Everyone,

 

Everyone who reads this, may know that, although I can happily have Embodied Language (EL) alone, by myself, although there are some people with whom I can have ongoing EL, I am still dissatisfied about the fact that there is, overall, no appreciation for EL. It is precisely my relentless dissatisfaction with and my outright aversion for your usual way of talking, which I call Disembodied Language (DL), which has allowed me to crystalize, with my EL, my Language Enlightenment (LE). I write these words from my LE.

 

My discovery of EL, which revealed my LE, deserves more recognition, and should not require any effort on my part. If effort must be made, it is by those who need to actively inhibit their DL, so that they can finally have some EL themselves or allow me to have EL and, in turn, let them feel what happens, once their DL has been stopped, by themselves.

 

I do not teach any course in EL, I do not give any lectures or seminars, I am not going to write a book, and I do not give any sessions, as I do not view EL as a commercial enterprise or something that should be taught or learned. EL has nothing whatsoever to do with being powerful, special, or important. Yet, I still believe people should come to me, to hear from me what EL is all about. EL is not about spirituality, science, politics, psychology, philosophy, culture, or anything else we look to, believing it can provide us with the answers to our questions. Our EL goes against everything we know and is of a different order than anything we are already familiar with.   

 

In this writing, I sum up the common distractions, as I always go on, by myself, with my EL, even if there is nobody else to have EL with. I am fully satisfied with everything EL brings to me, even if it means, the understanding that nobody is really interested.  I, therefore, say and write without any hesitation or shame, that I feel absolutely disgusted by, turned off and disapproving of your cowardly unwillingness to come to me and find out something else than your DL. I understand these words may upset you, as they accuse you of doing something immoral. You do not deserve my praise, compassion, or acceptance for your DL, but confrontation, as you should know better. 

Everyone can know there is an immense difference between your stupid, superficial, mechanical way of talking and my EL. If there is going to be any change for you, it will be, that you hear and experience my EL and realize how terrible your DL is. You will not be able to hear your own EL without hearing it from me first. And, even if you recognize the difference between your and my way of talking, you will not be able to continue with your EL, as there is nobody to reinforce it but me, who has it, who knows it and who will not fool you with cheap, but costly bullshit.

 

I am not anyone’s guru and nobody is my disciple, but I assure you, that you can only acquire EL by listening to me (not on audio or video) in person, for some time, and then, by talking with me, for some time. I do not care about what you believe about me and I say beforehand, it is not true, it cannot be true, as you do not know ongoing EL. I know about you, because I have EL. Only I can talk with my EL about your DL, but you do not possess that skill. I am also not your therapist, motivational speaker, spiritual guide, or psychologist. I find these so-called professions very harmful. I only want you to talk with me and allow me to do the talking, so you can feel and find out, what I am talking about.

 

I am so assertive, authoritative, and persistent, as I have what it takes to make an enormous difference. If you cannot stand me, you should not be with me, or you should take the challenge to get to know me and stop your own DL, so that you can experience my EL. I am not going to help you, because you will have to come my way, so that EL can be continued and be known. Do not ask anything from me, because I already give you everything and yet, you remain closed. Admit that you are totally stuck and that it is your way of talking, which has kept you stuck. Let my way of talking show you, what you also can and should do.

 

No matter whether you are willing to consider what I say, your DL is on its deathbed and EL is your only future. I am here, I am alive and you are foolish to not make use of this opportunity. We can talk, I do not charge anything, but unless you are sensitive and open to me, nothing will be possible. Yes, I am not for sale. Do not hold back and experience for yourself, what you believed me to be was wrong, what you believed yourself to be was wrong and what you believed others to be was wrong. Yes, I judge you, but I judge you correctly, while you judge me, yourself, and others incorrectly. If you would talk with me, however, you would be able to judge yourself, me, and others correctly, as we will share our ongoing EL and celebrate our LE together.

