Vaak,

 

Je hoort zo vaak, dat mensen zeggen, dat ze gerespecteerd, geaccepteerd of gevalideerd willen worden – door anderen – maar ze realiseren zich niet, dat ze zelf niet over de Belichaamde Taal (BT)  beschikken, die nodig is om te kunnen voelen op die manier. Vreemd genoeg verwachten ze van anderen dat ze hebben wat ze zelf niet hebben. Mensen met Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) willen onwillekeurig dat anderen voor hen doen, wat ze zelf niet kunnen doen. Met andere woorden, ze hebben geen eigen taal, om zich gelukkig over te voelen. Als ze hun eigen BT zouden hebben, zouden ze niet langer van anderen eisen, dat zij hen goed doen voelen.

 

De enige reden, dat mensen het zo vaak belangrijk vinden, om zogenaamd zichzelf te zijn, is omdat ze uiteraard niet zichzelf zijn, niet zichzelf kunnen zijn, omdat ze zich ongemerkt bezighouden met OT, wat hen ervan weerhoudt zichzelf te zijn. Iemand met BT praat nooit over het dilemma, om zichzelf te kunnen zijn, want bij BT is dat geen probleem. Er zou zoveel veranderen, als mensen erachter zouden komen wat het verschil is tussen hun eigen OT en hun BT. Hun eigen BT is echt hun unieke taal.

 

We hebben veel vaker OT dan we zouden moeten, en we realiseren ons niet eens, dat we er bijna altijd mee bezig zijn. Zodra we echter het verschil ervaren tussen onze OT en onze BT, zullen we nog wel wat OT hebben, maar het zal gestaag minder worden, terwijl onze BT steeds vaker zal gaan voorkomen. Iedereen is geneigd, om zijn conditionering met OT onbewust uit te beelden, maar OT werkt voor niemand van ons. In OT werkt je taal zelfs tegen je. Als je had toegegeven hoe schadelijk, verontrustend en ondermijnend OT – jouw gebruikelijke ongevoelige manier om met jou taal om te gaan – is, dan zou je er al mee gestopt zijn. Eigenlijk gebruik jij in OT niet jouw taal, maar gebruikt de taal jou. Hoe vaak heb je je niet ingebeeld, dat je zogenaamde gekke of wilde razende gedachtes, jou niet met rust zouden laten? Deze welbekende illusie is het resultaat van je OT.

 

Met OT presteer je altijd onder de maat, omdat je nooit duidelijk krijgt, waarom jou taalgebruik je gevangen lijkt te houden. Door dit te schrijven verwijs ik ook naar wat mij is overkomen. Pas toen ik naar de Verenigde Staten emigreerde, in 1999, nam ik het studeren serious en leerde ik over psychologie en behaviorisme. Daarvoor wist ik niets over de wetmatigheid van gedrag. Het enige wat ik tot dan toe wist, was mijn eigen strijd en de weinige overwinningen van mijn problematische gedrag. Ik studeerde en gaf les, maar vreemd genoeg, gaf ik – voordat ik terug naar school ging, om student, en later, psychologie-leraar te worden – al mijn seminars, workshops en sessies, over wat ik toen De Taal Die Ruimte Creert noemde. Ik wist toen nergens veel van, maar het was genoeg, om te doen wat ik deed. Nu ik gestopt ben met lesgeven en om mensen te  interesseren voor BT, schrijf ik dit gewoon, omdat ik ervan geniet en omdat anderen het misschien eens lezen, horen en toch beginnen te proberen.

 

Ik heb heel vaak, op allerlei mogelijke manieren, geprobeerd je geïnteresseerd te krijgen in BT, maar niets werkte, dus ik heb het opgegeven. Ik heb altijd geweten dat het zo werkt, maar mijn conditionering met OT ging, nadat ik mijn BT had ontdekt, nog een aardig tijdje verder. Het was eigenlijk pas nadat ik mijn BT had ontdekt, dat ik mij langzaam bewust begon te worden, van hoe vaak ik in de greep was van mijn eigen mechanische OT. Ik ben zo blij, dat ik die druk nu niet meer voel, om anderen te bereiken. Misschien bereiken deze woorden jou, omdat ik ze alleen voor mezelf heb geschreven? Zou mooi zijn.  

