Hitler,

 

Even before Hitler came on the scene, people have tried – in vain – to describe the common reality, which is the expected result of our unconscious participation in Disembodied Language (DL). None of the so-called Holocaust experts have spoken about the difference between DL and Embodied Language (EL). We are at a complete loss today, to speak of the evil, which is tearing us apart, but which has continued, because of how we use our language. We make it seem, as if it is all about the hate-speech of others, but it is our very own DL, which has unknowingly continued and  was never properly addressed. The personification of evil is a feature of our usual way of talking.

 

The seemingly endless battle between civilization and barbarity, between good and evil, at its roots, is the struggle between the speaker and the listener. In DL, the speaker forces, manipulates, dominates, exploits, overwhelms, distracts and punishes the listener. Moreover, the speaker separates him or herself from the listener and there is a struggle for attention going on, between the speaker and the listener. Hitler’s dramatic, forceful, incendiary and accusatory speech, is in essence, no different from how everyone talks, every day, around the world. Those who win the battle for attention, get to do all the talking, while the rest are merely listeners. This is why only a few determine everything for others. Supposedly, they are the voice for others and talk on their behalf. This ludicrous, corrupt arrangement is the best we are capable of with our stupid DL.   

 

Calling someone a Nazi or Hitler, is name-calling and  virtue-signaling, which could never solve anything, as it didn’t address the difference between our DL and EL. Look at where we are today? It is apparent, that millions of people have very different opinions about what is moral or immoral. The antisemitism we see today, shows even our highest institutions of education are utterly powerless and ignorant about what is actually going on. What we are witnessing is the inevitable escalation of our DL, our usual way of talking. It is often said, those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. However, the past, is always what someone else has told us, but our own past, is what we tell ourselves, that is, if we get to speak with ourselves and listen to ourselves.  

 

When we talk out loud, alone with ourselves, about our own experiences and listen to the sound of our own voice, we begin to attend to how we deal with our language. Before we took the time to finally do this, language was only something, which happened to us, like the weather. However, when we listen to ourselves while we speak, we instantly, effortlessly and joyfully discover the great difference between our own DL and our own EL. As we talk more often, we find, that our EL continues and our DL subsides, since we prefer the former, but we were burdened by the latter. Thus, by talking out loud by ourselves – instead of with others – and by addressing the big difference between our own DL and our own EL, we come to terms, with our own history with language.

 

The ugly, brutal, senseless history mankind keeps repeating, is always repeated with our language. It isn’t repeated by our EL, but by our DL. With DL, we are – whether we know it or not, admit it or not or are aware of it or not – digging our own graves. In fact, we are already brain-dead, since we engage automatically in DL. Once we manage to stop our DL, because we speak with and listen to ourselves, we realize, in retrospect, all problems were caused and maintained by our DL. As soon as our DL stops, we are flooded with bliss, as we have opened the gates of heaven. This is not some spiritual fantasy.

 

People who commit suicide, are like Hitler, because they realize, they aren’t winning – they can’t win – their battle. Giving up on the battle is out of the question, for anyone who doesn’t talk with him or herself, who doesn’t have a conscience. However, anyone who is in a love-relationship, will have to acknowledge, that giving up on the struggle is essential. Moreover, we are struggling with each other, because we pretend to be something, which we are not. We try to show to others, how powerful and certain we are, but by ourselves, we feel lonely and insignificant. Remarkably, Hitler was married with Eva Braun only for 40 hours, which they lived, as husband and wife, in their bunker. When we have our first taste of our EL, we cry, with relief, because, at long last, we can let go of our pretention. Hitler greatly admired Mussolini, who described him as a pleasant and old sentimentalist at heart. Not surprisingly, the failed painter cried in Mussolini’s presence, as he was a fan of Italian art and he even had a vague plan, to retire to Italy, after the war.

 

Hitler got it right – about DL – and about getting the attention from others. Reportedly, he said: if you wish the sympathy of the broad masses, you must tell them the crudest and most stupid things. This is what we have kept doing and this is why our DL has continued unabated. We have never explored what it would actually be like, to have ongoing EL, as we have only been able to experience a few, accidental, brief moments of it. If we recognize and prolong our EL, a whole new way of life would be possible. I live that life and I can tell you all about my Language Enlightenment (LE). If you talk with me, you are going to find out about EL and LE as well.  

 

 

Disagree,

 

I disagree with everybody, as I don’t want to be in the sandwich of everybody’s Disembodied Language (DL). How is it possible, that I am so happy and have so much to say about my Embodied Language (EL), while, basically, everyone refuses to talk with me? I don’t continue with EL, because I disagree with you, but because my Language Enlightenment (LE) is expressed how it should be expressed, with my EL.

