Capitalize,

 

I write about my Embodied Language (EL), because I like to read what I have written. These words and sentences appear so calmly and deliberately. This is how I like to be with my language. I have no axe to grind and I’m not competing with anyone, as I know that my words pertain, exclusively, to my reality.

 

Although everyone verbally creates and lives in their own reality, nobody is capable, like me, to capitalize on this fact. This is why everyone pretends, as if it is possible and necessary, to live in, what is believed to be a shared reality. However, there exists no such thing, as there is only for each of us our individual description, formulation, perception or memory of  what we call the world or the objective reality.  

 

Due to our constant involvement in Disembodied Language (DL), we’ve never been fully able, to grasp and accept the truth, that we create and live in our own language-reality. Of course, with DL, this isn’t and can’t be our Language Enlightenment (LE), as we don’t listen to and are unconscious about what we say. All our struggles are always about our mistaken assumption, that we, supposedly, live in the same world, but, presumably, see, hear and experience things differently. Fact is, however, we each live in the consequences of our own actions and inaction.

 

My behavior isn’t any different from anyone else’s behavior, in that, it will only continue, due to the reinforcing consequences, it received in the past. Surely, all behavior is lawful. What behaviorists call operant behavior, resulted in many formulations about how things work, in scientific verbal behavior. Thus, we recognize different disciplines, such as physics, chemistry, biology, just to name a few.

 

The different realms of science couldn’t have been discovered without agreement and verification, but sadly, in spite of all our scientific endeavors, we haven’t acknowledged the difference between DL and EL. As a result, we are impaired by and stuck with our DL, a superficial, superstitious, mechanical, unintelligent way of dealing with our language.

 

It is no coincidence, in science, everything is about written language, which determines how we speak, but, we are, verbally, putting the horse behind the wagon, as it is, naturally, an irrefutable fact, that we write and have always written, in the way that we have spoken.  

 

In EL, we are no longer fighting, arguing or debating, as it is self-evident, to each of us, as individuals, that we are using our language for ourselves, instead of, as we keep claiming to do in DL, for others. Science is the effective way of using language. Thus, we can capitalize on our language only, if we are rational.

 

What we, generally, refer to as our emotions, are, in fact, experiences, we haven’t been able to get clear about, because we’ve never been able to continue with our EL for any significant period of time.

 

There is nothing paradoxical or contradictory about our need to be rational about our emotions, but this is only going to happen, if we are going to listen to ourselves while we speak. Since we don’t do this in DL, we are emotionally confused and, unknowingly, endlessly, carried away. Unconsciously, with DL, we are emotionally enslaved and exploited, as this gives us the sense of order or stability we crave, because we don’t know how to create order, with our EL, by simply listening to ourselves while we speak.

 

With DL, we can’t capitalize on our language. Those, who, presumably, enslave and exploit others, are always themselves enslaved and exploited, but since we don’t know anything about the great difference between DL and EL – and have never continued with our own EL, in the only way it can be continued, which is, in a skillful, deliberate, effortless, natural manner – this duality, between the oppressor and the oppressed, the powerful and the powerless, the intelligent and the unintelligent, the sensitive and the insensitive, the courageous and the coward or the skillful and the unskillful, was never dissolved by our language. In effect, we’ve never actually had the conversation, in which this inequality disappeared.

 

We couldn’t and didn’t’ capitalize on our language, as our DL, which is our common way of dealing with language, kept us trapped in dualism and, therefore, cast out any sense of oneness. Only with EL, are we able to fully understand, why we’ve come to live as fearfully, as chaotically and as conflicted as we do.

 

The coercive order, which, on the one hand, was, and still continues to be, imposed on us and which we keep trying to, inadvertently, impose on others, is the only order we know and we tend to merely spiritually, economically, philosophically, culturally, fantasize about some sort of higher order of things, rather than have the actual conversation, in which order and harmony is created, by the sound of our voice, as we speak. Order is only revealed by us, if we capitalize on our language, because we continue to express and enjoy the sound of our wellbeing.

 

EL isn’t higher or better than DL, but it shows us, that DL is forced and involuntary, while EL is free and voluntary. The freedom of EL is afforded to us due to our understanding of our conditioning with DL. Freedom is verbal, as we can say, what couldn’t be said, as long as we were repeating ourselves.                

 

Certainty,

 

The absolute certainty, that one has Embodied Language (EL), is so very beautiful, mysterious and enjoyable. To be certain about one’s language isn’t the case in Disembodied Language (DL), although everyone keeps pretending and endlessly arguing, they are right. What one will be able to say, write, perceive, create and verbalize in EL, is truly baffling, as one knows, this would never be possible with DL.  

 

In EL, one is finally alone and uninhibited with one’s language and, therefore, capable of putting words together, in the way, one finds fitting. Foremostly, this has to do, with the sound of one’s voice, but also with the pace and the rhythm of one’s speech, of one’s writing, of the time it takes, to address matters, which can only be addressed, if one is patient, dedicated, conscious and playful.

