Belangrijk,

 

Waarom is Belichaamde Taal (BT) zoiets belangrijks, dat ik er mijn hele leven aan hebt gewijd? Was het een gok, dat ik al mijn kaarten zette, op wat ik ooit ontdektte en mij realiseerde, dat ik daadwerkelijk degene was – en dus nog steeds ben – die op een totaal andere wijze met zijn taal kon omgaan, dan  de onbewuste,  gebruikelijke, alom-tegenwoordige Ontlichaamde Taal (OT)? Waarom was ik – ondanks alle nadelige gevolgen – blijvend tegen de keer in en is er, tot op de dag van vandaag, vrijwel niemand, die BT met mijn kan en wil hebben? Mijn antwoord op die inmiddels onbelangrijk geworden vragen, is zalig-makend: Taal Verlichting (TV) – die, zelfs al voor ik die ondekking deed – bepaalde dat ik alleen de weg moest gaan, die ik nog steeds bewandel.

 

BT is belangrijk, omdat ik belangrijk ben. Ik weet dat dit een enorm taboe is. Mijn taal staat mij toe om echt belangrijk te zijn, maar jou OT laat dat nou eenmaal niet toe. Ik ben niet belangrijk ten aanzien van anderen, maar ten aanzien van mijzelf. Met andere woorden, ik heb er geen enkel probleem meer mee, dat anderen mij onbelangrijk vinden, want ik vind mijzelf belangrijk. Vanwege mijn taal, kan ik en mag ik mijzelf belangrijk vinden en dat heeft helemaal niets te maken met arrogantie of met mezelf vergelijken met anderen. Zolang alsdat je jezelf nog vergelijkt met anderen en in de ogen of oren van anderen belangrijk wilt worden gevonden, dan ben je nog steeds niet belangrijk voor jezelf.

 

Belangrijk, waardevol en open zijn voor jezelf – met BT – is een zeer aangenaam, liefdevol en diepzinnig gevoel, omdat je taal zich eindelijk helemaal naar jou kan keren. Dit heeft ook niets van doen met jezelf iets inbeelden. Zolang je nog iets probeerd in te beelden, ben je schijnbaar niet belangrijk genoeg om oprecht te zijn met de woorden, die jij bezit en de wijze van spreken, die voor jou van belang is.

 

Mensen doen heel druk met OT, die gebaseerd is op een strijd om de aandacht van anderen, omdat ze zichzelf – schijnbaar – zo belangrijk vinden, maar als puntje bij paaltje komt, gedurende BT, dan blijkt, dat die neiging, om door anderen belangrijk gevonden te worden, zijn oorsprong heeft in het onthutsende feit, dat ze niet eens geloven in hun eigen pretentie.

 

Ik ben belangrijk, omdat mijn TV mij ingeeft, dat ik altijd BT heb willen hebben en niemand hoef te overtuigen, ook mezelf niet. Hoe minder mensen mij belangrijk vonden, hoe belangrijker ik werd voor mijzelf. Eigenlijk was dus alle afwijzing, die ik heb doorgemaakt en dat anderen mij niet belangrijk vonden, een soort van bevestiging geweest, dat ik belangrijk ben. Ook al heb ik dit, net als iedereen, jarenlang tevergeefs geprobeerd, ik heb, van nature, geen enkele ambitie, om in de ogen of de oren van anderen belangrijk te zijn. Men verwachtte van mij, dat ik hen iets te bieden zou hebben, maar ik heb helemaal niets te bieden aan anderen. Wat anderen van mij willen, kunnen ze alleen maar aan zichzelf geven, want ik heb het niet, waar zij naar verlangen.

