Sounding Horrible,

 

Although we don’t listen to it, and, although we remain unconscious about it, if we would take the time to listen to it, we would know, that we don’t really want to listen to our Disembodied Language (DL), because we just sound horrible.

 

Our usual way of talking – DL – which is going on everywhere, twenty-four-seven, just sounds terrible and, yet, we never acknowledge, that the reason, we don’t listen to each other and get along with each other, is because we don’t listen to ourselves while we speak. Surely, we also don’t get along with ourselves and this is why we imagine, we have troubling thoughts.

 

Nobody wants to talk about and come clean about the difference between Embodied Language (EL) and DL, the alienating, phony, superficial language they engage in every day, because it is embarrassing to admit, that we compulsively do something against our will, without realizing it. Once we own up to our DL, we can’t help, but recognize, that our common use of language is against our freedom.

 

People are screaming, forcing, arguing, fighting, bluffing, hiding, fleeing, freezing and distracting and all this goes on, as our, supposedly, normal way of talking. However, our ubiquitous DL is distorted, sickening, offensive and unintelligent, once we engage in EL. When we have ongoing EL, we know are better, than who we have been with our disastrous DL. Moreover, once we have had ongoing EL, there is no way back to DL, as there is no excuse for this repetitive stupidity.

 

DL is totally uninteresting. DL is boring, tedious, punishing and draining. To stop your own DL, is to do yourself the biggest favor, but to continue with it, is to torture yourself. In the name of our usual, expected, disconnecting way of talking millions of people, unknowingly, ruin their own lives and the lives of others. They justify the shit they pull of with their DL, with politics, religion, ethnicity or other herd-behavior. They condemn anyone who stands up as an individual, because they don’t know and fear the language of the individual.  

 

I have always felt and known, when it comes to an actual confrontation, people refuse to have the conversation, in which it becomes clear what is DL and what is EL. The numerous times I have tried to point this out, people always dismissed me, as they wanted to escape from admitting, that they are the ones who are dominating me. I’m unafraid to argue with anyone, but I refuse to be punished again because I am right, and I don’t buy into any crap they pull on me with their disgusting DL.

 

The reason I withdrew from my PhD psychology study at Palo Alto University – at the very end, while I was writing my dissertation and accruing my clinical hours – was because nobody there had the sincerity to admit, that they wanted to punish me for exposing and opposing their DL, which they justify with their arrogant authoritarian academic bullshit. I had wanted to write my dissertation about the DL/EL distinction, but I was forced by the director himself – who told me in forceful terms, after first inviting me and my wife at his house, overlooking the Pacific Ocean, for dinner – I had to follow the uninspiring research of my dull supervisor, although, upon enrolling in this expensive institution, I had been promised,  that I could determine my own research topic. They still owe it to me, to give my money back!  

 

I am talking about my lived experience and the sixty-five years I have been alive, I have yet to get any official credit for both the discovery as well as the formulation and conceptualization of what can become a new foundation for the field of psychology, which has not delivered. If psychologist were compared to engineers, who build bridges, they built flimsy bridges, which collapse, because they cannot hold the traffic of human interaction. The DL/EL distinction is at the very core what is mistakenly called mental or behavioral health. All behavior is regulated by our language, which means, either by our DL or by our EL. Our DL goes hand in hand with an involuntary behavioral repertoire, which is a sure recipe for the unhappy, conflicted, chaotic, meaningless lives we are living. Only ongoing EL can make us live a healthy, productive, truthful, satisfying, conscious, intelligent way of life.  

 

You just can’t believe what I say is true, but it is true, that when you finally speak out loud with yourself, tell yourself what is going on with you in your life and listen to the sound of your own voice, you will not like what you hear, because you engage in DL. You can only get to your EL, after you have fully admitted, to yourself, again and again, you don’t like the sound of your DL.                   

 

Getting used Embodied Language (EL),

Even though I discovered EL when I was about twenty, I'm still getting used to the fact that I can have it and that my ongoing EL is my Language Enlightenment (LE). You could also say, I am still not completely resolved. That last bit is apparently waiting until I die. Still, I feel very happy – even though I don't believe in having a soul – and to feel the rage of Disembodied Language (DL) every now and then is a grateful reminder of how I got to where I am today . The many positive changes keep on happening and in the wonderful life that I live, everything just keeps getting better.

