Family,

 

The unit of every society – around the world – is still the family, not the individual. Although people have achieved individual freedoms, in  Western Democratic societies, these hard-won freedoms are evaporating, in front of their very eyes, because they have never acknowledged the difference between Disembodied Language (DL) – which can be called the language of the group or the family – and Embodied Language (EL) – which is the language of the individual.

 

Regardless of whether we are fortunate enough to live in a culture of so-called freedom or in an oppressive, autocratic or totalitarian culture, we all engage, unconsciously, in DL. Those, who live in ‘free’ societies are better off than those who are not, as only they can enjoy these individual freedoms. However, if we consider the negative effects of DL, they are just as much deprived as those, who don’t live in societies where there is individual freedom. The dumb language of the family – DL – still dominates every individual.  

 

Irrelevant of where one happens to be born or where one happens to live one’s life, human beings have behaved neurotically, pretentiously, problematically, mechanically and insensitively, while making it seem as if family-life is man’s ultimate achievement. It is no coincidence, that our unintelligent DL can be found everywhere and has never been properly addressed with EL.

 

The history of the noun family is interesting, in that it refers to obligation, lack of freedom and subservience. In the 15^th century family meant “servants of a household” from Latin familia “family servants, domestics collectively, the servants in a household” thus also “members of a household, the estate, property; the household including relatives and servants”, abstract noun formed from famulus “servant, slave.” In Latin, the word family rarely appears in the sense “parents with their children” for which “domus (see domestic, adj.) was used. Derivatives of famulus include famula “serving woman, maid”, famulanter “in the manner of a servant”, famulitas “servitude”, familiaris “of one’s household, private”, familiaricus “of household slaves”, familiaritas “close friendship” (from Online Etymology Dictionary).

 

Surely, it would, of course, be wonderful, if there could truly be, one big happy family, a family, that is characterized by happiness and harmony, but the unaddressed reality is, we are conditioned to have DL by our families. Our EL never really gets a chance, because it is treated as anti-social and punished. We were taught, in DL, that listening means: listening to others, but not listening to ourselves. To be able to listen to ourselves, we must talk with ourselves, to hear ourselves, but, in DL, talking only means: talking with others, but not, talking with ourselves. Said differently, in our family, we are taught to listen to authority outside ourselves, but no attention is given to speaking with ourselves and listening to ourselves. Such attention is only produced, if you talk with me, as no one with DL stimulates someone else to have EL, only someone with EL can do that. This is behaviorism 101: behavior is reinforced by its consequences. Someone with DL is incapable of reinforcing EL and, yes, only someone who has it can reinforce EL of others.

 

In every society, around the world, people have  been romanticizing about the presumed virtues of family-life. The fact, however, is that our EL could never emerge in our family. Moreover, it could only reveal itself to anyone, who is really sick and tired of the DL, which is perpetuated by our family. I myself was in that position and I was feeling very troubled for many years, as the only way to continue my EL, was to disconnect from my family, who seemed to drag me into DL again and again. It was for this reason, I didn’t want to create my own family, as I wanted to be able to pursue, what, according to me, no one has ever pursued, namely, his or her own ongoing EL.  

 

It runs in the family. Yes, DL runs in every family. These language traits are behaviors, which are passed from one generation to the next. If we are going to have EL, in the future, it will not be passed on by our family. The family’s focus on others is the biggest stand in the way for EL. EL is only for the individual, who can be alone with him or herself. Religious people retreated from their family, from societies, into monasteries, caves, mountains, forests or ashrams, but they have never considered the difference between their DL and EL, so that they could continue EL. They seek to undo the ties, which burden and bind, but they never succeed in going beyond their so-called mind, as they don’t acknowledge the language of dissatisfaction, which is our DL.

 

In spite of what people claim, the principles and beliefs of what even the best family considers to be important, the so-called family values, are a sure recipe for a life-long, self-undermining behavioral pattern. It is because DL was never addressed by our EL, we haven’t acknowledged this. These morals are emphasized, because, in reality, something is missing. Honesty, respect and a good sense of humor, don’t need to be addressed, if we are going to have ongoing EL.

 

The famous saying, family comes first, says it all. We have always sacrificed our individuality for our family. Although the family or the tribe was important to survive, in a modern free society, we urgently need to now abandon any kind of tribalism, if we want our culture of individual freedom to survive. This makes the difference between our DL and EL the quintessential issue of our time. When we keep prioritizing our family above all else, group behavior will triumph over individual behavior.