 

Ik beschouw mijn vermogen om mijn OT te stoppen en om BT te hebben en om te praten over mijn Taal Verlichting (TV) als een verworven vaardigheid. Als je wiskunde wilt leren, moet je wiskundeles volgen en naar je wiskundeleraar luisteren. En, als je iets wilt leren over elektriciteit, moet je het leren van iemand die daar verstand van heeft. Je kunt echter niets van mij op die manier leren. Het enige wat ik aanbied, is dat je met mij kunt praten over onze OT, BT en TV, maar je moet er wel al – vanuit jezelf – in geïnteresseerd zijn, want ik ga je niet aanmoedigen of iets voor je doen. Ik praat graag over mijn BT en mijn TV, dat is alles wat ik wil. Ik zou er de hele dag mee door kunnen gaan. Mijn BT en mijn TV zijn absoluut van onschatbare waarde, maar jouw OT is voor mij ondraaglijke onzin. Je moet dus helemaal zelf stoppen, om BT met mij te kunnen hebben.

 

Op dit punt in mijn leven, ben ik 65 jaar en zeven dagen oud. Ik wil gewoon door kunnen gaan met mijn BT, om zo mijn TV te kunnen uiten. Ik heb een korte video gemaakt, om mijn dankbetuigingen op te nemen. Het kwam heel goed uit, omdat ik Thanks Giving kon koppelen aan de manier waarop we met onze taal omgaan. Voor mij is dankbaarheid niet iets dat gereserveerd is voor één speciale dag in het jaar, maar ik gebruik die dag heel graag, om uiteen te zetten, hoe ik me eigenlijk iedere dag voel. Ik ben  heel dankbaar voor alles wat mij is overkomen.

 

Ik ervaar ook een gevoel van vergeving. Iedereen die mij, onbewust, negatief heeft behandeld en beïnvloed, heeft toch bijgedragen aan waar ik nu ben. Door alle afwijzingen, die ik heb meegemaakt, kon ik mij met niets anders bezighouden dan met mijn TV. Mijn passie om BT te hebben heeft op zich niets met BT te maken, omdat het de uitdrukking is van wie ik ben en altijd ben geweest. Als jij jezelf bent, zul je ook vaak BT hebben. Jou BT is, net als ieder ander gedrag, wetmatig. In Nederland spreekt men vooral Nederlands, maar in Engeland spreekt men vooral Engels. Als ze ervoor kiezen, omdat ze wat boeken lezen en studeren, zullen sommige Nederlanders misschien Engels leren en sommige Britten misschien wat Nederlands. Het feit van deze talen is, dat als je het niet spreekt, hoort, leest of schrijft, je het niet kunt leren. Ja, je kunt niets leren door er – zoals wij zeggen – erover na te denken.

 

Strikt genomen – woordspeling bedoeld – als we over ons denken praten, dan zijn we eigenlijk altijd iets aan het uitstellen. We zijn zo vaak niet in staat om oprecht en openhartig te spreken, dat wij ons inbeelden, dat wij een innerlijk gesprek met onszelf zouden voeren, maar de realiteit is en blijft, dat wij het werkelijk praten zo vaak hebben uitgesteld en ontweken, dat wij het geheel zijn vergeten en al heel lang eigenlijk niet meer praten, omdat ons denkbeeldige denken zo’n obsessievelijke problematische illusie geworden, dat we tragisch genoeg zijn gaan geloven dat praten niet meer nodig is.

 

Door deze woorden stilletjes te lezen en jezelf voor de gek te houden, dat je erover nadenkt, stel je het echte werk uit, dat gedaan moet worden om BT te verwerven. Jij kent BT niet en je zult het ook niet verwerven, door mijn teksten te lezen of door naar mij You Tube videos te luisteren, maar als je met mij praat, dan pas kom je eindelijk uit je dissociatieve OT. In de confrontatie met mij wordt duidelijk dat jou BT, niet een of andere spirituele flut-fantasie of psychologische theory is over het denken, over het hebben van gedachten of het betrokken zijn bij een of ander illusoir, diep, innerlijk proces. Door met mij te praten, wordt voor eens en voor altijd duidelijk dat er geen taal binnenin je zit. Ook al heb je vaak gesproken, alsof er woorden en zinnen in je hoofd zitten, deze manier van spreken was OT. Er kan geen enkele taal in je hoofd zitten, want dit is niet hoe je taal hebben geleerd. Als onze ouders, familie, vrienden, buren, priesters en leraren niet met ons zouden hebben gesproken, dan hadden we geen taal kunnen verwerven. Hetzelfde geldt voor BT: als niemand op die manier met je praat, dan zul je het nooit leren. Feit is, niemand heeft ooit op die manier met jou gesproken en daarom weet je het niet. Ik kan dat en als je met mij praat, zul je verrast zijn hoe gemakkelijk en vanzelfsprekend het is. Het is dezelfde taal die jij al gebruikt, maar je gaat hem heel anders gebruiken. Het verschil wordt niet door mij gemaakt, maar door jou. Ik steun jou proces van discriminatie of differentiatie. Zodra jij je BT hebt erkent, dan wil je ermee doorgaan. Deze motivatie komt op natuurlijke wijze voort uit het contrast met je OT. Hoewel je heel vaak OT hebt gehad, wil je het niet meer, omdat je nu iets beters hebt gevonden. Het is vanwege je TV, dat je met je BT verder gaat.

