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May 3, 2016



May 3, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

When you discover Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB), you will realize how often you have missed it. When you explore SVB, you will understand that neither you nor others are familiar with it. When you engage in SVB, even if it is by yourself, by speaking out loud and by listening to yourself while you speak, you realize that others aren’t able to provide this for you and therefore you must learn to provide it for yourself. Unless you are going to create the kind of situation in which you can have SVB, it is not going to occur. When you think that you are having SVB already, you are wrong. You may have learned some of the components of SVB, but you have never put these components together, because there was never any emphasis on the situation needed to bring these components together. SVB was never a conscious act. You have never, like me, said: let’s have SVB. I say and have SVB all the time, because I know the situation which is needed to have it. You don’t know this situation. 

Initially, it is a person like me who creates the situation for you, in which you can have SVB, but once this conversation has happened, you can create the situation for yourself. After our first meeting, all I can do is to remind you of that. I don’t have much to teach. The transmission happens at once.  If you don’t remind yourself about SVB, nobody is going to remind you. You may be able to meet me a couple of times and I can stimulate you to get better at reminding SVB, but my help is of no avail unless you begin to experiment with SVB yourself. You usually don’t do this because you feel rejected. People reject your SVB because they don’t know how to reinforce it. They accept your NVB and they know how to reinforce it, but they punish your SVB. You will have to learn to have SVB in spite of their disapproval.  There is no other way! If you are going to have the conversation all by yourself and listen to yourself while you speak, you are intelligent, not crazy. Only if you are going to have this conversation by yourself will you be able to have it with others.     

May 2, 2016



May 2, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

I guarantee that when we meet you will be changed by what I say. This claim is based on everyone I meet. Those who meet me, but don’t change, actively resist me. I don’t like their resistance and as far as I am concerned we have never really met. I immediately forget their names and I can only remember names of folks with whom I connect. In all fairness, I admit that I am not changed by anybody either. People affect me, but if that affect is negative, I don’t care about them and try to avoid them. I am only drawn to those who are positive to me. There are plenty of people like that and I am not waiting for someone to accept me or acknowledge me. I am already accepted and I am already acknowledged. All I am interested in is in sharing my findings.  

These writings can only go so far. Even if you read it and agree with it, this is not the same as talking with me. I want you to know that, because I want us to have something entirely different from what we have been used to. I know what I am talking about and that is why I write like this. For me there is no difference between what I believe and what I say. The saying ‘actions speak louder than words’ is outdated and flawed. First of all, why should they have to speak louder? Is it because when we speak louder we can hear each other better? Absolutely not! When we speak louder, we are totally on the wrong track. Besides, actions are nonverbal. The saying is not about louder talking, but about louder sounding. Each time we tried to sound louder than others, we have engaged in Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB). If we are going to meet, we are going to have Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB), which is a calmer, more pleasant way of communicating. We are not used to SVB because we have been conditioned by NVB. We don’t expect SVB, we expect NVB, because we have been having a lot of NVB and only very little SVB. We are not used to the kind of interaction in which we sound good and feel good, in which we continue to sound good and feel good. We only had a few moments of this.

May 1, 2016



May 1, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

I have just written a letter to a good old friend from my country of origin, the Netherlands. Like me, he no longer lives in Holland. He lives in Spain. We have both left our old surroundings and it is likely that we will never return. Writing him feels like a visit. When he writes to me, it also seems as if he is coming to me. Although we both love our old home town, we left it because we needed another situation to thrive. We are both happy where we are and neither of us has the money to come and visit each other. We cherish all the good times we have had together. Even though we don’t see each other and only write a letter to each other once in while our friendship is as strong as ever and is getting better and better. I am so happy to know him.  Although I can write these lines about him, I can never share with you, my dear reader, what I share with him. I don’t have that history with you and you don’t have that history with me. At this time, I don’t even know you and I address you as if we are going to meet each other in the future. With my friend, although it is unsure if we will ever meet again, this is not an issue at all, but with you, who I haven’t met, it is an issue. When are we going to meet? With you, I am not satisfied with an email. Is that the best you are capable of? It amazes me that all you seem to have for me is a few written words, while I try to get you to talk with me. You always have excuses that you are too busy, have no time or that what I say does not apply to you. Yes, I want you to stop doing what you are doing. Your lack of interest is because you are shallow and busy with nonsense. What I offer is something genuine which can only be valued if you recognize that what you have is worthless. Yes, you can compare what you have with what I have. Indeed, I claim to have something better than you. I am not busy with the things that you are busy with. To me, these things are meaningless. Only if we meet can the contrast between what you have and what I have become clear. You don’t want to meet, because that meeting will change you. You cannot change me, but I can change you with these words.

Friday, April 14, 2017

April 30, 2016



April 30, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

In “Human Behavior as Language: Some Thoughts on Wittgenstein” (2006)   Ribes-Iñesta explains “language as a form of life.” He writes that “Language as a medium is the totality of functions that objects and actions acquire as conventional signals. It involves the reactions induced by stimuli, the differential reactions to or recognitions of stimuli, and the reproduction of stimuli.” This is as close he gets to addressing how the speaker influences the listener. Ribes-Iñesta as well as Wittgenstein intellectualize about language. Unlike B.F. Skinner, they are not very emotionally involved in their analysis of language. Positive or negative emotions could be involved in “Reactions to induced stimuli.” The “language games” involved in prolonging our positive or negative emotions require a separate analysis. The SVB/NVB distinction accomplishes such an analysis. Such analysis is grounded in the everyday experience of people and has more appeal than the intellectual analysis. 