 

Unity is indeed crucial for a family’s survival. As the saying goes: a house divided cannot stand. But, how can we be at peace with each other, if we are not at peace with ourselves? Due to our unconscious DL, we make this so-called peace with others more important, than peace with ourselves. Although we may say: home is where the heart is, my heart is only beating in my own body. To feel my heart, I must speak with and hear myself. Supposedly, no matter where our life takes us, home is where the heart is, with our family, but this determines, that we are all over the place, which is what happens in DL.

 

Overrated family ties, kept through thick and thin, symbolize a chronic lack of boundaries. Tight-knit families are believed to be close and strongly united, but the reality is, everyone is enmeshed and into each other’s business. On the one hand, secrets can never stay secrets for very long, within the family, but, on the other hand, secrets of dysfunctionality and abuse are shamefully and guiltily hidden from outsiders. I was always treated as an outsider in my family, because I wanted EL.  If you like to hear me read this writing, go to my You Tube Channel: maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw

 

Connecting The Dots,

 

Besides, understanding something and piecing together hints and other bits of information, to see the relationship and to get a clearer picture of what is really happening, connecting the dots also simply refers to drawing a line between dots, as part of a children’s activity to create an illustration or design. Whenever we speak of connecting the dots, we are actually trying to refer to Embodied Language (EL), to the language which makes sense to us. However, since we don’t know anything about the difference between our Disembodied Language (DL) and our EL, we unknowingly try to connect the dots with DL – which, of course, doesn’t work – because we don’t know how to have EL, so we, basically, only pretend to have EL, while, in reality, we are engaging in DL.

 

Surely, to connect the dots requires that we must acknowledge the existence of both our DL as well as our EL. DL refers to our history of conditioning, our past, while EL always refers to our present and our future. Naturally, if our DL isn’t stopped, DL is our past, present and future and, whether we believe it or not, this is what DL has so far always been. Once we get started on EL, however, DL is only our past.

 

Although our conditioning history with DL, may rear its end again in the present, once we have come to know the great difference between our DL and EL, we know, that DL, expressed by our EL, is our past. Connecting the dots with our EL, we realize, that we have kept trying to express our problematic DL with our DL and this never resulted in EL, consequently, we kept projecting our DL into the future, no matter how convinced we were, we would put it behind us.

 

Unfortunately, connecting the dots is, due to our DL, considered as a strategic, cunning process, by which some specialistic, skillful, scripted communicators add so-called value to some organization. From this description it is immediately clear, we are dealing with a group-process and not with what serves the wellbeing of any one particular individual. In other words, connecting the dots, is usually explained as the cultivation of the habit or discipline of seeing – oddly, never of the hearing – of interconnections between issues, information, trends, which seem unrelated, because they have nothing to do with us. Connecting the dots, is the perfect way of avoiding our own issues and that is what we do with our DL.

 

By connecting the dots, we acquire knowledge, but we don’t develop self-knowledge, because we keep pretending, that our knowledge is more important than our missing self-knowledge. With EL, on the other hand, we acquire self-knowledge, which is embedded in scientific knowledge. Connecting the dots with EL, makes us realize that self-knowledge and scientific knowledge have to be related. As long as there is no connection, between our scientific knowledge and our so-called self-knowledge, we are bound to misuse our scientific knowledge, because our so-called self-knowledge is actually ignorance.

 

Another often-heard aspect about connecting the dots is that, presumably, it is a mind-set. Here, we make it seem, as if there is language going on inside our body, in our head. This is complete nonsense. There are no words to be found anywhere in our brain and there exists no mind or a mind-set, these are fictitious concepts. In DL, we cannot speak in the way we want to speak and are able to speak, therefore, we get carried away by the fantasy about private speech. There is no me, inside of me, who talks with him or herself, who reasons with him or herself. All of this is make-believe of DL. In EL, we listen to ourselves while we speak and that connects the dots, as we realize, the so-called speaker is, of course, the listener. There is neither a listener, who listens, nor a speaker, who speaks. These constructs are figures of speech, which, due to DL, we believe really exist. So, there is no mind, no thought, no self, no psyche, no personality, no ego, no being, no soul. There is only overt language – speaking, listening, reading or writing – and there is no covert language.

