This,

 

This writing is about my Embodied Language (EL), which always immediately, effortlessly and simply expresses my Language Enlightenment (LE). I have not arrived at this peaceful, enjoyable, interesting way of dealing with my language, because I am such a special person. In fact, I have worried about this a great deal, because I am usually not treated by anyone, as someone who is special. To the contrary, I feel mainly rejected, ignored and forgotten.

 

I am no longer puzzled about how this can be. Since I express my LE with my EL every day, in my writings, but also, whenever I talk out loud with myself EL – I still do this almost every day – I acknowledge, I am  special, because, except for my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, no one is doing this. I always felt, I am special, as I have secretively, guiltily – without doing anything for it and, paradoxically, in spite of all my problems, stress and worries – been very happy.

 

I have felt so confused, tormented and obsessed by  this, as I couldn’t figure out, with my Disembodied Language (DL), why a trouble-maker like me, was somehow always able to toss all his dramas and traumas aside and carry on again with his language of unconcerned innocence? It wasn’t until I stopped teaching Psychology, but also, most importantly, because I gave up preaching about my EL, that my  LE began to shine – for myself – more clearly.  

 

Everyone engages, unconsciously, every day, in DL and, thus, misses out on EL, which would inform them about their LE. I didn’t make this up, but this is the reality of how most people live their entire life. For me, every day is a discovery, a blessing, a gift and I feel so grateful, I am able to say and write this and live like this. I don’t believe in anything, other than my own language and I can no longer afford to be busy with the ugly and stupid language of others.

 

While I write this, it is midnight. I went to bed at seven and look forward to sleep some more after I am done. I just opened the window and my room is filled with cool air. A helicopter flies over and makes a lot of noise, but afterwards, it is really quiet and I hear a dog bark in the distance. Here I sit, with legs folded underneath me, in front of my laptop, calmly waiting for my EL to appear. This is my greatest joy.

 

I no longer feel I miss something. This completeness is so superb. I arrived at it, by giving my own words to it. I remember, there were times, I felt hesitant to express myself about the fullness of my emptiness. I have never felt empty – as my stillness always was and continues to be with my language – and I prefer this stillness over the so-called stillness, in which we misjudge the importance of our language. There is absolutely no need at all to go beyond our words.  

 

When we acknowledge our DL and can switch to EL, our voice changes. There are three reasons, why the sound of our voice changes. Firstly, in EL, we no longer fixate on what we say, as we pay attention to how we say it. Therefore, we experience the fluidity of our language, which wasn’t there before in DL. Secondly, we no longer struggle, as we don’t try to sound calm, peaceful, certain, interested, strong or knowledgeable. We simply express what we are capable of expressing, in the moment that we speak with ourselves and listen to ourselves. We liberate ourselves from moving away from that which is. In other words, in EL, there is no conflict between who we are and who we should be. We sound so good, when we are truly at peace with ourselves. Thirdly, our voice changes, because own EL returns all our energy to us. During DL, our energy is always getting drained, but during EL, we get energized. This is a very tangible, immediate and blissful experience.   

 

I used to call EL the language that creates space and feel so happy to be reminded of this. Surely, my EL has gone through many different phases. I want to conclude this writing, by going into this crucially important aspect of language, which is completely misunderstood. EL is the language of freedom, but this freedom can only be experienced by someone who is an individual. With DL we forget about our individuality, as our own language is, unknowingly, overtaken by predetermined beliefs. We should not call DL group-think, but group-language. Every time someone says, I think so and so, they say so and so. The freedom of language can only reveal itself, if we admit, there never was any language inside of us. I mean this literally: there are no words in our brains.            

 

Coherence,

 

Our Embodied Language (EL) always says something new, which builds on what we have already said. Anyone who reads my work, will notice the internal coherence and magnificence of what they would be inclined to consider as my system, but which to me,  it is my natural way of dealing with my language.

 

I am convinced that anyone, who begins to listen to him or herself, while he or she speaks, will discover things, which are similar to what I have discovered. EL is so enjoyable, interesting and energizing, as it is about feeling safe, peaceful and relaxed. With our Disembodied Language (DL), by contrast, we create a hostile, anxious and stressful reality for ourselves.

