Energy Humor,
There’s
something about humor, nobody seems to get: it just keeps on getting better and
better. However, the so-called humor, we are familiar with and keep hearing and
seeing everywhere, does the exact opposite. Why are stand-up comedians getting
worse over time, instead of better? Are they getting tired of standing? This
decline shows, their humor wore them out. My humor doesn’t do that. To the
contrary, it gives me energy. For me, humor isn’t about making others happy,
but about doing myself a favor.
Humor – as
we know it – is energy-draining, as it is, inevitably, the expression of our
usual way of talking, in which we, as speakers, don’t listen to ourselves. Our attention-demanding
way of speaking is so common. Nobody wants to know, what happens in the
permanently fucked-up, stressful, boring, depressing life of the stand-up
comedian, who, presumably, put a lot of energy into his or her art, to make
other people laugh.
As energy
humor keeps making my life better and better, it becomes more and more obvious,
that all our usual, accepted, celebrated humor totally sucks. While I, more
often, laugh about myself, these days, than get upset, I hear the anger,
frustration and despair, in the voices of everyone, who tries to be funny. I
don’t care to laugh about others, because it turns me off, they demand my
attention. Comedians are thieves, who steal energy from their audience.
While it is true,
some comedians may have something, they start out with, they always give it
away. Then, next time, they need to do even better, meaning, they are setting
themselves up for failure, because they are trying to be funny all the time.
This is so tiring to listen to and so anxiety-provoking, because everyone
knows, it can’t be done. Everyone who watches with high hopes, in great
anticipation of having some fun, is part of this brutal charade of human
misery.
If the
comedian fails in his or her performance, it is more terrible for the audience,
than for the comedian. After all, the comedian shrugs it off and quickly goes
on with the next joke, but the audiences can’t forget failed humor very easily
and will judge a comedian harshly for failing to make them laugh. Although,
presumably, they want the comedian to make them laugh, they are all waiting for
the other shoe to drop. We all know that isn’t funny. Successful comedians are
in eternal distress from which only a laughing audience can temporarily release
them. Sooner or later, they are going to crash, then they have to go to rehab,
Jezus or the therapist. After that, their come-back humor is nothing like it
ever was before and they become a vague, dull copy of who they once were or
seemed to be. Bill Maher, Jon Steward, Jimmy Fallon, Stephen Colbert, Jim
Carrey, Jay Leno, Robin Williams, Adam Sandler, Kathy Griffin, Pete Davidson, Eddy
Murphy, Will Ferrell, Amy Schumer, Chris Rock, Sarah Silverman, Dave Chappell, Tracy
Morgan, Jimmy Kimmel, Jerry Seinfeld, Margaret Cho, Louis C.K., Conan O’Brien, Nick
Cannon, George Lopez, Russell Brand, John Oliver, Mother Teresa (!), and, the
list goes on.
The audience
doesn’t even mind to hear or see the same funny act multiple times, so they can
tell all their friends and colleagues, that, yeah, he or she was so very funny,
but after that, the comedian might as well commit suicide, as he or she can’t
get back to how he or she was and feels, as if he or she is done, because it is
true, they can’t go on. Nothing could inspire them to make new jokes. Their unwillingness
to admit their need for approval, makes things worse.
Sometimes,
we hear about the tormenting hell, which is the common reality for each
comedian. Those who made others laugh the most, suffer the most and over time,
it is apparent to them, that if they can’t suffer some more, their humor loses
its spark. They literally put all their energy into humor, but remain oblivious
about their own needs. However, the less they suffer, the duller their humor
becomes. Stated differently, if they manage to become just only a little bit
happy – due to their short-lived success – this immediately translates into
being less funny, because then, they don’t try as hard anymore.
My energy
humor goes hand in hand with the way of talking in which, I, as a speaker,
listen to myself while I speak. Such Embodied Language (EL) has its own kind of
humor, which is entirely different from the so-called humor of our usual way of
talking, in which we, as speakers, don’t listen to ourselves while we speak. In
such Disembodied Language (DL), we try to make others laugh, but in EL, we can make
ourselves laugh, as we enjoy ourselves with our language, we feel peaceful, thankful
and content. And, in EL, we aren’t eager to laugh, as we laugh all the time,
but in DL, we reserve a separate time for some amusement or entertainment, in
which, presumably, we are going to really have fun, because the rest of the
time, we experience the heavy negativity
of our mechanical behavior.
For the
usual, attention-demanding comedians, who don’t know anything about the
difference between DL and EL, it is a conundrum: that the happier they are, the
less likely they try to make other people happy – by being funny – and the
unhappier they are, the more likely they will do just about anything, to yank or
force another laugh out of their audience. They practically beg the audience to
laugh. My humor is different, as I am happy. Moreover, I am getting happier and
happier, because my humor works for me. And, I don’t give a damn about whether others like it or not, as I don’t
anything to make it happen.
My EL itself
is sufficient to make me laugh and it is all the laughter I ever want. In other
words, I have no need for any laughter, like everyone who engages in DL. Since people
with DL don’t have their own language, they remain busy with the language, but
also, the so-called humor of others. DL always demands our attention, but my
EL, doesn’t demand anyone’s attention and that’s precisely why it is so funny,
because it is free. I laugh every day about my own freedom, which stands in such
a stark contrast to how everyone lives. Furthermore, my ongoing EL, but also my
humor, always stays with me. It is my
Language Enlightenment (LE). Yes, I have my own humor, because I stand my own
ground.
With DL, we
are possessed by a strange energy which doesn’t belong to us and once can have
EL, we realize, that we have our own energy. In EL our energy is healing, calming,
soothing and enjoyable, but in DL, it is upsetting, frustrating, nerve-wracking,
disturbing and confusing. We have never spoken – with ongoing EL – about the
negative effects of this sick humor, which derives from forceful, unconscious,
insensitive DL. Once we experience the wonderful humor of our EL, we are
motivated to have EL, because it makes us laugh so much and so naturally.