Entirely,

 

Taking charge of your language is something entirely different from determining the so-called narrative. The latter is what we say about each other, but the former is about what we say to ourselves. What we say to ourselves, is completely opposed to what we say to each other, because we keep engaging in DL. In EL, this wouldn’t be the case, but to have EL, we must first know what DL is, so that we can stop it.

 

In DL, we aren’t in touch with ourselves, as we don’t  realize, our language is negative. We worry, stress, fight, distract, frustrate and disappoint each other as well as ourselves. In EL, by contrast, we know what DL is, that is why we aren’t getting involved in it. If we get sucked into DL, it is always involuntary, never voluntary. Although we believe, we can chose to have DL or EL, this isn’t true. We engage in DL by default, as we don’t know any better and when we have EL, our circumstances are such, we can have it.

 

Nobody is above the law of human behavior, which dictates, that when we perceive something to be a threat, our involuntary autonomic nervous system or the so-called fight/flight/freeze response kicks in. In neurobiology this is known as the mobilization response, which is down-regulated if we no longer perceive the threat to exist. However, as long as we still experience this alarm phase, neurotransmitters will course through our veins, which, aid this whole body-response, since this is a matter of our survival.

 

We are – whether we know it or willing to find out about it or not, whether we aware of it or willing or capable to admit it and talk about it or not – always in the grip of our own physiological stress-response, which is only as good as our previous ability to move away or neutralize the perceived threat. Given the undeniable fact that we engage in DL, in every society, it is quite apparent, we aren’t very good in dealing – verbally – with the threat we experience.

 

Our inability and unwillingness to talk about what makes us feel threatened causes negative emotions, that is, we become fearful, stressed, angry, chaotic, intimidated, hopeless, distrustful and pretentious in our language. This is why DL is audible everywhere. Unconsciously, we don’t want to listen to each other and we also don’t want to listen to ourselves, as we  don’t like to hear the horrible upsetting sound of DL.

 

When we notice the important difference between DL and EL, it is crystal clear to us, we want EL, not DL. However, this is not how we were conditioned. Although we can’t help, that we, again and again,  against our better judgment, engage in DL, we are not what we were conditioned to be and that is why, once we have experienced the great difference between DL and EL, our EL beckons us to go against our conditioning history, no matter how impossible this may seem. Another way of saying this is, that our EL increases our self-worth to such a point, we realize, our involvement in DL isn’t worth the hassle. While going against our conditioning isn’t easy, it is absolutely worth it, as all results of EL are beneficial.

 

We have many negative behaviors, as long as our DL continues and our lives are filled with contradictions and conflicts. Although you are reading this and you may even agree with it, without talking with me or  my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke – who also knows about it – it is impossible to know about DL and EL, as you have no solid reason, for why you should go against your own conditioning. We keep having DL, because, except ourselves, nothing can stop us. In  the conversation with me or AnnaMieke, you will be cured from expecting someone else to do it for you.

 

When you get into your own EL, you are catching up with yourself, as your entire history of conditioning, that is, your identity, is on the table. This is one of the most peculiar aspects about EL: you become aware of your DL. The bottom has fallen out of your DL. Once you have had some EL, DL doesn’t have its usual grip on you anymore. Although you still have the inclination to have more DL, it doesn’t harm you as much anymore and it no longer causes as many struggles and problems, because something – about your way of dealing with language – has changed.

 

Everything which has ever bothered you goes back to your mechanical involvement in DL. You don’t do anything to change it, but you know, more and more certain, each time you return to it, EL is your path and DL always distracted and dissuaded you from going your way. The grateful feeling of having found your own way is so beautiful. Your struggle is over, even though you know, in certain ways, your history of conditioning is still pulling on you. Everything is accepted, you are okay, yes, you are saved from the jaws of DL, which devour everyone, as your EL assures you, you are safe and what you have gone through, has brought you where you are today.

 

Your coming of age, dear reader, includes you read and understand this. You recognize, I have written this for you. Of course, I wrote it for myself first and that is why this text affects you. You are not your conditioning history, but you are who you can and will be with EL. Yes, you are capable of EL, in spite of your trouble-some history with DL. Your knowledge of the difference between DL and EL, takes the place of what you have called faith or spirituality. Instead of believing or trying to hang onto self-imposed, superstitious nonsense, you have the opportunity to reason and to use your own intelligence. Moreover, everything you have been able to put into words, with your EL, proves to be true. EL is not some stupid belief, but an entirely different and correct perspective about language, which, consequently, has very different results. Since you are always in charge of your own EL, you can’t miss, EL is the expression of your Language Enlightenment (EL).