Meritocracy,

 

A meritocracy is a system that is based on merit,  intelligence or talent, but not on other factors, such as race, gender, popularity or wealth. Education is a meritocracy by function, as only those, who had the highest test scores graduate cum laude, with praise, magna cum laude, with great praise or summa cum laude, with the highest honor. Although I have never achieved my AA-Degree, BA-Degree, my MA-Degree or my MS-Degree with such academic distinction, in the light of what is happening in the world today, I find, that my formulation of what I would call the Psychology of Language – consisting of our Disembodied Language (DL), our Embodied Language (EL) and our Language Enlightenment (LE) – deserves, not only a Ph.D., the highest form of academic recognition, but also the summa cum laude for my exceptional achievement.

 

Nowadays, meritocracy is considered to be a form of white supremacy, as arrogant, woke-tenured professors, as well as the overpaid-administrators of universities and colleges, tell their students that awarding them for excellence and accomplishment is very wrong, because, presumably, it has something to do with being in favor of a white, superior, privileged race, which wants to dominate society, at the exclusion or detriment of other racial or ethnic groups. Yes, it doesn’t even matter anymore, whether you happen to be a brilliant Asian student, with 4.64 GPA, because now, you too, are seen as a threat to those victims, who play the race-card, who didn’t do as well as you did and, so you can’t enroll in any of our prestigious institutions or get certain jobs, as it would hurt someone’s phony feelings. This surreal, disastrous and, unfortunately, fast-spreading development, is the inevitable outcome of our involvement in DL.

 

What is most astonishing about the adversaries of meritocracy, is that, according to them, meritocracy is racist, because not everyone has the same access to opportunity. However, from my point of view – as someone, who is capable of expressing and enjoying his LE with his EL, in spite of the problematic truth, that almost everyone engages in DL – everyone has equal access to EL, but nobody uses this possibility. Regardless how powerful, well-educated, popular or talented anyone may be, nobody is better, nobody has a greater ability, to achieve EL than anyone else.  

 

All levels of power, in the United States, as well as everywhere else, around the world – government, finance, education, news, religion, popular culture – are, and have always been, in the hands of those who engage in DL. In other words, right-wing and left-wing voters, communists and capitalists, but also, the oppressors as well the oppressed, the educated and the uneducated, those who excel, who, presumably, have great merit, and those who, supposedly, never achieved anything of any importance have one thing in common, which is DL. We have never even talked about this, because it takes an exceptionally talented, courageous and articulate person, like me, to address this humungous issue. I do agree somewhat with the enemies of meritocracy, as my achievement was never acknowledged by anyone of any importance in academia. Yet, I don’t view myself as a victim, but as a victor, because the very notion of meritocracy has nothing to do with DL, as it derived from our few, brief, sane, realistic moments of EL.

 

Why do we only experience rare moments of verbal excellence? It is because our DL seldom if ever stops and because EL can only happen, after our DL has been stopped. Usually, our DL is stopped, if we are enthralled with someone’s ability to perform this or that way. We all get carried away by actors, by athletes, by writers, by public speakers, just to name a few, but we never become fully engaged in our own language, because threatening, distracting and, thus, negative feelings, prevent us from embodying our language. We only engage in EL, if we feel safe to do so, when we are alone and speak out loud with ourselves and calmly listen to ourselves. Our EL is not a debate, an argument, a struggle, to get the attention from some audience, but a revelation of our nature, that is, the full expression of our LE.

 

Meritocracy is not, as people, who haven’t explored the great difference between DL and EL, are inclined to believe, a conservative belief, but a consequence of the natural order of things. Only the most skilled, the most capable, the most knowledgeable, the most experienced and the happiest, should lead the way in every society, but we all know this is not the case, because we all, unknowingly, engage in DL. Until now, meritocracy hasn’t resulted in EL, but if I get a chance, to present the difference between DL and EL, it will be very clear, that EL, is meritocratic, as it would lift up everyone, to a better way of life.  

 

The importance of meritocracy – of the belief that we should only be rewarded or held in high esteem for our ability and skill, to produce something beneficial, useful, helpful or needed – is currently abandoned, not because people don’t have equal opportunity, but, precisely, because people do have equal opportunity, to engage in EL, while everyone,  mechanically, stubbornly, superficially, still engages in DL. Stated differently, with regard to meritocracy, we have yet to talk the talk and walk the walk. We have never spoken EL, the language of meritocracy.