 

Of course, there were numerous times, I was still angry that others didn’t pick up on it and that I was, inadvertently, again trying to speak about my EL and my LE with my DL, but it seems, as if this is behind me now. Somehow, I have stopped doing that and if I express strong criticism or sharp judgment, it has nothing to do with that I disagree with you, but with my sense of humor and my compassion. The issue of hate-speech is misguided, as it doesn’t address the difference between DL and EL, let alone our LE.

 

Surely, I can express the gigantically important issue that – although everyone screams and argues about our individual freedoms – we haven’t yet properly addressed the language of individuality, which is our EL. While individualism certainly got a foot-hold in modern western societies, it hasn’t blossomed, as nobody – except me – has been individual enough yet, to be able to acknowledge the great difference between DL and EL. In absence of the clarity which only comes from ongoing EL, western cultures are caving in to the brutal forces of group-behavior and, subsequently, turn back the clock on individualism.

 

Naturally, individualism has inevitably resulted in the secularization of societies, as there has been a steady transition from a religious to a more worldly level. Appealing to or invoking any type of group behavior, which is always involved in psychology, politics, nationalities, ethnicities, justice, religion, education or sales – to name a few – has become increasingly more difficult, because, supposedly, as people steer away from the pressure of the group, they decide for themselves and make up their own mind, because they are free to do so, as individuals.

 

What goes on, virtually unnoticed, with everyone, who engages, unconsciously, in DL, is that the old traditional belief, in some sort of higher power, is replaced by the perhaps even more superstitious, harmful and tenacious belief in an inner self, a behavior-causing agent, the speaker, who does the speaking or the listener, who does the listening. In effect, we all firmly believe, we have a mind and we have thoughts, but the reality is: there are no words inside of us, there is no language inside of our head, there is no such thing, as a mind or thinking. We all believe in this nonsense, due to DL. Consequently, we are, our whole lives, troubled and conflicted.

 

Whenever we refer to thinking, we are saying, hearing, writing or reading something and that is all there is to it. When we refer to hate-speech, we try to address our DL. I would call DL humorless speech. The absence of laughter is a much greater predictor of evil, than we have ever imagined, because we are so used to DL, which deprives us of having any kind of fun. We are chronically lacking the ability to take ourselves and each other less seriously. In my view, there is an equality between anorexia and our lack of humor. In anorexia, a food-deprived person hates her or his body, while in DL, the laughter-deprived person hates the sound of his or her voice, while he or she speaks. This takes the saying, it is not what you say, but how you say it, to a new level, after all, how can you enjoy your own disembodied sound? 

 

We only seem to like, to hear ourselves talk, but the reality is, that we don’t like to hear ourselves speak.  Indeed, we demand from others and from ourselves that we should be okay with it. Coerced laughter, is the only laughter we are familiar with. It expresses  anxiety and fear, not our happiness and wellbeing. Of course, even with phony laughter there’s some release of tension, but this isn’t transformative, as what we understand as humor, is nothing more than the distraction from and the obfuscation of our DL.

 

Whole-hearted laughter cannot emerge from our  carefully scripted and manipulated speech, as it will only be possible with honest conversation. Such sincere interaction only occurs, however, when we have EL and express our delight in language, our LE. We have yet to get to EL, although we believe we already know what it is. It is kind of embarrassing to acknowledge, we didn’t know and have wrongly believed, that we knew for so long. This revelation is both exciting as well as painful, as we know we have missed so much, which can never be regained.

 

All we can do is laugh about our own foolishness, as we continue to enjoy what is still left for us to enjoy. Once we have that attitude, we find out, we haven’t really missed anything, as we always got what we were capable of comprehending, with our language and to the extent that we have more EL, we will still understand more. It is often said: hindsight is 20-20, that looking back, things are easy to see, but while you are in it, it is almost impossible to know, what is really going on. All of this is due to our unconscious involvement in DL, because once we have EL, we  understand everything, while we are going through it and because of that, we no longer look back, since we have already properly expressed everything.

 

Our sense of time is totally different in EL or in DL. In DL, we keep being more and more busy with and obsessed about our past, the older we get, but with EL, we become more and more future-oriented, as we anticipate good things are going to happen. Our positive future-outlook is grounded in experiences we are currently having. I wouldn’t be able to say or write this, if it wasn’t true. If you talk with me, you would find, it is as true for you, as it is for me, but if you don’t do this, you will unknowingly continue the degenerative process, which is the result of your participation in DL. I didn’t make this up, this is your  life, not mine. My old age is happy, satisfied and full of laughter, but your old age – if you manage to get old – is full of regrets, dissatisfaction, fears, worries, stress, frustration and misery. Moreover, I am truly enough to myself, while you always feel unloved and misunderstood. If you get in touch with me, you can experience, what you have, until now, been missing out on. I doubt it, if you will. Most likely, you stay where you are, as you have already given up hope,  that your happiness is possible. I disagree with you. I know, I now contradict myself, but weren’t you the one, who was so good at agreeing to disagree?                 