 

Fun,

 

The so-called fun you are having in Disembodied Language (DL), is always an indication of the false belief, that you are finally having some Embodied Language (EL), but anyone, who knows about the difference between DL and EL, can tell you that this is not true. No matter how many jokes you are told with DL, it never turns into EL and the nonsensical assumption, that humor and truth go hand in hand, is but an old superstition, you hang on to, as you do not know how to have ongoing EL and real fun.

 

In the exact same way, as your DL must be stopped by you, so too, you will have to turn away from all the so-called entertainment, which goes on in the name of having fun. I can understand, that stopping your own DL – and, consequently, your involvement in phony humor – is not anything to laugh about, but there would be so much to laugh about, if you did. I have done what you can also do. I find it amusing, that fake humor makes you even more miserable than before. How could it be otherwise?

 

With DL, you are in denial about what is happening in your life and that is not a laughing matter. To me, it is hilarious, as I have nothing else to laugh about. I am not in denial of the results of my own actions, which make me recognize and laugh about all your comical struggles and conflicts. Moreover, you just cannot stop fighting, arguing, and, in vain, believing, that your dumb humor is the way out of your mess, but such a belief sets you up for failure. Probably, you have never considered the escapist-aspect of your so-called need for something to laugh about?

 

You do not realize, but the comedian, who tells you funny jokes, always undermines, confuses, distracts, and exploits you, because he or she thrives on the continuation of your unfulfilled desire for common sense, truth, and verbal enjoyment. The illusion of having fun, is sold in many ways, but what I address here, is real fun, which can only emerge from our genuine interaction. Speaking truth to power, is not, as most people believe, real communication, but a neurotic, primitive, always ineffective reaction to the self-imposed imprisonment of your own DL.  

 

You can complain, criticize, argue, debate or reason all you want, unless you stop your DL, there will be nothing to really laugh about. Your only chance, to have a taste of real fun, is by attentively listening to someone like me, who has EL. People endlessly talk about the presumed importance of active listening. Why does it seem to be such a problem? I tell you why: our way of talking, DL, makes it impossible for us to listen. Naturally, I cannot stop your DL and you still must do this yourself, while you are listening to me. Unless you do this, you will not understand why what I say is so funny. Basically, I promise, that you are going to have fun, but only if you do your part.

 

I do not put any effort in trying to convince you, as I consider that a waste of my time. The future of fun is in your hands. I feel confident that you can do it. You can stop your own DL, while I talk and have fun with my EL. I rather encourage you to stop your DL than expect you to have EL. Today, for the first time I realize, it is more fun, for me, to stimulate you to give up on your DL, than to hope for your EL. I do not have any hope for your EL, but I have total faith in your ability to radically stop your own idiotic DL.

 

I do not insult you, by letting you know, I am not in favor of the fact, that you keep hurting yourself, by shooting yourself in the foot and then, putting your foot in your mouth. This is what everyone does with their demanding, forceful, reactive DL. Stop feeling offended by my words and admit, that they are true and funny, as I am not responsible for the sloppy way you deal with your language. There is no other way: you must change yourself. I do not care if you refuse. I am funny, as I enjoy my own words. There is no better way to have fun. You do not like what I say, but I understand perfectly well, that if you do not like your own words, you cannot have any fun.

 

Just face it, your usual way of talking keeps taking all the fun out of your life. You cannot affect me, as my way of talking is very different from yours. My EL gives me all the fun, which you do not have and cannot have. You will not be able to laugh, if you do not change your way of talking. Admit it, that your so-called fun is meaningless in the bigger scheme of things. Laughter is the last things on your shopping list. Most likely, it is not even on there, but you can now put it on there. In EL, laughter is central to everything we say. We laugh about understanding as well as misunderstanding ourselves and each other. If you listen to my EL, you hear it, even if you do not know how to have EL. Perhaps, your laughter will give you the courage to explore your own LE.                              

 

Again,

 

I have said it before and say it again: your so-called mind does not exist. I neither say this to convince myself nor to convince you. Surely, I am convinced, but you are not and things will remain pretty much the same, because of your tenacious belief, which I do not have. As far as I am concerned, everything constantly changes, even your stubborn, tragic, and stupid belief, in an inner deity, called the mind.