 

If we, because of my insistence, begin to finally have EL, it will be very clear, it is always only in DL, that a person’s actions contradict what he or she is saying. This difference between what someone is saying and doing, is based on the lie – which is created and maintained by our DL – that saying isn’t action. In DL, what we say is hot air, which signifies in-action, posturing and pretending. Phrases like, all bark and no bite, putting one’s money where one’s mouth is or, the famous, actions speak louder than words, are references to our DL, which is our common way of talking, which determines, how we deal with our  language, as if it isn’t action. My blog, signifies my action regarding my understanding about DL and EL, which, of course, is the expression of my LE. If you would let me tell you about it, I will show it to you.   

 

Meritocracy is common sense, in that it emphasizes the idea, that success should be earned through one’s own efforts and abilities. However, there is a great difference in success, as expressed by our own personal experiences and, success, in terms of how others view, agree with, praise, and validate our actions. Moreover, due to our DL, we are incapable of acknowledging each other’s personal success and that is why we overemphasize success, in terms of whether others approve of our actions. Also, with your DL, you robotically, involuntarily, necessarily disapprove of my success, which, of course, is my LE. Meritocracy – success, according to institutional approval, that is, in the eyes of others – based on DL, happened always at the expense of our personal success, but meritocracy, which is based on our own individual experience, with EL, is a new possibility.           

 

Important,

 

Whatever you see, read or hear about or get all worked up about – on TV, on social media, in sports, on the radio, in newspapers, in movies, in podcasts, in shows, in videos, in books, in magazines, but also, in bars, in stores, in schools, in colleges, on cruise ships, in universities, in research-institutions, in churches, in synagogues, in mosques, in bars, in restaurants, in theaters, in governments or on the satellites – sells, and, supposedly, is very important, but I want those, who read this text, to consider, that what I say is very important. However, I am not important, because of you or because of someone else, but because of myself. I matter immensely to myself and you would also matter enormously to yourself, if you had Embodied Language (EL).

 

Although you always make it seem – in one way or another – as if you are important, your way of dealing with language indicates this is not the case. Like everyone, you mainly engage in Disembodied Language (DL). You can never say or experience anything new and you repeat the same pattern, the same habit, the same belief, the same unintelligent, meaningless nonsense, until you die. You’ve got your priorities wrong and what is now important to you, would be irrelevant, once you engaged in EL.

 

In this writing, I am addressing an important matter. I know very well that nobody talks about the most important issue of our lives. The difference between DL and EL, only matters to individuals, who dare to be more important to themselves, than to others. In DL, you unconsciously make others more important than you. Also, you make your belief, your identity, your status, your job, your hatred, your fears, your anxiety, your jealousy, your confusion, your truth, your art, your philosophy, your theory, your bicycle, your car, your news, your tits, your eyelashes, your tattoos, your muscles, your guns, your genitals, your ass, your nails, your blue hair, your brand, your torn jeans or your politics more important than yourself.

 

Presumably, the most important thing is being alive, but, apparently, being alive is not important enough for you, to dissolve your fear of death. Yes, you have survived, you have found your way in the darkness, you make such good use of the time you have been gifted, you do what you can, to be, to stay healthy, in body and mind, you follow your own spiritual path and, one day, you are going to achieve your highest potential. However, something is always bothering you, something is missing. You are so important and yet, your view of yourself is negative. You don’t care about yourself and refuse to admit this is important.

 

Many companies will have you believe that they value accountability and credibility. By all accounts, most people would agree, that it is very important, to be trustworthy, believable and responsible. It is only in EL, however, that you can finally admit, to yourself, that you don’t listen to yourself, that you don’t trust yourself, that you don’t believe yourself, that you don’t care about yourself, because you are simply not important to yourself. Admitting that you are not important to yourself is absolutely needed, before you can truly become important to yourself. I can always tell that people, who act as if they are important, are never important to themselves.