 

In OT, projecteren we ongemerkt al onze verlangens op anderen, maar ik voldoe aan geen enkele van die verwachtingen, ook al heb ik allerlei krampachtige pogingen gedaan, om het goed te doen. Het is gek met mij, want ik ben heel gauw afgeleid, van wat ik  doe, omdat ik zo beinvloedbaar ben door anderen. Ik kon enorm in de war raken, omdat ik volledig in beslag werd genomen, door de overweldigende, intimiderende invloed en energie van anderen. Ik liet – omdat ik geen begrenzing kon of durfde aan te geven – van alles maar gewoon gebeuren en werd hierdoor vele malen misbruikt. Mijn trauma bleef zich herhalen, want mensen gingen aan de haal met mijn openheid. Ik was lange tijd een speelbal in de handen van anderen, omdat ik geen controle over mezelf kon hebben. Dit alles begon te veranderen, nadat ik het verschil tussen OT en BT had ontdekt.  

 

Het is een wonder, dat er nooit iets slechts met mij is gebeurd, dat blijvende schade heeft opgeleverd. Al ben ik psychisch verwond geweest, al die wonden zijn genezen. Ik ben veranderd, omdat ik mij niet meer door anderen – met OT – laat overrompelen en misbruiken. Ik bedoel dit, letterlijk, in de meest ruime zin van het woord, want ik bepaal zelf, met mijn taal, wat voor mij belangrijk is in mijn leven.

 

Niemand heeft, zoals ik, de taal ooit zo gehanteerd, dat hij of zij hierdoor volledig zichzelf kon zijn. Ik sta er versteld van, dat ik, waarschijnlijk dankzij al mijn traumas, zo belangrijk ben geworden, voor mezelf. Ouderdom is een enorme zegen, omdat alles voor mij beter, mooier, makkelijker en stiller wordt. Dat laatste is zoiets fantastisch. Omdat ik zo gevoelig ben, werd ik vaak in beslag genomen, door allerlei zaken, die helemaal niet bij mij paste, maar ik ben toch opgehouden met gedragingen, die nooit van mij waren en tot stand kwamen vanwege anderen, die zogenaamd belangrijker waren dan ikzelf.

 

Al had ik geen controle over mezelf, ik heb vaak juist datgene uitgesproken en verwoord, wat anderen niet durfden of konden zeggen. Ik geloofde heilig dat ik namens anderen sprak, maar dat was niet waar. Niemand kan voor anderen het woord doen. Het feit dat iedereen hierin, vanwege DL, gelooft, is een rampzalige leugen. Ieder mens heeft zijn eigen stem, die hij of zij kan horen terwijl hij of zij spreekt. Dat is de essentie van BT en dat roept onvermijdelijk het gezegende besef van TV op, waarin we helemaal uitgesproken, vredig, vol energie en stil zijn. Stilte is belangrijk, maar we kunnen nooit stil zijn met OT.     

 

Blame,

 

My whole life, I have been blamed for who I am, for how I behave, for what I want, for what I know and, for what I am capable of saying. Only now, at age sixty-four, do I no longer feel bad about this, as I know exactly, why this is the case. Although people blame me, I don’t blame anyone. Oddly, I accepted the blame and always believed, I was at fault. Yet, I am enlightened today, in spite of all of this. I write these words from my Language Enlightenment (LE), my natural way of being, which is maintained and enjoyed, by the way in which I use my language.   

 

My acceptance of myself, stands in stark contrast to the total lack of self-knowledge and self-respect of others. One cannot have the former without the latter. Actually, I have always been who I am today, but in the past, I wasn’t able to express myself as clearly. However, my Embodied Language (EL) made me realize, that everyone, unconsciously, day in day out, engages in Disembodied Language (DL) and, therefore, unknowingly, blames others for all their problems. Thus, my problem was not – as I used to believe – my family or how I grew up, because DL is happening everywhere, regardless of culture.

 

I don’t care, if you believe me or not. We all engage in DL every day. The left blames the right and the right blames the left. The same is true for any other opposites. The, presumably, rich, powerful, good, moral, smart people, blame the, supposedly, poor, powerless, bad, immoral, ignorant people and vice versa. DL rules every realm of every society around the world. Although people don’t know anything about EL, they always have their own contradictory, superstitious, superficial, idiosyncratic formulation of what language should look or sound like, when there would be something like genuine relationship.

