Fact,

 

The fact, that I have finally given up on explaining my Embodied Language (EL) to others, makes that I can write so beautifully about it every day. Who cares about talking with others, when one can talk with oneself exactly how one wants to talk? I can say everything to myself, but I can’t say anything to you. You wouldn’t and couldn’t let me, as your way of talking is based on trying to dominate others.

 

Don’t tell me, you are open to having real dialogue, because you are not. If you would be willing to have EL with me, we would be having it, but you are not. You are not interested in having EL, as long as you find Disembodied Language (DL) more important, that is, you find talking with others more important than talking with yourself. While you may believe you have, you have never talked with yourself. Yes, you may have talked with yourself, but you have talked with yourself in the same way as you have talked with others. How could it be otherwise? In DL, we talk with others, with the belief, they are someone else, someone different from ourselves. Supposedly, others are independent, different, unique or free to be who they want to be. However, their presumed separate existence from us in what we construe as an external, objective environment, is a falsehood, we keep telling ourselves with DL.

 

Naturally, others are merely what we experience, remember or believe them to be. In other words, others are or seem to be, how we describe them. When we talk out loud with ourselves, instead of with others, we realize, there is no other. There is neither a me nor a you, as there is only our way of dealing with our language. When we stop talking, we stop being aware of who we seem to be, but this is only the case, if we stop having DL. By contrast, when we stop having EL, we are fully aware of who we are, as we have been able to be verbal about it.

 

Being fully verbal involves, that we consciously speak, listen, write or read. Surely, we have never been able to become aware about our Language Enlightenment (LE), as we didn’t allow ourselves or  each other to have ongoing EL. In DL, we always want others to recognize, accept and respect us, as we do not and cannot recognize, accept and respect ourselves. We don’t know this, but, inadvertently, we do to others, what we do to ourselves, that is, we force ourselves to believe who we are or seem to be and we also force others to believe, who we believe ourselves to be or would like to be. Since we behave automatically, our DL is never stopped by anything and we can only act out our conditioning history. DL gives a strange twist to the phrase: do unto others what you would have them do to you.

 

The most bewildering aspect about EL, for those who continue with DL, is that the person with EL doesn’t appear to validate, acknowledge or even pay attention to or listen to anyone with DL. In effect, those with DL are bound to feel rejected by anyone with EL. They are infuriated, as those with EL keep saying, literally, what they don’t want to hear, namely, they aren’t listening to themselves. As I was saying, why would anyone with EL want to do this, as those with DL will continue with their DL, even if those with EL are correctly describing what is going on? Whenever I describe my experience of you, that you are not listening to yourself while you speak, that you are engaging in DL, you are digging in your heels and deny that what I say is true. And, you are angry with me or anyone, who doesn’t buy into your DL. I have done everything I describe and am no longer negatively affected by anyone’s DL.

 

I have permanently stopped talking with those who have DL, as it was the only way for me to continue with my EL. Besides, I can not stop anyone’s DL, as they will have to stop it themselves. Surely, they would only be able to stop their own DL, if they had a reason to do so, that is, a verbal instruction, which would bring the ancient mechanics of their history of conditioning to a halt. That golden rule is: listen to yourself while you speak. Only then will you hear,  feel and experience, something new taking place.

 

Nobody can be the voice for someone else. Each of us has his or her own voice and only will respond to it when we really hear this. While we may believe to be speaking with our own voice already, when we bring more attention and energy to how we sound and to what we experience, when we speak out loud alone with ourselves, it is strikingly clear to us, that, in our everyday way of talking, we don’t listen to ourselves at all and, therefore, we speak with a horrible, energy-draining, odd sound, which doesn’t belong to us, as it separates instead of connects us with ourselves. The big difference between DL and EL, therefore, is how we experience our own sound. In EL, we are proud, certain and confident, we have now stopped our own DL, as we hear something which is fresh, alive and creative, but in DL, on the other hand, we feel estranged from ourselves, failed, conflicted, stressed out and distracted.