 

Of course, it is because of your conditioning history, that you happen to believe, you can think and you can have thoughts, about what it is like to be a Christian, a Hindu, a Russian, an American, a speaker, a listener, a writer, or a reader. What we address here, is that our outdated way of dealing with our language, happens, because of our superstitious way of talking. Stated differently, because of our Spoken Disembodied Language (SDL), we can only produce Written Disembodied Language (WDL) and since we have not been able to engage in ongoing Spoken Embodied Language (SEL), we only have produced a written record of our SDL. Yes, all literature is the result of our SDL. This writing is the first of its kind, as it results from my ongoing SEL.    

 

Obviously, our WDL – which, of course, includes our scriptures, laws as well as our scientific theories – fosters our belief in a mind. However, this writing or the writing of anyone, who can have EL, debunks your belief, which derives from the fact, that you could not say what you had really wanted to say. Your assumption, that you have a mind and have thoughts, is the inevitable outcome of your usual, mechanical way talking, which is DL. Why would anyone in his or her right mind (pun intended) believe there are words, sentences, thoughts, theories, pictures, associations, memories, conclusions, calculations, or ideas going on inside of their heads, while neuroscience shows us, unequivocally, that there is no verbal behavior to be found inside of our brain?  

 

This notion, that you can have quiet, private speech with your inner self, that you possess an invisible, inaudible, presumably, believable, inner being, is hogwash, based on the sad, but harsh reality, that you have never listened to someone with ongoing EL, who would invite you and encourage you to have EL as well. Certainly, the person who can do this, at the same time also stimulates you to stop your own DL. In other words, your ancient belief in your mind, is not going to be changed by me or by someone else, but by you, after you have stopped your  DL and have become capable of having ongoing EL.

 

It is literally out of the question, that everything will occur how I describe it, as all your questions about your self-imposed illusions, will have been asked as well as answered by your EL. Surely, many questions do not even require an answer anymore, because once you ask them, to yourself, with your EL, you will be able to recognize how ridiculous it is, to ask such an absurd question. Moreover, your WEL will continue to further refine and fine-tune your SEL and illustrate to you again and again, that your EL is an overt phenomenon.

 

You can hear your own SEL and you can read your own WEL and others can hear and read it too. Unless this is the case, unless others can feel, that your Language Enlightenment (LE) is as true and as valid as their own, you are just pretending to have overcome the negative effects of DL, while, you keep behaving as if you are, somehow, better than others. Your anxiety-provoking fantasy, that you and others have a mind, always goes hand in hand with the equally fictitious notion, that someone, presumably, is special, as he or she has a great mind, while others, supposedly, are only small-minded.

 

Your insidious belief of having a mind or being in your mind, is why you are convinced, you are either superior or inferior to others. This comparison forever prevents you from being or staying with yourself, that is, from listening to yourself while you speak. In DL, the speaker dominates the listener, thus, you never get to hear what you would say to yourself, from a listener’s perspective.  

 

In DL, you do not and cannot even talk with yourself, as you keep beating yourself up, since you, as the speaker, presumably, is more important than you, as the listener. Of course, there exists no such entity, as the inner agent, which you refer to as the speaker or the listener, as only speaking or listening behavior is going on. Likewise, there is neither a writer nor a reader, as only writing or reading behavior is going on. In SEL, speaking and listening behavior occur at the exact same rate, and in WEL, writing and reading behavior are perfectly synchronized, but in SDL, your speaking and listening behavior are out of sync and in WDL, your writing and reading behavior happen at disparate rates (hence, what people refer to as writer's block). This incongruence causes everyone many problems, but when you listen to yourself while you speak or read while you write, you will speak or write like this and be clear and certain, that you can express everything you had wanted to express. In other words, in EL, you truly communicate, as you drop your so-called mind and all the endless nightmares and falsehoods that were created and maintained by your coercive, unconscious, energy-draining DL.             