 

When you are important to yourself, you will switch from DL to EL and you want to keep going with your EL. Certainly, anyone whose own language becomes important to himself or to herself, attains Language Enlightenment (LE). With EL, we become credible,   accountable and responsible, not towards others, but to ourselves. We are so important to ourselves, that we are in charge of our own language. This is our LE, because our EL is the only way to express who we are. Who we are is so important, that we abandon our history of conditioning with DL and do whatever it takes, to be able to continue our EL.

 

I have always felt a sense of disdain towards anyone who was considered to be important by everyone. I understand why this is so, because I am really more important, than any of these attention-grabbers. In DL, what is important, is unimportant in EL. EL isn’t about being important, so that others revere us and want to hear us or be like us, but it is about being important to who we really are, by being authentic with our language, by hearing ourselves, validating, accepting, understanding and loving ourselves. I am not in need of fame, but if people knew, how their EL would make them feel important, they would talk with me and listen to me, because I reinforce EL. I  enjoy talking with anyone who has EL, as it makes us feel so important, that we celebrate our LE together.                

 Here again is the unsurpassed, beautiful writing of my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, who, like me, expresses her own Embodied Language (BT), because she, like me, deals with her language from her Language Enlightenment (TV). It is very sad, so few people take note of this and respond positively to it, because BT is really the only future of all mankind, while dumb, blunt, unconscious Disembodied Language (OT) obviously means our downfall. Everyone has the right to BT from TV. Let us hear from you...I just put her Dutch writing through Google translate and didn't edit...and this marvelous text came out in English...

The right.
The right to speak, to dare to be with yourself, in which unfolding in listening to yourself, will find a new beginning, in your own language and speaking, you can discover that the right you no longer thought you had, is at your feet lies and only has to bow to yourself. To be able to listen to what your truth is, in the blossoming of your own language, which can only arise in the benevolent experience, that your own sound has the wealth, to apparently regain your own right , in whatever you read about yourself.
The right to speak has nothing to do with what someone else thinks, but by continuing to experience what you yourself think, you can feel the change in the words you speak, you can experience more and more than what you read and the right of speaking is going to discover, from the origin, where only you could experience that.
That is the right you have, to be able to discover that you could use the sound you have in the language that then becomes your own, in the unfolding of your own language. The sole right, without being silent, without the attention from someone else suddenly comes to you and you can then start to feel that you can cherish the right you have.
And it no longer becomes a right, but a collection in the attention you give, in being able to tell what you had forgotten to tell yourself, in the attention it asked for, in the nourishment it has, in which the energy can divide itself into the ennobled experience, and can remain with yourself in it.
The right to speak in who you are, often hangs floating between conversations with someone else, that is why, what I say again and again, there is no thinking in the act of writing, but can allow it to arise, in the moment from your own speaking and ability to experience in what you say, that the right that you have found can change into a beautiful flow, where the energy that you can feel, that in the creation of writing and speaking you have found all the right again.

Het recht.

 Hier is wederom het onovertroffen, prachtige schrijven van AnnaMieke, die, net als ik, haar eigen Belichaamde Taal (BT) verwoordt, omdat ook zij, net als ik, vanuit haar Taal Verlichting (TV) met haar taal om gaat. Het is vooralsnog onvoorstelbaar, dat zo weinig mensen hier kennis van nemen en hierop positief reageren, want BT is de toekomst van de gehele mensheid, terwijl Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) uiteraard onze ondergang betekent. Iedereen heeft vanuit TV, het recht op BT. Laat toch eens wat van u horen... 

Het recht.