 

Above all, I still have to get used to the fact, that I really am such a loving person who, despite all the lack of love, has managed to keep himself going for sixty-five years. Because of the love I experience with my wife, Bonnie, I have not become crazy, but enlightened. And there is someone, my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, who, like me, speaks to herself and with whom I talk weekly about EL and our LE. We both used to have a lot of drama, but now it has been resolved or it is still being resolved, in writing on our blog and in talking to ourselves, as I do here in this text or on my You Tube videos. I am truly as gilded as a priceless Rembrandt painting and I also feel something quintessentially Dutch in it, but I also appreciate Vincent van Gogh's lively play of colors. Because I have talked and listened to myself a lot, I can see and enjoy so much. There was a time when I discovered Russian classical music, through which my great sense of sadness could flow. I salute these heroes of sound, beauty and humanity.

I still can't get used to the horrible fact, that no one else is really interested in stopping their own DL and having EL. I probably just refuse to believe it. If someone like me - who has felt so sad, dissatisfied, rejected and misunderstood - could manage to stop dealing with all the misery caused by his DL, could continue with his own EL, and find, to his surprise, that the benefits of his EL continue to increase, then shouldn't that be possible for everyone? For myself I am right, thus, I know that everyone can do this.

 

The often-heard statement, we still have to get used to it, has, due to our DL, added that have-to-part to it. However, in EL there is no question of having to do or be anything. We can therefore get used to the fact, that the soup is apparently never eaten as hot as it is served. Patiently allowing our hot-tempered disgusting DL to cool down is extremely important. Swaddling, in Holland, included warming the infant by the fire. If, however, the swaddle was too tight or if one came too close to this fire, the child was believed to become hot-tempered, irritable or thoughtless by nature. Funnily enough, I still seem to be getting used to the fact that I was born. The swaddle and the fire, I am talking about, is DL, which surrounds us all.

I am suddenly reminded, just before my emigration to the United States, my mother suddenly took me aside, because she wanted to tell me something, she had never talked to me about before. I immediately felt alarmed. She let me know, that the cheerful, often-singing midwife - who was also her dear friend and who had previously helped her very well with the home birth of my two older sisters – died in a car accident only a couple of days before my birth. So, my mother was in mourning when I was born and cried incessantly. The new midwife was an impatient, cigarette-smoking, young, inexperienced woman. My mother felt that my fate in life had been determined by the sad circumstances in which I was born, and we both cried about it...

 

For a long period in my life, I was still trying to get used to the DL, I grew up with. I got upset, so many times, when I started to notice, that DL is going on everywhere. Although I shouted a lot, I always paid a huge price for my participation in DL. Since my punitive, controlling father, with his intimidating shouts, imposed his will on everyone, there was a lot of fighting and arguing in the family in which I grew up. As a child, I was always outside, to avoid this. There were also nice moments when everyone was good together, but that was always short-lived.

I know from behavioral theory, when one grows up in a situation, from which there is no escape, then a process of habituation or habit formation takes place, in which the individual survives by adapting. This is always inevitably accompanied by the development of neurotic behavior. Moreover, it has  the traumatic consequence, that the nervous system develops in such a way that an unsafe environment is experienced as normal and a safe environment as abnormal. For me, this meant that - even though I had already discovered the difference between DL and EL - I still could not believe, it was possible to continue with my own EL. I'm still getting used to that. I firmly believe, all of mankind is traumatized by our history with dreadful DL, we are just not conscious about it.

It may sound unbelievable, but, even though everyone, everywhere in the world, has been conditioned to have DL, they still can't and won't get used to it, because EL is not only possible, but desperately needed. EL is natural, effortless, self-evident, but DL is compulsive, unnatural and energy-consuming. I know that, unknowingly, we are all yearning to finally have some EL. Yet, we all tend to pretend that our DL is very normal, but if we had the choice to choose between DL or EL, we would invariably choose EL. My writing on this blog and my speaking on my You Tube channels 1) Maximus Peperkamp and 2) maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw, is to get the reader or listener used to the fact, that our usual, negative way of speaking – DL – is actually abnormal and profoundly problematic.

 

Two writings from AnnaMieke, 

Below are two beautiful writings translated from Dutch, written by my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, with whom I have weekly conversations about our Embodied Language (EL) and our Language Enlightenment (LE) on Skype. Come and join us. We would love that. Email me at mpeperkamp@sbcglobal.net. My skype name is limbicease. AnnaMieke writes and speaks in Dutch on Stiller Ervaren. (klompanna.blogspot.com)  and has many fabulous, fascinating, fantastic videos on her You Tube Channel: Luisterend Spreken.   

 

Portal of Silence.