 

Often,

 

You hear so often, that people say, they want to be respected, accepted or validated – by others – but they don’t realize, they themselves don’t possess the Embodied Language (EL), which is needed to be able to feel that way. Oddly, they expect others, to have, what they themselves don’t have. People with Disembodied Language (DL) often want others to do for them, what they cannot do for themselves. In other words, they don’t have their own language, to feel happy about themselves. If they would have their own EL, they would stop demanding from others, that they should make them feel good.

 

The only reason that people so often make such a big deal about being themselves, is because they are not themselves, they cannot be themselves, because they engage in DL, which prevents them from being themselves. Someone with EL, never talks about being him or herself, as in EL, it is not an issue. So much would change, if people would find out, about the difference between their own DL and their EL. Their own EL is truly their own language.   

 

We have DL much more often than we should and we don’t even realize we engage in it, almost all the time. Once we experience the difference between our DL and our EL, we will still have some DL, but it will become less and less, while our EL will happen more and more often. Everyone is vulnerable to unconsciously act out their conditioning history with DL, but DL doesn’t work for any of us. In fact, in DL, language works against you. If you would admit, how harmful, troubling and undermining DL – your habitual way of dealing with your language – is, you would have stopped it already. Actually, in DL, you don’t use your language, but language is using you. How often did you not imagine, that your so-called crazy mind or racing thoughts, wouldn’t leave you alone? This common illusion is the result of your DL.

 

With DL, you always underperform, as you never get clear, about why your language seems to imprison you. By writing this, I am also referring, to what has happened to me. It wasn’t until I immigrated to the United States, that I became educated and until I studied psychology and behaviorism, I didn’t really know anything about the lawfulness of behavior. All I knew, up to that point, was my own struggle and my few victories in overcoming my own problematic behavior. I studied and I taught, but oddly, it was before I went back to school – to be a student, and, later, to be a psychology instructor – that I gave all my seminars, workshop and sessions, about what I  then called The Language That Creates Space. I didn’t know much of anything then, yet it was enough to do what I did. Now that I am retired from teaching and trying to get people interested in EL, I simply write this, because I enjoy it and because others may still read it, hear it and begin to try it.

 

I have often tried, in every possible way, to get you interested in EL, but nothing has worked, so I have given up. I have always known, it works this way, but my DL conditioning wasn’t immediately finished, after I discovered my EL. To the contrary, it was only then, that I slowly began to become aware, about how often I was in the grip of my own mechanical DL. I am so happy, I don’t try feel that pressure any more, I have to reach others. May be these words reach you, because I only write them for myself?  

 

I view my ability, to stop my DL, to have EL and to talk about my Language Enlightenment (LE), as an acquired skill. If you want to know math, you must take a math class and listen to your math teacher. If you want to learn about electricity, you must learn from someone, who knows about it. However, you cannot learn from me. The only thing I offer, is that you can talk with me, about DL, EL and LE, but you must already be interested in it, as I am not going to encourage you or do anything for you. I like to talk about my EL and LE, that’s all. I could go on with it all day. My EL and my LE are absolutely priceless, but your DL is intolerable nonsense to me. You must stop it by yourself, to be able to have EL with me.  

 

At this point in life, I am 65 years and seven days old. I just want to be able to go on with my EL and express my LE. I have made a short video, to record my Thanks Giving greetings. It came out really good,  as I was able to link Thanks Giving, to the way in we deal with language. Thankfulness isn’t something that is reserved for one special day, but I like to use that day, to express, how I feel, every day. I am truly grateful for everything, that has happened to me.

 

I also feel a sense of forgiveness, as everyone, who negatively affected me, unknowingly, contributed to where I am today. Due to all the rejection, I have experienced, I couldn’t have gone to anything else than my LE. My urge, to have EL, has nothing to do with EL, per-se, as it is the only expression of who I am and have always been. If you are yourself, you will often have EL. Your EL, like any other behavior, is lawful. In Holland, people mainly speak Dutch, but in England, they mainly speak English. If they chose to do so – study and read some books – some Dutch people may learn some English and some British people may learn some Dutch. However, the fact of these languages is, if one doesn’t speak it, hear it, read it or write it, one can’t learn it. Yes, one cannot learn anything, by – as we say – thinking about it.