        

 

Behoefte,

 

Heb je wel eens de behoefte gehad, om te zeggen waar het op staat? Ook heb je natuurlijk wel eens dorst gehad of honger? En, je bent waarschijnlijk ook wel eens dood-moe geweest en dan verlangde je naar rust? Maar, nu vraag ik mij af, of je wel eens ooit de behoefte hebt gehad, om te lachen en om iets leuks te zeggen? Stel je eens iemand voor, die zo’n gewaarwording heeft, maar die niets leuks weet te zeggen? En, stel je eens voor, je hebt dorst, maar er is niets te drinken? Je hebt honger, maar er is niets te eten? Nu heb je behoefte om te lachen, maar je weet niets leuks? Het enige dat erop zit, is om op zoek te gaan, naar iets drinkbaars, naar iets eetbaars, naar iets lachwekkends. Ik neem aan dat je wel enige moeite wil doen, om te kunnen lachen.

 

Ik doe, in dit schrijven, alleen maar alsof ik niets te lachen zou hebben, want ik heb altijd wel iets om te lachen. Jij kan mijn humor niet verdragen, omdat ik lijk te lachen, om jou Ontlichaamde Taal (OT), maar er valt over jou OT niet te lachen, zolang jij die nog niet, net als ik, achter je heb gelaten. Als je echt zo graag zou willen lachen – wat dus helemaal niet zo is – dan maak je eens contact met mij en dan heb je Belichaamde Taal (BT) samen met mij. Mijn skype naam is limbicease en het is gratis en vrijblijvend.

 

Jij wil om een ander lachen, maar niet om jezelf. Jou valse, harde schatter-lach is jou bewapening, maar mijn echte, aanstekelijke lach is ontwapenend. Er zit voor jou niets anders op, dan om op te houden met lachen om anderen – en, in dit geval, om mij – en om eens om jezelf te gaan lachen, door hardop met jezelf te gaan praten, over wat er allemaal met jou aan de hand is. Waarschijnlijk krijg je tranen van het lachen, maar ook tranen van verdriet en ontroering, omdat je, vanwege je intelligente verlangen, geheel tot jezelf bent gekomen, met – je eigen taal – jou BT.

 

De taal van het heerlijke onbezonnen lachen, jou BT, heeft nog niet eerder bewust plaats gevonden en je zult wat vaker heen en weer moeten gaan – tussen je eigen OT en je eigen BT – alvorens je begint toe te geven aan en kunt genieten van de humor van je BT. Aanvankelijk lijkt het allemaal heel serieus, omdat het natuurlijk een hele pijnlijke, nare zaak is, dat je, onbewust, met je OT, altijd je taal tegen jezelf hebt gebruikt, maar zodra jij begint door te krijgen, dat jij het tij kan keren, door naar jezelf te luisteren en dus door daadwerkelijk leuke dingen tegen jezelf te zeggen, dan ga je steeds vaker lachen. Het is heerlijk om met BT vrij-uit te spreken en om te lachen om jezelf, om je problemen, om je eigenaardigheden en om de reden, waarom je tegen van alles en nog wat bent, wat jou ervan weerhoudt, om gelukkig te zijn.

 

Wanneer jij het eindelijk zegt, dan heb je, zogezegd, je ei gelegd. Met OT kun je echter je ei niet kwijt en blijf je dus zitten op je shit. Het is ook weer niet zo, dat je met BT al je negativiteit er klakkeloos uitgooit, want dat verandert niets aan jezelf. Met BT beschrijf je op een duidelijkere en meer lachwekkende wijze, hoe je met jezelf in gevecht bent gebleven, omdat je  zo bijgelovig was, dat je in het denken geloofde en dat er woorden en zinnen binnenin je zouden zitten.  

 

Er zit geen taal in je hoofd – boem – en dus is al je gezijk over jou denken flauwe kul, want je denkt helemaal nooit iets en je hebt nooit iets gedacht. Ja, je zegt wel eens wat, je hoort en je leest van alles en misschien schrijf je wel eens wat, over wat anderen hebben gezegd of geschreven, maar je schrijft nooit met jezelf, voor jezelf en over jezelf en je praat nooit met jezelf, om te kunnen lachen, om jezelf. Je lacht niet om jezelf, omdat dat niet mag, van jezelf en je gaat pas lachen, om jezelf, als je volhoudt, dat je wel mag lachen, om jezelf. Als je dit maar vaak genoeg aan jezelf zegt, dan kom je aan de weet, dat jij jezelf inderdaad toestemming kunt geven, om te praten met jezelf, om te lachen om jezelf, maar ook, dat je eigenlijk heel erg moet lachen om jezelf, omdat jij jezelf echt veel leuker vindt, dan iedere comediant.  