 

While I discovered my LE and EL in my mid-twenties,  until recently, I was still feeling frustrated about why nobody with DL ever wanted to talk with me about EL, but, miraculously, somehow, this has changed. Strangely, as I apparently gave up on everyone with DL, I myself no longer feel blamed for having EL. As long as I still wanted to have EL with anyone – who didn’t know anything about EL – I felt blamed for my inability to join the stupid DL conversation. I tried, but I never succeeded and it always back-fired.

 

I don’t blame you or anyone with DL, but I can’t participate in that so-called conversation, which, to me, isn’t a conversation at all, but merely a struggle for attention. Nobody blames me, for trying to get them to pay attention to EL, as I have – to my own big surprise – really stopped doing that. Blame is the  name of the game in DL, but in ongoing EL, we no longer behave so childishly. A child may throw a temper tantrum, if it doesn’t get the attention, but adults, unconsciously, continue to do the same if they engage in DL, in which the effortful voice of a speaker, demands the attention of the listener.

 

The problem of DL could never become clear – not to me or to anyone else – as long as we would still continue to say, there is enough or plenty of blame to go around. Presumably, if the blame were to be distributed – which, of course, it never is – there is plenty for all of us and each of us would receive a share of the blame. However, whether we blame each other or ourselves, we engage in DL. There is no culprit, as no one is guilty of a crime or a fault. Culprit derives from the Latin verb culpare, meaning to blame. In Anglo-French it became cul-prit, where cul meant guilty, as prest or prit is an abbreviation that indicated readiness, thus, a culprit is literally someone who is ready to be proven guilty. In English culprit is someone, who is accused of a wrongdoing.

 

There is no blaming or complaining going on in EL and if there is, this simply means, we unknowingly still engage in DL. This is not an accusation, but a fact. However, I would say DL is a wrongdoing, as we don’t use our language effectively. EL is delightful, because we can feel and experience positive energy in every word we speak or write. Once we are more used to listening to ourselves in EL – rather than listening to others in DL – we unanimously agree EL is the proper way to use our language, as we can all hear and recognize, in the sound of the speaker’s voice, that he or she is expressing his or her LE.         

 

Enough,

 

When you discover, you can engage in Embodied Language (EL) instead of Disembodied Language (DL), there is no more time to lose. You have been unknowingly involved in DL your whole life, but enough is enough, you want to move on, although you don’t know, where EL will take you. Your jump of faith is going to pay off, but, initially, you have absolutely no idea, what your EL will bring to you.

 

Once you have given EL a chance more often, you know it brings you only positive experiences, but, if you reluctantly admit to yourself, that your DL never did you any good, your EL isn’t going to have much of an effect. If you only allow a miserly little bit of EL, this will create nothing but trouble for you. Either you have EL wholeheartedly, by continuing with it and enjoying it or you try to cherish some sort of special, contrasting experience, which turns your world upside down and, thus, you immediately go back again, to your old DL ways. EL isn’t going to deliver you from your long history of conditioning.

 

I myself have come a long way with my EL. At this moment, there is hardly anyone, with whom I can share my EL, but that’s perfectly fine with me. It used to make me feel rejected and sad, but these days, it fills me with a sense of dignity and victory. I have overcome my own negative reactions, to what was and is happening. EL was and still continues to be disregarded, as people haven’t had enough of their DL. To the contrary, they are convinced, their DL matters more, than the few, short moments of EL, they have had. At best, their EL is a peculiarity to them, because they cannot put it into context. Their EL doesn’t continue, as they don’t view it, as the expression of their Language Enlightenment (LE). 

 

I had to become more protective of myself, because  in my enthusiasm and eagerness to share my LE and EL with others, I was giving myself away, again and again. I don’t write these long, seemingly repetitive, texts, with a deliberate purpose, to turn people off, but am well aware, my dense writings can have this selective effect, as people need to make an effort, to understand what I am trying to convey. In the past, I was trying so hard to reach people, but now people will have to try hard to reach me. For me, it is better this way, as people will have to spend time with me, to be able to realize, it is indeed only their own LE, which makes them want to continue with their EL.

