How,
How is it
possible, that I, my loving wife Bonnie and my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, are
the only three individuals in the world, who recognize the beauty of having Embodied
Language (EL)? It is because we know the great difference between dealing with
our language, according to our conditioning history and using our own language
to be free. Perhaps, I should say, we know the great secret, as nobody has a
clue, it is, not the freedom of speech, which matters, but our own speech about
our own freedom. Freedom isn’t some hypothetical concept, you either have it or
you don’t. You can’t be free with Disembodied Language (DL). To be free, you must
move beyond your conditioning history, which is always based on the language of
others and, acknowledge, you have your own language, even if others, apparently,
don’t want to know about it. Everyone, who mechanically, unconsciously, unintelligently and cowardly engages
in DL, still has the chance, to turn their life around.
How are you going
to learn about your own EL? The only know-how you need, is in my writing. All
you need to do, is speak out loud, alone, with yourself and listen to the sound
of your voice. When you read and understand my blog, you are going to try it
out and experiment with it. You can hear it in your own voice, if you have DL
or EL. How can you keep denying, you keep having DL? This is our common way of
dealing with our language. Everyone does it, as we were all conditioned to do
this. We became literate due to others, but how we use language, depends on how
we explain, to ourselves, our own experience of the consequences of our
language.
How much
longer can you afford to waste your time and energy on superficial crap? Your
life, right now, is such a mess, because your own language doesn’t get any of
your attention. It isn’t true, you suppress EL, as you don’t even know how to
have it. If you knew how to have EL, you would already have it, because it gives
you better outcomes than your usual DL. How can you accept that your life is a
constant struggle? How can you expect happiness, health and satisfaction, if
your language is always about conflict, negativity and stress? You are as confused
and distracted as you are, because you religiously believe, that the psychological
prison of your DL is your only choice. Basically, your way of dealing with language
determines, you are not free.
So, you
might ask yourself: how are you doing? I am not asking you to do this. You are
asking yourself. Of course, you are going to say, I’m fine, everything is fine,
but you are not fine, nothing is fine in your life and nothing can ever be fine
with your stupid DL. If you say this to yourself, you hear your own dreadful sound
of it. If you are really so fine, why don’t you sound fine? You don’t sound
fine at all, admit it. You sound anxious, annoyed or depressed. You don’t like
hearing yourself. How is it possible, that listening to yourself overwhelms you
with self-loathing? Why are you so incredibly disgusted with and so viciously judgmental
about yourself? If you start to talk with yourself, out loud, alone, about how
you really feel about yourself, you can’t help, but recognize the nasty consequences
of your daily involvement in DL.
How do you
sound, when you have what you want or when you are totally at ease? Why doesn’t
it last? Although you believe, you are trying to get what you want, you never
seem to really have it. You just keep running for something else. You never achieve
a real sense of satisfaction. What you want is taken away from you. May be,
briefly, you have it and then, it is gone again and you keep chasing the
dragon. Yes, you are addicted to the drama and turmoil of your DL and unless
you view your repeated participation in DL, as having a so-called high, you
aren’t going to kick the habit. DL is about hype and you are a slave to it. You
can’t turn off any of your many bad habits, because your sneaky DL causes and
maintains them.
How can you
have a loving, honest relationship, if your common way of talking disconnects you
from your own experience? This is what happens in DL. Also, you falsely believe,
you have thoughts in your head. You erroneously believe, you can have inner conversations with yourself, in your so-called
mind, while in reality, you never really talk with yourself, as you are only
having some fantasy about what it is like to be yourself and to be free. All
your so-called ideas about yourself aren’t true, as they reflect your almost
permanent involvement in DL. When you, by chance, engage in a brief moment of
EL, you don’t have any ideas about yourself, as your language just flows
naturally. The newness, effortlessness and simplicity of your kind, meaningful,
caring EL, stands in such a stark contrast to the rehearsed, boring, bombastic,
self-defeating, grandiose bullshit, you force on yourself and others with your rigid
DL.
How can our
sense of wonder, innocence, creativity, wellbeing, spontaneity, aliveness and
humanity, be restored in our lives, if our insensitive, habitual language makes
it seem as if it isn’t important? Many people, these days, make a big deal about
how they like others to talk with them. However, they fail to pay attention, to
how they talk with themselves or rather, how they don’t talk with themselves, as they engage, like everyone else – albeit in the name of equity, diversity and
inclusion – in DL. How we talk with and, therefore, deal with others, is only
going to change, if we finally begin to talk with ourselves. The quintessential
issue of our time is not how we communicate with each other – as that has been
proven to be an utterly unproductive topic – but whether we will at long last talk
with ourselves, because we truly find that talking with ourselves, is more
important than talking with others. When we talk with ourselves, it doesn’t matter
how we talk with ourselves, as we will find our own language.
During EL,
everything you say or write has meaning. It is like that and it can be like
that, as there is no you, inside of you, who does what you do, who experiences
what you do. In other words, there is just your language, which is your verbal
behavior. The fact that you enjoy EL so much, is because there is no you, who
enjoys anything, but there is only the experience of joy. The issue of identity
is completely transformed in EL in which you are, so to speak, one with your own
behavior. As stated, there absolutely is no one, to be one with one’s own
behavior. This formulation of our Language Enlightenment (LE) is unavoidable. The
bottom-line is: in DL, we suffer so much, because we use our language
incorrectly.