Het recht van spreken,met jezelf te durven zijn, waarin het ontvouwen in het luisteren naar jezelf, een nieuw begin zal gaan vinden, in eigen taal en spreken, kan gaan ontdekken dat het recht wat je niet meer dacht te hebben, voor je voeten ligt en alleen hoeft te buigen naar jezelf .Te kunnen luisteren wat jou waarheid is, in het ontluiken van eigen taal, die alleen kan ontstaan in het welwillend ervaren, dat eigen klank de weelde heeft, om naar het schijnt je eigen recht terug te halen, in wat je van jezelf ook leest.
Het recht van spreken heeft niets te maken in wat een ander vindt,maar door te blijven ervaren in wat je zelf ook vindt,de omslag kan voelen in de woorden die je spreekt,steeds meer kan gaan ervaren, dan wat je leest en het recht van spreken gaat ontdekken, vanuit het ontstaan, waar alleen jij dat zou kunnen ervaren.
Dat is het recht wat je hebt, om te kunnen ontdekken, dat de klank die je hebt, zo zou kunnen gebruiken in de taal die dan eigen wordt, in het ontvouwen van je eigen taal.Het alleen recht, zonder te zwijgen,zonder de aandacht van een ander, plots tot je komt en dan kan gaan voelen, dat het recht wat je hebt ,kan gaan koesteren.
En het dan geen recht meer wordt, maar een verzameling in de aandacht die je geeft, in het kunnen vertellen, dat wat je was vergeten om aan jezelf te mogen vertellen, in de aandacht die het vroeg,om de voeding die het heeft, waarin de energie zich kan verdelen in het veredelde beleven,en daarin kan blijven bij jezelf.
Het recht van spreken in wie je bent,hangt vaak te zweven tussen de gesprekken met een ander, is het daarom,wat ik  ook steeds weer zeg,dat er geen denken is in de handeling van schrijven,maar kan laten ontstaan, in het moment van eigen spreken en kunnen ervaren in wat je zegt, dat het recht wat je heb gevonden kan veranderen in een mooie stroom,waar de energie, die je kunt gaan voelen, dat in het ontstaan van schrijven en spreken alle recht weer hebt terug gevonden.

 

Precies,

 

Ik weet precies wat ik wil doen en twijfel niet aan mijn capaciteiten. Ik zal je er later meer over vertellen, maar eerst wil ik iets zeggen over wat ik andere mensen elke dag hoor en zie doen. Met de meeste mensen ben ik niet bepaald beste vrienden, omdat ik mijn leven niet oppervlakkig wil leiden, zoals de meeste mensen gewoonlijk doen. Simpel gezegd: ik doe niet wat mensen mij zeggen te doen.

 

Als ik iets wil doen, weet ik dat ik het kan, maar als ik het niet wil doen, kan ik het niet doen, wil ik het niet doen en doe ik het ook niet. Als gevolg van onbewuste Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) doen de meeste mensen echter dingen die ze niet willen. Wat ze doen, is geen bewuste handeling, dus ervaren ze weerstand, strijd, angst en ongerustheid, terwijl ze doen wat ze doen. Eigenlijk willen ze niet doen wat ze doen, maar ze voelen zich op de een of andere manier verplicht om te doen, wat ze niet willen doen.

 

De meeste mensen pushen zichzelf, dwingen zichzelf, om het beter te doen en houden, met veel kunst en vliegwerk, de leugen in stand – die hen uiteraard door anderen werd verteld – dat ze hun leven zijn aan het verbeteren, maar ze besteden nooit aandacht, aan wat ze nou eigenlijk werkelijk zelf echt willen. Indien ze dat zouden doen, dan zijn twee dingen nodig: 1) ze moeten hun OT horen, herkennen en stoppen en 2) ze moeten heel rustig hardop met zichzelf spreken en naar zichzelf gaan luisteren, om hun eigen Belichaamde Taal (BT) te gaan begrijpen en om ernaar te gaan handelen, waarmee ze eindelijk waarheidsgetrouw naar zichzelf kunnen zijn en voor zichzelf duidelijk kunnen maken wat ze willen en wat ze niet willen.

 

Wat doen mensen, als hun OT bijna nooit stopt en hun BT slechts heel kort en per ongeluk gebeurt? Ze kunnen nooit ergens totaal in zijn, omdat ze altijd doen wat ze doen, uit angst om gestraft te worden. Hoewel ze deze angst misschien kunnen maskeren met ambitie, passie, moraal of hun geloof in een hogere macht, is hun leven één grote strijd. Ze doen hun best, maar doen niet wat ze willen doen. Ze vechten, maken ruzie, klagen en eisen, omdat ze eeuwig ontevreden, rusteloos of gefrustreerd zijn.