 

It is the lack of coherence, in DL, which determines the inevitable fragmentation of ideas, which can’t and don’t fit together, because they contradict each other. The false, ad nauseum repeated notion of complementariness is a clear indication, that we are merely trying to justify the utter chaos, the lack of safe, enjoyable, meaningful consistency and the absence of any rhyme or reason, consciousness,  truthfulness or satisfaction about our own behavior.   

 

The possibility, that our use of language can be so immensely gratifying, is continuously obliterated by the inevitable upsetting, overpowering, intimidating effects of our involvement in DL. Unknowingly, we feel humiliated, ashamed and helpless, as it is so common, to be blown away, pushed around or pressured, by someone with forceful DL. Due to the lack of passion, there is never a real confrontation, in which DL is unmasked and identified as DL, and, therefore, instantly capable of transforming into EL. 

 

In DL, everything just drags on and on. What we call our debates, arguments, conflicts and differences of opinion, never unleashes any positive energy. To the contrary, it drains the very life out of us and makes us more vindictive, fanatic and resentful. However, if our DL could change into EL, we would experience the blissfulness of new behavior, which makes us view everything from our enlightened perspective.

 

People have been doing all sorts rituals, to pretend as if all the bits and pieces of their meaningless lives somehow fit together, but only EL could accomplish this task. After many years of being stuck in DL and experiencing its negative outcomes, it is miraculous to hear, in the sound of one’s own voice, how things come together, become integrated and make sense.

 

The logical coherence of our EL can only emerge from our positive emotions, which make it possible for us to be genuine. We all know this to be true, yet, we have accepted our DL as normal, in which we are constantly fighting, fleeing and dissociating. The natural harmony of our experiences cannot be revealed by our habitual way of using our language.    

 

EL is the skillful, harmonious arrangement of your voice with your words. Nothing needs to be added, your language is good as it is, but your sound is off, as long as you still engage in DL. Once you switch to EL, you let out a sigh of great relief, as you unburden yourself from your dismal, long, until that moment, unexpressed, history of conditioning with DL.

 

The concinnity, elegance, congruity, consonancy, symmetry, balance and unity of EL is breathtaking. Why are there so many different people, animals and plants? And, why are there mountains, rivers, oceans and forests? They are simply there, just like we are there and there is no purpose to evolution. Of course, the coherence of our EL is the expression of our Language Enlightenment (LE), that is, we are not trying to improve on what comes by itself.           

 

 

Obviously,

 

Obviously, you can only be happy, if you recognize and enjoy your own energy, but your unhappiness has to do with being overtaken by energies, which have nothing to do with you. You are possessed by some belief, some theory, some explanation, some interpretation, some perception, which isn’t yours.

 

Obviously, to find out about what is really yours, you  have to describe to yourself, as often as you want to  – in your own words, in your own language, in your own rhythm, in your own voice, in your own way – what is your experience, what is your reason for being who you are, what is your modus operandi, what is your is your fashion, what is your how, what is your home, what is your manner, what is your form, what is your conviction or what is your truth.

 

Obviously, you are confused, distracted, frustrated, fearful and hopeless, because you haven’t had any prolonged, conscious, effortless, graceful, funny and interesting conversations with yourself. While you may be absolutely sure, that you are right, that you know who you are, that you are willing to sacrifice  everything for your version of the reality, as long as you engage in Disembodied Language (DL), you are unconsciously carried away by the energy of others.

 

Obviously, to engage in Embodied Language (EL), it is absolutely necessary, that you first recognize and then stop, your own DL. Obviously, since you have never done that, you feel constantly overpowered, hurt, upset, stressed out about, preoccupied with and drained by, language which isn’t yours. Only in EL, do you acknowledge the great importance of experiencing and staying true to your own energy.

 

Obviously, your Language Enlightenment (LE), which is simply your natural way of using your language, is only expressed by your EL, but never by your DL. It is because of your incorrect way of using language, because of your overrated DL, you never paid any  attention to how you mechanically, unconsciously, anxiously, reactively and superficially use language and have remained totally unaware, about the fact that you have your own way of using language.