 

Of course, I could also say, I’ve had enough of trying to reach people, but that wouldn’t be accurate. I still want to reach out to you, but my experience of how that is affecting me became more apparent. I cannot afford to have any arguments with anyone anymore and my writings helped me enormously, in steering  myself away from this great temptation. By writing about my LE, I have stabilized in my EL. It couldn’t have happened in any other way. I have come to accept and recognize, it is true for me, my LE has priority over wanting to share my EL with others. 

 

Everything you can possibly know about yourself and others is hidden in your language. However, you don’t pay enough attention, to how you deal with your language, to be able to dissolve in your EL and express your LE. To you, many other things are more important than your own language and that is why you keep getting stuck in DL and give up on EL. I am not here to encourage or convert you. I can write or say this, because I have taken the steps, I describe.

 

When I discovered EL, in my mid-twenties, I knew, I had found my access to LE, but, apparently, there were still many things, I myself didn’t have enough of yet. Even today – forty years later – I find myself having to admit, there are still things, I haven’t had enough of, which inevitably, temporarily, distract me from my LE. Before, I would feel embarrassed about this, but now, I find it funny, because it is actually so hard, not to be enlightened. My hang ups usually last only briefly. I don’t worry about having them, as everything is always working out beautifully for me. I feel permanently forgiven for all my mistakes, but I am very judgmental about others. I have no shame  admitting, I feel disgusted by the DL of others. The kinder I have become to myself, the less tolerant I am about having to put up with anyone’s negativity. 

 

You may hear that some people are talking, but you don’t hear their voices loud enough, to be able to understand what they are saying. Only if you come closer, a threshold is passed, as you have enough audible input, to be able to follow the conversation. With EL, however, it is not the sound of someone else’s voice, that we listen to, but our own voice. Obviously, we must speak, to hear our own voice.

 

Although, whether we know it or not, we always hear our own voice, while we speak, but we don’t listen to ourselves, while we speak, deliberately. The threshold with listening to ourselves is only met, if we talk often enough out loud with ourselves, to be able to hear, that our authentic sound is effortlessly expressing our wellbeing. What we say, with our embodied sound, has a different meaning than what we say, with a disembodied sound. To acknowledge, admit, accept, explore and enjoy this, we have to have enough EL by ourselves, but also with others.  

 

In my big family, there was a lot of screaming, crying, but, confusingly, also talking, going on. Due to how I grew up, I had many anxieties and had to figure out, how to live with myself. Although I have been happily married for many years, we chose not to have any children, as I wasn’t resolved about how I was raised. Discovering EL meant, for me, there is a way of talking, in which there aren’t any problems. I couldn’t believe it myself, others couldn’t believe it, but, somehow, I kept exploring it, in spite of my own traumas. I realize, already at an early age, I had enough of DL. I escaped home, was on the street all day and nowhere to be found for doing any chores.                 

 

Better,

 

I write my own texts, to existing famous songs. For instance, I have my own version of the Dutch and the American national anthem. Many people have said,  not once or twice, but all the time, my texts are  better than the original. I am not trying to be better than anyone else, but I’m certainly feeling happier than most people. Also, I laugh more than everyone I know, not about some boring stand-up comedian, but about myself. I find myself funnier than others.

 

Ridiculously, people pay a lot of money, to go to a seminar, about how to be a better person. As long as they still engage in Disembodied Language (DL), however, they merely develop a holier-than-thou attitude. I laugh, behind their backs, about their air of moral superiority, because they have no sense of humor. I don’t disapprove of or feel annoyed about a person’s self-righteousness, because I am perfectly okay with people making a big fool of themselves.

 

If you, like me, would engage in Embodied Language (EL), you wouldn’t act sanctimoniously, but you would acknowledge and know, that your way of dealing with language, is more intelligent than those who, unconsciously, engage in DL. Since DL is based on negative emotions, but EL on positive emotions, if you would have EL, you would be having a good time, while everyone else is – without even realizing it – suffering. Moreover, you would be surprised to hear and notice, many people are claiming, there is great meaning to their superstitious lives, in which they can never be themselves and keep pretending to be something, which they are not. Also, you will be stunned by the fact, that everyone insists on having DL, while they are doing things, they don’t want to.

