January 9, 2016

January 9, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

If you are not deaf or speech-impaired, there should be no problem for you to learn about Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB). However, just as Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB) will condition you to remain tone-deaf for the sound of your own wellbeing it will also condition you to become speech-impaired. Characteristic for this speech impairment is the ongoing conflict between how you would like others to perceive you and how you perceive yourself. Along with this goes the usual discrepancy between what you feel and think, that is, between private, covert speech and public, overt speech. Another way of describing this conflict is the imaginary separation of the speaker and the listener. 

In NVB we are led to believe that there is such a thing as a speaker and a listener as these behaviors occur in different people who are hierarchically assigned to their different roles. In SVB, on the other hand, we find that there are neither listeners nor speakers, there is only listening and speaking behavior going on, which happens at the same response rate and simultaneously in one and the same person. 

In NVB the listener can hear that the speaker is not listening to him or herself. The sound waves produced by the NVB speaker as well as the SVB speaker are not immediately heard. The listener who is not the speaker always hears the sound waves which were produced by the speaker in the recent past. The NVB speaker, who doesn’t listen to him or herself, is listened to very differently than the speaker who listens to him or herself while he or she speaks. The latter, whose speaking and listening behaviors are synchronized, is listened to and understood effortlessly as SVB makes and keeps the communicators conscious.

January 8, 2016

January 8, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

If you are not deaf or speech-impaired there should be no problem for you to learn about Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB). However, in Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB) the speaker doesn’t listen to him or herself and demands that others are listening to him or her. The fact that in NVB the listener is always someone else than the speaker determines that the NVB speaker becomes deaf to his or her own sound. This is not due to a defective auditory mechanism, but due to conditioning. When you don’t listen to yourself while you speak and nothing is stimulating you to do this, you are bound to become insensitive to that which is most delicate: the sound you only produce when you are completely at ease. 

Stated differently, due to aversive environments you are so often in a fight-flight-freeze response while you speak, that you don’t produce the sound which you make in the absence of these threatening vocal stimuli which are produced by NVB speakers. Moreover, when the sound of your relaxation and wellbeing is repeatedly punished, your ability to hear this sound will slowly extinguish. 

There is a lot of stress and anxiety in everyone because NVB happens everywhere at a high rate, but SVB happens at a very low rate. In other words, our way of talking conditions us to be and remain anxious, upset, stressed, dysregulated, angry, agitated, fearful and worried. This can be heard in how we sound. During NVB we all sound horrible. Our voices grab, stab, push, pull, choke and drain, and, consequently, NVB is an exhausting and energy-consuming affair. SVB, by contrast, gives us energy. In SVB our voice has a soothing effect on both the speaker as well as the listener.

January 7, 2016

January 7, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

A dear friend of mine in the Netherlands described writing as slow speaking and reading as an even slower kind of listening. The writer can endlessly rewrite what he or she is saying until he or she has found the best way to state his or her case. The reader, on the other hand, can reread what he or she is reading until he or she has fully grasped what the writer is saying. I follow his advice to keep perfecting my writing and I am grateful that his teaching is having this beneficial effect on me. He has this effect on me as I accept him as my teacher. I accept him because we have mainly Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB) together. 

Someone who comments on my writing, but who doesn’t engage in SVB with me, can’t have this effect on me. I am informing you about this because I think it is important for you to know that I am learning to write like this because of SVB. This writing is not what you usually read. Reading this writing gets even better when you read it out loud, because then your sound will be able to resonate with these words.  

One of my students wrote in a paper that SVB had made her aware of the surprising fact that she preferred to speak much slower than she normally did. She described herself as someone who always has her heart on her sleeve. She explained, however, that she really would like others to know what she is thinking and she would also like to know what others are thinking. Because of listening to herself she slowed down how she talked and she discovered that speaking less intensely created a sense of calmness, which made her speech more effective. She described the same process I went through as I discovered SVB.

January 6, 2016

January 6, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB) is an operant behavior, which means that it will increase due to its consequences. However, there must always be an antecedent stimulus which sets the stage for this response to occur. This stimulus is the sound of someone’s voice. And, you can only engage in SVB if someone else mediates it. Our verbal behavior is a social phenomenon. Although you can and should take time to sit by yourself to explore what it is like to listen to yourself while you speak, SVB only makes sense to the extent that you are reinforced for it by others. 

Your inability to share SVB with others is not due to you, but due to others.  If others don’t or can’t produce the sound which sets the stage for SVB, you will not be able to engage in it. If you talk with me, you will find that I provide the stimulus which will make SVB possible. However, I can only do this to the extent that you reciprocate my SVB. If you don’t reinforce my SVB, I can’t continue with it. We engage in SVB together or in NVB. In the former, we mutually enhance each other, but in the latter, we try to force and dominate each other. 

The SVB/NVB distinction is recognizable by how we sound while we speak. We sound different when we engage in SVB or NVB. Once we are listening to ourselves while we speak, we realize we agree on how we sound, that is, we all agree that in SVB the speaker sounds good, but in NVB the speaker sounds terrible. This unanimous agreement is most unusual. Moreover, it occurs at a nonverbal level, which sets the stage for agreement at a verbal level. Agreement in SVB is determined by the congruence between our verbal and our nonverbal expressions.

January 5, 2016

January 5, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

Different people set the stage for a different kind of interaction. You have unknowingly been involved in situations in which you regretted the increase of NVB or enjoyed the increase of SVB. I stimulate you to be knowingly involved in your vocal verbal behavior. I can do that because my voice sounds different from someone who doesn’t listen to him or herself while he or she speaks. I am not saying I am always listening to myself, I can’t, but I have more of a history with listening to myself than you do. I found that SVB can be prolonged by listening to myself. 

Listening to myself while I speak was a major discovery, because, until that moment, I frantically wanted others to listen to me. By calmly listening to myself while I speak I discovered that others prevented me from listening to myself. Others seldom allowed me to listen to myself. It was confusing at first, but I figured out that even those who stimulated me to express myself stopped me from listening to myself. 

I discovered that even those who wanted to listen to me were not listening to themselves, and, therefore, they couldn’t and didn’t stimulate me to listen to myself. I was often reinforced for saying what I felt and thought, for things which others were afraid to express. I have said many things which got me rejected. Although I was deeply troubled by this, it didn’t stop me from expressing myself. My interest went from acting, to poetry, meditation, singing, music, philosophy, psychology and talking and then to radical behaviorism.  Only the sound of someone who is listening to him or herself while he or she speaks stimulates you to discriminate the difference between SVB and NVB.