 

Als je wist wat je wilde doen, zou er geen strijd zijn en zou je gelukkig zijn. Je zou het gewoon doen wat je wilde doen – wat er ook voor nodig was – omdat je precies wist wat je wilde. Ik slaag er altijd in om te doen wat ik wil. Bovendien doe ik het, omdat ik het wil. In tegenstelling tot jou, heb ik met mijn BT ontdekt, dat ik kan doen wat ik wil doen, en daarom hoef ik niet te doen, wat ik niet wil doen. Natuurlijk probeerde ik ook te doen wat ik niet wilde doen – omdat ik, net als iedereen, geconditioneerd was met OT ​​– en als gevolg daarvan had ik altijd last van mijn eigen daden en zat ik mezelf in de weg. Ik faalde dus, omdat ik probeerde te doen wat mij was opgedragen. Ik heb eigenlijk nooit iets geleerd van die zogenaamde feedback die ik kreeg over mijn gedrag, dat altijd beneden de maat werd bevonden. Ik weet nu precies waarom ik gefaald heb: met onze OT geven we elkaar altijd alleen negatieve feedback. Ik ben daar allergisch voor en haaktte daardoor snel af. Ongeacht onze goede bedoelingen, hebben we elkaar en onszelf vernederd, gestraft en mishandeld omdat we niet deden wat ons werd opgedragen. Ik werd echter succesvol, zodra ik deed wat ik wilde.

 

Niemand heeft mij ooit verteld, dat ik precies moet zeggen of opschrijven wat ik wil doen of hoe ik wil zijn, maar met mijn BT, doe ik dit elke dag met grote  vreugde en zonder enige moeite. Toch is het niet mijn zogenaamde wil, om te doen wat ik wil doen, wat mij doet doen wat ik wil doen. Het is ook niet mijn motivatie, mijn bewustzijn, mijn overtuiging, mijn vertrouwen of mijn begrip, maar mijn BT, die mij doet doen wat ik doe. Ik spoor mezelf nooit aan en ik vertel mezelf nooit wat ik moet doen, maar ik ben blij dat ik altijd aan mezelf kan zeggen, wat ik precies kan en wil doen.

 

Ik hoef mezelf niet te vertellen, om harder mijn best te doen, niet op te geven, in mezelf te geloven of om te willen, wat ik zogenaamd moet doen. Ik zeg heel  simpelweg wat ik wil en ik doe het. Ik doe altijd wat ik wil. Ik kan altijd doen wat ik wil en er is geen angst, stress of spanning. Met BT gaat alles heel natuurlijk, omdat ik precies weet wie ik ben. Ik doe echter niet wat ik doe, omdat ik zelfkennis heb. Mijn vermogen om mezelf te kennen, is om met mezelf te praten en mezelf toe te staan, te doen wat ik kan en wil doen. Ik ben niet zoals anderen, die proberen te doen wat ze niet willen. Hoewel ik dat, als jij, met OT, vroeger ook heb gedaan, doe ik dat niet meer.

 

Natuurlijk kan ik met mezelf praten, op elke manier die ik wil en kan. Ik kan niet in het Chinees spreken of schrijven, dus ik wil niet in het Chinees spreken of schrijven. Ik kan echter wel Engels of Nederlands spreken of schrijven, dus ik kan en wil in deze talen spreken en schrijven. Als mijn omstandigheden zouden veranderen, zou ik misschien een andere taal kunnen leren, maar ik zie zo’n verandering niet gebeuren. Integendeel, met mijn BT kan ik mij nu precies concentreren op datgene waartoe ik in staat ben en dat is voldoende.

 

Ik zeg wat ik wil zeggen en ik maak me geen zorgen over wat ik niet wil zeggen. Het is voor mij nooit nodig, om te zeggen wat ik niet wil zeggen of om te doen wat ik niet wil doen. Het is inderdaad precies mijn BT, die mij dit duidelijk maakte, aangezien mijn conditionering met OT ervoor zorgde, dat ik dingen deed en wilde, die ik niet wou, maar ook niet kon doen. Interessant genoeg werd ik in mijn laatste baan, aangenomen op voorwaarde, dat ik alleen zou doen, waar ik me prettig bij voelde. Ik vond het heel fijn werk wat ik deed – als bezorger -  en twee jaar lang ging alles goed. Dit was nog niet eerder zo dat ik zo genoot van wat ik deed. Ik deed precies wat ik graag wilde en ik was heel productief.