 

DL gave us the so-called communication strategists, who presumably connect the dots, by seeing things holistically. All of this is hogwash. All our famous, ridiculously called, ‘professional’ speakers, engage in DL, like everyone else. Even the highest educated professors, scientists, psychiatrists, psychologists or philosophers don’t know anything about ongoing EL and can at best sell us new wine in old bags. This is a parable from the Bible, which means new ideas or practices - EL - cannot be contained in old structures or traditions. Old wineskins - DL - are brittle and cannot handle the expansion of new wine, so both, the wine and the wineskins would be lost. For someone like me, who has EL, connecting the dots always means listening to myself while I speak.

 

Liberation,

 

In this writing, I write about May 5^th, which in my country origin, Holland, is celebrated, every year, as Liberation Day. It was due to the Allied Forces, consisting of brave, young American, Canadian and British troops, that the Dutch, who were almost starving to death, in what was known in the Netherlands as the Hunger Winter of 1945, were freed from the Germans or the Nazies. My father, who as a boy grew up in this horrible period, went through many traumatic experiences. While I was silently walking – myself as a boy – with him and hundreds of other people, on May Fifth, along the war memorial at the Waalsdorper Vlakte, where, in the beautiful Dunes, many people had been executed, I felt so very close to my father…

 

I use the Second World War as a metaphor to refer to Disembodied Language (DL) and the liberation from the brutal oppression, as a way to talk about Embodied Language (EL). During the occupation, you were still concerned with your DL, but shortly after the liberation, shortly after you finally noticed the immense difference between your DL and your EL, you were set free - by yourself - and you could finally enjoy your Language Enlightenment (LE) – who you really are – with your EL. You need some time, to recover from your captivity and from the torture and turmoil you have endured, but all that suffering and chaos is now completely behind you.

 

DL was never properly addressed and spoken about with EL. Radicalization of students at universities always takes place because of our DL, which is still, although nobody takes any note of it, the language of instruction everywhere. Something like this could never, ever have happened if we had EL together. And, this is a realistic, but not an idealistic view. We do it, or we don't do it and we can do it, or we can't do it yet and that's the beginning of our journey.  

 

With our unconscious DL, of course, nobody is ever going to be de-radicalized, as everything only keeps getting worse. The process by which a person or group increasingly develops views, that are at odds with, or totally opposed to, the democratic legal order, whether we want to believe it or not, has to do with our usual way of speaking. As a person or as a group, we attach – with DL – fewer and fewer consequences to our behavior, especially to our oral and written expressions. This is also encouraged by the anonymity provided by so-called social media.

 

Whenever we talk about polarization, extremism or terrorism, we are, unconsciously, talking about a way of speaking that produces and maintains those phenomena. We do not yet know anything about the difference between DL and EL and that is why we are completely unaware that the DL, which we deal with and are involved in every day, is the cause of everything, that is escalating over time, every time.

 

In EL, there is neither polarization nor escalation, as we are no longer running wild over and over again with our ridiculous belief in inner language, or in what we call us-them thinking . The so-called high level of tension between groups, happens because we, as participants of these groups, have lost our way with ourselves. When we can experience the transition from our DL to our EL, we experience, for the first time in our lives, the liberation from group behavior and, thus, our individual freedom. It is not polarization that led to radicalization, but it was DL.

 

Another feature of DL is extremism, in which a person or group knowingly breaks the law in order to presumably remain true to his or her identity or ideals. Extremism clearly involves breaking the law and constitutes a criminal offense. If we look at and listen to the origins from which these criminal acts come about, it has nothing to do with - as is often claimed - some writing, some theory, some dogma, but with how we speak and spoke with each other. As with polarization, extremism is the result of our common, never properly addressed, insensitive DL.

 

We will have to realize, at some

point in our lives, 

that the 

justification and underlying 

promise of DL, is a direct 

reference to the so-called

 liberation, that polarization,

 extremism or radicalization 

would supposedly give to us. 

This is of course a total lie, 

which DL has perpetuated, 

because it gave hope for 

something better, which 

was always in the future. 