 

Strictly speaking – pun intended – when we speak about thinking, we are actually procrastinating. We are so often unable to talk, that we imagine, to have an inner conversation with ourselves, but the reality is, that we are so often postponing to talk, that we completely forget about it and are no longer talking, because our imaginary thinking, has become such an obsessive illusion, that we have tragically even begun to believe, that talking is no longer necessary.

 

Quietly reading these words and deluding yourself, that you are thinking about it, is putting off the real work, that needs to be done to acquire EL. You don’t know EL and you aren’t going to have it, by reading my texts or by listening to me, but if you talk with me, you will come out of your dissociative DL, as it will be very clear, your EL isn’t some fantasy about having a mind, having thoughts or being involved in some illusive, deep, inner process. Talking with me  makes clear, once and for all, there is no language inside of you. Even though you have often spoken, as if there are words and sentences in your head, this way of speaking was DL. There cannot be any language inside of our heads, as this is not how we have learned our language. If our parents, family, friends, neighbors, preachers and teachers wouldn’t have spoken with us, we wouldn’t have been able to acquire it. Likewise, with EL, if no one speaks with you in that way, you aren’t going to learn it. Nobody spoke with you in that way, that is why you don’t know it. I can do that and if you talk with me, you’ll be surprised how easy and self-evident it is. It is the same language, you already use, but you will use it very differently. The difference isn’t made by me, but by you. I support your process of discrimination or differentiation. Once you can discern your EL, you would like to continue with it and this motivation emerges naturally from its contrast with your DL. Although you have had DL so often, you don’t want it anymore, as you have found something better. It is because of your LE, you want to continue your EL.      

 

 

Even,

 

Even during my Embodied Language (EL), while I am expressing my Language Enlightenment (LE), I still want to address your meaningless Disembodied Language (DL), because my EL and my LE are not appreciated or understood by you. When I criticize your unconscious, dumb, mean way of dealing with language, you immediately feel, I am addressing you, because you engage in stupid DL every day.

 

You would probably say, it is my way of getting even with you, as DL is the only language you are familiar with and can relate to. However, I don’t engage in DL, even if I judge you and hold you accountable for your actions. I am not who you believe me to be. I am even worse than your worst nightmare, because I am real and I always talk about real matters. You can’t deny what I say and even if you did, it would only prove my point, which is: you are full of shit.

 

You are always negative, even if you try to sound positive. Your mean, vindictive, distrustful, hurtful,    pretentious, deceitful behavior is very apparent, even while you try so hard, to act as if you are kind, patient, respectful, cooperative or truthful. Even if you would ever come close, to recognizing the great difference between your DL and EL, you would shy away from it, because you are already too far gone.

 

Since you have, so to speak, sold your soul to the devil – because you only engage in DL – you just can’t stand it, even if I merely pay attention to you, because my attention always shows what an ugly, frustrated, hateful, stressful and dissatisfied person you really are. Even someone as insensitive as you, can’t help, but feel the contrast. Even if I don’t say anything at all, you are upset, anxious and uneasy  around me, as you know, that you can’t control me.

 

Even if you obsessively try to get me on your side, I am not coming to your side and it greatly irritates you, to notice, the harder you try, the more you are coming to my side. The crumbling of your dumb DL, is bound to happen, with anyone, who is with me. I don’t do anything, but you are the one, who tries to change me, but you are not succeeding. Even if you don’t want to admit it, you know, you act foolishly. 

 

Even before you consciously acknowledged it, there was, of course, a great difference between your DL and your EL. You have had some brief moments of EL, but you could never continue with it, as your DL took over again. Your happiness lasted for a few moments and then it was gone again. The harder you tried to get it back, the less you succeeded and so, you basically gave up on it. Your situation isn’t uncommon. Everyone with DL is in the same boat.

 

You don’t even know what you are doing, because  language merely happens to you. You even believe that you think and that you have a mind, but you are not in charge of your language. Even when you try to be in control of your so-called thoughts, you never succeed and that is why you can’t sleep and why you wear yourself out, because you are never at rest. Your rigid, superficial, effortful way of dealing with language, illustrates – even if you have a lot of education, even if you attain a socially powerful position, even if you get a lot things done, even if you become famous, even if you get married two, three or four times – your life is a total mess. And, even your religion doesn’t give you any relief.

 

Even if you don’t talk with me, I have EL and I enjoy myself tremendously, hammering your idiotic DL. It is my LE, which makes me want to use my EL, to let you know what you are missing. Your life is full of misery, chaos, conflict and suffering, but even that is not enough, to begin to talk with yourself and listen to yourself, so you could begin to instruct yourself, to move on to something better. Whatever you have told yourself with your DL, didn’t and couldn’t help. You haven’t even begun to recognize, all of your problems are created and maintained by your DL.      