 

We constantly experiment in EL, because we never take our language for granted. The latter refers to our conditioning history with DL, which, basically,  taught us to never pay attention to our language, because, supposedly, as people say: it is what it is.

 

Our language is what it can and should be in EL, as in DL, we are, unknowingly, underperforming.  We could all do better than that, but, strikingly, each and every attempt at improving our DL – and there have been many – was doomed to fail. Since we weren’t able to switch, reliably and diligently, from DL to EL – and experience, for ourselves, we really want EL, not DL – we have been unable to change any of our problematic behaviors and replace them with productive, effective and satisfying behaviors, with which we want to continue, because we have again and again experienced beneficial outcomes.   

 

Astonishingly, nobody in the field of psychology, of which I was a part for so many years, picked up on the importance of what I have been talking and writing about. However, now that I have given up trying to let others know about EL, I acknowledge, that my perspective about the so-called spread of EL, has always been wrong. Over the years, I’ve had to remind my myself, a million times, my EL is only for me and it really is. If you are going to have your discovery and exploration of EL, you will come to the same conclusion. I hope, you won’t be as troubled by it, as I have been, but I can’t guarantee, as it is all up to you or rather, it is going to be your history of conditioning, which is going to determine how you are going to deal with the epiphany, you are bound to have, when you for the first time stop your own DL and are able to carry on with your EL.

 

Most likely, you aren’t going to be able to deal with your certainty of having EL any better than I have, because in the more than forty years that I’ve been trying to let others know about EL, there is, to my knowledge – besides my lovely wife – only just one person, who pursues it as thoroughly as I do. This is my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, who, after many years, got back in touch with me again, to continue the delightful conversation, we were already having some twenty-five years ago, when I was still living in the Netherlands. I keep telling everyone, in all my writings, I look forward to talking with people about EL, but that’s all I can do. Looking back on all my interactions with people, it was almost always the case, I initiated these conversations. I have, at long last, given up on doing that. AnnaMieke is so dear to me, because she caused me to give up my teaching.

 

Sure enough, I was able to let go of my relentless enthusiasm and energy, to let others know about EL, because just one person, AnnaMieke, really wanted to know about and explore EL, for herself. Miraculously, our delightful connection resulted in our conceptualization (with our EL) of our Language Enlightenment (LE). We are two enlightened human beings, whose language began to work for, instead of against them. We have both stumbled on this  certainty: in DL – our usual way of dealing with language – our language always works against us.

 

Of course, AnnaMieke speaks and writes about EL in a different way than I do. Anyone, who finds EL, will speak or write about it in their own unique way and anyone with EL knows, with perfect certainty, it is EL and not some esoteric, poetic, spiritual nonsense. In DL, we are ignorant and unconscious, about the sad fact that our own language is utterly self-defeating, as we erroneously, but fanatically, believe to have a mind, thoughts and covert private-speech, but in EL, we are cured from that illusion. Moreover, our LE, which is revealed by our EL, is properly articulated.

 

AnnaMieke and I will tell everyone, who wants to hear and know about it, that they are enlightened, but you don’t know about it yet, because of how you were taught to use your language. We have encouraged each other, to believe in the certainty,  our DL could not and, therefore, never did express our natural selves. It is very strange to us, that everywhere, around the world, helpless, hopeless,   fearful people, day in day out, engage in DL, which can’t express, who they really are. Obviously, this creates tremendous problems and hence we have created our society, our culture, our reality, in the way it is. AnnaMieke and I are the living proof of the certainty, all our problems can come to an end, if we change from DL to EL. This is not our belief, but the truth of our lives. Come and join our conversation,  Sunday at 4:30am Pacific Standard Time (PST) on skype. My skypename is limbicease and I chose that name, because our limbic system, will only be able to calm down, due to a new way of talking, in which we hear and follow the sound of our own wellbeing.               

 

Book,

 

In this writing, I explain, why, for such a long time, I was against writing about Embodied Language (EL) and would never produce a scientific article or book about it. As anyone who reads my blog knows, I am not against writing about EL, but I was so strongly against it, as I found – and still find – that talking about EL, is more important, than reading about it.

 

You can never read yourself into this new way of talking and dealing with language, which I call EL. I am absolutely convinced, we are fooling ourselves into believing, that our written language can change our spoken language and the fact that Disembodied Language (DL) dominates every society, around the world, proves my point. Our over-appreciation and our over-estimation of the importance of written or printed language, inevitably, signifies our neglect, ignorance, under-appreciation and under-estimation of our spoken language. Consequently, language has become disembodied, because nobody cares about the sound of their own voice enough, to be able to embody their language again. I blame books, not just any particular book, but all books and I propose a public book-burning, to bring your attention to EL.