The present moment, in 

which we have always 

continued to struggle with

 our DL, was always sacrificed

for the future, which never 

produced EL. However, anyone 

who speaks about DL with his

 or her EL, inevitably comes

 to the conclusion, that the

 possibility of our liberation

 was only a pipe dream, 

because genuine liberation

 - of the individual - can

 only take place, if he or

 she knows how to use

 his or her own language,

 in such a way, that his

 or her own experience 

is expressed correctly 

and satisfyingly.

 

Radicalization is the consequence of our DL, our unconscious, conditioned, effortful language, in which we, as individual speakers, do not listen to ourselves and are only concerned with always listening to others or trying to get them to listen to us, in some way. Naturally, radicalization is always a process in which years of compulsive DL have come to determine what our so-called sense of reality is. There is a recognizable pattern in which extremism,  radicalization and polarization will come about.

 

Simply put, everyone in DL, wants to get attention and everyone does whatever he or she can do to get the attention. It doesn't matter if commanding the attention from others happens with a pitiful victim role or with our grandiosity and arrogance, the fact remains, that in our ordinary way of speaking, there is always a struggle going on for attention, which must escalate, so it can become clear, who is the presumed winner and who is the presumed loser, who has the power - who is allowed to threaten others - and who must follow politely, obediently - who is apparently unimportant or unworthy and who has nothing to say, to whom no one listens. No conscious attention has ever before been given – with our ongoing EL – to the DL, which maintains the hierarchy or power-structure in every society. When we do that, immediate liberation takes place, because we no longer look up or down to others.

 

Our liberation from DL is

 only discernable to the 

extent that we are still 

getting used to our EL, 

because as soon as our 

EL starts to flow, we find

 our EL normal, but we 

then find our DL abnormal. 

Our LE, which initially, as

 EL continues, is something

 very wonderful and special, 

eventually becomes our 

everyday experience, where

every trigger for our DL, 

immediately effortlessly catches

 our attention and makes us 

tune into EL again. However, 

we are constantly aware, that 

our liberation from our DL, is 

achieved by us, by us alone, 

and that feels so good.

 

So, our liberation is celebrated not just once a year, on Liberation Day, but every day with EL. It is also of great importance, for those who automatically, out of conditioning, habitually carried on with their fear-based DL, to recognize that they - without ever being able to understand this before – spent all that time in hiding and were able to survive in that way. When they have EL, instead of DL, they come out of their hiding timidly and cautiously. Liberation with EL is overwhelming and almost unbelievable at first, but it is true. We are slowly, happily, getting used to it. 

   

 

Bevrijding,

 

Tijdens de bezetting, hield je je nog bezig met je Ontlichaamde Taal (OT), maar kort na de bevrijding, kort nadat je eindelijk het verschil bemerkte tussen je OT en je Belichaamde Taal (BT), werd je - door jezelf - vrijgelaten en kon je van je Taal Verlichting (TV) genieten met je BT. Je hebt tijd nodig om te herstellen van je gevangenschap en van de martelingen, die je hebt doorgemaakt, maar al het leed ligt nu geheel achter je.

 

OT is nog nooit benoemt en als zodanig samen met BT erkend. De radicalizering van studenten op universiteiten vindt altijd plaats vanwege OT, die ongemerkt overal nog steeds de voertaal is. Zoiets zou nooit of te nimmer hebben kunnen gebeuren, indien wij BT met elkaar zouden hebben. Dit is realistisch, maar niet idealistisch. We doen het, of we doen het niet en we kunnen het doen, of we kunnen het nog niet en daar is het begin. 

 

Met OT valt er uiteraard ook helemaal nooit iets te de-radicaliseren en wordt alles alleen maar erger. Het proces waarbij een persoon of groep in toenemende mate opvattingen ontwikkelt, die op gespannen voet staan met, of zelfs haaks staan op, de democratische rechtsorde, heeft, of we het nou willen geloven of niet, te maken met onze gebruikelijke wijze van spreken. Zowel als persoon of als groep verbinden wij dus in steeds mindere mate , consequencies aan ons gedrag, met name aan onze mondelinge en schriftelijke uitingen. Dit wordt eveneens in de hand gewerkt, door de anonimiteit van de zogenaamde sociale media.

 

Wanneer wij het hebben over polarisatie, extremisme of terrorisme, dan hebben wij het, onbewust, over een wijze van spreken, die die fenomenen voortbrengt en in stand houdt. Wij kennen het verschil nog niet tussen OT en BT en daarom hebben wij totaal niet in de gaten, dat de OT, waar wij ons dagelijks mee bezighouden, er de oorzaak van is, dat alles elke keer weer escaleert.