 

Obviously, you are endlessly affected by the energy of others. You have all sorts of convoluted, idiotic,  nonsense ideas, about being stuck in your mind, of changing your mind, of improving your mind, of being re-minded of something, of getting out of your mind, of having a lot on your mind, of being mindful or even, of having a mind of your own, but it never ever occurs to you, that you don’t listen to what you are saying. Obviously, you don’t have any EL, if you don’t listen to yourself, while you speak.

 

Obviously, you don’t listen to yourself while you speak – you habitually fall into the conditioning pattern that, presumably, listening to others or being listened to by others, is more important than listening to yourself – because you are not allowed to have or express your own energy. Obviously, you never say what you really want to say, because you will get ridiculed, punished, rejected, ignored, fired, cancelled, beaten up, tortured, imprisoned or killed.

 

Obviously, there is much more to the Fourteenth Amendment of the US Constitution, which disallows the government from infringing on the right(s) to pursue Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness, which applies to all citizens of the United States regardless of gender, race, religion or age. Whether we know it or not, are aware of it or not or willing to admit it or not, with DL, we overstep our freedom, as individuals. Although we believe, we are going our own way and doing your own thing, the reality of our miserable, conflicted, chaotic, shallow lives, is that we are imprisoned by our conditioning history.

 

Obviously, it gets very annoying to read this word, obviously, again and again, but it is very clear, that the pervasiveness of DL is a gigantic problem, not only here in the United Stated, but across the world. Obviously, you keep having your problematic DL, as you don’t want to know about EL. Obviously, you are too much of coward, to talk with me and to find out that my EL is real, but your DL is total bullshit. If I would have DL with you, you would know it is DL, because I would let you know and you would know that I am correct. As a matter of fact, I have always been correct in my assessment of what is DL or EL. Obviously, once you get to your own experience of EL, you say the same thing: you have always been correct of your assessment of what is EL and DL, but you never bothered to say it out loud, to yourself, so that you could hear it and begin to act on it, as I do.     

 

 

Confrontation,

 

Embodied Language (EL) involves a confrontation with reality, but Disembodied Language (DL) makes us deny the reality of our lives. Once we find out about EL, it becomes possible to talk about our conditioning history with DL with EL. Before this discovery, we were only able to talk with DL about DL, but we were unconscious about it. Also, of course, in those few moments, that we were able to have some EL, we were unconscious. As long as we didn’t know about EL, we were in the dark about our language.

 

When we, with EL, become conscious of ourselves and our relationships, we realize all previous talk about being conscious was utter nonsense without our EL. Moreover, only then it is obvious to us, that we were always pretending to engage in EL, while, in fact, we were engaging in DL, all the time. There simply was no other way, as we didn’t know about our EL yet. To untangle ourselves from our DL, is at the same time simple – as it merely requires us to speak with and listen to ourselves – but it is also very complicated – as we were lying to ourselves for so long, due to our history of conditioning with DL.

 

Discovering EL and continuing with it, is a constant confrontation and adventure, as we are renewed by our language. Our EL is tremendously refreshing and energizing, as it liberates us from the troubles which were created and maintained by our DL. It is true, that we couldn’t talk with our DL about our DL, but is also true, we couldn’t talk with DL about EL. The biggest confrontation about knowing the difference between DL and EL, is that we admit, what is what.

 

Someone like me – who truly knows about the great  difference between DL and EL – is able to say, at any time, in any conversation, with anyone, whether he or she, someone else or they together, engage in DL or in EL. While it is comfortable to have EL, it is very unpleasant to consciously have DL. Nevertheless, anyone who knows about the gigantic difference between DL and EL, is always able to accurately observe and say: now we are having DL or now we are having EL. Someone who doesn’t know about the enormous difference between DL and EL, can’t make this observation and, therefore, is bound to get deeper caught up with DL, which, although nobody wants to admit it, always escalates. Thus, with DL, we always seek the confrontation, but when push comes to shove, we deflect, as we never go into how we are dealing with our own language.

 

With our EL, we can finally accept and admit what is our DL, but once we have done that, once we know what is what, this doesn’t mean, we are done with our conditioning history with DL. The challenge of addressing our history with DL with EL continues, as we aren’t only addressing our own DL, but also the DL of others and, actually, of all of mankind. Every human being struggles, due to DL and, to face the reality of our own DL, is to acknowledge what each human being has endured throughout history.