 

Of course, I am aware the Nazies burned books, but they certainly weren’t the first to do this. Whenever people have fought wars, they have always burned all the books, in a stupid attempt, to eradicate the acquired knowledge. Mankind has gone through many dark ages, because knowledge was destroyed.

 

I only want to burn old, meaningless books, which nobody wants to read. When I studied psychology, I bought and read tons of books and when I stopped teaching psychology, some time ago, I felt, I wanted to get rid of these books, which were just in boxes in my garage. We’ve had various garage sales and each time, I spread out all the great books, I had read and felt inspired by, on my driveway. However, nobody wanted to buy any of my dear books. We sold clothes, furniture, an old tea-pot and some CDs, but none of my precious books were sold. I couldn’t even sell one for one dollar. Occasionally, someone picked up a book and glanced through it. I felt like talking about that book, as I knew exactly what was in it, but they weren’t particularly interested in talking with me either and quickly put the book down again. It was a sobering experience, a real contrast with the pretentious hype, stress and torture of my costly graduate study. I guess, I could have, but I didn’t burn any of these expensive books and I just dumped all of them in the garbage can.

 

Books haven’t delivered and we’ve been shooting ourselves in the foot, by imagining and fantasizing, that writing another bestseller book, would make a real difference. The only real difference is that some authors, like some speakers, receive more attention than others and, become famous. The competition for attention, in written publications, is as severe, as the struggle for attention, which is the unintelligent, underlying, brutal principle of all human interaction.

 

I have never read the same book twice, because I never felt the urge to read it again. Actually, as a child, I never liked reading books and only in my adult life – at age forty-two, after I had immigrated to the United States – as a student of psychology, science, behavior, philosophy and language, did I become an avid reader. Also, I never wanted to have the same conversation, as it bored me. Although I haven’t always known this as clearly, as I do today, people read the same book over and over again, in the idle hope, to have some stability, knowledge or control over their language. By citing, quoting and repeating texts, they create the illusion from which they believe to derive peace and clarity and waste  their entire lives on this enterprise. I was raised in a Catholic family, but from a young age I felt deeply troubled, as I didn’t and couldn’t believe anything about what was written in the Bible. I now know that DL is the language of repetition. It creates its own sort of order, in which everyone, supposedly, has and, presumably, knows, their place in the hierarchy of society. I used to call EL, the Language Which Creates Space, as it creates a different order, which isn’t hierarchical and it never repeats itself.      

 

Every time people push some political, religious, but also psychological, philosophical or, presumably, scientific narrative, they ban – and might as well burn – books, they violently censure publications and they basically kill any feed-back or criticism, by de-platforming each other from social media. Make no mistake, DL is war. Surely, violent protests – in which people with any particular view, opinion or belief, are threatened and intimidated by screaming, rioting aggressors – are part of the normalization of violence, which is and was always condoned by DL.

 

If we are going to have EL, our written language will change. Right now, everything, yes, everything, yes, everything (3x), that was written, derives from DL and this writing, only this writing, only this writing (3x), is the first writing, which emphatically, clearly, unmistakably derives from EL. Stated differently, whatever people have written, has always followed the way in which people have interacted with each other and have related to each other. Although, you probably find it hard to believe –  and I’m not asking you to – that we’ve never deliberately had EL, this is why the world is full of chaos and conflict. Our way of dealing with language hasn’t changed and as a consequence, cultures come and go, as there never was a lasting peaceful way of using our language.  

 

As far as I am concerned, there will never be a book about EL. This writing on this blog is the only written version you will ever read. I didn’t write this for you, but for myself. No, this is not my journal, this is my way of owning and protecting my language. You may read it, but you need to write your own words, in the same way, that you need to speak your own words. Nobody can be the voice for someone else and this whole issue of so-called representation is based on DL. I don’t represent anyone, that is why my EL can flow, that is why I delight in my Language Enlightenment (LE). I am not someone screaming in the desert either, as I can hear myself and don’t need your attention or approval, to know that EL is our only future, because your DL is on its deathbed.                      

 

Voice,

Due to our almost permanent participation in Disembodied Language (DL), it was of course inevitable that the voice with which we speak our language every day, would sound more and more disgusting, ridiculous, arrogant, pushy, nasty, scared, bastard, vicious and irritating. And, of course, the madness becomes both more visible and audible, because as long as we continue with DL, our struggle for attention will also become bigger, fiercer, more destructive, unconscious and meaningless. Inevitably, the unwieldy, large, groups of millions of people - entire tribes of peoples, who, at first, always pretended again and again, that they really had something very beautiful and important in common with each other - split up again, the division and strife flourishes and escalates into gigantic chaos. However, if one dares to pay a little attention, one can hear and see, that for the vast majority of people - in politics, in religion, in economics, in culture and in what is now presented as the so-called LGBTQ community - hearing and seeing means, that we are deaf and blind. Not for nothing, there is suddenly a huge increase in young men, who believe and claim that they are women. It is noticeable, however, that women, who pretend to be men, receive much less public attention, because we still, apparently, live in a man's world, where the battle for survival is always won by the strongest.