 

In BT is er geen enkele sprake van polarisatie of escalatie, omdat wij niet langer keer op keer op hol slaan door ons belachelijke geloof in het hebben van innerlijke taal, of in, wat wij dus geneigd zijn, om wij-zij-denken te noemen. Het zogenaamde hoog oplopen van spanningen tussen groepen, gebeurd, omdat wij, als deelnemers van deze groepen, de weg met onszelf kwijt zijn. Als wij de overgang van OT naar BT beleven, dan ervaren wij, voor het eerst, de bevrijding van de groep en onze individuele vrijheid. Het is niet polarisering, die tot radicalisatie leidt, maar OT.  

 

Een ander verschijnsel van OT is extremisme, waarin een persoon of groep bewust de wet overtreedt, om zogenaamd trouw te blijven aan zijn of haar idealen. Bij extremisme wordt dus heel duidelijk de wet overtreden en is er sprake van een strafbaar feit. Indien wij gaan kijken en luisteren naar de oorsprong vanwaaruit deze criminele handelingen tot stand komen, dan heeft dat helemaal niets te maken met – zoals vaak wordt beweerd – een of ander geschrift, maar met hoe er met elkaar werd en wordt gesproken. Net als bij polarisatie is ook extremisme het gevolg van onze gemeenschappelijk in stand gehouden en nog nooit eerder benoemde OT.

 

Ook zullen wij onszelf er ooit rekenschap van moeten geven, dat de rechtvaardiging en de achterliggende belofte van OT, een verwijzing is naar de zogenaamde bevrijding, die polarisatie, extremisme of radicalisatie ons zou gaan geven. Dit is natuurlijk een totale leugen, die OT in stand heeft gehouden, omdat het hoop gaf op iets beters, wat altijd in de toekomst zou liggen. Het moment van nu, waarin wij altijd met onze OT zijn blijven strijden, werd altijd opgeofferd voor de toekomst, die nooit BT heeft opgeleverd. Iedereen die hierover met BT weet te spreken, komt echter tot de conclusie, dat het ideaal van onze bevrijding slechts een lucht-kasteel was, omdat duurzame bevrijding – van het individu – slechts alleen kan plaats vinden, indien hij of zij, zijn of haar eigen taal op zodanige wijze weet te gebruiken, dat de eigen ervaring op de juiste wijze kan worden kenbaar gemaakt. 

 

Radicalisering is het onvermijdelijke gevolg van OT, onze onbewuste, geconditioneerde taal, waarin wij, als individuele spreker, niet naar onszelf luisteren en slechts bezig zijn, om altijd naar anderen te luisteren of om hen, op de een of andere manier, naar ons te doen luisteren. Uiteraard is de radicalisatie een proces, waarin jaren van dwangmatige OT, is gaan bepalen wat voor ons de zogenaamde werkelijkheid is. Er is dus wel degelijk een zeer herkenbaar patroon.

 

Simpel gezegd, wil iedereen in OT de aandacht krijgen en doet iedereen wat hij of zij kan, om die aandacht te krijgen. Het maakt niet uit, of we nou aandacht van anderen afdwingen met onze erbarmelijke slachtoffer’s rol of met onze grandiositeit en arrogantie, het feit blijft, dat in onze gewone wijze van spreken, er altijd sprake is van een strijd om de aandacht, die wel moet escaleren, zodat kan blijken, wie de winnaar en wie de verliezer is, wie dus de macht heeft – en wie anderen mag bedreigen – en wie beleefd, gehoorzaam moet volgen – wie dus schijnbaar onbelangrijk of onwaardig is en wie niets te vertellen heeft – waarnaar niemand luistert. Er is nog nooit bewuste aandacht gegeven – vanuit onze voortgaande BT – aan de OT, die in iedere maatschappij, de hierarchie in stand houdt. Als wij dat doen, vindt er onmiddelijke bevrijding plaats, omdat wij niet meer op of neer kijken naar anderen.

