All,
Regardless
of what everyone is claiming, saying, pretending and writing, we all basically
engage in Disembodied Language (DL), every day. First of all, we don’t even
know, this is the case. Secondly, we all believe, we can say what we think, but
once we express our Embodied Language (EL), we finally acknowledge, our thinking or our so-called inner
dialogue, doesn’t exist and is a delusional product of our usual way of
talking. Thirdly, we accept and expect DL as normal, but we reject and ignore our
ability to have EL. However, EL – the language of individual wellbeing – is the
essence of happiness.
All these
millions of people, who come to Western Europe or to the United States,
unconsciously, want the freedom, which is enjoyed by the inhabitants of these
countries. They didn’t have that freedom in the countries where they came from.
However, they are not necessarily supportive or respectful of this new freedom.
To the contrary, they mostly wish to continue to live with the same beliefs,
they used to have, before they went to these freer societies.
Everywhere you
go, people talk a lot, but we are still not very good at communicating, getting
along with each other and understanding each other as well as ourselves. I am
talking about you, my dear reader. You really aren’t all that good, as a
communicator of your own experiences. The
fact, that you engage in DL almost permanently and have failed to continue with
EL so often, that you gave up on it, illustrates an aspect of your meaningless,
dreadful, mechanical life, which you refuse to admit and talk about.
Since we
find ourselves repeatedly in threatening environments, we have all become habituated
to it. Surely, this is an effect, which occurs, due to how we have come to deal
with our language, which in turn, is, of course, a consequence of how we
interact with each other. Due to our DL – which is our common way of talking –
we all, unknowingly, experience threatening environments as normal and
experience non-threatening environments as abnormal. This is also known as the
learned-helplessness paradigm. It is because we believe, we cannot escape the DL,
which is going on, everywhere, all over the world, that we give up on our own
individual freedom.
We have used
all kinds of ridiculous prayers, rules and affirmations, but we have never stopped
our DL in its tracks. For that to happen, we must all speak with ourselves and
listen to ourselves. Yes, as long as we keep speaking with each other and
attempt to listen to each other or try to make others listen to us, our DL will
not stop and, thus, we are unable to have any EL at all. We are deluding
ourselves, by saying, that it’s okay, that we know, what we experience
is all right. With DL, we may say to ourselves, all is well, I am safe – this
is just a lesson, an experience, which, for my own good, I must pass through
and learn from – but the bottom-line is, our DL remains unaddressed and
continues unabated.
It is very
interesting to watch, that on the one hand, all Western civilization is giving
up on itself – which is an alarming consequence of the fact, that, as of yet, individualism
hasn’t affirmed EL, the language, which is necessary, to be an individual – while,
on the other hand, millions of people are, seemingly, eager to acquire what
Western people have or at least, are trying to enrich themselves in every way
they see possible. Surely, they make good use of the democratic values, which
allows them to demand rights, like everyone else. Certainly, their birth-rates are
going to determine the future of the free world.
Although we
hear a lot about the great difference between the Western culture and the cultures
of these new-comers, the importance of so-called cultural differences has
always been exaggerated. All over the world, people, generally speaking, very
much want the same thing. However, people in the West and people from
elsewhere, pursue incredibly different agendas, since they engage, all the time,
in DL and seldom if ever in EL. And, if they have a few, brief moments of EL, it is not a conscious act, but a coincidence. Yet, these lucky moments are bound
to occur, because, in spite of the fact, that we deny this with our DL, all human
beings still want to feel safe, happy, peaceful and, yes, free of threat or
coercion.
Due to our common
conditioning history, we all, unconsciously, engage, day in day out, in deeply
problematic, unrealistic, superficial DL. Even though we have failed at it again
and again, even though we have we forgotten or never even acknowledged, the possibility,
the necessity, the importance of EL, we still want to have it, as it is the
natural, effortless expression of who we are, when we feel good. And, although DL
disconnects us from our experience, our experience is still there, waiting for our
EL, to fit with it. When our language fits with our experience, we will realize
our Language Enlightenment (LE).