 

Ironisch genoeg heeft mijn vervelende, angstige, haatdragende baas – sinds andere mensen hun baan verlieten en drie keer op rij een pas opnieuw aangenomen en omgeschoold persoon de baan weer verliet – mij ertoe aangezet, om dingen te doen waar ik me niet prettig bij voelde. Ik had het gevoel, dat ik het niet kon en daarom wilde ik het  niet doen. Ze wilde – en eistte – dat ik bestellingen van de ongeduldige klanten telefonisch en aan de balie zou aannemen, het geld zou afhandelen dat ze betaalden en aan de kassa werken, de hele dag de computer zou bedienen, met al deze codes, cijfers, programma’s en wachtwoorden, maar ik kon het niet en wilde het niet. Toen ik haar er echter aan herinnerde, dat ze me had aangenomen op de voorwaarde, dat ik alleen zou doen waar ik me prettig bij voelde, werd ze woest en ontkende ze dat ze dat ooit had gezegd, maar ik stond erop dat ze het eerst aan mijn vrouw had verteld, die het vervolgens weer aan mij had verteld. Dus de baan kwam ten einde, omdat ze zich niet hield aan wat ze aan mij had beloofd. In deze actieve baan deed ik veel meer dan ik dacht, en ik vond het fijn, om de hele dag bezig te zijn, maar toen mijn baas me eenmaal wilde vervangen, wist ik dat mijn tijd om was. Het was een goede baan, zolang het duurde.

 

Mijn voormalige krengige, bemoeierige baas bleef er maar op aandringen, dat ik uit mijn comfortzone zou moeten komen. Ze rechtvaardigde zichzelf door herhaaldelijk te zeggen, dat zij en anderen ook uit hun comfortzone moesten komen, of ze dat nu leuk vonden of niet. Met OT, zijn we altijd bezig om uit onze zogenaamde comfortzone te komen, maar met BT blijven we er als het ware lekker in zitten. Toch weten we bij OT niet echt waar wij ons prettig bij voelen. En, er bestaat natuurlijk niet zoiets als een comfortzone, omdat we nou eenmaal onszelf zijn of niet, maar met OT wordt dit nooit duidelijk. Het was onmogelijk hierover te praten. Ze bleef maar zeuren en behandelde me feitelijk heel negatief, vanwege wie ik ben. Ik ben onlangs vijfenzestig geworden en ik voel me meer op mijn gemak om mezelf te zijn dan ooit tevoren, maar ze liet me niet met rust.

 

Ik ben er zeker van, dat ik wel een andere actieve, eenvoudige, leuke pensioenbaan zal gaan vinden, die ik graag doe en wil doen. Deze keer is het niet iemand anders, die mij uitnodigt om alleen te doen waar ik mij prettig bij voel, maar ben ik het, die beslist of de baan geschikt voor mij is. Ik deed laatst een test voor postbode, maar kwam erachter, dat deze stressbaan duidelijk niets voor mij was. Ik hou van een fysieke, ongecompliceerde baan, zonder computer- of papierwerk. Dit schrijven en mijn spreken zullen mij begeleiden mij naar deze nieuwe baan. Ondertussen geniet ik van de vrije tijd, die ik nu heb, om precies te doen wat ik wil en kan.

 

Exactly,

 

I know exactly what I want to do and I have no doubt about my abilities. I will tell you about it later, but first, I want to say something, about what I hear and see other people do every day. I am not exactly best friends with most people, as I don’t want to live my life superficially, like most people usually do. Simply stated, I don’t do what people tell me to do.   

 

If I want to do something, I know, I can do it, but if I don’t want to do it, I can’t do it, I don’t want to do it and I don’t do it. Due to unconscious Disembodied Language (DL), however, most people do things, they don’t want. What they do, is not a conscious act, so, they experience resistance, struggle, fear and anxiety, while they do what they do. Actually, they do not want to do, what they do, but they feel obligated to do, what they don’t want to do.

 

Most people push themselves, force themselves to do better and, somehow, keep the lie going – which, of course, they were told by others – that they are improving their lives, but they never pay attention to what they really want, as that would require two things: 1) they must recognize and stop their DL and 2) they must calmly speak out loud with themselves and listen to themselves, to understand and act on their own Embodied Language (EL), with which they can finally be truthful and clear to themselves about what they want and about what they don’t want.  