 

Onze bevrijding van OT is alleen waarneembaar voor zoverre wij nog aan het wennen zijn aan onze BT, want zodra onze BT begint door te stromen, dan vinden wij onze BT heel normaal, maar OT vinden we dan abnormaal. Ook onze TV, die in de eerste instantie, bij het voortgaan van onze BT, iets heel wonderlijks en bijzonders is, wordt, op den duur, onze alledaagse ervaring, waarbij iedere wending naar OT ons direct en zonder enige moeite opvalt en ons weer op BT doet afstemmen. Wij zijn ons er echter voortdurend van bewust, dat onze bevrijding van de OT, door ons wordt bewerkstelligd en dat voelt zo goed.

 

Onze bevrijding wordt dus niet slechts een keer per jaar, maar iedere dag gevierd met onze BT. Ook is het voor hen, die automatisch, vanuit de conditionering, gewoonte-getrouw, verder zijn gegaan met hun op-angst-gebaseerde OT, van enorm groot belang, om eindelijk eens te erkennen, dat ze – zonder dat ze dit ooit eerder konden begrijpen – eigenlijk al die tijd ondergedoken hebben gezeten en zo hebben kunnen overleven. Bij het hebben van BT, in plaats van OT, komen zij heel schuchter en voorzichtig weer voor de dag, uit hun schuilplaats. Onze bevrijding met BT is eerst overweldigend en bijna niet te geloven, maar het is echt waar en langzaam wennen wij eraan.   

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 Tsunami,

 

Tsunami is a word from Japan. It breaks down in two words tsu and nami, meaning, harbor and wave. Such a large, destructive wave is usually caused by a disturbance in the ocean, such as an undersea earthquake or volcanic eruption. A tsunami consists often as wave train, a series of waves. Figuratively, tsunami is used to describe a large, generally, unstoppable surge. In Japan, as in many other countries, they talk about the grey tsunami, the global and quantum increase of the aged population, due to low birth rates.   

 

Throughout history, tsunamis have left a significant impact on coastal communities around the world. Early civilizations attributed these catastrophic events to supernatural causes or mystical creatures, such as monsters or angry gods. It wasn’t until more recent times that scientific explanations occurred. Similarly, our understanding of forceful or overwhelming events – wars, famines or pandemics – shifted from mystical to more truthful explanations.

 

The tsunami of public outrage, over the war Israel is fighting with Hamas in Gaza, however, isn’t what caused the tsunami of antisemitism, that is currently raging on college and university campuses around the country. Although there is   Marxist’ indoctrination going on in education, the constant hammering, by the right, on this issue, in and of itself, proves it doesn’t really address the workings of the propaganda and, particularly, of the language, which is involved. Simply stated, social media, with its so-called algorithms, has created this tsunami of hatred.  

 

When using tsunami in a non-literal sense – to address, the negative emotional wave, that is at this moment sweeping across our nation - it is crucial to provide appropriate context to avoid confusion or misinterpretation. Such a context is, of course, never provided by our biased, ridiculously outdated narratives, which I call Disembodied Language (DL), but is produced only by our Embodied Language (EL), which is not beholden to any already existing explanations, theories or dogmas.

 

Remember – although many ignorant people, for a long time, believed in it – the real tsunami was never caused by any mystical, imaginary force. The metaphorical tsunami of colliding religious beliefs, Judaism versus Islam or Right Wing versus Left Wing Politics, is also not caused by God, Allah or by this or that political leader, but by the DL, that is used by all people. The context, to understand rationally what is happening – emotionally – can only be provided by our non-religious, non-political EL. Stated differently, what we are really up against, is the tsunami of DL, which has devastated mankind.

 

Once we are clear, that our DL – our emotional, habitual, distorted, superstitious, unnatural, ineffective way of dealing with our language – is and has always been, the biggest threat to peace – whether it is within the family, within society or among different groups and nations –  we adopt a truly rational, realistic perspective about language, as we engage in ongoing EL.

 

In the context of the Freedom of Speech, which is still guaranteed by the First Amendment of the US Constitution, it is very interesting, to stop and consider, the sad fact, that currently, the former president of the United States, is being prosecuted, because he speaks. While violent felons and criminals are let out of jail, Trump is slammed with a gag-order, because he addresses and exposes the corruption, which is going on due to our DL. Unless we address our DL, there is never going to be any reasonable, mutually-beneficial, practical and satisfying EL.

 

I can’t emphasize often enough, that our usual, by everyone-accepted, expected, exaggerated, emotionally-overwhelming way of talking is DL. It is proper to contrast the verbal acrobatics of DL – which plays out as an insidious battle of words, fought by lawyers, who are merely filling their own pockets, in courts around the world – as an emotional event, with our ongoing EL as a much-needed, rational, scientific phenomenon.