 

Change,

 

People have been forever protesting for freedom, dignity, equality, and justice, but their call has never led to a change from Disembodied Language (DL) to Embodied Language (EL). Of course, such a change was never anyone’s objective. If that would have been the case, things would be very different, but despite millions of people demanding, screaming, begging, and fighting for change, the hegemony has remained the same. So-called experts everywhere are tooting their horns, yet they do not even know about the difference between DL and EL. If there is ever going to be any positive change, it is going to come from those, who know about that difference and who insist on making this difference, like me.

 

While many, people, who, presumably, are very important, brag about making a difference, they are incapable of acknowledging the great dissimilarity between their usual way of talking, which is DL and the way of talking, which really makes a difference, which is EL. Right now, only I and a few friends are capable of distinguishing between DL and EL and all those, who do not know, unintentionally, merely advocate for another, supposedly, modern, version of DL. They make others believe, that their version of DL is somehow more effective, as they are better at manipulating, dominating, and deceiving. Not surprisingly, DL, our common, trouble-some way of talking, is everywhere and is making the possibility and necessity of EL even more and more elusive.

 

Anyone who knows about EL, who, subsequently, also acknowledges the difference between EL and DL, realizes, the opportunities for communicators to change their DL to EL, only become smaller and smaller, as we age and, eventually, do not occur at all anymore. Someone like me refuses to do what others do and is not interested in or effected by the forceful, repetitive, unintelligent actions of others. I only identify, accept, and act on my own interests and readily, happily admit, I have only one single objective: the only thing which matters is what makes and keeps me happy. The fact that millions of people live empty lives of protest, conflict, and anxiety, greatly impairs our relationships. Basically, the continuation of their DL is totally depressing.

 

Due to your unconscious, mechanical, boring DL, you completely misunderstand and misjudge, the inevitable, devastating effects of your so-called culture-wars. It is not by coincidence, that all of mankind is, when it comes down to it, just like you, against individualism and trapped by tribalism or group-think. You call it climate justice or black lives matter, but you keep describing and categorizing yourself and as others as belonging to this or that group. This – and nothing else – continues your DL.

 

If your DL remains unaddressed, you are bound to continue with it, without knowing that you have it. Mankind is doomed to the destructive accumulative effects of DL. Nothing changes for you, unless you, somehow, manage to stop your own DL and start to have ongoing EL. There is no other incentive to stop your usual way of talking, than your discovery of your own EL. To your disadvantage, you make it seem as if DL is all you have got. You are your own worst enemy and stopping your DL is the only way to start having some EL. EL is better than DL. Once we have it, we will finally all be on the same page.           

 

Being on the same page is not some metaphor, but you understanding and acknowledging the truth of these words. Unless you accomplish EL, you have not accomplished anything. People, who talk about making a difference, are wrong. Nobody was doing anything right, if they continued with DL. Moreover, you did not know what you were talking about with DL. It is not your fault, that you were conditioned to only have DL and ignore your EL and your natural way of being, called Language Enlightenment (LE). It is up to you to get involved with your own language.    

 

Happy,

 

Being happy involves a focus on how you deal with your language. Many people have talked about happiness, but they never brought their attention to speaking, listening, writing, and reading. To the contrary, they are busy with everything else, except with their language. You consider your language as something you have in common with others, who belong to the same verbal community, but you have never stepped away from this so-called group-think, to explore, understand and find your own language.   

 

How do you prefer to speak? Why do you listen? What do you write, if you would write about your way of talking? What is the use of reading what others have written, which is all based on their involvement in Disembodied Language (DL)? If you would discover your own way of dealing with language, you would be engaging in Embodied Language (EL). There are no books about EL and there do not need to be. Speaking EL is important.