 

Portal of silence that I find myself in, where the entrance to all my writing and speaking is located and I can notice what a silence can do when I stand still in the moment of experience and my voice that I have, as a cast reflection of myself can take me along, into the space I create, that walking through the portal, find reassurance in my calmness of speaking, in the flow I am in and invites me to write or speak about this in my language came into existence. Where the value of my life is placed in a link, which remains the clue in the portal of silence, to dare to take that step, to listen to yourself, to experience that your own voice demands it, to know that wearing so many other things no longer suits you. Who, under the assumption of experiencing who you really are, has been waiting for so long for the permission you give, to see what the portal of silence can bring you in life experiencing your own voice. Where embodiment can come again and let arise in what comes. The entrance that I have found in the silence that I have, in being able to experience that in every conversation, wisdom can unfold, my flow of experience can be established from the silence that I have discovered. To then be able to speak and write in the creation that this morning while I was walking I saw a stork standing and was reminded of a birth that I know well and could draw to me as very symbolic and then saw that the portal of silence showed me that this will be the entrance to speaking and writing from my language. Where my silence can be found in being able to be silent and not wanting anything else than where I am now. I walked further and saw a turtle he got lost and crossed on a busy road, where a very friendly girl picked up the turtle and put him on the other side. I was able to look at him for that little head that I saw, but when I started talking to the turtle, I saw how he stood listening to my voice and then came out and wanted to walk in the beautiful rhythm it had, in the fleetingness of the experience and that I felt how adventurous his sudden appearance brought me back to the calm and rhythm that I saw how the turtle showed itself. In the end, someone took it who had room for it, and I continued walking in the experiences I had and felt so happy in what this morning brought me again, in what I remain telling from the portal of silence, which remains in the new movement, but also continuing to feel the invitation to direct myself to the other and take you to the portal of silence, which is ultimately possible for everyone, and there you could find your own silence in order to make the attempts in the steps you take, to experience your own silence, in speaking to yourself and find your own portal there, where in your own silence you are always told how you would experience can land as you create.

 

Individuality.

 

What the individuality of understanding has taken the form of the sound that I create myself, that in my wildest dreams, the sun shines again, can greet the trees as if they were my family and let mother earth feel the tingle in the steps that I take. I put what happened to me into listening to myself. There is no similarity to be drawn in sharing on my blog or speaking as it wants to unfold, where the rhythm I feel has softened, in the readiness of my language, which so improbably no longer wants to have a similarity, than to let it arise in every moment of sharing. The layers of being in the realm of rarity, where the ergo in sounding seems no different than the wings that a bird has, than the moon is more beautiful to experience if I pay attention . My day can also start as I am writing now. No longer being crushed in what I do not know, but in the confidence in who I am, being able to look further for a single reason, that in my world there is no struggle or pleasure, or a distorted opinion, where manipulation always lies. But I can remain in my own conviction, in the value of experiencing, always put it in the foreground and always stand still, in every moment, where my beauty can arise. That the opportunity I take to tell myself and then see that my individuality has shifted to an area where my silence wants to blossom and can go along with the waving of the reeds, which in the whole of interpretation tells nothing else that I am investigating what my silence tells. It is the atmosphere that I taste of daring to experience, what silence can do to me and can present as a revelation, in speaking to myself and sitting still, no words can find more, but to experience what it feels like, what my silence now tells. Being equal and feeling one as nature can show and bending towards all the flowers that open in front of my face, in the colorful reception in my do it every day, that in the simplicity of my experience I can do this every day. My individuality in writing, but also in my speaking, where my language is the foundation, where my experience of my silence continues and can show that there is is more than what I can describe and meets my loving silence there. I rub my hair and feel on my face that the traces of some wrinkles mean little to me anymore. Because the silence I feel has a different focus than it shows in the individuality I find, daring to be as I am, in my individuality of sharing and being able to show that nothing is too crazy for me to describe from the silence that I have.

 Wennen,

 

Ook al ontdekte ik het toen ik ongeveer twintig was, ik ben er nog steeds aan het wennen, dat ik Belichaamde Taal (BT) kan hebben en dat mijn voortgaande BT mijn Taal Verlichting (TV) is. Je zou ook kunnen zeggen, dat ik nog steeds niet helemaal ben opgelost en dat dat laatste restje schijnbaar wacht totdat ik dood zal gaan. Toch voel ik mij zielsgelukkig – ook al geloof ik niet in het hebben van een ziel – en is, dat ik, af en toe, Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) kan hebben, een dankbare herinnering, aan hoe ik ben gekomen tot waar ik nu ben. De positieve veranderingen blijven zich maar aandienen en in het heerlijke leven dat ik leef, wordt alles als maar beter.