I know I am
going back and forth between a lot of things, but hang in there, until it all
comes together. As I was saying, regardless of all our absurd beliefs, which –
how could it be otherwise? – of course, are
created and maintained by our DL, we are still trying to achieve a sense comfort, affluence, health, safety and peace. Although, understandably, we all claim to have truth
on our side, we don’t succeed, we can’t succeed in creating and prolonging our
happiness, because we don’t know, how to skillfully step out of our DL, so we
can have EL. Such an ability will only be acquired if we talk, first, with
ourselves and then, with each other, about the difference between our DL and
EL. We haven’t done that. It remains to be seen – and heard – if we are ever
going to do that. No matter what, I am already doing that and that is why I can
speak and write like this. After all, my EL is the language of freedom, and its
continuation is my LE.
Anyone who
reads this – I am really happy to notice, all of a sudden, many people are reading
my blog – can get a sense, my language is not beholden to any group and is only
true to who I am. However, I am a proud US citizen. I went through a legal
immigration process, when I immigrated in 1999 from the Netherlands to the
United States. To me, America is the country of individualism and my
contribution to America, is my EL and my LE. Of course, I am concerned about the fact,
that our borders are clearly not protected by my government anymore. By the
way, the same thing is happening – with a few exceptions – all over Europe and
in the Netherlands, my country of origin. When Western people – like myself – notice that their freedom
and culture is trampled, eroded, overtaken, disrespected and obliterated, by those,
who are illegally invading them, they should not want to have anything to do
with them. Let all of them take care of themselves. I mean this quite literally. People must get things in order where they are.
All you need
to know, is the difference between DL and EL, to be able to gain clarity about
the immense chaos, which is currently rapidly unfolding. Anyone who has understood this gigantic difference, doesn’t want to
have anything to do with anyone, who has DL, as DL is against our
individuality. You can only be yourself, if you can express yourself. Only if
you recognize and avoid all DL, will you be able to express your LE with your
EL. Once have acquired the language of your own individual freedom, you will happily,
effectively and bravely avoid everyone with DL, like the plague. EL is about being proud of your own
independence.
The American
Dream of freedom and prosperity has been exploited and continues to be taken
advantage of by many, because DL has remained the common way of dealing with language.
If we are truly a country of individuals, we would abandon our DL and have EL and permanently
leave behind all destructive behaviors, which were created and maintained by our DL.
Surely, we wouldn’t want to do any business, with anyone, who isn’t as
sympathetic to us, as we are to them. Right now, Western civilizations continue
to make deals with the devil, because they have failed to establish and celebrate EL, as the
language of individualism. In the name of commerce and trade, we are throwing
our values about individualism overboard and this goes on, for the sake of having oil,
weapons and products, which were produced by cheap labor, in non-democratic
countries, which are ruled by dictators and regimes.
Sadly, Western
culture has given up on itself, as it has never dealt with DL, which goes on
everywhere. Stated differently, the West has been living in a contradiction, because, supposedly, individual freedom is the ultimate, but, in reality, when it comes to how we actually use our
language, we are just like all those other countries, which are against the West. It
is hard to believe that this is true, as we assume, we are more advanced, but – to put
it squarely – there is no difference whatsoever, as far as speakers dominating the listeners.
All around
the world, the same foolish, primitive, unnatural DL is going on, in which
speakers force, intimidate, manipulate, distract, ignore and oppress the
listener. All DL-speakers insist, the listener must listen, and do as he or she
is told. They justify their authority
with their status in the social hierarchy of their society. All those, who have
power over others, tell them what to do and how to behave. This has always been
going on and it is still going on, as our DL was never properly addressed. In EL, nobody
has power over anyone. Since we talk without any fear or pressure, we always express our positive emotions. There is punishment in DL, if we don’t behave the
way we are told to, and this is why so much of our behavior is so problematic. Our ability to
avoid punishment, is a natural inclination, but it is also a huge problem, because
it creates problem behaviors, which will have to be stopped, if we
want to be happy. With EL, by contrast, we never have to stop or decrease any of our behavior,
as all our behavior is effective.