Understanding about “the nature of human behavior and its relation to language” has been impaired due to NVB. NVB is the reason why “language is like a second nature for us, even though we may not be aware of this.” In NVB we are not aware of our use of language. We are only aware of our use of language to the extent that we are in the here and now while we use it. In SVB, as the speaker listens to him or herself, while he or she speaks, he or she is a conscious speaker, because his or her attention for his or her sound, which is produced in the here and now, makes him or her aware about the here and now. Also, listening happens in the here and now. Thus, both the production and the reception of sound converge in the here and now.

In SVB, our joined speaking and listening behaviors are conscious acts. Also, we are more careful and understanding about our language during SVB. The causation of behavior attributed to an inner self is a myth perpetuated by how we talk, that is, by NVB. “Wittgenstein’s remarks and observations point to the mistake in assuming that speaking about our experiences and feelings entails speaking about the mind.” However, as long as we don’t know about the SVB/NVB distinction, we cannot and have not become scientific about our language. Behaviorism, in spite of its empirical evidence, continues to be given short shrift as we haven’t been able to talk about it in SVB. 

The “much-needed conceptual shift” didn’t and couldn’t come about due to the “theoretical efforts in the analysis of language and human behavior.”  If that shift is our goal, we must engage in more conversation. Only in SVB can we talk about the “possibility of producing and creating new circumstances resulting from special classes of individual practice.” In SVB we both talk about and dissolve the “conceptual confusion in assuming the “existence” of private events corresponding to “inner” experience.” Moreover, we will find that NVB has kept us ignorant. Rather than, as we have been used to in NVB, excluding human psychological phenomena from language, in SVB we will impregnate “human psychological phenomena by language”.  And, oddly enough, as we become more capable of expressing our emotions more accurately, due to our SVB we become more rational. “The linguistic nature of human environment” will only be observed if we listen to ourselves while we speak. Ribes-Iñesta writes about “The foundation of language in action and the acquisition of its basic elements through observation and listening”, but he doesn’t mention to accomplish this conceptual shift we must speak, instead of read. Reading can’t change how we talk, only talking can do that.

Ribes-Iñesta ends with “Contrary to our pragmatic culture, advances in psychology do not necessarily depend on empirical accumulation of evidence, especially when it is based upon conceptual misunderstandings. The critical revision of prevailing assumptions about human behavior may be a more adequate strategy to formulate meaningful questions.” Although he is correct, advances in psychology still depend on whether we talk with each other….and how we talk with each other. It has always amazed me how little willingness there is among those involved in behaviorism or psychology to talk with each other. In concluding my response to Ribes-Iñesta’s paper, I want to emphasize once more that (conceptual) misunderstandings can and should be dealt with by more and better interaction. The fact that we have so many misunderstandings and questions while we are talking with each other is the elephant in the room of psychology. We cannot possibly write or read our way out of this. When we will explore the SVB/NVB distinction, we find to our surprise that understanding each other was never really the problem!  We will understand ourselves and each other, when we experience ourselves and each other while we speak. However, in NVB we are neither in touch with ourselves nor with each other. NVB creates and maintains all of our misunderstandings and SVB is without such aversive experiences.

April 29, 2016



April 29, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

In “Human Behavior as Language: Some Thoughts on Wittgenstein” (2006)   Ribes-Iñesta proposes” a psychological conception about behavior as
the practical content of language games.” He urges his readers that “no distinction is to be made between verbal and non-verbal behavior, or between linguistic and non-linguistic behavior.” He is against these distinctions as they “isolate behaviors in terms of their morphology, segregating interactive patterns whose components lack functional significance by themselves.” Although he doesn’t mention it, this remark is not true for the SVB/NVB distinction. The “interactive patterns” that make up SVB and NVB are full of “functional significance.” One would have to talk to explore this distinction. If one did that, one would realize how absolutely necessary it is to “isolate behaviors in terms of their morphology.” Without this distinction we remain deaf to the essence of language: how we sound. 

One scholar responds to another – in writing! Ribes-Iñesta states that “Words, movements, and reactions to events never take place separately. Words and expressions become meaningful only when integrated in actions in the form of episodes taking place in a given situation.” SVB and NVB are response classes in which specific “words, movements, and reactions” take place. What happens during SVB doesn’t happen during NVB or vice versa.   The fact that these response classes exist in every population should give us pause to ponder their tremendous significance. According to Ribes-Iñesta,“language is conceived threefold: 1) As a collection of varied contingency systems, providing the medium where behavior is significant. 2) As an acquired reactional system that allows the individual to interact with other individuals and social meaningful objects and events, and 3) As the social device through which individuals may construct new contingency systems affecting the functions attributed to objects, events and behaviors.” Note here, not a word is said in this construal of language about how we sound. In his, but also in Wittgenstein’s explanation, we all lose our voice. It is there when we interact, but we only interact in SVB. In NVB, we don’t interact as the speaker ignores his or her sound and how he or she affects the listener.