 

Ik moet er vooral nog steeds aan wennen, dat ik echt zo’n liefdevol iemand ben, die ondanks al de liefdeloosheid, zichzelf al vijfenzestig jaar lang heeft weten staande te houden. Vanwege de liefde, die ik ervaar met mijn vrouw, Bonnie, ben ik niet gek, maar verlicht geworden. En, er is een iemand, AnnaMieke, mijn dierbare Nederlandse vriendin, die net als ik, met zichzelf spreekt en waarmee ik wekelijks praat over EL en onze TV. Vroeger hadden wij beiden nog een hoop drama, maar nu is dat opgelost of lost het zich alsnog op, in het schrijven op onze blog en in het praten met  onszelf, zoals ik hier doe in deze tekst of op mijn You Tube videos. Ik ben werkelijk zo verguld als een onbetaalbaar Rembrandt-schilderij en voel hierin ook iets oer-Hollands, maar apprecieer ook het levendige kleuren-spel van Vincent van Gogh. Omdat ik veel naar mezelf heb geluisterd, kan ik zoveel zien en daarvan genieten. Er was een tijd, waarin ik Russische classieke muziek ontdekte, waardoor mijn verdriet kon stromen.

 

Ook kan ik er nog steeds niet aan wennen, dat er verder niemand echt geinteresseerd is in het stoppen van hun eigen OT en in het hebben van BT. Waarschijnlijk weiger ik het gewoon te geloven. Indien een iemand zoals ik – die zich, zo droevig, ontevreden, afgewezen en miskend  heeft gevoeld – het wist klaar te spelen, op te houden, om bezig te blijven met alle ellende, die door OT werd veroorzaakt, om voort te gaan met zijn eigen BT, en om, tot grote verbazing, te bemerken, dat de weldaad van zijn BT alsmaar blijft toenemen, dan zou dat toch voor iedereen mogelijk moeten zijn? Voor mijzelf heb ik gelijk. 

 

De veel-gehoorde uitspraak, dat we er wel nog even aan moeten wennen, heeft, vanwege onze OT, dat nare woordje moeten erbij gevoegd. In BT is er echter geen enkele sprake van moeten. We mogen en kunnen er dus aan wennen, dat de soep echt nooit zo heet wordt gegeten als hij wordt opgediend. Het geduldig laten afkoelen van onze heet-gebakerde OT is van enorm groot belang. Het bakeren bestond onder meer in het warmen van de zuigelingen bij het vuur. Kwam men daar nu te dicht bij, dan werd het kind te heet gebakerd, prikkelbaar of ondoordacht van natuur. Ik ben, grappig-genoeg schijnbaar, nog steeds aan het wennen, dat ik geboren ben. Het vuur is echter natuurlijk de OT, die ons omringd.

 

Men verweet mij vroeger heel vaak, dat ik toch niet zo heet gebakerd zou moeten zijn, maar ik heb, tot op nu – omdat ik zojuist de oorsprong opzocht op www.ensie.nl – nooit geweten wat het nou eigenlijk betekende. Men heeft het er ook wel over, dat het babietje te stijf werd ingebakerd, waardoor deze lastig of rumoerig werd. Deze uitdrukking wint aan beeldende kracht, wanneer men haar volledig hoort in de Klucht van Lichte Wigger, waar iemand tot een ander zegt: jou moer heit je te heet ghebakert voor een eicken vier. Daar ziet men een moeder of kraembewaerster met het kind op schoot, gezeten in de bakermat, over de grote schouw, waaronder eikeblokjes vlammen en knetteren.

 

Ik ben er ineens weer aan herinnerd, dat mijn moeder mij, vlak voor mijn emigratie naar de Verenigde Staten, ineens apart nam, omdat ze mij nog iets wilde vertellen, waarover ze nooit eerder met mij had gesproken. Ik voelde me meteen gealarmeerd. Ze liet ze me weten, dat de opgewekte, vaak-zingende, verloskundige – die eveneens haar dierbare vriendin was en die haar al eerder heel goed had geholpen, met de thuis-geboorte van mijn twee oudere zussen – daags voor mijn geboorte in een auto-ongeluk was overleden. Mijn moeder was dus in rouw toen ik was geboren en onophoudelijk huilde. De vreemde, plaatsvervangende, vroedvrouw, was een ongeduldige, sigaret-rokende, jonge, onervaren vrouw. Mijn moeder had het gevoel, dat ik door die droevige omstandigheid, waarin ik ter wereld was gekomen, was bepaald in mijn levenslot en we huilden hierover allebei…

 

Mijn hele lang leven al, ben ik aan het wennen, om niet weer van de kaart te raken over de OT, waarin ik was opgegroeid. Ofschoon, ik ook zelf heel wat heb afgeschreeuwd, heb ik altijd een enorme prijs betaald, voor mijn deelname aan DL. Omdat mijn overheersende vader, met zijn straffende geschreeuw, aan iedereen zijn wil oplegde, was er veel ruzie in de familie waarin ik opgroeide. Ik was als kind altijd buiten, om hieraan te kunnen ontkomen. Er waren ook wel mooie momenten, waarin iedereen goed met elkaar was, maar dat was altijd van korte duur.