 

Luidruchtige, snel-pratende, vloekende grappen makers vertellen altijd een of ander verhaaltje, met een zogenaamde conclusie – de kloe – waar jij dan om moet lachen. Let wel, het is echt de bedoeling dat jij lacht. Je moet dus lachen, anders staat de humorist voor schut. Als jij niet lacht, dan is dat een  afgang, maar als het lukt, om jou lachen te forceren en te provoceren, dan is het zogenaamd heel leuk.

 

Wanneer je BT hebt en om jezelf lacht, dan lach je om je eigen taal, om wat jij tegen jezelf zegt, om wat je jezelf hoort zeggen, als jij plezier hebt in je eigen taal. Anders gezegd, jou taal is de grap en de kloe. In de gebruikelijke, eenzijdige lachen-op-bevel humor van OT, doet de kloe er eigenlijk niet eens toe, want de komiekeling gaat altijd aan de haal met jou taal. Bovendien is hij of zij altijd zogenaamd leuker dan jij, daarom luister jij naar hem of haar en niet naar jezelf. Hij of zij is er wel degelijk bij gebaat, om jou klein te houden en de mond te snoeren, zodat hij of zij het hoogste woord kan blijven voeren. Met andere woorden, de humor, waaraan jij gewend was, heeft altijd te maken met de dood-vervelende competitie van wie er zogenaamd het leukste is. Als jij om jezelf lacht, dan is er geen concurrentie meer.

 

Je behoefte om om jezelf te kunnen lachen, is net als je behoefte aan veiligheid, stabiliteit en rust, een kwestie van eraan toekomen vanwege jou taal. Met OT loop je alles wat aangenaam en lachwekkend is mis, omdat je nooit de tijd neemt, om het aan jezelf te zeggen. Niemand kan jou zeggen, wat alleen jij tegen jezelf kunt zeggen en niemand kan jou aan het lachen brengen, zoals alleen jij dat zelf kan. Jij hebt duidelijk behoeftes, die alleen door jou vervuld kunnen worden, maar OT voorziet in geen enkele van jou behoeftes. Jou behoefte aan humor toont aan, dat de meeste van jou onvervulde behoeftes  zinloos zijn en jou echte behoeftes in de weg staan.         

 

Difference,

 

There is an enormous difference between Embodied Language (EL) and our common, unconscious use of language, which I call Disembodied Language (DL). A lot of problems could be prevented, if people would listen to me, rather than to attention-demanding idiots, who perpetuate DL. I provide the necessary experience, to differentiate between DL and EL.

 

We have said so ourselves and have heard others say stupid nonsense like this a million times: despite our differences, I have enormous respect for her or for him. Supposedly, we are not bothered by these petty differences and, we don’t even need to talk about them, because, presumably, we get along just fine, as long as we don’t talk about politics or religion.

 

You also repeatedly, mechanically, manipulatively, deceptively say: it doesn’t make any difference to me, while, in fact, everyone knows, it makes a big fucking difference, but, again, we pretend it is true, because by saying, it doesn’t make any difference to me, we are basically told not to talk about it. Surely, we don’t want to talk about our supposedly private feelings, as we get immediately angry, frustrated, impatient and upset.

 

Certainly, it would make a gigantic difference, if we would engage in a way of talking, in which we could enjoy, express and continue our positive emotions. When we stop our DL and have some EL, we know that a huge difference has occurred, because we are no longer the same person. In other words, we have changed, we are new and the difference between what was and what is, is of great significance.

 

When you read these words, you may wonder: what is the difference? The difference is, that these words derive from my ongoing EL, which is the expression of my Language Enlightenment (LE). You are used to and are expecting spoken or written words, which derive from DL. In other words, these words don’t fulfill your expectation and they confront you with your DL, which determines, that your life is full of chaos and conflict. I am not responsible, you are.

 

The difference between DL and EL, is that in EL, you finally take responsibility for how you use language. If you listen to yourself while you speak, you would hear the difference in the sound of your own voice, because you weren’t listening to yourself while you engaged in DL. Funny how, in DL, you don’t realize, that you absolutely don’t want to listen to yourself while you speak and, that is why you don’t do it, but in EL, you want to do it and that is why you do it.