 

I just read in a post that at some university, many needy, otherwise confused, unhappy students are being offered an up-to-date, new approach to psychological counseling, in the form of voice lessons. This is really presented as a modern, promising, target-group-adapted therapy, for those who claim to have changed from male to female or from female to male and also for those who claim, they are neither, but different. In this progressive approach, each client will practice, in order to eventually sound, the way he or she, or whatever, would like to sound. So, the point here, in this diagnosis, is not so much – as in the more traditional therapeutic model – that they sound like themselves, but learn to sound like they would like to be heard by others. In this badly-needed voice-distortion therapy, much appreciated by many, all the attention is not on the client himself, but on how the client would like to be experienced and heard by others. The therapeutic effect of this method does not lie in listening to, experiencing, accepting and understanding ourselves, but in how one would like to sound in the ears of others and be understood by others. 

When I first discovered my Embodied Language (EL), I knew right away, I would always want to sound like this. It had, to my great surprise, nothing to do with others at all, because, for the first time, I heard myself speak, in the sound of my voice that I truly liked. My discovery was just so clear, because I realized very well, I usually didn't speak with that voice. In the investigation that started afterwards, about why this was the case, it seemed again and again, as if it were about how others experience me, when that was precisely the reason, which diverted my attention from my own experience. In the experiment, in which I investigated why I, unconsciously, did not listen to myself, it became clear to me that I, habitually, kept getting bogged down in DL, because I was too concerned with how others would hear me. That tendency is much less now, but I recognize, it is still there and probably always will be to some degree. As soon as I worry again about how I would like to be heard and experienced by others, I lose track of myself. Being off track lasts only a short time these days and as soon as I hear myself again, I feel the great relief that my temporary madness is over. Even though my old habit of having DL, like everyone else, is minimal, it seems—when I have it again—as if I momentarily embody all the madness of the entire world. I am really perplexed by this, but it is verbally true, I am the world, both positively and negatively. I know better than anyone the valuable, good consequences of EL, but I am also aware, that DL always has nothing but catastrophic consequences.

 

Our participation in DL or EL does not depend on what we believe we choose, but it is true, our DL can only be understood with our EL. My EL has definitely increased as I've come to understand my DL and it seems only now, after all these years of trying, that can I really understand why DL continued to have such a great effect on me. I've always felt incredibly judged and hurt about DL, because everyone seemed to be able to get away with it, except me. I did not accept or understand why my DL always meant trouble. My DL always made me feel like I didn't fit in and that has kept me from identifying with groups. Still, I really wanted nothing more than to belong. The only way open to me was to stop my DL. However, I did that because of others and not because of myself. The whole idea of reducing our DL and having more EL is bullshit. As a result, we all, unknowingly, involuntarily keep busy with each other, but we pay no attention to ourselves. This is also the reason, why we hardly speak with the sound of our beneficent, authentic voice. You have that voice only, if you listen to how you sound, while you talk. If you don't listen to yourself again, because you would like others to listen to you, your voice is still there, but you don't use it and, therefore, you can’t hear it. Since you have either DL or EL, it is  not a question of continuing with your EL, but of observing whether you have DL or EL. If you hear from your own voice, that you are again acting from your conditioning with DL, then your DL automatically ceases and turns into EL. So, you actually do nothing at all to have EL. In listening to yourself, you always immediately notice whether you have DL or EL. If you have DL, then it changes to EL and if you have EL, then you will effortlessly continue with it. If you don't listen to yourself while you speak, you won't notice it, but you will experience – whether you like it or not – the adverse effects of your DL. If, like me, you've  listened to yourself once, a selection process inevitably begins, because you've made a distinction between DL and EL and that will never go away. You can always remember yourself, because your own voice has always been there. You produce that voice of EL, not because of others, but entirely for yourself, because that's how your Language Enlightenment (LE) works.

 

Stem,

 

Het kon – vanwege onze bijna permanente deelname aan Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) – natuurlijk niet uitblijven, dat de stem, waarmee wij dagelijks onze taal spreken, steeds walgelijker, belachelijker, arroganter, drammeriger, schmiechteriger, banger, hufteriger, venijniger en irritanter ging klinken. En, uiteraard wordt de waanzin, zowel meer zichtbaar als hoorbaar, want zolang als dat wij door gaan met OT, wordt ook onze strijd om de aandacht alsmaar groter, heviger, destructiver, onbewuster en zinlozer.

