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How is it possible, that I, my loving wife Bonnie and my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, are the only three individuals in the world, who recognize the beauty of having Embodied Language (EL)? It is because we know the great difference between dealing with our language, according to our conditioning history and using our own language to be free. Perhaps, I should say, we know the great secret, as nobody has a clue, it is, not the freedom of speech, which matters, but our own speech about our own freedom. Freedom isn’t some hypothetical concept, you either have it or you don’t. You can’t be free with Disembodied Language (DL). To be free, you must move beyond your conditioning history, which is always based on the language of others and, acknowledge, you have your own language, even if others, apparently, don’t want to know about it. Everyone, who mechanically,  unconsciously, unintelligently and cowardly engages in DL, still has the chance, to turn their life around.

 

How are you going to learn about your own EL? The only know-how you need, is in my writing. All you need to do, is speak out loud, alone, with yourself and listen to the sound of your voice. When you read and understand my blog, you are going to try it out and experiment with it. You can hear it in your own voice, if you have DL or EL. How can you keep denying, you keep having DL? This is our common way of dealing with our language. Everyone does it, as we were all conditioned to do this. We became literate due to others, but how we use language, depends on how we explain, to ourselves, our own experience of the consequences of our language.

 

How much longer can you afford to waste your time and energy on superficial crap? Your life, right now, is such a mess, because your own language doesn’t get any of your attention. It isn’t true, you suppress EL, as you don’t even know how to have it. If you knew how to have EL, you would already have it, because it gives you better outcomes than your usual DL. How can you accept that your life is a constant struggle? How can you expect happiness, health and satisfaction, if your language is always about conflict, negativity and stress? You are as confused and distracted as you are, because you religiously believe, that the psychological prison of your DL is your only choice. Basically, your way of dealing with language determines, you are not free.

 

So, you might ask yourself: how are you doing? I am not asking you to do this. You are asking yourself. Of course, you are going to say, I’m fine, everything is fine, but you are not fine, nothing is fine in your life and nothing can ever be fine with your stupid DL. If you say this to yourself, you hear your own dreadful sound of it. If you are really so fine, why don’t you sound fine? You don’t sound fine at all, admit it. You sound anxious, annoyed or depressed. You don’t like hearing yourself. How is it possible, that listening to yourself overwhelms you with self-loathing? Why are you so incredibly disgusted with and so viciously judgmental about yourself? If you start to talk with yourself, out loud, alone, about how you really feel about yourself, you can’t help, but recognize the nasty consequences of your daily involvement in DL.  

 

How do you sound, when you have what you want or when you are totally at ease? Why doesn’t it last? Although you believe, you are trying to get what you want, you never seem to really have it. You just keep running for something else. You never achieve a real sense of satisfaction. What you want is taken away from you. May be, briefly, you have it and then, it is gone again and you keep chasing the dragon. Yes, you are addicted to the drama and turmoil of your DL and unless you view your repeated participation in DL, as having a so-called high, you aren’t going to kick the habit. DL is about hype and you are a slave to it. You can’t turn off any of your many bad habits, because your sneaky DL causes and maintains them.

 

How can you have a loving, honest relationship, if your common way of talking disconnects you from your own experience? This is what happens in DL. Also, you falsely believe, you have thoughts in your head. You erroneously believe, you can have inner  conversations with yourself, in your so-called mind, while in reality, you never really talk with yourself, as you are only having some fantasy about what it is like to be yourself and to be free. All your so-called ideas about yourself aren’t true, as they reflect your almost permanent involvement in DL. When you, by chance, engage in a brief moment of EL, you don’t have any ideas about yourself, as your language just flows naturally. The newness, effortlessness and simplicity of your kind, meaningful, caring EL, stands in such a stark contrast to the rehearsed, boring, bombastic, self-defeating, grandiose bullshit, you force on yourself and others with your rigid DL.

 

How can our sense of wonder, innocence, creativity, wellbeing, spontaneity, aliveness and humanity, be restored in our lives, if our insensitive, habitual language makes it seem as if it isn’t important? Many people, these days, make a big deal about how they like others to talk with them. However, they fail to pay attention, to how they talk with themselves or rather, how they don’t talk with themselves, as they engage, like everyone else – albeit in the name of equity, diversity and inclusion – in DL. How we talk with and, therefore, deal with others, is only going to change, if we finally begin to talk with ourselves. The quintessential issue of our time is not how we communicate with each other – as that has been proven to be an utterly unproductive topic – but whether we will at long last talk with ourselves, because we truly find that talking with ourselves, is more important than talking with others. When we talk with ourselves, it doesn’t matter how we talk with ourselves, as we will find our own language.        

 

During EL, everything you say or write has meaning. It is like that and it can be like that, as there is no you, inside of you, who does what you do, who experiences what you do. In other words, there is just your language, which is your verbal behavior. The fact that you enjoy EL so much, is because there is no you, who enjoys anything, but there is only the experience of joy. The issue of identity is completely transformed in EL in which you are, so to speak, one with your own behavior. As stated, there absolutely is no one, to be one with one’s own behavior. This formulation of our Language Enlightenment (LE) is unavoidable. The bottom-line is: in DL, we suffer so much, because we use our language incorrectly.