 

In DL, you have said or heard others say: why even see him or her, why should I talk with him or her, it makes no difference. Actually, you are right, in DL, we are always repeating the same. Nobody wants to talk about this, but all our problems – including our so-called mental health problems – are problems of repetition. We only stop repeating, once we have EL instead of DL and solve our problems. You talk a lot of empty words about making a real difference, but you never managed, to change your own DL in EL.

 

Imagine the difference, if we had ten billion healthy, well-educated, happy, capable people, who would engage in EL and share their LE, instead of DL! We would organize our societies very differently, because we live in them. The increasing homeless population holds up a mirror, in which the not homeless people see themselves reflected. You may not be homeless, but you too, are living in your own filth and trash. All DL is verbal garbage, linguistic rubbish, oral diarrhea, written hogwash, double-talk and senseless drivel.  

 

You don’t like to admit this, but your usual way of talking is DL and prevents you from noticing the difference between what is beneficial for you and what undermines you. Without EL, your perception of yourself is flat-out delusional, as you believe yourself to be what you are not. When you see someone pushing a shopping cart full of junk, it is you, who is pushing ideas and concepts on yourself and on others, which have no relationship to reality.

 

Our so-called difference of opinion always sets us apart and makes relationship impossible. Actually, any belief separates us from ourselves. Due to our DL, we never get to see this clearly. Surely, we live in falsehoods, due to how we are conditioned. We are obsessed with what we say, we think, but we never take ownership of our language, by saying out loud to ourselves and realizing, our so-called mind, is nothing, but involuntary language, running amok.

 

A lot has been said and written about the so-called difference between thinking and feeling, but once we engage in EL, we realize this difference doesn’t even exist, as it is the inevitable waste-product of our coerced DL, in which we can’t talk about our own experiences. Presumably, to be objective, we must suppress our subjectivity, but this ridiculous ideal of being, supposedly, non-biased, goes hand in hand with the hair-splitting rigidity of our language.  

 

Spijker,

 

Ik sla, met mijn Belichaamde Taal (BT), heel vaardig, altijd de spijker op z’n kop. Indien jij, eindelijk eens ophoudt met je achterlijke Ontlichaamde Taal (OT), zou ook jij, het eenige gereedschap dat je schijnbaar  bezit – als je alleen een hamer hebt, neig je ernaar elk probleem als een spijker te zien – in ieder geval, op de juiste wijze gaan hanteren. Die spijker is niet jou probleem natuurlijk, maar jou perceptie van de realiteit is, door jou omgang met taal, vervormd.

 

Al is de spijker nog zo snel, de waarheid achterhaalt hem wel. Haha, hoe komt hij erop? Ja, zoiets, kan dus ineens de oplossing zijn, met BT, omdat je dan  plotseling een extatisch aha-moment kunt ervaren, waardoor je weer eens mag en dus kan lachen. Met jouw lompe klauw-hamer, kun jij ten lange leste al die zware, dikke deuren openbreken, die jij met jouw dwangmatige OT, zo fanatiek, angstvallig en achterdochtig had dicht-gespijkerd. Het is een heel karwei, om al die vele jaren-geleden dicht-geramde deuren weer open te krijgen en uiteraard zul jij, ook al ben je dan nog zo goed bezig, die deuren zwaar hebben beschadigd. De toegang tot wat zich achter die deuren bevindt is echter van groter belang dan die gehavende deuren, dus je kunt ze er net zo goed helemaal uithalen, want ze hebben geen doel meer.

 

Vergeet het nou maar, om die spijker op zijn kop te willen slaan, want het komt, wat betreft jou lelijke OT, simpelweg op sloopwerk aan. Jij moet dus jou oude hamer heel anders leren gebruiken, om al die roestige spijkers eruit te kunnen krijgen. Gelukkig had je er verbazingwekkend veel krom-geslagen en daar heb je nu dus profijt van. Je kunt met je klauw, die spijkers gemakkelijk van het hout afpulluken en het wordt daardoor ineens bijna een sport, om die krengen eruit te jennen. Terwijl je, met toenemende tevredenheid, deur na deur hebt geopend, wordt je je tevens bewust van de enorme plaat, die je al die jaren voor je kop had hangen. Het is nu werkelijk zover, dat je nu, niet langer, die plank meer misslaat.  

 

Onze spreek stem vergelijkt zich tot onze taal, als een hamer tot een spijker. Het enige juiste gebruik van onze stem, is door onze taal tot z’n recht te laten komen, door dus voortdurend iedere spijker op z’n kop te slaan. Met BT zijn wij niets aan het dicht-spijkeren, maar we hameren er heerlijk op los, omdat we er zo goed in zijn. Het herinnerd ons aan de succesvolle momenten uit onze kinder-jaren, waarin het hammertje-tik een spel was, waar we goed in waren. Ook herinneren wij een jeugd held, die kleine Bam-Bam van de lawaaige Flintstones, die overal, met zijn knuppel, zo lustig op los sloeg.