 

In a real love relationship, a couple, inevitably, but, unconsciously, goes through the confrontation, to figure out, what is DL and what is EL. Without EL, there can’t be any intimacy. Although people may take therapy classes, in how to talk with each other or how to express their emotions, psychology hasn’t acknowledged, let alone embraced, the difference between DL and EL as the utmost important issue. I have studied psychology, I have worked in the field and have taught it for many years, but to my own knowledge, the issue of EL is too much of a hot potato, as it confronts us with the devastation of DL.

 

The difference between DL and EL can be described as using our language out of fear or out of freedom. There has to be an extended experimental period, in which we are able verify – alone, by talking out loud with ourselves – when we engage in DL and EL. Also, we want to have EL with others, but this is when we are confronted with the astonishing, horrible fact, that nobody is interested in EL. Each time we try to talk about having EL with others, we are rejected and the only way to continue with EL, is to only talk about it with those, who, like us, experiment with it.

 

Woke,

 

The current cultural mass hysteria, in which both manhood as well as womanhood are dishonored, is in essence nothing new. It is absurd, that a young boy can now simply say, that he believes to be a girl and, then, we are all socially expected to call him a girl and treat him as a girl and a little girl can just say, that she feels, she is a man and from then on, we should refer to her as he and treat her as a boy.

 

The term woke is thrown around a lot, by right wing people, to criticize the failed attempt by the left, to address what is the real issue, namely, how we use our language. The wave of increased alertness and concern about social injustice and discrimination divides us, because it prevents us – as individuals – from recognizing how we use our language. Instead, our individuality, as it historically has always been, is again crushed by the social pressure to conform.    

 

What is goes completely unnoticed in the discussion about what is referred to as gender-identity, is the reality that both the proponents of this new fad and those who are against this, unconsciously engage in Disembodied Language (DL). Nobody is able to talk clearly about the problem, which has been with us for a long time, but which cannot be addressed by producing more of the same old DL. Our usual way of dealing with language – that is, our common way of talking – doesn’t allow us, to really be ourselves.

 

When we take into consideration the general lack of skill, to use our language naturally, effortlessly and peacefully and engage in Embodied Language (EL), it is not surprising, our dissatisfaction, disdain and disgust with our language is causing us problems. I say this emphatically, as a hetero-sexual, satisfied, confident male, who himself greatly struggled with the problems he experienced, due to how he used  his language. Only recently, at age 64, I was able to  embrace my manhood, when I realized, that being myself, is my Language Enlightenment (LE), which could only be expressed – after I had identified and stopped my conditioning history with DL – by my EL.

 

I am not the only man, who has struggled with his manhood, but I am definitely the only one, who has overcome his problems with his own involvement in DL. Although, I might still be somewhat affected by my history of conditioning with DL, it doesn’t bother me anymore as it used to. Actually, I feel grateful, I was so much troubled by my own DL, as it made me discover and explore my EL and acknowledge my LE.

 

Millions of men doubt their masculinity, but have no idea, that how they use their language, causes them to feel humiliated, ridiculed and rejected. However, with EL, it is crystal clear, also, of course, all women have short-changed themselves with their own DL. The quest for women’s rights hasn’t resulted into an awareness about the difference between DL and EL.

 

While EL is certainly a skill one can develop, one will only set out to do this, if one feels motivated to do so. DL is rampant everywhere, because there is no incentive at all to stop it. To the contrary, there is only more political, woke-reason to continue with it or to argue against it. Since we don’t know how to engage in prolonged EL, we, inadvertently, end up addressing our DL with more DL, which is a vicious circle. Therefore, in addition to the lack of skill, we miss out on EL, because we have no passion for it.

 

What is increasingly more absent in the miserable, violent, conflicted, superficial, chaotic, consumer lives of men as well as women – who still can’t seem to figure out how to live peacefully together – is passion. For modern human beings, there is nothing to dedicate their so-called heart and soul to. Those, who believe to be passionate, don’t want to admit, they are beating themselves up, in order to follow their dream. They proudly lose themselves, by being  part of something, that is bigger than themselves and sacrifice themselves on the altar of some cause.