 

Ik weet van de gedragsleer, dat als men in een situatie opgroeit – waaruit als kind niet valt te ontsnappen – vindt er een soort gewenning of gewoonte-vorming plaast, waarin het individu overleeft door zich aan te passen. Dit gaat altijd onvermijdelijk gepaard met de ontwikkeling van  neurotisch gedrag. In het ergste geval heeft dit als traumatisch gevolg, dat het zenuwgestel zich zo ontwikkeld, dat een onveilige omgeving als normaal wordt ervaren en een veilige omgeving als abnormaal. Dit heeft voor mij betekend, dat ik – ofschoon ik het verschil tussen OT en BT al had ontdekt – het toch niet kon geloven, dat het mogelijk was om met BT verder te gaan. Ik ben daaraan dus nog steeds aan het wennen.

 

Het klinkt misschien ongelovelijk, maar, ook al is iedereen, overal ter wereld, geconditioneerd om OT te hebben, toch kan en wil men er maar niet aan wennen, omdat BT niet alleen mogelijk is, maar hoognodig is. BT is natuurlijk, moeiteloos, vanzelf-sprekend, maar OT is dwangmatig, onnatuurlijk en energie-verslindend. Ongemerkt smachten we allemaal om eindelijk BT te kunnen hebben. We doen allemaal wel net alsof OT heel normaal is, maar als wij de keus zouden hebben, om te kiezen tussen OT of BT, kiezen we steevast BT. Mijn schrijven op deze blog en mijn spreken op mijn You Tube kanalen 1) Maximus Peperkamp en 2) maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw, is om de lezer of luisteraar eraan te laten wennen, dat onze gebruikelijke wijze van spreken – DL – dus eigenlijk abnormaal en zeer problematisch is.

 Now,

 

Famous people – like Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Satguru, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Osho, Ramanana Maharshi, Gautama Buddha, Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, B.K.S. Iyengar, Thich Nhat Hahn, Alan Watts, Mahatma Gandhi, Lao Tzu, Joel Osteen, Henry David Thoreau, Mother Teresa, Wayne Dyer, Ophra Winfrey, Paramahansa Yogananda, Jim Carrey, Byron Katie – often feel the urge, to make a big deal about being in the here and now. They are with many more, than thirteen in a dozen. I’ve lost counting. Interestingly, none of them have ever spoken about the great difference between Disembodied Language (DL) and Embodied Language (EL). Anyone who talks about being in the here and now without mentioning, that we must first stop our DL, so that we can have EL, doesn’t know what he or she is talking about.

 

All so-called wisdom, mankind has accumulated in books, laws, videos, podcasts, courses, blogs, seminars, stories, songs, poems or other works of art, hasn’t led to acknowledgement of the DL/EL distinction. Consequently, our highly problematic DL, in which we, as speakers, don’t listen to ourselves, has continued unabated. Day by day, it becomes more painfully obvious, when it comes to talking, listening, interacting, communicating, we are hopelessly stuck. Our problems aren’t addressed, let alone solved. We live on a ticking time-bomb. Any moment, we may explode again. Yes, there’s nothing new going on, as our usual way of talking has always escalated in another outburst of war and chaos.

 

Anyone can have access to this writing. Anyone can have access to me and talk with me about the difference between DL and EL, but nobody seems to want to admit, that what I say is true. I have done what it takes, to be able to continue with my EL and that is why I can express my Language Enlightenment (LE). Only someone, like me, is able to speak and write, coherently, about the devastating DL, that everyone is unconsciously busy with, no matter how diverse, inclusive, equitable, spiritual, meditative or mindful, they believe or claim to be. We keep being busy with meaningless nonsense, because we can’t talk.

 

I tremendously enjoy myself, but this doesn’t mean, that I don’t hear and see, how everyone is going insane. I am not someone shouting in the desert. If you happen to read this, you must know, your DL is ruining your life, as well as the lives of the people you say you care about. You lie on a permanent basis, as your DL doesn’t allow you to be truthful. The only way for you, to get back on track with yourself, is to talk out loud with yourself and to listen to the sound of your own voice. Only then, you will be able to hear the difference between your DL and EL. I didn’t invent the DL/EL distinction, but I discovered it. Many people have unsuccessfully tried to address EL.