 

Het is onze intelligentie waardoor wij geen OT meer willen hebben, maar BT. Wij worden voortdurend bedreigd door OT en de juiste manier, om daarmee om te gaan, is om niet aan OT deel te nemen en om BT te hebben. Zolang als wij nog met OT meedoen, zijn wij onze eigen grootste vijand en slaan wij voor de zoveelste keer met onze hamer op onze duim.

 

Niemand weet eigenlijk, dat het taal-gebruik dat wij erop na zijn blijven houden er de oorzaak van is, dat wij met onszelf en elkaar in conflict zijn. Dit maakt dat wij hoofdzakelijk met negatieve emoties bezig zijn, ook al houden wij de schijn op, dat wij positieve emoties zouden hebben. Natuurlijk verliezen wij,  door onze negativiteit, veel energie, die niet meer beschikbaar is, om bewust van onszelf te zijn. Door ons gebrek aan energie, zijn en blijven we onbewust en onze zogenaamde bewust-wording, is dan ook niets anders, dan dat wij in de gaten gaan krijgen, dat wij onze levens-kracht verspillen aan onze OT.

 

Ik heb altijd energie, maar ik hoor heel vaak van anderen dat ze ergens geen energie voor hebben, dat ze moe zijn of zich uitgeput voelen. Als ik even luister naar hoe ze klinken – bijvoorbeeld Joe Biden – terwijl ze praten, dan weet ik meteen al hoe laat het is. Ze zijn constant aan het opscheppen, pretenderen, klagen, kritiseren, argumenteren, imiteren en fantaseren. Ik doe niets van dit alles, want ik blijf mezelf en mijn taal is alleen voor mij. Zij die, net als ik, ook hun BT hebben gewaarborgd, zijn de enige met wie ik betrokken raak, want ik laat iedereen met OT links liggen. Ik doe dit uit zelf-behoud, want indien ik, vanwege mijn conditionering, toch nog weer eens wat van anderen met OT zou willen, dan loop ik alsnog weer helemaal leeg. Ik heb op die mezelf op die manier menig keer te grabbel gegooid, maar ik ben daar eindelijk mee opgehouden. Ik hou nu de eer aan mijzelf. Eigenlijk is het niet zo dat ik ermee ben opgehouden, want ik ben in staat geraakt, om iets anders, iets beters te doen. Mijn BT is beter voor mij, dan mijn OT. Daardoor ga ik er vanzelf mee door en stelt mijn conditionering niets meer voor.

 

Toen ik nog naarstig probeerde, om mijn OT te laten ophouden, bleef het maar doorgaan, maar toen ik eenmaal had begrepen, dat ik met BT verder wilde, hield mijn OT vanzelf op. Aangezien ik mij geheel op taal heb gericht, gaat het altijd over een ervarend begrijpen.  Met OT proberen wij ook te begrijpen, maar zonder te ervaren. Het zogenaamde begrip dat wij opdoen met OT of de veel-geroemde kennis, die wij vergaren, is iets wat ons van onszelf vervreemd.

 

Vanuit OT opgedane kennis is een zware last, die wij ons leven lang met ons meeslepen, maar met onze BT onstaat licht-voetige, werkelijke zelf-kennis, die gebaseerd is op onze eigen ervaring, die met volle aandacht en toewijding onder woorden is gebracht. Onze eigen ervaring komt in BT altijd op de eerste plaats en de daaruit voortvloeiende taal, doet ons de aktie ondernemen, die goed voor ons is. Wij zijn dus, vanwege BT, in staat om te doen wat wij willen en kunnen doen en daardoor zijn we succesvol en altijd vol met energie. Onze perceptie van wie wij werkelijk zijn wordt bepaald door onze uitvoerige, juiste beschrijvingen van onze eigen ervaringen.  

 

Het is heerlijk, om taal te kunnen gebruiken op een manier, die moeiteloos is. En, als er geen woorden komen, dan is er volledige stilte, waarin wij zelfs niet meer wachten, op iets, om te zeggen of te schrijven, want we zijn, zonder taal, opgelost in oneindigheid. Met taal, althans, met onze bewuste taal, met BT, spreken we altijd over relatieve, tijdelijke zaken en zonder zulke taal, belanden wij in de eeuwigheid. Anders gezegd, met BT spreken of schrijven we echt over van alles wat ons bezighoudt, maar zonder BT, houdt niets ons meer bezig. Zo werkt dus onze Taal Verlichting (TV). De stiltes, zonder woorden, kunnen toeslaan, als een donderslag bij heldere hemel. Het meegaan in die stiltes, is even aangenaam als het meegaan met de energie-stroom van BT, want op deze wijze wordt onze TV alsmaar verder onthuld. Anderen kunnen geen getuige zijn op dezelfde wijze als dat wij dat zelf zijn. Ook zij kunnen hun eigen TV bewust worden, maar alleen zij weten, hoe het voor hen werkt en niemand anders. Als wij onze TV met onze BT aan elkaar kenbaar maken, dan worden wij niet bewust van elkaar’s TV, maar van onze eigen TV.