 

You even struggle with your pets, your children, your neighbors, your not-so-significant other, your ex and all of your friends. Even while you sleep, you are involved in something tense and worrisome. It is your life, but you don’t even seem to realize, you are wasting your time on nonsense beliefs. At some point, you hit a brick wall, you get sick, you spin out of control, you become addicted, you just don’t care anymore about anything, because you never even cared for anything in the first place. Perhaps, you burst out screaming or crying, but, only after you are done with your negative bullshit, will you come  to your senses. Even if you discover your EL, you only become even-keeled, if you can continue with it. Yes, nothing less will do, as that is your LE.  

Danger,  

Because it can put us in danger, so to speak, we usually fail to explore, acknowledge, and express our Embodied Language (EL). Viewed from our usual Disembodied Language (DL), anything that results in the cessation of our tragic conditioning is considered a danger. Although it is certainly true that our conscious EL is rejected by everyone with unconscious DL, there is no danger whatsoever, because we are only making our lives safer with EL. 

In DL we always talk about the danger of fascism, climate change, drugs or infectious diseases, but never about how we create our own horrible, chaotic, confusing reality, with our everyday, superficial, unnatural language. Man is in great danger and everything indicates that whatever we do, our situation will continue to deteriorate. As long as we are unable to stop our own DL, we are going to increasingly experience the disastrous consequences of the ridiculous fact, that we continue to act, as if everything will turn out fine.  

What we are going to do with all our atomic bombs, our own meaningless lives and with the violent societies of which we are a part, depends entirely on how we deal with our language. So far, DL has always endangered the individual and has failed to provide any stability, but with your EL, this is going to change, because you finally realize, that you have been constantly on the alert, raising the alarm and trying to warn others of some danger, while you yourself, did not even notice, you barely managed to avoid it. It's truly a miracle that you're still alive.   

Danger means, immediate action must be taken, but because of your paralyzing, numbing, dissociative DL, you are so used to danger, that you no longer even notice that your agitation, your depression, your stress and your madness are all the result of the fact, that you do not leave, but remain exposed to all the senseless negativity, which determines your life.   

The coast is only clear, if you finally talk to yourself and let yourself know, that only your own EL can give you the safety, you have never been able to receive from others with DL. There have hopefully been some people in your life, who were not too malicious, but you have never met anyone, who was able to consciously continue with EL, who invited and encouraged you to do the same. The security you have always been looking for is your Language Enlightenment (LE), which can only be expressed with your EL.  

The well-known ridiculous expression, that we should face the danger, so that we would no longer be afraid, since we have fought it and, supposedly, overcame it, illustrates how, with our usual DL, we look into instead of listen  and we fight instead of letting go. Only when, because of our EL, we have the courage to allow ourselves to listen to the fears, which we - as individuals - experience as danger, are we able to let go of the danger as well as the endless struggle with our fears.  

The presumably comforting saying, that we only see ghosts – because we are feeling a sense of threat, which doesn’t seem to go away – shows our fear has nothing to do with what we see, but with what we hear. We hear, constantly, everywhere DL, in which the voices of speakers demand and distract our attention. These very real voices compel us, even though they sound so friendly, enthusiastic and motivated, because it is all acted, false pretentious DL. Even though we could never put our finger on what is actually constantly threatening us, if we recognize the difference between DL and EL, then we know better. We're not crazy and we don't see ghosts. I have been working in psychology for many years and am convinced many people with so-called mental health issues, are actually sick of DL without even realizing it. However, when they say this, it will be considered, as if DL is part of being crazy.  

All kinds of power-mongers constantly force us to use our language in the way they want, but with our own EL, we will finally use our language in the way we want. However, we are playing with fire, as long as we have not yet recognized the great danger, that we with DL, have unconsciously, given up on our freedom. In other words, we remain trapped in DL, which prevents us from being who we really are and from living inspired by our LE with the help of our EL. The real danger is that, because of our long conditioning with DL, we miss out on our own lives.

 

Gevaar,

 

Omdat het ons, zogezegd, in gevaar kan brengen, talen wij er meestal niet naar, om onze Belichaamde Taal (BT) te onderzoeken, te erkennen en expressief te maken. Vanuit onze gebruikelijke Ontlichaamde Taal (OT) beschouwd, wordt alles wat het stopzetten van onze tragische conditionering tot gevolg heeft, gezien als een gevaar. Ofschoon het zonder meer waar is, dat onze bewuste BT wordt afgewezen, door iedereen met onbewuste Ontlichaamde Taal (OT), is er van gevaar geen enkele sprake, want wij maken ons leven alleen maar veiliger met onze BT.