 

We have greatly overestimated, exaggerated, and misjudged the importance of written language, and we have underestimated, neglected, and remained unaware about the necessity of spoken language. The fact, that we consider written words to be more important than spoken words, indicates that we are not only missing out on EL, which is, simply stated, the beauty and joy of the spoken word, but we are also completely oblivious about the way in which the written word either enhances or undermines the spoken word. If we engage in DL, we are bound to produce writings, which will further set us apart, as the restoration of the importance of the spoken word, by means of writing about it, is as important as speaking about it. You would only be able to write about EL, if you first spoke about it. You can’t do the former, if you haven’t done the latter.

 

Your happiness has remained merely something you wish for, that is why in DL, you childishly demand the attention of the listener. Nobody else has ever put into proper perspective, why, during our usual way of talking, which is DL, speakers struggle to get and keep getting the attention from the listener? There is only one reason: to dominate the listener.

 

In DL the speaker, in one way or another, coerces the listener. In principle, this done to prevent the listener from speaking, but this is often covered up by pretending as if the speaker speaks on behalf of the listener. The speaker, supposedly, represents the listener, and, yes, he or she would even claim to give a voice to the voiceless. In EL, on the other hand, speakers do not dominate listeners, because they listen to themselves, and, therefore, they are able to experience how the listener is experiencing the speaker. Thus, EL speakers produce an entirely different sound or energy, than DL speakers.

 

The listener hears an EL speaker say things, which he or she could have said so him or herself and he or she experiences attunement with the speaker, but listening to a DL speaker, the listener disagrees with the speaker, who he or she experiences as separate or different from him or herself. In DL, the listener is conflicted by the speaker. Such conflict appears to continue, in the listener, even after the DL speaker is no longer there or is done speaking.

 

Negative self-talk or a troubled mind is an illusion, created by the so-called memory of trauma, which is produced by the fact that our nervous system was conditioned to experience, in the name of ordinary conversation, to endure stress, aggression, fear, humiliation, anxiety, disrespect, oppression, and, stupidity. The worst form of conditioning, is the conditioning of mediocrity, which prevents the listener from becoming a speaker, who can listen to him or herself while he or she speaks. Indeed, DL is the language of superficiality. Obviously, listeners can handle a lot of abuse, but the lack of intelligence of the forceful, dumb DL speaker, conditions millions of listeners to go against their own self-interests.

 

Happiness is impossible, if we do not know what our self-interest entails, but it will be found if we recognize it in our way of doing things. We can hear it, while we speak, we experience it and prolong it, by becoming aware, our happiness has its own sound. Moreover, our happiness, which I call Language Enlightenment (LE), wants us to do certain things, but protects us from doing things, which are not good for us. Thus, with our EL, we fully express our LE and we find happiness in everything we do.   

 

Of Course,

 

Of course, I write and speak like this, because I am happy. If you would be happy, like me, you would write and speak like me as well. Most likely, we would often speak with each other, as there are not that many people with whom we can share our happiness. Most people believe, that although not everyone is happy, certainly a lot of people are, but this is not true. Only very few people are happy. How could they be happy, if they do not know anything at all about Embodied Language (EL)?

 

People may try to be happy; they may act as if they are happy; other people may believe that they are happy and they might even believe it themselves, but this does not mean that they are happy. Only if we have EL can we be happy. I can say and write this, because I engage in EL and I have stopped my Disembodied Language (DL). Those who have not done what I have done, can not be happy. And, I am convinced, I am right. My happiness would convince anyone, it is true, what I say and write. However, nobody wants to know about my happiness. This is how it always goes with someone who is happy.

 

Perhaps, you may read these words and consider, a moment or two, what I am saying, but you are not talking with me and you already know, you never are going to either. Why is that? I know why that is. It is because my happiness will show you, that your so-called happiness is not true, is totally fake, is just a big show. Stated differently, real happiness is infuriating to you. To see or hear me, makes you jealous. To first experience and then, to understand me, makes you angry, because you had assumed to know something about happiness, but you have been believing in your own lies. My happiness is an enormous confrontation for you, as there is no other way, than to fully admit, that you are still unhappy, as you are still engaging in DL, every day.