 

Het is wonderlijk, hoe alles met BT blijkt te passen en op het juiste moment naar voren komt. Dit gebeurt, omdat alles gezegd en geschreven kan worden en, omdat alles wat gehoord, gelezen en begrepen kan worden, daadwerkelijk wordt gezegd, geschreven, gehoord, gelezen en begrepen. Deze volledigheid produceert de eenheids-ervaring, die ik TV noem, die ieder keer een verdieping van de stilte met zich mee brengt. Het hernieuwde bezig zijn met BT – na die stilte – is een herboren worden in een nieuwe mogelijkheid, die al sprekende, schrijvende, luisterende of lezende wordt gerealizeerd. Diepe rust maakt zich van ons meester, die ook wordt meegenomen in slaap, die vredig en verkwikkend is. Al slaap ik, tijdens mijn pauze, soms maar een paar minuten, toch voelt het, alsof ik onmiddelijk een kosmische kracht belichaam, die mij doet beseffen, dat de natuur mij als spreekbuis kan nemen. En, oh ja, dat spijkers op laag water zoeken heeft helemaal afgedaan. Ik laat dat aan anderen over.         

 

Acting,

 

I had an uncle, who was a stage actor and who was also on Dutch TV in various shows. Whenever he would show up at a family gathering, all attention was on him, as he always had some wild stories, which made everyone laugh. He took a liking in me. I went with him to the theater, where he performed and to the studios, where they made TV shows and movies. According to my parents, he bragged, but he loved to act and he was successful and wealthy.

 

For a long time, I didn’t know, what I wanted to be. I had been in a play and in a musical at school. At one point, I believed, I wanted to become an actor, like my uncle, but in acting school, I found out, I didn’t want to act, I just wanted to be myself. My uncle had never gone to any school. However, I’ve always liked to dramatically express myself, as I felt there was magic in that. I would say or do something, with which I would surprise myself, because it was totally new.

 

In retrospect, I had no clue, back then, why I was so enthralled with expressing myself and, later, in the disco, I was – after smoking something – dancing like a madman, because I loved to move my body to the rhythm of the music and find a girl, to have sex with. For a while, it seemed, as if life was only about dancing and having sex. I went on like this, but then I did a therapy group, in which I met Bonnie, who became my wife. We have been happily married for 38 years. Initially, I still continued my old ways, but I wanted to be true to her and so, I had to change my ways. I knew, that it was either one or the other.

 

Bonnie and I didn’t create any children, but due to our relationship, I discovered Embodied Language (EL). When people miss out on love – something, which happens all the time – it is because they are unable to talk honestly about their feelings. It was very important to me, to be able to communicate, as I experienced abuse, betrayal and abandonment, while I was young. I felt so unworthy and conflicted, but I was able to heal, due to my love for Bonnie and her love for me, but mostly, due to her love of herself.

 

When you find out about your own EL, you will have stopped – to your own surprise – your Disembodied Language (DL). This doesn’t mean, however; you are now done with your conditioning history with DL. To the contrary, it is the very beginning of your journey, to liberate yourself, from who you believed yourself to be. With EL, you are going to find out, that you are not, who you have said to be. In other words, as the way in which you use your language changes, everything will change. This beautiful transformational process is with you for the rest of your life, as your EL, is bound to reveal your Language Enlightenment (LE).

 

With DL, we have learned to act in ways, which are not true, to who we really are. To have EL, we have to stop acting. This is why you hardly don’t have any EL: you keep pretending, to have what you consider to be EL. If you really had EL, you would stop acting as immaturely and stupidly, as you do, because that is what it takes. In acting-school, some arrogant jerk of a teacher told me, to act like a boiled egg, but I refused. I told him, I just couldn’t do it, as I didn’t want to. He was infuriated, that I blatantly defied his instructions and angrily blurted out the truth: may be, you just don’t want to act? Everybody laughed, but was silent, when I thanked him, as I walked out and said, in a dead-serious tone, that he was right.

 

People everywhere, unknowingly, mechanically act as if they are intelligent, truthful, accepting, aware, open, caring, friendly or patient, but they just put up a show. My ability to express myself and really be myself – which I always had, since childhood – had been overruled, by the coercive DL of the people I grew up with, even by my beloved actor uncle. Only my German grandmother could feel, who I really was and remembering her brings tears of joy. I went to visit her so many times, as I felt always welcome.