 

We hebben het met OT altijd maar weer over het gevaar van fascisme, klimaat veranderening, drugs of besmettelijke ziektes, maar nooit, over hoe wij met onze alledaagse, aftandse, onnatuurlijke taal onze eigen afgrijzelijke, chaotische, verwarrende  realiteit creeren. De mens is in groot gevaar en alles wijst erop, dat wat wij ook doen, onze situatie als maar verder verslechterd. Zolang als wij niet in staat zijn, om onze eigen OT een halt toe te roepen, zullen wij in toenemende mate de desastreuze gevolgen  ervaren van het idiote feit, dat wij met onze OT maar blijven doen, alsof alles wel goed gaat komen.

 

Wat wij gaan doen met al onze atoombommen, ons  eigen betekenisloze leven of met de geweldadige  maatschappij, waarvan wij onderdeel zijn, hangt volledig af, van hoe wij zullen omgaan met onze taal. Tot dusver, heeft OT het individu altijd opnieuw in gevaar gebracht en geen enkele stabiliteit kunnen bieden, maar met jou BT gaat hierin verandering komen, omdat jij eindelijk zult gaan beseffen, dat jij voortdurend in de weer bent gebleven, om alarm te blazen en om anderen voor een of ander gevaar te waarschuwen, terwijl jij zelf niet eens in de gaten had, dat jij nauwelijks de dans wist te ontspringen. Het is werkelijk een wonder, dat jij nog leeft.

 

Gevaar betekent, dat er directe actie moet worden ondernomen, maar vanwege je verlammende OT ben je zo gewend aan gevaar, dat het je niet eens meer opvalt, dat je agitatie, je depressiviteit, je stress en je waanzin, allemaal het gevolg zijn van het feit, dat jij niet weggaat, maar in de beurt blijft van al de zinloze negativiteit, die jou leven bepaalt.

 

De kust is alleen veilig, als jij eindelijk eens met jezelf in gesprek gaat en aan jezelf laat weten, dat alleen jou eigen BT je de veiligheid kan geven, die je nooit van anderen met OT hebt kunnen ontvangen. Er zijn hopelijk wel wat mensen voor jou geweest, die niet al te kwaadaardig waren, maar je hebt nog nooit iemand ontmoet, die in staat was, om bewust door te gaan met BT, die jou uitnodigde hetzelfde te doen. De veiligheid, waarnaar jij altijd zocht, is je  Taal Verlichting (TV), die alleen met BT te vinden is.

 

De bekende belachelijke uitdrukking, dat wij het gevaar onder ogen zouden moeten zien, zodat we niet langer meer bang zouden houven zijn, omdat wij het gevaar op die manier zouden hebben bestreden, illustreert hoe wij, vanuit onze gebruikelijke OT, bezig blijven met kijken in plaats van met luisteren. Alleen wanneer wij, vanwege onze BT, durven, mogen en kunnen luisteren, naar de angsten, die wij – als indidividu – als gevaar ervaren, dan pas zijn wij in staat om het gevaar en onze strijd met onze angsten los te laten.

 

Ook het zogenaamde geruststellende gezegde, dat we alleen maar spoken zouden zien, omdat het gevoel van bedreiging niet weggaat, toont aan dat onze angst niets te maken heeft met wat we zien, maar met wat wij horen. Wij horen, voortdurend, OT, waarin stemmen van sprekers onze aandacht eisen. Deze stemmen, dwingen ons, ook al klinken ze nog zo vriendelijk, enthusiast en gemotiveerd, want het is allemaal geacteerde, onechte OT. Ook al konden wij nooit ons vinger leggen, op wat ons nou eigenlijk voortdurend bedreigde, als wij het verschil tussen OT en BT erkennen, dan weten we wel beter. We zijn niet gek en we zien geen spoken. Ik heb mij vele jaren met psychologie bezig gehouden en ben ervan overtuigd, dat vele mensen met zogenaamde psychische aandoeningen eigenlijk ongemerkt OT spuugzat zijn. Ja, dan wordt je voor gek verklaard.

 

Voordurend dwingen allerlei machts-wellustelingen ons, om onze taal te gebruiken, op de manier die zij willen, maar met BT gebruiken wij onze taal op de manier zoals wij dat zelf willen. Wij spelen echter met vuur, zolang alsdat wij nog niet onze eigen taal, onze BT, hebben erkend en het grote gevaar, dat wij – vanwege onze taal – niet uit de weg gaan, kost ons onze vrijheid. Anders gezegd, wij blijven gevangen zitten in OT, die ons ervan weerhoudt, om te zijn wie we zijn en om met behulp van onze BT, vanuit onze TV te leven. Het echte gevaar is dat wij, vanwege onze conditionering met OT, ons leven mislopen.       