 

What exactly do people do, whose DL almost never stops and whose EL only happens very briefly and accidentally? They can never be total in anything, because they do what they do, out of fear of being punished. While they may be able to mask this fear with ambition, passion, morals or their belief in some higher power, their lives are one big struggle. They try harder, but they don’t do what they want to do. They fight, argue, complain and demand, as they are eternally dissatisfied, restless or frustrated.

 

If you knew, what you wanted to do, there wouldn’t be any struggle. You would just do it – whatever it took – because you knew exactly what you wanted.  I always succeed in doing what I want. Moreover, I do it, because I want to. Unlike you, I’ve discovered with my EL, that I can do what I want to do, and, therefore, I don’t need to do, what I don’t want to do. Of course, I too was trying to do what I didn’t want to do – as I was, just like everyone else, also conditioned by DL – and, consequently, I was always troubled by my own actions. I failed, because I was trying to do as I was told. I have never learned anything from the so-called feedback, I received for my behavior. I now know exactly why I have failed: With our DL, we always give each other negative feedback. Regardless of our good intentions, we have humiliated, punished and abused each other as well as ourselves for not doing as we were told. I became successful, once I did what I wanted to do.

 

Nobody ever told me, to say or write down, exactly what I want to do or how I want to be, but with my EL, I do this, joyfully – and without any effort – each day. Yet, my so-called will, to do what I want to do, is not what makes me do what I want to do. It is also not my motivation, my consciousness, my belief, my  confidence or my understanding, but my EL, which makes me do what I do. I never urge myself or tell myself, what I have to do, but am happy, to be able to say to myself, exactly, what I can and want to do.

 

I don’t need to tell myself, to try harder, not give up,  believe in myself or want, what I, supposedly, need to do, as I only simply say, what I want and I do it. I always do what I want. I always can do what I want and there is no fear, stress or tension at all, as with EL, it comes natural to me, because I know, exactly, who I am. However, I don’t do what I do, because I have self-knowledge. My ability to know myself, is to talk with myself and to allow myself, to do what I can do and want to do. I am not like others, trying to do what I don’t want. Although I have, like you, with DL, done all that, I don’t do that anymore.

 

Of course, I can talk with myself, in any way I want to and am capable of. I am incapable of speaking or writing in Chinese, so I don’t want to speak or write in Chinese. I am, however, capable of speaking or writing in English or Dutch, so I can and want to speak and write in these languages. If there would be a change of circumstance, perhaps, I could learn another language, but I don’t see any such change occurring. To the contrary, with my EL, I can focus exactly on what I am capable of and that is enough.

 

I say what I want to say and don’t worry about what I don’t want to say. There is never a need for me to say, what I don’t want to say or to do what I don’t want to do. Indeed, it is exactly my EL, which made this clear to me, as my conditioning with DL, made me do and want things, I didn’t like and couldn’t do. Interestingly, in my last job, as a delivery driver, I was hired, on the condition, that I would only do what I was comfortable with. I really liked what I did and for a while, everything went well. This never before occurred. I was exactly doing what I liked to do, and I felt very productive. Ironically, my nasty, anxious, hateful boss – since other people left their job and three times in a row, a newly rehired and retrained person, left the job again – pushed me, to do things, I didn’t feel comfortable doing and I felt I couldn’t do and, therefore, I didn’t want to do them. She wanted – and expected – me, to take the impatient customers’ orders, deal with the money they paid and work behind the counter, to operate the computer, the whole day, with all these codes, numbers, programs and passwords, but it was clear, I couldn’t do it. When I reminded her, that she hired me on the condition, I would only do what I was comfortable with, she denied she ever said that, but I insisted, she had first told my wife, who then had told me. So, the job came to an end, because she was infuriated, I stuck to what she had promised. In this physically active job, I did much more than I believed I would, and I enjoyed being busy the whole day, but once my boss wanted to replace me, I knew my time was up. It was a good job, while it lasted.

