Stop,

 

Whatever I say or write about Embodied Language (EL) isn’t up for debate. It doesn’t matter what kind of opinion or preconceived idea you have about it, as such judgments are always referring to your own Disembodied Language (DL). The point I am making with this writing, is that your usual way of talking cannot accept EL and, therefore, must be stopped, before EL can be heard, perceived, and expressed.  

 

It must have occurred to you, that how you know or experience yourself, is always something entirely different from how others know or experience you. This is the inevitable outcome of DL, our common way of talking. Only when we can have ongoing EL, we realize, for the first time, if they do not engage in EL with us, others do not and cannot know or experience us at all. This is something crucially important to understand, as we feel constantly judged, scrutinized, weighed, interpreted, or pigeonholed by others, in ways we do not want.

 

When we disagree with the perceptions of others about who we, presumably, are, we engage in DL. People are against stigmatization or stereotyping, but they do not realize, our DL has to be stopped. What we keep getting frustrated and worked up about, is always about how our language is being used. Unknowingly, we object to the DL of others, but this prevents us from paying attention to our own DL. And, if the DL of others still bothers us, this indicates, we haven’t dealt with our own DL.

 

Although this may sound very simple, EL is simple, but acquiring EL is complicated by the fact that our DL has a sound, we do not like to listen to. We hate to listen to the sound of our own DL so much, that we rather listen to and bitch about the DL of others. And, this is precisely what we do, as we, day in, day out, engage with others in DL. Our aversion of our own DL is such, that we automatically block out and dissociate from what it feels like to experience it. In other words, we do not hear what our DL is like, as we are psychologically deaf for the sound, which we shamefully produce every day, without even realizing that we ourselves absolutely do not like it. Thus, we talk mainly in an unconscious manner. We do not hear ourselves while we speak, because we are more concerned about whether others are hearing us or whether we are listening to them. 

 

Ironically, in DL, which is our usual way of talking, we basically only pretend to speak and listen. If we would listen to how we really sound, we would hear – if we don’t have any organic hearing problems –  that it is true that we pretend to sound happy, open, sincere, friendly, attentive, interested, respectful or appreciative, that is, in DL, we are continuously virtue-signaling. Oddly, we are, inadvertently, trying to make it seem as if we are already having EL, since we do not know how to have it. This is the great dilemma of DL: we are trying to fake it until we make it. As such, we keep trying to convince ourselves and each other, that we are having EL, while, in reality, we have become more and more insidious with and trapped by our own repetitive DL.  

 

EL cannot be faked and no brilliant actor has ever had any EL in any movie. Also, humor, as we know it, could not help us to attain our EL. The tragedy of our conditioning history with DL is, that we cannot be genuine while we speak with one another, as we prevent ourselves and each other from producing an authentic sound. Naturally, our resonant voice is not negative, but positive and always expresses our wellbeing. EL is the intelligent, new conversation, in which our voice keeps guiding us into the beautiful effects of the expression of our positive emotions.

 

In EL, we are not merely experiencing our positive emotions by ourselves, as we can share them and enhance them in others, that is, we create stable, safe, and healthy relationships, as we co-regulate each other. By listening to the sound of our voice while we speak, we become aware, that we could live a different way of life, than when we remain engaged in DL. The moment in which we realize, we speak with a sound, which we do absolutely do not like, we effortlessly stop making that sound and we start speaking with the sound we like.  

 

After we have switched back and forth between DL and EL a couple of times, it is very clear to us, that we want EL, not DL. We perceive the much better results of our EL. By being aware, our DL stops by itself and all the behaviors that went along with it drop away. Moreover, there is, during our EL, in our voice, this special sound, which makes us glow with bliss. This targeted unique expression reveals precisely the behaviors we should stop, to make it possible to continue our path with EL.

 

With EL, we create a new reality for ourselves and although others may share in our experiences, it does not really matter, if they do or don’t, as we are self-determined to continue with our EL. In effect, we attain and share our Language Enlightenment (LE) and enjoy the blossoming of our individuality. With EL, we know ourselves better than how others seem to know us with their DL and those, who are courageous enough to have EL with us, they know us as we are, as they also talk with and listen to their own voice while they speak.