 

Compassion,

 

For the purpose of illustrating, what I want to say about compassion, I will first bring the reader this quote from J. Krishnamurti. “Compassion is not sentiment. Compassion is not wooly or empathy; it is not something you can cultivate through thought, discipline, control, suppression, or being kind, polite, gentle and all the rest of it. It only comes into being when thought, at the very root, has come to an end.” Krishnamurti was, unknowingly, his whole life, referring to Embodied Language (EL), which is the expression of our Language Enlightenment (LE). I hope you are able to combine his words, with what I say about our Disembodied Language (DL), which creates and maintains the illusion of thought. The absence of compassion, isn’t due to the presence of thought or a mind – because it doesn’t exist – even though we all talk like that, due to how we deal with our language. Our DL creates all of our problems, as it makes us believe, language can happen within us.

 

Krishnamurti’s words require some translation, to the concepts of DL, EL and LE. He often stated, that thought is time, born of experience and knowledge, which are inseparable from time and past. However, the fallacy of covert, supposedly, inner language – of being able to have thoughts or, presumably, a mind of our own – has distracted us from paying attention to the overt behaviors, which determine how we deal with our language: 1) speaking, 2) listening, 3) writing and 4) reading. Moreover, all other – good as well as bad – behavior, is kept going by the way in which we deal with our language and not by some superstitious fantasy, which inevitably occurs, since we cannot speak appropriately about our own experience. Our DL always distorts our own experience, therefore, we can never talk effectively about our own experience, in the here and now.

 

With EL, we can, for the first time in human history, talk, without any distraction or distortion, with total awareness, about our own direct experience. This is how we acquire self-knowledge, which is grounded in our own experience, in the here and now. We can finally talk whole-heartedly about our past as well as our future, because EL keeps us present. In DL, we dissociate from our experience, because we feel threatened. It isn’t – as Krishnamurti says – time,  which is the psychological enemy of man, but it is the constant threat, we experience, while we speak. We have never been in a non-threatening situation, in which we could consciously continue with our EL.

 

In EL, our action is based, not on knowledge of the past, but on self- knowledge in the hear-and-now. Therefore, we are not limited, by our unfulfilled desire, to express who we really are, that is, our LE.  Fascinatingly, Krishnamurti decribed his state of mind, as a young boy – when he wasn’t yet fully conditioned by DL – as follows: “No thought entered his mind. He was watching and listening and nothing else. Thought and its associations never arose. There was no image-making. He often attempted to think, but no thought would come.” You can tell from his words, that thought and even the so-called mind itself, was only a verbal product, which arose from the associations and the image-making of DL.

 

Our fantasy of having thoughts or a mind – which  probably has been going on, ever since human beings became verbal – will only come to an end when we make the individual shift, from our DL to EL. Nobody can do this for us, but we can definitely do this for ourselves. It is a skill, which we can and, in my opinion, should acquire. Once we have this marvelous ability, to have ongoing EL, we will step out of our dreadful history of conditioning with DL. In effect, our thought doesn’t really come to an end, but we fully understand, that it never even existed.

 

I totally agree with Krishnamurti, that compassion doesn’t come from charitable acts or social reform, but I disagree, that compassion has to be free from sentiment, romanticism or emotional enthusiasm. As anyone with EL will agree, accurate expression of our feelings, is of utmost importance, as this – and  this alone – guarantees the continuation of our EL. In essence, our sentiments reflect our experience of whether we feel safe or threatened. The fact that we are incapable of talking about this, with our DL, makes it seem, as if there is something wrong with our emotions, but we can’t reason properly, as long as we don’t feel safe. The accurate expression of our emotion, is, of course, not the same as emotional idealism or nostalgia, which derives from the fact, that we are incapable of talking about our feelings.

 

Our attitude or judgement about the situation, we find ourselves in, is determined by the perception, afforded by our DL or our EL, by the way in which we use our language. Although in DL, we attack each other, it is primarily reactive and defensive. I also want to say a few words about romanticism. In context of the fact, that individuals, historically, have been punished, killed, tortured or imprisoned for not adhering to the group-behavior, which was culturally-required to survive, it is important to recognize, that romanticism is marked by its focus on the individual. Surely, this focus was and is not perfect, but it certainly has given birth to societies, in which individuals have rights and freedoms. It is not a bad thing, in my opinion, to be reminded of the historical literary movement called romanticism, which is about the unique perspective of a person, often guided by irrational and emotional impulses. Furthermore, it would really help us, to be more romantic, to have respect for nature, the so-called primitive and to celebrate the common man. Since we have never had ongoing EL, there was no way for us to talk sensitively, sensibly, intelligently, however, romanticism surely was a movement, to elaborate on that, albeit embracing isolation and melancholy.  Lastly, anyone with EL immediately feels a sense of emotional enthusiasm, because our EL expresses, effortlessly and happily our LE, who we really are. In closing, with EL we verbally, naturally, acknowledge,  we are sensitive individuals, who experience and celebrate the abundant positive energy of our LE.