 

In its original form, woke is an adjective derived from African-American Vernacular English (AAVE) meaning alert to racial prejudice and discrimination. In other words, it was an attempt to address DL, but only someone with EL, would see it that way. With DL, we like to believe, in the beginning in the 2010, woke came to encompass a broader awareness of social inequalities such as sexism. In other words, one word, came to include more than what it meant before. Woke has also been used as shorthand for some ideas of the American Left involving identity politics, social justice, such as white privilege and slavery reparations for African Americans. Stated differently, in DL we throw everything at each other except the kitchen sink, but we never ever get to EL.

 

Since nobody is getting anywhere with their DL, we are all disappointed and disillusioned. While we have all had some moments of EL, it was never enough to develop a passion for it. Yet, this is the only way out of our meaningless, mechanical existence with DL. Our language works for us with EL, but against us with DL. Thus, in EL we take control again over how we use our language. However, this is not a political, philosophical, spiritual or social issue, but a personal issue. Are you going to do it or not?  

 

Ready,

 

Someone like me, who has Embodied Language (EL), is always ready, but someone like you, who is stuck with Disembodied Language (DL), is never ready for anything. You aren’t ready, because you haven’t had enough of your DL. Although you suffer and have many conflicts, you accept DL as your reality. Unless, you begin to have some EL, you will be unable to admit, that you don’t want to live like that anymore.

 

How is it possible, that only three people are ready to have EL? Only my lovely wife Bonnie, my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke and I have EL, while the rest of the world is constantly arguing and fighting. Certainly, people grow old together and celebrate their fiftieth, sixtieth or seventieth anniversary, but they are never going to be ready to have EL. As they grow older, their resistance to EL keeps increasing. Even the wisest person doesn’t know the difference between DL and EL and takes great pride in being able to have totally forgotten about themselves.

 

Only someone who has EL, whose language works for them instead of against them, can be themselves and, yes, apparently, only three people, are ready. If you happen to read this, you just can’t believe it and you immediately dismiss this as nonsense, but what if it is true? You aren’t ready for EL, as you refuse to stop your DL. You don’t contact any of us to have EL, as you don’t understand why this is important. We are strangers, who don’t care about your problems.

 

I write about my EL every day, not because I hope that you, one day, will be ready to have EL with me, but because I acknowledge, that I am enlightened. It is because of Language Enlightenment (LE) that I or anyone has EL. So, actually, to be ready for EL, is to be ready for LE. Whether you are ready or not, your LE is already the case and the sad fact that you keep trying to avoid it with DL, causes you tremendous harm, since you are going against your own nature. 

 

My friend, my wife and I acknowledge that nobody wants to know about LE. Perhaps, it appears as if someone, occasionally, shows some interest in EL, but, each of us knows, that people aren’t ready to have EL with us, because their conditioning with DL keeps telling them they are something, which they are not. Whatever people believe themselves to be, is not who they are and having EL would make that absolutely clear. Moreover, our true nature, our LE, urges us to adjust our language and this means, to go against our own conditioning history. Surely, we are not only going against our own conditioning, but we go against the conditioning history of everyone.

 

I had so much fun today, driving my truck and doing my deliveries. I was talking out loud with myself and I said: I am right and you are wrong. I repeated this sentence, with small modifications, multiple times and each time I did, I was laughing and laughing, because it felt so good, to just say this. LE is about being verbal about who you really are and if you would ever be ready – to verbally be yourself – you would have to say the same thing, as no one else can do it for you. It is so hilarious, to have taken the verbal jump, to talk out loud with yourself and you tell yourself, again and again, that you are you.

 

With DL, you have given up on yourself, as aren’t ready to face the fact, that your own conditioning history with your own language makes it impossible to be yourself. You might want to sit through some boring sermon, read a book, stare at TV, listen to a podcast, watch videos, take a class, do a workshop, fall asleep during a lecture, repeat the prescribed political narrative and virtue-signal, in the hope to become a smarter, conscious, spiritual, stronger, powerful, confident, successful, healthy, happy person, but you aren’t ready, to hear yourself say – to yourself – that your words are no good, because the sound of your voice is no good. To be ready, is to fully acknowledge, that you don’t like to hear your own voice, while you speak, because you always sound so pressured, confused, phony, frustrated, stressed, fearful, angry, disappointed, pretentious, tedious, stupid and repetitive. To be ready, is to let that be the case, so you can make the switch to EL.