 

Is doing what I want to do – doing what makes me happy – making me a better person, than those who believe they have to do what they don’t want to do? You tell me or better yet, you tell yourself. Regardless of  how miserable, conflicted and messed up they are, people with DL, always show pride and arrogance through their words and actions. Hypocritically, they  endlessly blame others, for what they actually do themselves and as long they remain involved in DL, there is no end to their hair-splitting arguments. I don’t participate in any of this bullshit, because I have better things to do. In my opinion, being the better person, simply means: having better things to do than to engage in DL, but doing better things, is not an option for those, who continue with their DL.  

 

Your standards of judgement will be very different, if you engage in EL, instead of your usual DL, because you are concerned about your own behavior, rather than with the behavior of others. It is amazing, what you pick up about the shenanigans of others, when – due to your EL – your behavior is the focus of your attention. People are busy with the behavior of others, to be distracted from their own problems. I am not busy with you. I am not interested in your problems, as I don’t need your or someone else’s  negativity to distract me. Yes, it never occurred to you, but you are never preoccupied with someone else’s positive behavior, but always with their negativity.

 

With EL, you will be, verbally-better-than-thou, as there is no one else, to better judge your behavior than you yourself. Whatever you experience in your life, is the result of your previous behavior, but also of what you haven’t done. With EL, you are going to find out, that you can still do what you haven’t and couldn’t do and you can stop any behavior, which you don’t want. Changing the hearts and minds of people with DL was never happening. As a matter of fact, our habitual way of dealing with our language makes behavioral change impossible. Humility is a cover up and those who flaunt it, are full of shit.  

 

The worst part about being the better person, is that you can only, supposedly, accomplish this, by trying to improve yourself. Good luck with that. You try this approach and that method and what is the end result? You are just going around in circles. Even with the best of intentions – remember, the path to hell is paved with good intentions – you always end up shooting yourself in the foot, trying to improve yourself. With EL, you stop with that nonsense, as you are, who you can be. Moreover, with EL, you have no predetermined plans, goals or so-called thoughts, as you are happy and satisfied. You don’t act on your so-called good intentions, but on your DL, that is, on your superficial way of dealing with your language. The unintended consequences,  you keep having, are not result of your imagination, but of how you keep telling yourself lies, with your DL.

 

How are you supposedly to let go of your anger, without realizing, your way of talking keeps it going? You only become more and more angry, as long as your DL continues and, inevitably, you explode again. It is not your belief, that makes you angry and changing your belief, isn’t going to make any difference. Only if you change how you deal with your language, only when your DL becomes EL, will you be able to have a different behavior. The problem is, with DL, you will always use effort, you force yourself to do this or that, but this is not how your behave better and consequently, feel better. To the contrary, every time you make yourself do something, you become less sensitive and more automatic and although you may do what you tell yourself to do, it doesn’t make you happy. With EL, you will be better off, as you don’t worry about anger, because you, literally, have become capable of doing something better. 

 

 

 

 

Precisely,

 

The word precisely is used to express complete agreement with what someone is saying. It also is used to describe when something is done with total accuracy or perfection. During Embodied Language (EL), we agree and approve of each other, but in a manner, we have never really done before. Actually, once we have EL, instead of our usual Disembodied Language (DL), we realize, what we considered to be agreement, exact, direct or factual, wasn’t true.

 

In scientific literature, people make sure to express themselves strictly, without vagueness – in writing – but when it comes to their spoken language, they  only pay lip-service to being scientific, because DL is just as common in Academia, as everywhere else. How can a supposedly important, knowledgeable, intelligent speaker, who – with his or her scripted, predetermined way of talking – dominates, forces and manipulates a listener, have anything to do with being scientific? It hasn’t and yet, it is considered to be perfectly acceptable for scientists, professors, scholars and teachers, to make students listen to them, while they don’t even listen to themselves. 

