January 3, 2016

January 3, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

I am not asking you to believe me. I want you to explore with me whether what I say is true. After initially being reinforced by others, your verbal behavior could only become self-reinforcing to the extent that you were exposed to instances of Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB). We have all been exposed to such positive circumstances, although some of us have definitely had more exposure to SVB than others. 

To the extent that you have been exposed to SVB, you already have some familiarity with it. The thing to understand here is that nobody knew that it was SVB and nobody had ever defined or described it as such. SVB, of course, relates to the safety, stability, encouragement, sensitivity, love, care, support and attachment provided by your parents. If these behaviors occurred at a high rate, you were conditioned by that, but if they happened at a low rate you were conditioned by that. Since your parents didn’t call it SVB, it was never properly defined or validated. 

I define and validate SVB for you with these written words and now you must verify if my definition makes any sense.  Moreover, you must also recognize that Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB), the interaction in which the speaker coerces, dominates and punishes the listener, is the total opposite of SVB. You have plenty of familiarity with NVB already and I strongly believe that you are more familiar with NVB than with SVB. 

Due to NVB public speech, private speech, what you say and think to yourself covertly, is having a negative effect on you.  It couldn’t be any other way: your involvement in and your exposure to SVB or NVB public speech resulted into SVB or NVB private speech. In the same way that your native language was conditioned by your verbal community, you have learned to produce high rates of NVB and low rates of SVB.. Some of us have more SVB than others, but most of us produce more NVB than SVB.