 

Onvermijdelijk, splitsen de logge, grote, groepen van miljoenen mensen – hele volks-stammen, die, in eerste instantie, altijd opnieuw pretendeerden, dat ze toch echt iets heel moois en belangrijks met elkaar gemeen zouden hebben – zich weer verder op en floreert en escaleert de verdeelheid, de strijd en de gigantische chaos. Indien men echter nog een klein beetje durft op te letten, dan kan men horen en zien, dat voor de verreweg de meeste mensen – in de politiek, in de religie, in de economie, in de cultuur en in wat zich tegenwoordig voordoet als de zogenaamde LGBTQ gemeenschap – horen en zien, letterlijk is vergaan. Niet voor niets, is er ineens een enorme toename aan jonge mannen, die geloven en beweren dat ze vrouwen zijn. Het valt echter op, dat vrouwen, die zich inbeelden mannen te zijn, minder publieke aandacht krijgen, omdat we nog steeds, kennelijk, in een mannen-wereld leven, waarin de overlevings-strijd door de sterkste wordt gewonnen.  

 

Ik las zojuist in een bericht, dat bij de een of andere universiteit, aan tal van behoeftige, anderszins verwarde, ongelukkige studenten, een bij-de-tijdse,  nieuwe aanpak van psychologische hulpverlening wordt aangeboden, in de vorm van stem-lessen. Dit  wordt werkelijk gepresenteerd als een moderne, veel-belovende, doel-groep-aangepastte therapie, voor zij, die zeggen te zijn veranderd van man naar vrouw of van vrouw naar man en ook voor hen, die beweren, nog het een, nog het ander te zijn. In deze vooruitstrevende benadering, gaat iedere client dus oefenen, om uiteindelijk te kunnen klinken, zoals hij of zij, of wat dan ook, zou willen klinken. Het gaat er hier dus, in de diagnose, niet zozeer om – zoals in het meer tradionele therapeutische model – dat zij klinken als zichzelf, maar leren te klinken, zoals zij door anderen gehoord zouden willen worden.   

 

Alle aandacht gaat – in deze hoog-nodige, al door velen gewaardeerde, stem-vervormings-therapie, tot grote opluchting van de zich-niet-geaccepteerd voelende client – niet naar de client zelf, maar naar hoe de client zou willen worden ervaren en gehoord door anderen. Het therapeutische effect van deze methode, ligt niet in het luisteren naar, ervaren, accepteren en begrijpen van onszelf, maar in hoe men zou willen klinken, in de oren van anderen.  

 

Toen ik voor het eerst mijn Belichaamde Taal (BT) ontdektte, wist ik meteen, dat ik altijd zo zou willen klinken. Het had, tot mijn grote verbazing, helemaal niets met anderen te maken, omdat ik voor het eerst mezelf hoorde praten, met het stem-geluid dat ik aangenaam vond. Mijn ontdekking was juist zo duidelijk, omdat ik heel goed besefte, dat ik meestal dus niet sprak met die stem. In het onderzoek, dat daarna op gang kwam, over waarom dit zo was, leek het er keer op keer toch weer op, alsof het ging over hoe anderen mij ervaren, terwijl dat nou juist precies de reden was, waardoor ik telkens weer mijn aandacht voor mijn eigen ervaring verloor.

 

In het experiment, waarin ik onderzocht, waarom ik, ongemerkt, niet naar mezelf luisterde, werd het mij duidelijk, dat ik, onbewust, telkens in OT verzandde, omdat ik me teveel bezig hield met hoe anderen mij zouden horen. Die neiging is veel minder nu, maar ik erken, dat hij er nog steeds is en waarschijnlijk altijd wel enigszins zal blijven. Zodra ik me weer bezorgd maak, over hoe ik door anderen zou willen worden gehoord en ervaren, ben ik met mezelf de draad kwijt. Het van de kaart zijn, duurt vandaag de dag nog maar heel kort en zodra ik mezelf hoor, voel ik de ontlading, dat mijn tijdelijke waanzin voorbij is.

 

Ook al is mijn oude gewoonte, om, net als iedereen OT te hebben, inmiddels minimaal, toch lijkt het – als ik het weer heb – alsof ik kortstondig alle waanzin van de gehele wereld belichaam. Ik sta hiervan echt perplex, maar het is verbaal werkelijk zo, dat ik de wereld ben, zowel in positieve als in negatieve zin. Ik ken, als geen ander, de waardevolle, goeie gevolgen van BT, maar ik ben mij er eveneens van bewust, dat OT altijd niets dan catastrofale consequenties heeft.

 

Onze deelname aan OT of BT hangt niet af van wat wij geloven te kiezen, maar het is wel zo, dat onze OT alleen met onze BT begrepen kan worden. Mijn BT is zonder meer toegenomen, omdat ik mijn OT ben gaan begrijpen en het lijkt wel, alsof ik nu pas, na al die jaren van uitproberen, echt kan begrijpen waarom OT zo’n groot effect op mij bleef houden. Ik voelde heb mij altijd heel erg veroordeeld vanwege mijn OT, omdat iedereen  ermee weg leek te kunnen komen, alleen ik niet. Ik accepteerde niet en begreep ook niet, waarom mijn OT altijd gedonder in de glazen betekende. Mijn OT maaktte, dat ik het altijd het gevoel had, dat ik er weer niet bij hoorde en dat heeft het mij ervan weerhouden, om mij met groepen te identificeren. Toch wilde ik eigenlijk niets liever, dan erbij horen. De enige weg, die openlag, was om met mijn OT op te houden. Ik deed dat echter vanwege anderen en niet vanwege mijzelf.   