 

 

Written language – rather than spoken language – is the basis for law, the rule of conduct or action prescribed or formally recognized as binding or enforced by a controlling authority. People prefer  written over oral or spoken agreements, as written contracts are easier to enforce, as a clear record of the agreement exists and cannot be disputed. The word pre-scribe has a Latin prefix, meaning before and is attached to the verb scribe, from scribere, meaning to write. Strictly speaking (pun intended), to prescribe – to write – is to lay down the law and to tell people what they must do. This entire verbal legal edifice is based on DL, that is, on our common way of talking, which, regardless, how many laws we may have had, hasn’t changed at all.

 

Human beings have, historically, with laws – and, therefore, with written language – tried to regulate and, let’s not forget, enforce, each other’s behavior. Of course, in their private lives, it always was and still continues to be, the way in which they talk with each other, which determines, how they behave and relate to each other. Surely, only to the extent one was taught or told, at home, one will behave within the laws of what is considered to be acceptable or expected in one’s society. It is no surprise our DL has continued, generation after generation, as engaging in EL, in a very real sense, equals breaking the law.

 

With EL, we are going to discover the lawfulness of our behavior, that is, we finally begin acknowledge and pay attention to the irrefutable fact, that how we deal with our language determines everything we do or don’t do. Everything we experience, at any given moment, always has meaning to us, as it is the inevitable consequence of our previous behavior. Even if we manage to step out of our conditioning history with DL only for a few brief moments, we will witness multiple beneficial consequences of having precisely done so. The accumulative effects of both our EL as well as our DL are indisputable.

 

What makes EL precisely so very interesting, is that we can, at long last, describe DL and its devasting consequences. Regardless of which society we are looking at, we see the results of our involvement in and tacit agreement with DL. Accurate description of DL was never before possible, as it could only be accomplished with ongoing EL. Although we may have had sporadic instances of EL, we’ve never had it consciously, skillfully and, therefore, continuously. As a matter of fact, it is precisely our failure to have ongoing EL, which has made us settle for DL as the norm. Furthermore, it is, of course, our unspoken agreement with DL, which has always kept it going.

 

You can define a free person precisely as someone whose fate is not centrally or directly dependent on peer assessment. This doesn’t mean free person is inconsiderate about others or goes overboard on unconscious, excessive, harmful behavior. To the contrary, a free individual, feels responsible for the outcome of his or her actions. Everything that happens in his or her life – no matter how he or she interprets it – is precisely because of how he or she has dealt with his or her language. Therefore, our experience of who we are, will permanently change, once we engage in EL, as our Language Enlightenment (LE) is indisputable.       

 

Break,

 

As you will discover, your Embodied Language (EL) is a complete break with your past. What was once very important, simply no longer matters. However, this only concerns your negative experiences, as your positive past experiences have brought you where you are today. Your negative experiences didn’t produce anything of value and you are glad, you no longer pretend, they have any meaning.

 

The big lie, perpetuated by Disembodied Language (DL) is this: presumably, our suffering is good for something. It wasn’t and our misery could have been stopped much earlier, if we would have been honest with ourselves. Another aspect of the crazy tenacity with which we maintain the idea, that if it doesn’t kill you, it only makes you stronger, is the fact, that we become more insensitive and callous, due to our conflicts, as we don’t use our language in a non-reactive manner. Our whole notion of being ourselves or of wanting to be ourselves, is a result of our social impairment and so, we lie to ourselves, because we lie to each other. It is never because we lie to ourselves, that we lie to each other. We parrot this fallacy, because we have endlessly blamed the individual for all that’s wrong in society, but we’ve never questioned the collective, our so-called group-think, which goes on in the name of politics, religion, ethnicity, gender, science, sport or art.