 

Once we are able to have ongoing EL – instead of a few, brief, accidental haphazard moments of it – we are no longer carried away by our false sentiments, as we are reasonable, mature, sensible people. EL will reveal our Language Enlightenment (LE), which is to be understood as our ability to keep our negative emotions in check. During DL, by contrast, our emotions get out of control, and this is why, DL-speakers force the listeners to listen. Our DL always negatively steers us, it overwhelmingly strikes fear in us and dysregulates us. The calamitous wave, the DL-tsunami – which is going to continue to destroy the harbor, which symbolizes who we really are – cannot be stopped, unless we know how to stay safe with our EL. Our EL goes further than survival, as it makes it possible for us to thrive and celebrate our LE, which is who we really are.           

Anonymous,

 

The word anonymous comes from Late Latin anonymus and Greek, anonymos, and it means without a name. What escapes most people’s attention, however, is that, when there is no word, to refer to who we are, as an individual, we are without language. Anonymous describes how we talk, when we engage in Disembodied Language (DL), because in DL – which is our usual way of talking – we don’t possess the language-skill, to be who we are. In DL, we, as speakers, do not listen to ourselves, while we speak, therefore, we can’t talk about our own experiences in a realistic, honest and effective manner. Only during Embodied Language (EL) can we show who we really are, as we use our language correctly, which means we listen to ourselves while we speak. In other words, in EL, what we say matters, because of how we say it.

 

While belonging to a group, we hide ourselves, we become anonymous. DL is everywhere, due to this tendency, which is rooted in our survival. Of course, anonymity – or rather our isolation – is enhanced by modern technology. On the one hand, we seek online anonymity, because we long to be in a protected environment for our so-called self-expression, but, on the other hand, we want to be able to vent our toxicity, without running the risk of getting in trouble.

 

Contrary to what most people are inclined to believe, we don’t seek anonymity consciously, but we habitually fall back into our conditioning history, in which we were taught, that listening to others and making others listen to us, is the only thing which really matters. Nobody ever told us, listening to ourselves is important. To the contrary, listening to ourselves, historically was everywhere, always, systematically punished, as it implies, that you are going against the group.

 

As long as you remain anonymous, you can create a false image of yourself, to impress others. Inevitably, those who seek anonymous online environments – to, supposedly, express themselves, to chat or to build relationships – are in for a big surprise, if they would finally actually meet with the anonymous person – who was, of course, hiding behind words – who they only had some written conversations with.

 

The reason some – probably nice people – feel socially awkward, anxious or self-conscious, in the real world and seek online environments, is because everywhere everyone engages in DL and they, unknowingly, want EL. Psychology has yet to begin to consider this irrefutable fact and the extent to which many of our ‘mental health problems’ derive from our everyday, insensitive, unnatural, inauthentic, self-defeating DL. Being anonymous makes people feel less vulnerable, but it exacerbates the problem we have never addressed: the difference between DL and EL.

 

The other side of being anonymous – online – is that it apparently facilitates a morbid need for people to feel unaccountable for their actions. As I have alluded to, previously, all the trolling and the cyberbullying are anti-social actions, which, due to anonymity, will go unpunished. However, unbeknownst to everyone, our usual, mechanical, unconscious way of talking, DL, creates sadistic people, who get a kick out of punishing others and masochistic people, who are sheepishly and slavishly doing what they are told. The oppressor and the oppressed together create and maintain each other’s anonymity, as neither one reveals who they are with their DL.

 

Only when you take time, to be by yourself and talk out loud with yourself and calmly listen to the sound of your own voice, will you no longer be anonymous. You hear a change in your voice when you shift from DL to EL. All of a sudden, you are out of your conditioning history of DL, and you feel free. Your whole being responds to this marvelous experience. You are able to say things with EL, which you couldn’t say with DL. You are truly you and saying your own name is pure extasy, as you are in touch with yourself.

 

In one way or another, we are all vulnerable, to be sucked-into online anonymity, because, as long as we keep having DL, we are contradicting ourselves, we struggle and are distracted from what is important to us, we are in conflict with ourselves, as we haven’t been able to verbally formulate our own clear sense of our identity. This only occurs, after our DL has been stopped, when we can continue with our EL and when we realize our Language Enlightenment (LE).