 

Het hele idee om onze OT te verminderen en meer BT te gaan hebben, is flauwe kul. We blijven daardoor allemaal, ongemerkt, onwillekeurig met elkaar bezig en we hebben geen aandacht voor onszelf. Dit is de reden, waarom wij nauwelijks spreken met de klank van onze weldadige, authentieke stem. Je hebt die stem, indien je luistert naar hoe je klinkt, terwijl je praat. Als je weer niet naar jezelf luistert, omdat je zo graag zou willen, dat anderen naar je luisteren, dan is je stem er nog wel, maar je gebruikt hem niet en je hoort hem dus ook niet. Aangezien je, of OT, of BT hebt, is het dus geen kwestie van voortgaan met BT, maar om waar te nemen, of je OT, of BT hebt.   

 

Indien je aan je eigen stem kunt horen, dat je weer handeld vanuit je conditionering met OT, dan houdt je OT vanzelf op en verandert het in BT. Je doet dus eigenlijk helemaal niets, om BT te hebben. In het luisteren naar jezelf bemerk je altijd meteen, of je OT of BT hebt. Als je OT hebt, dan verandert het in BT en als je BT hebt, dan ga je er vanzelf mee door. Als je niet naar jezelf luistert, terwijl je spreekt, dan merk je dat niet, maar je ervaart wel – of je het nou wil of niet – de nadelige gevolgen van je OT. Als je, net als ik, ooit een keer naar jezelf hebt geluisterd,  begint er onvermijdelijk een selectie-proces, want je hebt onderscheid gemaakt tussen OT en BT en dat gaat nooit meer weg. Je kunt jezelf altijd herinneren omdat je eigen stem er altijd al was. Je produceert  die stem van BT niet vanwege anderen, maar voor jezelf, omdat je Taal Verlichting (TV) zo werkt.           

 

Confusion,

 

Your confusion is understandable, because it is an indication of how you use your language. You use your language in an ineffective and unintelligent way. As long as you keep engaging in Disembodied Language (DL), you will continue to be confused. It is not evident to you, that how you use your words, creates the chaos, which is your life. If you read my writings, you notice the order of my words. I write and speak as I do, because I am not confused, as I  engage in Embodied Language (EL). The clarity of my language cannot be denied. Even if you only read what I say and never talk with me, you still get a sense, your conflict isn’t my world, but that my language positively affects you, because it is true.

 

Nowadays, most people have a Global Positional System (GPS) on their phone, so they can easily find their way, wherever they go, but before we had such technological devices it was useful – to avoid confusion while travelling – to look at the map and to write down some clear directions. EL is like the GPS for our happiness. You have absolutely no idea where you are going, with your life, if you don’t speak with and listen to yourself. There is only one way overcome your confusion, which is: stop taking directions from your DL, the punitive, coercive way of how you were taught, to deal with language.

 

There is no confusion at all, once you switch from DL to EL, but you must do this and nobody, not even the best psychologist or therapist, can do it for you. Many people, supposedly, are losing it when they are getting old. However, their so-called dementia, their confusion, was already happening during the many years, they were involved in DL. Old people often take many medications for their ailments. It is not uncommon for these medications and their side effects, to cause further confusion and uncertainty for these already struggling people. It was found that if dementia-patients listen to music, which they enjoyed while they were young, their social skills are temporarily miraculously restored. One can only imagine what would happen if, they were instructed  to listen to themselves while they speak. In EL, we produce with our voice, an energy, which stimulates our brain and nervous system like nothing else can.

 

If you are going to have EL, you will be, like me, one of the very few people, who - in the midst of all the suffering and confusion, which is created and maintained by our usual way of talking - has any clarity. However, those with EL can’t help those with DL and I or anyone else with EL, can’t teach you how to have EL, as you must let yourself know. It is clear, why you don’t want to talk with me, because that would dissolve your confusion and you don’t want that. You are attached, not to happiness, but to your confusion. Confusion is your cop-out, as you always have an excuse for not being responsible. Moreover, it is your rigid, fanatic, forceful, phony, bombastic certainty, which always covers up your confusion.  

 

With DL, you have nothing to offer to anybody, but your own confusion. Although I offer you my EL, my clarity isn’t going to do you any good. Most likely, it will make you feel disturbed, because you can’t miss  my disdain for your confusion. I don’t feel sorry for you, to the contrary, I make fun of you, as you make it seem, as if your DL is the real deal. Well it is not. You are missing out big time and, I predict, your defensive stance is going to increase your confusion.