 

My former boss kept forcefully insisting, I should get out of my comfort-zone. She justified herself, by saying, repeatedly, that she and everyone else in the company, had to constantly – whether they liked it or not – go out of their comfort-zone. With DL, we try to go out of our so-called comfort-zone, but with EL, we so-to-speak stay in it. Yet, with DL, we don’t really know what makes us feel comfortable. There is, of course, no such a thing as a comfort-zone, as we can either be ourselves or not, but with DL, this never becomes clear. It was impossible to talk about this. She kept nagging me and basically treating me  negatively, because of who I am. I recently turned sixty-five and I feel more comfortable about being me than ever before, but she wouldn’t let me be.

 

I am sure, I’ll find another physically-active, simple, enjoyable, retirement-job, I like to do and want to do. This time, it is not someone else, who invites me, to only do what I feel comfortable doing, but it is me, who decides, if the job is right for me. I did a test for mail-man, the other day, but found out, this stress-job was clearly not for me. I like a physical, uncomplicated job, with no computer-stuff or paper-work. This writing and my speaking guide me to this new job. Meanwhile, I enjoy the free time I now have, to do exactly what I want and can do.

 

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Anyone who engages in Disembodied Language (DL) is my enemy, because they do not want to have Embodied Language (EL) with me. Don’t assume this is my problem. Actually, it is not my problem at all, because I know, how to avoid everyone with DL like hell. I am very good at avoiding you, almost perfect.

 

The Latin saying, amicus meus, inimicus inimici mei,  means: my friend, the enemy of my enemy. It is an ancient proverb, which suggests, two parties can or should work together against a common enemy. We don’t realize, however, that DL is our common enemy and as long as we keep participating in it, we will never be united against it. Only when we have EL, will we be together against DL, as we agree how horrible DL is.

 

When it comes to having EL, you are either with us or against us. Paradoxically, with DL, we keep fooling ourselves and each other, into believing, that people are with us, who, in fact, are against us. Moreover, with EL, we are our own best friend, but with DL, we are, unknowingly, our own worst enemy. This is why our so-called cooperation, with people – whom we do not like or necessarily agree with – to combat a common enemy, has never resulted in lasting peace.

 

The phrase, know your enemy, derives from an ancient Chinese book, The Art of War, which was written by the strategist Sun Tzu. With regard to our own as well as someone else’s DL, we must know its strengths and its weaknesses. Knowing ourselves is as important as knowing our enemy. Strikingly, we never approach or attack DL, because we either escape it or avoid it. Our escape from DL indicates, we weren’t able to avoid it. Ideally, we are so good as avoiding DL, there is no need to escape it. With EL, we approach only EL and we recognize and avoid all DL, whenever it is masquerading itself as EL.

 

While everyone with EL knows DL is their mortal enemy, our advantage over people with DL, is that they don’t view us as their enemy, as they only view other people with DL as their enemy. Also, people with EL never attack people with DL, and that is why they don’t see us as their enemy. People with DL are inherently weak and vulnerable, since they lose a lot of energy, while being busy defending themselves or attacking others, but with EL, we conserve energy.

 

The enemy of anyone with, who knows EL, is not someone else, but our own history of conditioning with DL. To the extent that we fully accept and thus, understand our own inclination towards DL, we are unaffected by DL of others. There is no such a thing as a public enemy, there is only our personal enemy, which will only be defeated, if we ignore our DL. 

 

Our enemy retreats, because we listen to ourselves while we speak. Yet, we are not inclined to listen to our own DL, as we don’t like to hear it. However, as long as we don’t listen to ourselves, while we speak, we enter, unconsciously, into hostile and dangerous enemy territory. We remain hidden from the enemy to the extent, that we don’t speak with anyone, who has DL. Of course, this isn’t always avoidable, and we must practice small talk, to remain incognito. Also, we must admit, we don’t like ourselves, to have DL and take distance from our history of conditioning.

 

Countries, religions and races have never been at war with each other, because it was always people who were each other’s enemy. However, although it always seemed – due to our DL – as if one group was the enemy of another group, it was, in fact, always about each individual, fighting with him or herself, that caused the war. Yet, there was never such a thing, as an inner struggle, as there was only our wrong use of language, in which our experience could not be expressed. Certainly, our DL is and has always been enemy number one of the individual.