 

There are no such things as thoughts, as there are only words, which are spoken, written, listened to and read. In reality, this cultural group-think, is how we actually talk, listen to and, subsequently, write, read and believe to understand. The Bible, Tora, Gita or Koran, are good examples of this, but, of course, also all our great best-sellers of the world-literature, are nothing but the products of our involvement in DL and our inability to have EL. It has never been said, but I say it and everyone, who comes to know EL, will say it too: we keep having DL, because it is socially reinforced in our spoken and in our written conversation. The latter, of course, never was a conversation anyway, as we took to writing, in the same way, as I took to this writing, in an attempt to still, supposedly, say what, supposedly, could not be said, in real time. This writing is different from any other writing, as it isn’t based on what I couldn’t say to you, but on what I can say and have said to you.

 

Rather than being a figment of my imagination, to please some hopefully appreciative audience, I am my own appreciative, real, audience and I write for myself. Instead of competing for the socially reinforcing effects of being a famous author, I’m familiar with and into self-reinforcing consequences of using language to benefit me, as an individual. The fact, that most people don’t want to consider my work, signifies the insanity of DL, which silences and ignores anyone, who attempts to address it. This has nothing to do with me personally, as it is the history of mankind. We have always punished and killed individuals, who didn’t adhere to what the group demanded from its members. Surely, their non-compliance, reactivity,  disobedience and martyrdom, has never resulted in the discovery and continuation of EL. It couldn’t. To the contrary, in the name of some utopia, it always resulted in obsessive, dogmatic, unnatural, forceful behavior, which basically destroyed everything that was good.

 

Regardless of whether our so-called values derive from capitalism, nationalism, communism or any other ism, we have, unknowingly, continued with our DL and made it impossible to have EL, although it is the natural thing to do. In effect, everywhere in the world, our way of using language is effortful and, therefore, producing superficial lives, which are, at best, based on trying to live as best we can,  with how we actually deal with our language. As stated, we have never been able to properly deal with our language and unless we do that, all our efforts are in vain. There is on other way, than to recognize our DL for what it is and has always been: a total catastrophe. If we don’t do that, things keep getting more and more intense and escalate, as they have always done, into war, chaos and destruction.

 

I understand, why my discovery isn’t embraced by any established institution: our verbal task is not concerning others, but concerning ourselves, as individuals. Once we embark on our ability to have ongoing EL – by ourselves – it cannot be denied, we could have ongoing EL with others, but our ability to continue our individual exploration of EL, depends on the social reinforcement of others, who, like us, also safely and joyously explored it on their own.

 

As you calmly read these words out loud, you can have EL, just like that, alone with yourself, because these words will remind you, that it is possible and necessary. However, you will not continue to have EL by yourself and you will not be experiencing the continuation of its positive outcomes, if you do not have any EL with others. This has always been the problem. We have always made it more important, to have, what we believed to be EL with others, rather than with ourselves. In DL, talking with others is more important than talking with ourselves, but in EL, the opposite is true. The social reinforcement of ongoing EL is a function of its self-reinforcing effects. Unless we enjoy our EL by ourselves, with ourselves first, we will not be able to have it with others, who did exactly as we did. This return to our natural way of being, will be facilitated by our own language, as it was our language, which took us away from who we have always been. Our Language Enlightenment (LE) therefore, is our conversation with others, who are able to have EL with us and our DL has nothing to do with one or the other.   

 

     

 

We,

 

We are in this together. I am writing this and you are reading this. I have written, for you, this expression of my Embodied Language (EL) about my Language Enlightenment (LE). By reading, you can understand and realize, you have been wasting your life with Disembodied Language (DL). I have been behaving as you do, but I no longer behave like that. You can, as I did, stop your DL, become aware of your LE and have, from now on, EL. Moreover, we can have EL. This writing, is my invitation and challenge to you.

 

We are going to have EL, as DL is outdated and no longer working. It used to work, as the structures, which made us adhere to the hierarchy, were still in place. However, with the advance of our technology, these structures have disappeared. No matter how much we try to go back to what was, it will never be the same as it was before. The time for those, who were supposedly powerful, superior and important and able to dominate, those who were meaningless, powerless and unimportant, is over. No speaker can force any listener to remain forever a listener. In EL, every listener becomes a speaker and every speaker becomes a listener. We will enjoy this turn-taking.