 

I write like this, because you get more aggravated and more provoked by confusion, than by the most painful truths. You can pretend otherwise, but with DL, your life will continue to be a mess. You always demand to have your way, because, supposedly, you don’t doubt. Certainly, doubt and confusion aren’t synonymous. Doubt will make you pay attention to what asks your attention, but your confusion won’t let you that. Hilariously, your confusion dispels your doubt, but it is just a big, stinking, smoke screen.

 

Confusion comes from the Latin word confusio, which means a mingling, mixing, blending, disorder or consternation. In DL, there is a conflict between who you are and who you pretend to be with your language. It has nothing to do with any struggle between what you feel and think, as whatever you feel or think, are just your verbal expressions, which you have never even taken the time to listen to. The  useful things, you are able to say to yourself, if you speak with an effortless, natural, resonant voice, are totally different from all the garbage you spout with your mouth, when you try to sound strong, happy, friendly, certain, holy, funny or interesting. Indeed,  DL and EL never mingle, that is, only if your DL stops, can your EL begin. We are conditioned to have DL, so even if you stop your EL, you will notice, your DL takes over again, but there is no need for any confusion or despair, as the two never mix.

 

Regardless, of how long or how short you will be able to continue with your EL, it will always be blissful, peaceful, relaxing, relieving, revealing, comical, interesting and energizing. How can that be? If you continue to have EL and speak with the sound of your wellbeing, you will realize and can’t miss that this is made possible by your Language Enlightenment (LE), your natural way of being, which is now properly expressed with your own language. Your confusion was never about your own language, but always about the language of others.         

 

Groeps-Druk,

 

Het is toch wel grappig, maar niet leuk natuurlijk, dat niemand met mij durft te praten. Het is grappig, omdat het is, alsof ik een soort van besmettelijke ziekte heb, terwijl ik heel levendig en kern-gezond ben, maar het is ook niet leuk, maar wel waar, dat ik natuurlijk voortdurend over allerlei dingen praat, waarover men schijnbaar helemaal nooit niet wil spreken. Grappig, dat dit absoluut niet waar is. Als wij eindelijk, met elkaar – maar, natuurlijk, in de eerste plaats, met onszelf – gaan praten over het enorme verschil tussen Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) en Belichaamde Taal (BT), dan pas gaan we echt lachen.  

 

Ik vraag me af, of die, voor mij, zo lachwekkende, bevestigende en rustgevende reactie, maar voor de anderen, die automatische, allergische en zinloze weigering, om eens gewoon kalm en betekenisvol met mij te praten, nou is vanwege het feit, dat men niet wil of kan lachen en dus eigenlijk geen enkel gevoel voor humor heeft, of dat men te bang is, om te praten over wat echt voor ons, als individu, van belang is? Het vereist zonder meer moed, om tegen de groeps-druk in te gaan, maar ik heb al heel vaak waar genomen, dat men dat eigenlijk zo graag wil, dat men het doet, ook al heeft men de moed niet!   

 

Iedereen zit, als individu, met de gebakken peren, omdat wij altijd een zeer hoge prijs betalen, voor onze lidmaatschap van een of andere groep. Onze  ontevredenheid, onrust, schaamte en zelf-haat, is te verklaren uit het feit, dat wij – als puntje bij paaltje komt – tegen onze wil in, mee doen met OT. Erger nog, we spreken dag in dag uit met een stem-geluid, waar wij zelf een hekel aan hebben, omdat het niet onze werkelijke stem is, maar een ge-acteerde stem.

 

Met veel kunst – en vlieg-werk, houdt iedereen dus eigenlijk, omwille van de zogenaamde vrijheid, een verkrampte, gekortwiekte versie van individualiteit gaande, aangezien wij – naar verluid – de moed niet hebben, om echt te gaan voor wie we zijn. Er is voor iedereen, echter, iedere dag, de gelegenheid, om opnieuw met behulp van BT, zichzelf te erkennen, maar dit gebeurt zonder de erkenning van de groep.

 

Toegeven, dat men de moed niet heeft, om tegen de sociale druk in te gaan en dus, vanuit een soort van wanhoop, toch weer datgene te doen, waarvan men – tegen beter weten in – blijft geloven, dat men het echt zelf zou willen, is schijnbaar meer toelaatbaar, dan echt erkennen, dat men niet kan of wil lachen, want daar ligt natuurlijk het werkelijke taboo. Het worden uitgelachen, door de groep, is de grootst mogelijke vernedering, die we kunnen meemaken.

 

Wanneer wij, hardop sprekend met onszelf en dus echt luisterend naar aan onszelf, aan onszelf laten weten, waarom wij niet lachen, niet kunnen lachen, niet willen lachen, niet mogen lachen, niet durven lachen, dan beginnen wij te lachen om onszelf, maar we voelen ons daarbij niet uitgelachen, integendeel, we voelen ons enorm opgelucht, want we hebben ontdekt, dat onze OT het lachen tegenhield en dat onze BT het lachen eindelijk weer mogelijk maakt.