 

It makes no difference to me, if you want to know about my happiness or not, as my happiness does not depend on your approval. However, I know how to have EL and you do not. I am not saying that you need my approval for your EL, but, as far as I know, I am the only one, who knows about the difference between DL and EL. Therefore, you will not hear or read anyone else speak or write about it, in the way that I do. My descriptions are exact, that is, if you would experiment with listening to yourself while you speak, you would find out, that everything is exactly as I have said it is. Everyone who talks with me experiences the same phenomena, once they begin to acknowledge their own DL and EL.

 

With the DL/EL distinction, we have stumbled on the lawfulness of behavior. Any behavior comes about only, when it is possible, when, knowingly or unknowingly, we have created the circumstances in which it could occur. Yes, it may come as a surprise to you, that we mainly engage in DL and that when we have a moment of EL, it is gone before we know it. We are shocked to feel, there was an instance of consciousness, but we can not continue with it, as we do not know how to do that. We lack the skills.

 

It is astonishing, that in DL, we remain busy with all kinds of other things, except the verbal behavior, which makes us happy or keeps us unhappy. Our unhappiness is not caused by any of the reasons we usually give for it. Simply stated, our unhappiness is the result of how we deal with our language and it all goes back to how we talk. Once we deal with our language correctly, we are permanently happy. I am always happy, because my EL makes me deal with my language in such a manner, that my Language Enlightenment (LE) can be expressed. The incorrect way of dealing with language, is when, due to our DL, our LE remains unexpressed and unknown to us.

 

We speak about happiness, but it is the expression of our LE, which we, unknowingly, are referring to. Also, when we speak about being open, respectful, kind, patient, understanding, successful, confident, or empathetic, we are referring to EL. By contrast, if we talk about and experience, that we are being defensive, aggressive, pretentious, when we feel, we are failing, struggling, overwhelmed, distracted, oppressed, fearful or confused, we always engage in DL. With DL, nobody can be happy and without any knowledge about the difference between DL and EL, we continue to have DL, while we endlessly keep talking about happiness, peace, collaboration or having a real conversation. In DL, we keep talking about things, without experiencing how we feel while we speak. I am happy, because I feel happy while I speak or write, even if it is all by myself.                 

 

Interactions,

 

Our interactions with each other are the foundation for our relationships. Due to our conversations, we, hopefully, behave, in, what can be described as, at least, a somewhat civilized manner. However, each society, every culture, came about and was and is sustained mainly by Disembodied Language (DL).

 

Although Embodied Language (EL) is, simply stated, our natural, effortless way of talking, we seldom if ever accomplish it. Even among, presumably, close family members, friends, or the participants of the groups we affiliate with because of preferences, beliefs, or values, we hardly have any EL. Sadly, we can only have some accidental EL with each other, but never deliberately, skillfully, or consistently. The few, brief moments of EL, which we usually describe as profound or deep, are troublesome, as we do not possess the necessary skill set to go on with it and we do not know how to find it back, when we lose it. The moment we experience some EL, it is gone.   

 

Thousands of philosophical, psychological, spiritual self-help books and articles have been written, to address what I call EL, but they all have missed the mark, as they were, at best, a distraction from or an effort to, supposedly, transcend our DL. Since none of our so-called experts know anything about the great difference between DL and EL, it has never been stated clearly, that what we have framed as psychology, philosophy, or spirituality is, just like our sciences, merely referring to our way of talking.

 

Surely, we hang on to all kinds of texts, guidelines, scriptures, theories, laws, definitions, and myths, in the idle hope to achieve some EL, but the reality is, our writings, about speaking and relationship, has never done anything to change how we interact. We live in modern environments, which are made possible by our technologies and sciences, yet, we talk in a superstitious, anti-intellectual manner.

 

The quintessential falsehood of DL is our tenacious belief, that we have a mind. However, with EL, we finally fully acknowledge, there are only neurons, neurotransmitters, white and grey matter, in our heads, but there are no thoughts, sentences, words, pictures, memories, or associations. Our common way of talking has maintained the harmful illusion that we can have covert speech or inaudible private conversations with ourselves. Due to our almost permanent involvement in DL, this seems to be the only way we know and accept, how to speak about our experiences. Anyone with half a brain will know: there never existed an inner, behavior-causing self.