 

When I still fantasized about being an actor, I went to see many plays in the theater. I saw my uncle, in his act on the stage, back-stage and, at home, where he commanded and domineered his wife and children. I am reminded of the big, old theater, in my hometown, The Hague. Above the stage, there was this carved out banner, with the Latin saying: vox populi, vox dei, which means, the voice of the people, is the voice of god. This maxim became the very basis of democratic governments. Another interpretation of the saying is: the best judge of the acting, is the audience. I disagree fundamentally with this, as in my view, I know best what is right for me, not someone else.

 

People have described listening to themselves while they speak – the operational definition of EL – as a spiritual act. Likewise, people have  misinterpreted talking with themselves, which is a real thing, with talking with their so-called god, which, is merely a fantasy. Sadly, spirituality has taken the place of our ability to talk with ourselves and each other. It will have to go, if we want to have EL, in which we can talk with each other, in the same way as we talk with ourselves. When we have EL, it is very clear, we share our LE, but this has nothing to do with any spiritual ritual or act, as we are simply expressing our own wellbeing. The blissful expression of our enlightenment is not a matter of acting.             

 

Aforism,

 

My Embodied Language (EL) consists of concise, terse, laconic, memorable expressions. People with Disembodied Language (DL) call those formulations aphorisms. Their lives are a complete mess, because they don’t listen to themselves, while they speak. Also, in science, people define things as precisely as sharply as possible, this is called Ockham’s Razor. However, this term is based on the problem-solving principle that recommends searching for explanations with the smallest set of elements. Listening to yourself while you speak consists of two behaviors, which occur simultaneously and at the same rate. You do not really listen to yourself, while you speak – and engage EL – if you speak too much and listen too little or if you listen too much and speak too little.

 

The popularity of short, meaningful, appropriate verbalizations, is due to the fact, that in DL, people get endlessly carried away by their verbosity. We appreciate the simplest explanation, because, not coincidently, it is usually the best one. DL makes everything unnecessary complicated, because it creates a smoke-screen of words. This is the case, because we are not truthful and conscious, during our usual way of talking. Instead, we are constantly fighting, arguing, pretending, defending, distracting and fantasizing. Fantasy or imagination is overrated, as it is a temporary escape from our DL. Of course, this never results in the change from DL to our EL.

 

While I was still studying psychology, I often came across the term parsimony, which is the term, which refers to the notion, that the simplest explanation is also the most useful. Parsimony is always preferred,  because it leaves out any extraneous factors, as it only pays attention to the most impactful, effective evidence and data. Well, this is my experience: in all the years, that I have studied, worked in and taught psychology, I haven’t met anyone, who showed any interest in EL, because it is just, too good to be true. People reject EL, because it is too simple and their conditioning history with DL demands complexity and predicts chaos.

 

In EL, we can be very complex with our language, as our way of dealing with our words, is based on our own direct experience. While it can be said, that we are in touch with our feelings, there is absolutely no one inside of us, who has feelings. In other words, there is no me, who has an experience. Therefore, our language in EL can flow freely and joyfully, as it is unimpeded by the fallacy that there is a speaker, a listener, a writer or a reader. Yes, there is speaking, listening, writing and reading going on, but there is nobody who does it. EL happens spontaneously and effortlessly, because – when, for the lack of a better word, the speaker listens to him or herself, when he or she realizes, that he or she, as so-called speaker, is his or her own so-called listener – it can happen.

 

What was previously stated, about the wrong verbal construct of being in touch with ourselves, also, of course, applies to, having thoughts, as there is no me, inside of me, who has these illusive thoughts. In EL, we find out, there is only language, which we speak, hear, write or read, that is, there is only overt language, as there can’t be any language inside of us. It is an indisputable fact, there are no sentences inside our brains. Thus, so-called thinking is merely a figure of speech. However, it is a product of DL, in which we don’t talk with ourselves about our own experiences and accept what we can let ourselves know, if we listen to ourselves, while we speak.

 

Another meaning of parsimony is the quality of being careful with money or recourses. Thriftiness or frugality is also a version of not letting anything go to waste and of conserving energy. Due to our unconscious involvement in DL, we waste most of our energy on language - usually referred to as our mind - which doesn’t work for us but is against us. We suddenly feel, we are flooded with energy, when we shift from DL to EL. This is because we finally express our Language Enlightenment (LE) with our EL. In DL, we say that we express ourselves, but in EL, there is no self to be expressed. We express what we are capable of expressing in EL and that happens to be our LE.