 

The anonymous online community in essence is no different from any other community, in that every community, culture, society is built on DL, in which speakers dominate the listeners. This process also occurs with the speaker as his or her own listener. You could say, that in DL, the 'listener' remains anonymous, as the 'speaker' is always in charge. When you begin to listen to yourself while you speak, you realize you don’t even recognize yourself, as if you speak with a total stranger. This is because you never let the so-called 'listener-in-you' speak. In your DL, the 'speaker' never seems to stop speaking, because the so-called 'listener-in-you' never tells him or her to shut up. 

There is no such thing as an inner speaker or an inner listener, but it will be effective, for someone, who has never spoken with him or herself, to admit that a so-called part of you never gets the attention because another part of you always dominates. In EL, you will give that part attention, because you will notice that it asks your attention and when you hear that part speak, you will nourish yourself and you will no longer feel divided or anonymous.        

 

Coming Back?

 

As long as you are alive, you still have a chance to come back to your senses. To anyone, who knows the big difference between their own Disembodied Language (DL) and Embodied Language (EL), there is clarity about the fact, that there is no coming back to who we really are with our crazy DL. In other words, our DL has to stop, before we can have EL again, only then we are back in touch with ourselves. Each time we return again to DL – which is inevitable, due to our long conditioning history – we disconnect from ourselves. However, we need to lose ourselves with our DL, to be able to find ourselves back again with our EL. By becoming conscious about our DL and our EL, we get better at stopping our DL and continuing with our EL. It is such a blessing to return to our EL.

 

Once you become capable of continuing with your EL, there is no way of ever coming back to your old sense of who you believed yourself to be with DL. Your ongoing EL will change you in ways, which you couldn’t imagine, precisely because EL has nothing to do with any fantasy. In DL, you get caught up in fantasy, but with EL, you emerge as a new person from your history of conditioning with DL. As you carry on with EL, you realize who you are and have always been – but who you have abandoned with your DL – and your acceptance, truth and wellbeing signify your Language Enlightenment (LE).

 

Coming back is also a central theme for anyone recovering from a so-called mental health crisis, from drugs or alcohol addiction, from serving in the army, being in battle or from returning after incarceration. In each of these cases, adjusting to a sense of normalcy, is part of this process of coming back. It is impossible with our usual DL, to communicate, acknowledge and understand the intensified emotions, which are bound to occur, due to this coming back. Whatever little normalcy was there, in the first place, we have left it, due to our DL and we very badly need to have EL, to carry on with our lives healthily, productively and happily.

 

Many people, over the years, have found out about the difference between DL and EL, and yet, only one person, came back, not only just once, but again and again. You can hear, in the You Tube videos of my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke – her channel is called Luisterend Spreken and is in Dutch – how she talks with herself, every time, she is again triggered by her history of DL. Each time, she is coming back to her EL, her EL is more glorious and luminous.  

 

In DL, only a few people do all the talking and the rest is reduced to listener or readers, who are merely watching the political entertainment spectacle. These speakers won the competition for attention and shape the so-called narrative. This is the world we live in, which is created and maintained by DL. Only a hand-full of powerful individuals still decide for millions of people how everything is going to be. Obviously, there are terrible, inevitable, negative consequences to this backward, forced, phony arrangement. 

The outcomes of our usual way of talking, DL, which is aggressive, insensitive and automatic in nature, are always coming back to bite us. No matter how many armies can protect and promote these powerful elite, who are never challenged by anyone, they can’t escape the consequences of their own involvement in DL. They suffer the bad results of their DL even more, as they know, their power didn’t make them any happier.

 

In closing, let’s talk about death. Nobody is coming back. Due to DL, we fear and deny our mortality and we endlessly create religious fantasy stories, which, in turn, distract us from ourselves, from our EL and from each other. We imagine, we can talk with our so-called higher power, instead of with ourselves or with each other. Why does the ridiculous question about a supposed life after death keep coming back?

 

We have to make up all kind of stories, because we with DL, we cannot go beyond language. All our problems are problems of communication. We keep coming back, to the irrefutable fact, that we are hopelessly unscientific or biased about our behaviors and relationships. Once we discover the great difference between DL and EL, we are coming back to the language, which creates and maintains all our other behaviors.