 

It is foolish to compare our compassion, to a great immoveable rock, in the midst of confusion, misery and anxiety. The new culture, which Krishnamurti was talking about, could not come about as long as our DL remained unaddressed. It can only come into being with ongoing EL. I already live in that culture, which I create for myself and which each of us can only create for ourselves. I am not waiting for anyone, but if you manage to stop your DL, I will be delighted to talk with you. I agree with my old friend Krishnamurti, that compassion and intelligence go hand in hand, but they only do so because of our EL. The wholeness of life or LE, is articulated by our EL.

 

Outburst,

 

My emotional outburst is – and has always been – to protect and liberate myself from anyone, who harms and disrespects me. I take everything very personal, because I don’t speak on behalf of any group. People blame me for, supposedly, making it personal. Even though I pay the price, I can’t help, I let them feel and know, they negatively affect me, because they don’t want to own up, to what they are doing. Surely, I don’t tolerate their ignorance about themselves and this is the story of my life.  

 

I am happy about my Embodied Language (EL), but   everyone is unconsciously engaged in Disembodied Language (DL) and doesn’t give a damn about me or my EL. I am sixty-five and four days old and I realize,  how fortunate I am, because I express my Language Enlightenment (LE) with my EL. For years, I was the victim, who begged to be accepted, but now, that I have come into my own, it is evident, I absolutely abhor everyone, who engages in brutal, dumb DL.

 

Any outburst of violence and hatred is the inevitable consequence of our mechanical involvement in DL. These escalations keep occurring, because we don’t act as individuals, but we believe, that we belong to some political, religious or ethnic group. All conflict and chaos, is created by group-behavior and not by individual behavior. Individual behavior is the only behavior, which creates real order and requires EL.  

 

When you explore the difference between your DL and your EL, you will experience an outburst of joy. With your EL, you will, for the first time, consciously,  express who you really are. Yes, this is an emotional matter, since you haven’t done that and you realize that. You will cry, laugh and experience great relief, when you begin to express your LE with your EL.

 

Actually, there is no such a thing, as an outburst of religious, political or ethnic animosity, but since we are all – due to our habitual stupid DL – trapped in what people call group-think, we imagine, we have a mind, which explodes, when our so-called identity is challenged by those, who behave different from us. With our DL, we can never talk appropriately about our fears and fantasies, which are created and maintained how we talk. Only with our EL, can we let go of the paranoid fabrications of our DL.

 

We are trying to hide ourselves in a group, but the reality of our individual lives is – although we have had a few, short-lived moments of it – we don’t know how to engage in EL, because we are stuck in a dissociative language, that is working against us, instead of for us. Yes, our inability to have EL and to  express the self-knowledge, happiness and peace of our LE, is felt, by each of us, as our personal failure.

 

Each time, we have EL together, we celebrate our LE and we experience an outburst of energy. Of course, this happens, because the energy, that was drained by our DL, comes running back to us. However, this can only occur, if we dare to be alone with ourselves and abandon the verbal constructs, which make the individual exploration of our language impossible. It is really true, your own verbal truth will set you free.

 

By bringing all your attention to speaking, listening, writing and reading – that is, by fully acknowledging your participation in overt language and, therefore, by rejecting the by DL-created false notion of inner language – you are going to experience an outburst of knowledge, because you will express, what you are capable of expressing and had always wanted to express, but you could never say it, hear it, write it or read it, as long as you were still engaged in DL.

 

Having another nasty hissy-fit is stupid, childish and utterly meaningless, because your temper-tantrum always involves the continuation of your insensitive, attention-demanding, energy-draining DL, however, if your outburst results in ongoing EL, then you will experience a mutation of who you believed yourself to be. You have permanently changed, because your EL immediately reveals your LE. Your DL-history may  still linger on for a while, but the transformation has already happened, because you have acknowledged the gigantic difference between your DL and EL.  

 

There is a lot of work to be done, because the way in which you deal with language, determines all of your other behavior. Your behavioral repertoire is self-defeating, as it is based on your involvement in DL. With EL, you are going to change, beyond what you had ever held possible. You will find yourself involved in an outburst of activity and experiments. With DL, you have been underperforming, as you didn’t have the energy to do well and to do what you wanted to. With EL you always have energy and to delight in that energy is your LE.