 

Waarom is het toch zo gemakkelijk, om ons lachen en daarmee, ons eigen geluk, de rug toe te keren? Waarom zijn wij zo bang om om onszelf te lachen? Indien wij daar geen aandacht voor kunnen hebben, ontgaat ons het hele fenomeen van humor en willen wij nep-humor, om maar niet te worden herinnnerd aan het onmiskenbare feit, dat wij niet om onszelf kunnen lachen. Toch is lachen om onszelf de enige manier om ons gebrek aan humor op te lossen.  

 

Ook al is dit nog nimmer, vanwege onze constante deelname aan OT, in kaart gebracht, het lachen om anderen, maakt ons nog depressiever dan dat we al zijn. Met andere woorden, de weigering om onszelf te lachen, is de oorzaak van psychische problemen. Als wij niet om onszelf kunnen lachen, dan kunnen wij ook niet lachen, om anderen, die ook niet om zichzelf kunnen lachen, die alleen maar doen alsof ze om zichzelf lachen, terwijl ze in werkelijkheid zichzelf verloochenen. De waarheid van het lachen is ons nog nooit getoond, omdat we weg bleven lopen van onszelf. Alleen wanneer wij met onszelf BT hebben en gaan lachen, dan vinden wij de echte humor, die ons dus telkens werd onthouden, omdat er werd verondersteld, dat wij het niet aankonden. Ik ben ervan overtuigd, dat je het wel aankan en zelfs aan wil, maar ik weet ook, hoe ongebruikelijk het is, om luchtige, vloeibare, moeiteloze BT, in plaats van suffe, zwaarmoedige OT te hebben.

 

Jou humor voldoet, net als jou BT, niet aan jou of aan anderen hun verwachting. Het oplossen van jou verwachtingen of de verwachtingen van anderen is lach-wekkend. Ik weet wel dat dit een hele serieuze dissertatie is, over waarom iets, volgens mij, leuk is, maar het is wel echt waar en het is leuk, omdat het waar is. Wat niet leuk is, is ook niet waar. Alles wat on-lachbaar is, is onbelangrijk en wordt volledig ontmaskerd en ontworteld door BT. Er valt niets te lachen, zolang het on-lachbare ons nog bezig blijft houden. Er is nog nooit iemand geweest, die zo nadrukkelijk en kundig als ik, alles wat niet leuk is, heeft genoemd en geplaatsd en daarom is er een grote aarzeling, om mijn humor te accepteren, als een signaal van vooruitgang. We staan zogezegd voor de keuze, om echte humor als echte humor te erkennen of om maar te blijven doen alsof het leuk was. Tenzij wij echt gaan lachen, zijn wij verloren.

 

Niemand had ooit gedacht, dat onze eigen humor het centrale thema van deze tijd zou gaan zijn. Er bestaat niet eens zoiets als groeps-denken, want het gaat altijd uitsluitend en alleen over waarover wordt gesproken of gelezen. Tenzij men het hoort of leest, stelt het hele dilemma van waarom we zogenaamd niet om onszelf kunnen lachen, geen ene moer voor.

 

Deze verwoording, deze analyse, deze conclusie, is niet over wat ik of wat iemand anders gelooft, maar over wat wij, als onbewuste deelnemers aan OT of als bewuste deelnemers aan BT, zeggen. Als het een rechtzaak wordt of een kort-geding (leuk woord!), dan gaat het niet over wat er werd verondersteld, maar over de feiten, die werden gezegd, gehoord, geschreven of gelezen. Er is geen enkel bewijs, dat iemand iets dacht, behalve dat hij of zij het zei of schreef. Het is belachelijk dat we, vanwege OT, ons groeps-gedrag, zoveel waarde hechten aan wat we niet eens kunnen zien of horen. Er valt ook niets te lachen, zolang wat we zien of lezen, belangrijker is dan wat we horen en dus direct voelen en ervaren.

 

Als jij deze woorden hardop aan jezelf voorleest, dan ga je misschien lachen, omdat je eindelijk eens beseft, dat het altijd en alleen gaat over jou besef van taal, dat vanwege je OT afwezig was. Jou humor is dus een nieuw besef van jou taal, BT, dat je nog niet eerder had toegelaten. Je blijft lachen, als je ermee verder gaat. Je hoeft mij niet te geloven, omdat je voor jezelf kunt vaststellen of wat jij zo belangrijk vindt lachwekkend is of niet. Als het zo is, dan raad ik je aan het te vergeten, zodat je met iets anders, iets beters, verder kunt gaan. Waarom zou je stoppen, bij het niet naar je zin hebben, als je kan lachen om je eigen dwaasheid en onwetendheid? Als je lacht om jezelf, dan rijk je verder dan de rest.