January 10, 2016

January 10, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

It is no exaggeration to state that due to Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB) - the spoken communication that we are continuously exposed to and conditioned by - we are becoming more and more speech-impaired. As a consequence of our speech impairments our relationships are troubled. Furthermore, our failure to effectively communicate results in less and less communication. In addition, due to our excessive use of technology, our communication failure and lack of skills are obfuscated, unaddressed and continues to remain unresolved. Yet, our impairment is very real and it must be remediated like any other behavioral problem. 

SVB is the replacement of NVB, our target behavior. As you witness the increase of SVB you notice an overall increase in communication. Liberation from your speech impairment and isolation will co-occur with a sense of freedom and a thoroughgoing understanding that something better is both possible and necessary. NVB could only pretend to offer this, but could never deliver it. What goes wrong in interaction has to do with your way of talking which causes, perpetuates and exploits your negative emotions. 

You may laugh at this and think that this too simple, but most likely you haven’t experienced the ongoing interaction which is based on positive emotions. You may have thought of it, dreamed about it or hypothesized about it, but you have never consciously engaged in it as there was no person who evoked SVB and reinforced it. To have SVB or NVB is not a matter of being right or wrong, but whether you are happy or not. Being unhappy isn’t wrong and being happy isn’t right, it is just what it is.  By listening to the sound of it you can accept it.