in the bigger scheme of things. Laughter is the last things on your shopping list. Most likely, it is not even on there, but you can now put it on there. In EL, laughter is central to everything we say. We laugh about understanding as well as misunderstanding ourselves and each other. If you listen to my EL, you hear it, even if you do not know how to have EL. Perhaps, your laughter will give you the courage to explore your own LE.                              

 

Again,

 

I have said it before and say it again: your so-called mind does not exist. I neither say this to convince myself nor to convince you. Surely, I am convinced, but you are not and things will remain pretty much the same, because of your tenacious belief, which I do not have. As far as I am concerned, everything constantly changes, even your stubborn, tragic, and stupid belief, in an inner deity, called the mind.

 

Of course, it is because of your conditioning history, that you happen to believe, you can think and you can have thoughts, about what it is like to be a Christian, a Hindu, a Russian, an American, a speaker, a listener, a writer, or a reader. What we address here, is that our outdated way of dealing with our language, happens, because of our superstitious way of talking. Stated differently, because of our Spoken Disembodied Language (SDL), we can only produce Written Disembodied Language (WDL) and since we have not been able to engage in ongoing Spoken Embodied Language (SEL), we only have produced a written record of our SDL. Yes, all literature is the result of our SDL. This writing is the first of its kind, as it results from my ongoing SEL.    

 

Obviously, our WDL – which, of course, includes our scriptures, laws as well as our scientific theories – fosters our belief in a mind. However, this writing or the writing of anyone, who can have EL, debunks your belief, which derives from the fact, that you could not say what you had really wanted to say. Your assumption, that you have a mind and have thoughts, is the inevitable outcome of your usual, mechanical way talking, which is DL. Why would anyone in his or her right mind (pun intended) believe there are words, sentences, thoughts, theories, pictures, associations, memories, conclusions, calculations, or ideas going on inside of their heads, while neuroscience shows us, unequivocally, that there is no verbal behavior to be found inside of our brain?  

 

This notion, that you can have quiet, private speech with your inner self, that you possess an invisible, inaudible, presumably, believable, inner being, is hogwash, based on the sad, but harsh reality, that you have never listened to someone with ongoing EL, who would invite you and encourage you to have EL as well. Certainly, the person who can do this, at the same time also stimulates you to stop your own DL. In other words, your ancient belief in your mind, is not going to be changed by me or by someone else, but by you, after you have stopped your  DL and have become capable of having ongoing EL.

 

It is literally out of the question, that everything will occur how I describe it, as all your questions about your self-imposed illusions, will have been asked as well as answered by your EL. Surely, many questions do not even require an answer anymore, because once you ask them, to yourself, with your EL, you will be able to recognize how ridiculous it is, to ask such an absurd question. Moreover, your WEL will continue to further refine and fine-tune your SEL and illustrate to you again and again, that your EL is an overt phenomenon.

 

You can hear your own SEL and you can read your own WEL and others can hear and read it too. Unless this is the case, unless others can feel, that your Language Enlightenment (LE) is as true and as valid as their own, you are just pretending to have overcome the negative effects of DL, while, you keep behaving as if you are, somehow, better than others. Your anxiety-provoking fantasy, that you and others have a mind, always goes hand in hand with the equally fictitious notion, that someone, presumably, is special, as he or she has a great mind, while others, supposedly, are only small-minded.

 

Your insidious belief of having a mind or being in your mind, is why you are convinced, you are either superior or inferior to others. This comparison forever prevents you from being or staying with yourself, that is, from listening to yourself while you speak. In DL, the speaker dominates the listener, thus, you never get to hear what you would say to yourself, from a listener’s perspective.  

 

In DL, you do not and cannot even talk with yourself, as you keep beating yourself up, since you, as the speaker, presumably, is more important than you, as the listener. Of course, there exists no such entity, as the inner agent, which you refer to as the speaker or the listener, as only speaking or listening behavior is going on. Likewise, there is neither a writer nor a reader, as only writing or reading behavior is going on. In SEL, speaking and listening behavior occur at the exact same rate, and in WEL, writing and reading behavior are perfectly synchronized, but in SDL, your speaking and listening behavior are out of sync and in WDL, your writing and reading behavior happen at disparate rates (hence, what people refer to as writer's block). This incongruence causes everyone many problems, but when you listen to yourself while you speak or read while you write, you will speak or write like this and be clear and certain, that you can express everything you had wanted to express. In other words, in EL, you truly communicate, as you drop your so-called mind and all the endless nightmares and falsehoods that were created and maintained by your coercive, unconscious, energy-draining DL.