Better,

 

I write my own texts, to existing famous songs. For instance, I have my own version of the Dutch and the American national anthem. Many people have said,  not once or twice, but all the time, my texts are  better than the original. I am not trying to be better than anyone else, but I’m certainly feeling happier than most people. Also, I laugh more than everyone I know, not about some boring stand-up comedian, but about myself. I find myself funnier than others.

 

Ridiculously, people pay a lot of money, to go to a seminar, about how to be a better person. As long as they still engage in Disembodied Language (DL), however, they merely develop a holier-than-thou attitude. I laugh, behind their backs, about their air of moral superiority, because they have no sense of humor. I don’t disapprove of or feel annoyed about a person’s self-righteousness, because I am perfectly okay with people making a big fool of themselves.

 

If you, like me, would engage in Embodied Language (EL), you wouldn’t act sanctimoniously, but you would acknowledge and know, that your way of dealing with language, is more intelligent than those who, unconsciously, engage in DL. Since DL is based on negative emotions, but EL on positive emotions, if you would have EL, you would be having a good time, while everyone else is – without even realizing it – suffering. Moreover, you would be surprised to hear and notice, many people are claiming, there is great meaning to their superstitious lives, in which they can never be themselves and keep pretending to be something, which they are not. Also, you will be stunned by the fact, that everyone insists on having DL, while they are doing things, they don’t want to.

 

Is doing what I want to do – doing what makes me happy – making me a better person, than those who believe they have to do what they don’t want to do? You tell me or better yet, you tell yourself. Regardless of  how miserable, conflicted and messed up they are, people with DL, always show pride and arrogance through their words and actions. Hypocritically, they  endlessly blame others, for what they actually do themselves and as long they remain involved in DL, there is no end to their hair-splitting arguments. I don’t participate in any of this bullshit, because I have better things to do. In my opinion, being the better person, simply means: having better things to do than to engage in DL, but doing better things, is not an option for those, who continue with their DL.  

 

Your standards of judgement will be very different, if you engage in EL, instead of your usual DL, because you are concerned about your own behavior, rather than with the behavior of others. It is amazing, what you pick up about the shenanigans of others, when – due to your EL – your behavior is the focus of your attention. People are busy with the behavior of others, to be distracted from their own problems. I am not busy with you. I am not interested in your problems, as I don’t need your or someone else’s  negativity to distract me. Yes, it never occurred to you, but you are never preoccupied with someone else’s positive behavior, but always with their negativity.

 

With EL, you will be, verbally-better-than-thou, as there is no one else, to better judge your behavior than you yourself. Whatever you experience in your life, is the result of your previous behavior, but also of what you haven’t done. With EL, you are going to find out, that you can still do what you haven’t and couldn’t do and you can stop any behavior, which you don’t want. Changing the hearts and minds of people with DL was never happening. As a matter of fact, our habitual way of dealing with our language makes behavioral change impossible. Humility is a cover up and those who flaunt it, are full of shit.  

 

The worst part about being the better person, is that you can only, supposedly, accomplish this, by trying to improve yourself. Good luck with that. You try this approach and that method and what is the end result? You are just going around in circles. Even with the best of intentions – remember, the path to hell is paved with good intentions – you always end up shooting yourself in the foot, trying to improve yourself. With EL, you stop with that nonsense, as you are, who you can be. Moreover, with EL, you have no predetermined plans, goals or so-called thoughts, as you are happy and satisfied. You don’t act on your so-called good intentions, but on your DL, that is, on your superficial way of dealing with your language. The unintended consequences,  you keep having, are not result of your imagination, but of how you keep telling yourself lies, with your DL.

 

How are you supposedly to let go of your anger, without realizing, your way of talking keeps it going? You only become more and more angry, as long as your DL continues and, inevitably, you explode again. It is not your belief, that makes you angry and changing your belief, isn’t going to make any difference. Only if you change how you deal with your language, only when your DL becomes EL, will you be able to have a different behavior. The problem is, with DL, you will always use effort, you force yourself to do this or that, but this is not how your behave better and consequently, feel better. To the contrary, every time you make yourself do something, you become less sensitive and more automatic and although you may do what you tell yourself to do, it doesn’t make you happy. With EL, you will be better off, as you don’t worry about anger, because you, literally, have become capable of doing something better.