 

Your EL can only be addressed with your EL and my EL or anyone else’s EL, isn’t going to be any good to you, unless you can get to your own EL. Since you don’t know the difference between your own DL and your own EL, you are in vain trying to address your DL with your DL. As long as you are trying to do that, you are shooting yourself in the foot. DL is utterly self-defeating. Regardless of how, presumably, successful you are, you are tormented by what you call your mind, the inevitable fantasy of inner language, which occurs due to your frustrating, dull, unconscious DL.

 

Surely, your DL can only be properly addressed with your ongoing EL, in which you listen to the sound of your own voice, while you speak. You haven’t done this. Rather than admitting this, you keep asking questions – to yourself and to others – to avoid doing what needs to be done. When you really listen to yourself, you are not asking any questions, as you are simply talking. Of course, there is no inner you, as a speaker, who speaks, with the inner you, as a listener, as there is only the act of listening while you speak or speaking, while you simultaneously listen.

 

The speaker is the listener and the other is you. Of course, these are merely some simple words, to address the conundrum of our common way of talking – DL – in which listening to others or making others listen to us, is more important than listening to ourselves. We never listen to ourselves in DL and we are disconnected from our own experience. Unintelligent, automatic, coercive, unnatural, intimidating, superficial, effortful, awful-sounding, dissociative speech continues to waste your time and energy.

 

I write this because I want to and I always like what I say. Nobody can say it as I do, because I have EL. What everyone says is meaningless to me, because they engage in DL. I stand alone and I challenge everyone to talk with me. It is disgusting, that people demand money, just for some talking. Therapy or psychiatry is a phony enterprise. All professional speaking is a joke. None of them know anything about the DL/EL distinction. I don’t ask anything from anyone but invite everyone to explore their EL with me.

 

I already have what I want, that is why I don’t engage anymore in your needy, demanding DL. I withdraw from your fake-conversations, which are harmful and inevitably escalating into violence. I am fine on my own with my EL. I know exactly what I want, and I have it, every day. I hear in the sound of your voice, that you are unhappy, dissatisfied, distracted, defensive and deluded. If you talk with me, all that will change. You’ll be surprised, how soon you’ll be done with DL and enjoy your EL, which reveals your LE. This is what you must do now. Go to skype and contact me. 

My skype name is limbicease. I chose that name, when I took a class in neuroscience. The limbic system is a group of structures in your brain that regulate your emotion, behavior, motivation and memory. It is also known as the emotional nervous system, because it connects your physical and emotional wellbeing. With EL, you induce the regulation of your autonomic nervous system. My skype name is limbicease, because with EL your limbic system is at ease. You can also check out my two You Tube Channels: Maximus Peperkamp or maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw   

 Love,

 

Talk about love is nonsense without Embodied Language (EL). You can hear it in someone’s voice, if there is love or not. We engage, unknowingly, in Disembodied Language (DL) and, therefore, our language doesn’t match with the experience of love. As long as we go on with DL, we can’t love and keep failing at expressing what should be considered as the most important experience of our lives. Although everyone can hear the great difference between DL and EL, due to DL, we don’t pay close enough attention to the sound of our voice, to recognize the sound of love. 

 

When we have ongoing EL, there is no need at all to say: I love you. Our love is not expressed by loving words, but by our loving sounds. Loving words are meaningless, when spoken with the sound of stress, anxiety, fear, confusion, distraction, sadness or hype. In DL we, unconsciously, sound negative and that is why we try to say, supposedly, loving things.

 

From the previous paragraph, the three main reasons, why we don’t listen to ourselves, when we engage in DL, are very clear. 1) In the name of love, we speak, presumably, loving words, to the loved one. However, due to our outward orientation, we want the other to listen to us, but we are not listening to ourselves. We direct all our attention to the other. This is why people speak about losing themselves in love. Also, we do everything, to get the attention from the person we, supposedly, love. 2) During DL, we struggle to get the listener’s attention. And this struggle prevents us from listening to ourselves. In DL, we are, unknowingly, always experiencing many negative emotions. We struggle to come across in a positive manner, but we are conflicted, between how we perceive ourselves and how the person we love might see us. 3) Although we speak poetic words of love, we are fearful of being rejected. We try to find the right words and are endlessly obsessing about every word that is being said. This verbal fixation prevents us from listening to ourselves. The worst thing is, that we are trying to sound loving. In EL, we don’t try to sound loving, but we sound loving.

 

People become a couple, or they marry, because they love each other. However, in DL everything is always about love for each other, but in EL we are able to talk about love for ourselves. Due to our EL, we love each other, because we actually love ourselves. This is so radically different from the so-called love we believe to be having with our DL. In DL, in which we sound demanding and needy, we don’t love ourselves, as we can’t love ourselves, because our DL doesn’t allow us to express what we really feel. Therefore, in DL, we need others to love us. This may, perhaps, work for a while, but it is unhealthy, if we don’t love ourselves and expect the other to love us.