 

We talk about our behavior as if we know, but our catastrophic lives illustrate, we only know how to mechanically repeat our old assumptions, which were conditioned by the circumstances, which we have experienced and endured. Our EL is not some theory, but a biological reality. We either can talk without any fear, because we feel completely safe and relaxed or we speak in way, which signifies, we feel threatened, stressed, defensives, aggressive or dissociated. Therefore, the difference between EL and DL is the evolutionary truth about how we talk.

 

The Dutch behaviorist Beata Bakker-De Pree (1987) elaborated in her fascinating book Constructional Behavior Therapy about the behavioral repertoire humans have in common with other organisms. Like B.F. Skinner, she had an evolutionary approach to behavior. Her theory of Dominant Active Avoidance, which perfectly dovetails with the EL/DL distinction, applied to relationships, states (I paraphrase from memory): we either approach each other and are happy or – whether we know it or not, can talk about it or not, admit or not, or are aware of it or not – we somehow seek to escape or avoid each other. Stated differently, we use our language to approach and maintain a sense of regulation or we use it to survive, by means of escape or avoidance.  

 

Escape behavior is very costly, as we have come close to a source of danger. To survive, our escape behavior should ideally be kept at a minimum and, proportionally, represent the least of our behavioral repertoire. Let us say, it should only be 5% of what we do. Ideally, we do not need to escape and the remaining 95% of our behavior contains avoidance or approach behavior. To maintain homeostasis, all living organisms only thrive if, proportionally, the largest part of their behavioral repertoire consists of dominant active avoidance. Approach behavior is, proportionally, much smaller than our avoidance behavior. However, finding water, food, mating, exploring, and playing, may still bring us closer to threatening circumstances. The total picture of our behavioral repertoire may look like this: 5% escape behavior, 85% dominant active avoidance and 10% approach behavior. This example is not necessarily applicable for everyone, but is meant to highlight the fact, that active avoidance should dominate our behavior. Surely, we can only accomplish this if our way of talking (EL) keeps instructing us to do this.  

 

As we can easily observe in our own lives and in the lives of others, that our dominant active avoidance behavior is, due to our DL, not playing its crucially important protective role. We, disproportionally, approach things which and people who are no good for us, from which we must escape. We still have much avoidance behavior, however, since it is not conscious, and, it is not effective. Our unconscious avoidance behavior (e.g. alcohol, drugs, violence, porn, food, amusement, work, news), prevents us from approaching healthy things and brings us in touch with life-threatening circumstances, which, ideally, should have been actively avoided. If we would prolong our EL, those behaviors would simply dissolve, as it would become clear only dominant active avoidance behavior can keep us safe, healthy, and happy. Likewise, we would only want to approach what truly benefits and enhances us, which would develop the verbal skill-set, which is essential to achieving and sustaining our wellbeing.  

 

Although EL can certainly be enjoyed with others and allows us to share our Language Enlightenment (LE) – the verbal version of homeostasis – our EL will primarily remain a form of self-stimulation, rather than a socially reinforced behavior. In other words, our need to be safe, while being verbal is innate. As  we speak, we will continue to reflexively respond to anything that is perceived, correctly or incorrectly,  as a threat. Therefore, DL is ubiquitous and EL has never flourished anywhere, as our DL has always pushed our EL aside. To this day, primitive survival behavior has continued to remain the basis of how we speak with one another. Consequently, our interaction, as conceived during DL, is always about the battle for attention. Speakers only survive or seemingly matter, if they can verbally win the battle for dominance. Interestingly, in American politics today, the left does not want to debate anymore with the right, as the technology and bureaucracy allows them to get their message across relatively painlessly. Of course, they do not practice EL, but DL, but evidently, they will do anything to avoid DL.