 

In DL, we always only speak as citizens of a country, as believers in superstitious beliefs, as voters of a political party or as adherends of some theory, but in EL, we say new things, because we are not bound by the past, as we have emerged from our conditioning history. When we continue to have EL together, we will be able express and be aware of our LE and we will create a different world, than the one we have created with our DL. The world will be ours, as my world will be yours and your world will be mine.

 

Right now, your world isn’t my world, because our DL and EL do not mix. I live the good life with my EL, while you live in misery with your DL. When you will stop denying this, we will have ongoing EL together. Your world never was mine and could never be mine, no matter, how hard I have tried to impose it on myself. However, my world can become yours, as in EL you will have stopped imposing anything on yourself, as well as on others. Right now, it is incomprehensible to you, there can be a way of dealing with language in which nothing is imposed on anyone. Welcome to my world, which is the natural and effortless reality, created by our nervous system, when it perceives no longer any threat. Yes, we embody our language.

 

In EL, we are going to laugh and cry together about the absurdity, chaos and cruelty of our history with DL. How could we establish, let alone, maintain, good relations with each other, if we, unconsciously,  kept disembodying our language? Moreover, how are we ever going to be on the so-called same page, where we agree with each other, because we are no longer threatening each other? We’ve never even asked and answered these questions for ourselves.

 

We can only come together, if we, each individually, do the necessary work, to reliably make it possible. The essential steps, each of us will have to take, in order to be able to have ongoing EL, isn’t a political, religious, philosophical, psychological, intellectual, sexual, theoretic, scientific, racial, economic or cultural group-phenomenon, but a novel process of becoming familiar with our own language.

 

We have never really spoken with each other – or with ourselves – in such a way, that the purpose of our conversation was to listen to ourselves. To the contrary, we only know the so-called interaction, in which listening to others, is compulsory. This way of talking not only has prevented us from listening to ourselves, but it also gave rise, to the creation and the perception – with our language – of our reality, which simply isn’t true. Once we listen to ourselves and engage in ongoing EL, we experience the great relief of no longer being oppressed by our own DL.

 

We are free only, when we hear, how we use our own language. We have ears and we can hear, in the sound of our voice, when we embody our language  or when this is not the case. Since EL is unknown to us, we don’t realize, neurologically, we have always agreed with each other, about when we feel safe to socially engage. We are used to and conditioned by DL, which is the ineffective, yet only possible way of dealing with language, when we, autonomically,  automatically and reactively, flee, fight or freeze.

 

We are going to talk and come out of the dark ages of our DL, as our EL will allow us to get to know ourselves, that is, our LE can only be revealed by our EL. The self-knowledge, which is acquired due to our involvement in EL is permanent, as we can really say what is true for us, as individuals. In other words, the positive consequences of EL, are instantly there and will create a future of health and happiness.

 

Although I have written this for you, I have written it for myself, as this is what I know to be true. I live in Chico, California and don’t see any reason, why the local or national news media, Butte College (from which I graduated with an AA degree in Social and Behavioral Science and where I taught psychology for many years) or California State University Chico (from which I graduated with a BA in Psychology), shouldn’t invite me, to talk about DL, EL and LE, as this is the quintessential issue of our time. Also, I hold a Masters of Arts from Ryokan University, as well as a Master of Science in Clinical Psychology from Palo Alto University, but never received any sign of interest from these pretentious institutions in this important matter. I state my case clearly: we are going to have a completely new paradigm.

 

We are listening to all kinds of idiots, who can only give us more DL and know nothing about EL. We are not moving forward with our lives, as long as we remain trapped by our conditioning history with DL. We cannot be ourselves with DL and, inevitably, are trying to be something we are not. This problem is much bigger than so-called gender-dysphoria about which we hear a lot, but which is just another failed attempt – and there have historically been many – at addressing and changing our language. Yes, we have, until my discovery of EL, been unsuccessful to stop our DL, but those who have taken my concept seriously, have always succeeded, because EL works.