 

When we talk out loud with ourselves and listen carefully to the sound of our own voice, we will engage, all alone, in ongoing EL, and for the first time, experience the immense beauty of being able to love ourselves, with our own language. Now we are able to give to ourselves, what we always wanted from others. Loving ourselves with our EL, is a delightful matter, which makes us realize our Language Enlightenment (LE).

 

Whenever we have heard or read about some, supposedly, great love affair, it was always some sentimental, overrated, exaggerated, fabricated sob-story, which was, inevitably, based on our ubiquitous DL. With EL, we will not have any love affair, as the person who engages in EL, is able to love him or herself. Surely, such people will be very loving to each other, but their relationship is of a completely different magnitude, because they never interfere with each other. Love only exists in freedom, which comes with our ongoing EL.

 

With DL, we keep entertaining the illusion, that success depends on our intelligence, motivation or persistence, but with EL, all our actions are born out of love. Whatever was achieved with the, presumed, unconditional love or support of others, turns out to be irrelevant to us, once we are able to have EL. Nobody who engaged in DL, has ever helped us to have EL. We had to leave all those people, who we believed loved us. Our journey with our EL illustrates, nobody has ever loved us, like we can love ourselves. With EL, we break the greatest taboo: we love ourselves.

 

Here are my comments on what a few famous people said about love. Osho, formerly known as Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, said… love makes no conditions, no ifs, no buts. Love never says: fulfill these requirements, then I love you. Love is like breathing, when it happens, you are simply love. It does not matter who comes close to you, the sinner or the saint. Whosoever comes close to you starts feeling the vibe of love, is rejoiced. Love is unconditional giving - but only those who are capable of giving who have…As you can tell, Osho doesn’t know about EL, because EL – without which there cannot be any love – definitely has requirements. It is only for those, who listen to themselves, while they speak. Everyone unconsciously engages in DL and when they come close to anyone who has EL, they remain ignorant about their love. Moreover, EL – or love – doesn’t magically happen, but we make it happen, that is, we do it, skillfully, consciously and thus, we know we do it. Furthermore, once we come to find out about the gigantic difference between our DL and EL, we are done with the total bullshit called unconditional giving. In DL, however, we remain busy with giving to others, that is why DL must stop before we can have EL.

 

J. Krishnamurti said…Love comes into being when the mind is naturally quiet, not made quiet, when it sees the false as false and the true as true. When the mind is quiet, then whatever happens is the action of love, it is not the action of knowledge. Knowledge is mere experience and experience is not love. Experience cannot know love…Krishnamurti, like Osho, speaks repeatedly about the mind, but with EL, we know mind never existed, as it was merely the fantasy about inner language that was created and maintained by our DL. In other words, Krishnamurti also doesn’t know about the DL/EL distinction. However, neither our imaginary – covert – inner speech, nor our audible – overt – speech needs quieting. Our DL will only stop, once we have recognized it as such, that is, once we know the difference between our DL and EL. We are never quieting our insensitive, noisy DL. Krishnamurti rails against knowledge, but it isn’t knowledge, which prevents love, but how we deal with language, due to DL, our usual unnatural way of talking. According to Krishnamurti, knowledge is experience and experience is not love, but in EL, there is nothing wrong with our knowledge or with our experience. In fact, knowledge and experience are necessary conditions to be able to have EL.  

 

The Dutch Advaita Vedanta guru, Alexander Smit, had an intense confrontation, in Bombay, India, with his guru, Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, who got incredibly angry with him, because, according to him, Alexander wasn’t serious enough. He screamed and threw the presents Alexander had brought for him on the ground. Presumably, that was when the authority was transmitted. Such nonsense. Back in the days, I went to one of the so-called Satsangs by this Alexander Smit, in which he pulled the exact same shit on me, as his former so-called guru had pulled on him. He got angry with me for the exact same reasons, and I also believed, I had become self-realized. However, looking back on my own experience, as well as the experience, which Smit himself later described with Nisargadatta, it is very clear, that all this non-duality bullshit, is based on coercion and manipulation and, therefore, on DL. After that confrontation with Nisargadatta, Alexander wrote him a long letter of apology and then he was allowed back in. He wrote very obediently, slavishly and ignorantly, to the overpowering, authoritarian, absolutely stupid, Nisargadatta: I want to be here in love. Astonishingly, this was all I could find Smit has ever said about love. Surely, EL is not about convincing or confronting. Anyone who knows about the difference between DL and EL, will avoid oppressive DL, because our DL and EL never meet. At the time, that I met Smit, I was still struggling with my own authority issues with father. It was due to my EL, that I figured out, I could give to myself, what neither my father nor Smit could give to me. There’s no love in Advaita Vedanta, all you get is people imitating each other.

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Overboard,

 

Why do so many people go overboard? There is a reason. Why is the world is getting crazier, day by day? It is because of how we talk. Our usual way of talking is driving us mad. We engage in Disembodied Language (DL) and we are out of touch with ourselves. We don’t realize this is happening. Even if we did, we wouldn’t know how to change it, so we accept DL as normal.

 

Anyone who takes time, to speak with him or herself and listen to him or herself, would find out, that a different way of talking is possible and necessary. When we hear the sound of our own voice, while we speak, we engage in a new way of communicating, because we experience the immediate relaxing, wholesome effects of our Embodied Language (EL). By switching from DL to EL, we step out of all the madness, and we understand, why we went overboard. We did what we did, because we wanted something else, but we didn’t know, how to get to it. With EL we finally know what we had always wanted.

 

Going overboard isn’t a good thing, as you will drown. You have, unknowingly, been drowning in your DL. Only EL is going to prevent this from happening. I want everyone, who got addicted to drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, crime or some other maladaptive behavior, to know, that they went overboard, because they actually wanted to have EL. Even all those mental health clients or homeless people, with their endless dramas, abuse, depression, mania, psychosis, paranoia or anxiety, are constantly going nuts, because nobody knows how to have EL. The fact, that we don’t know how to have it, doesn’t mean, we don’t want it. Surely, unless we have EL, we will go overboard again, because this is the only way, we know how to deal with our horrific DL.

 

I've studied psychology, I've worked in the field, and I've taught psychology for many years. In my view, there is a point, why so many people want to, unconsciously, go overboard. Nobody knows how to produce ongoing EL. All the problems, which were created by our DL, are presumably remediated, with more of the same stupid DL. It is infuriating, demotivating and gas-lighting, that psychology hasn’t produced anything useful. The entire discipline is based on nonsense, purported by DL. I just read that Enloe Behavioral Health – this name is of course a big joke – in my hometown, Chico, California, where I got my feet wet, as an enthusiastic, naïve, undergraduate psychology student, is closing shop. Good riddance. They only medicate everyone. All so-called mental health professionals are idiots, who refuse to acknowledge the difference between DL and EL.

 

Everyone who, in one way or another, is going overboard, is actually ahead of their time. They have every right, to reject things, the way they are. As far as I am concerned, they are not losers or basket-cases, because they are right, that something is fundamentally wrong in our society. I have always been intrigued by people, who don’t keep it together, who go overboard, because they are more open to EL, than those who are ‘normal’. This is no coincidence. When I talked with them, I’ve always found, they were very strongly against DL. Apparently, they held out hope for something better, but nevertheless they got crushed by the ubiquitous, destructive force of our DL.

 

In Greek mythology, Sirens are beautiful women with bird-like features, who attracted the sailors with their voices and yanked them overboard. Presumably, their haunting songs, were echoing across the vast expanse of the sea, promising wisdom, but it led to a watery grave. Sirens are a symbol for so-called dangerous temptation embodied by beautiful women. The word Siren has a pre-Greek origin, seira, rope, cord or eiro, to tie, to join, fasten, binding, entangling, one who binds or entangles through magic song.

 

There is something very interesting about these tempting Sirens, who lured these mariners to their doom. Their mesmerizing melodies were full of sorrow, longing and despair and appealed to the dreadful DL, everyone has always been going through since the beginning of time. Their deadly songs – about knowledge, insight, understanding and salvation – enchanted those who heard them. You could say they promised ongoing EL and, also Language Enlightenment (LE). When it was already too late, they dragged them overboard into the deep. 

Another salient detail of Odysseus’ story is, he was warned by the sorceress Circe – supposedly, someone who knew about the difference between DL and EL – for the treacherous hypnotic voices of these Sirens. Odysseus took precautions and ordered his crew to plug their ears with beeswax, thus protecting them from the Siren’s DL. Odysseus knew his own insatiable curiosity and desire for knowledge and, therefore, he had himself tied to the mast of his ship, so he could hear the Sirens’ song, but would not succumb to its pull. It reminds me of my psychology-study, which would have endlessly distracted me from my EL. Luckily, I didn’t become a psychologist, and I gave up teaching psychology during the Covid pandemic, because I didn’t like online-teaching.

 

Once you recognize the immense difference between your own DL and EL and begin to have ongoing EL, you will come to acknowledge the devastating fact, that everyone is, unknowingly, engaging in DL. And everyone is, inadvertently, trying to address DL with DL, which, of course, results into more DL and more people going insane. In DL, we all go overboard with what we say, but we ignore how we say it.