 

To be ready, is to verbally be with what is. You say what is in your attention and your attention can go wherever it wants to go and you can say whatever you want to say. And, yes, you may act out all your drama, but you do it verbally and you listen to the sound of it. Do it alone, talk out loud with yourself, so that there is only your own response to what you say. You have to say, you are not ready, to get ready. You must let yourself know, you need to experience it, feel it and hear it, that you are really ready, even though you keep saying you are not. You are already ready, because you are good as you are and you can hear it in your voice, which sounds so good to you.  

 

Misery,

 

When you are able to have Embodied Language (EL), the whole issue of letting go seems ridiculous. Why does anyone, supposedly, need to let go? Oh, I get it. It is because everyone, almost continuously, engages in Disembodied Language (DL), in which no one can be, who he or she really is. We hang on to our misery in DL, but, oddly enough, we never hang to our happiness. Presumably, there’s only a need to let go of negative, but not of positive emotions. Of course, there is barely enough happiness to hang on to anyway, but there is a lot of misery to hang on to.

 

Why do people say, misery loves company? What a stupid question. Everyone knows that someone who is unhappy likes to make other people unhappy too. This is what everybody does with their mechanical way of dealing with language. Why is DL happening everywhere and not EL? I tell you why and can tell you why, because I  have EL, and, basically, nobody wants my company. I can put people out of their misery with my EL, but they strongly believe, they don’t want EL, so they hang on to their DL. You are destined to make a life of misery with your DL. I or anyone who knows about EL doesn’t want to be in  your company, as we rather remain alone. However, we always find each other and enjoy each other.

 

The Germans have a word for what seems to be the experience of joy, pleasure or satisfaction, that comes from learning of or witnessing the misery, failures or humiliation of another. Of course, it isn’t real true happiness, but since happiness is hard to come by people hang on to their Schaden-Freude, which means Harm-Joy. Interestingly, the Dutch – who are the neighbors of the Germans – have a similar often used word, Leed-Vermaak, which means Misery-Entertainment. However, a person, who him or herself is miserable, is far less likely to smile at the stupidity of others, than someone who is happy. Although the person with EL, laughs more about him or herself than about others, he or she mainly laughs about others, as he or she has EL, while others, unknowingly, hang on to DL.

 

With EL, there’s nothing to let go or to hold back and one simply laughs at how others try to let go or hold back. I don’t see any reason, why I should let go of my experience of being rejected and avoided, because I am rejected and avoided. My misery of not having anyone to share my EL with, is as real as my EL itself. I can’t pretend I’m not affected, I am. At times, I still feel pissed, resentful, misunderstood or sad, but these episodes last shorter and shorter and happen less and less often. I mostly laugh at my own misery. A while ago, I was talking out loud with myself and I said: you don’t feel miserable anymore. It seemed like a long time ago that I cried. I never felt there was anything wrong with my sadness and I have always cried a lot. Crying has always been a great relief to me. I burst out laughing, as I said to myself, that I was sad, that I was no longer sad. After I said that, I suddenly started crying and crying. I still felt sad, so few people can have EL with me, but I am so very grateful to be able to talk every week, on skype, with my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke.    

 

You can’t help but live in misery and conflict your whole life, because of how you deal with your language. Your repetitive, automatic DL signifies, that you have never paid any attention to how you sound while you speak. If you would do that, you would hear yourself and you would experience what you actually experience and you begin to deal with your language in a different way. All of a sudden, you are able to produce a different sound, which changes everything, as you say what is really going on with you, in the moment that you speak. 

 

You neither let go nor do you hang on to anything in EL, because you use your own language, to express to yourself what is in your attention. This is not the same as what is called being mindful, because you are being verbal to yourself about your experience. In other words, whatever asks your attention, in EL, can finally get your attention, because you describe it, in your own way, to yourself. You know, that in EL you can talk about many things, which you cannot talk about with others, because they don’t know EL.

 

Of course, you are going to talk with your EL about your DL, but this has nothing to do with letting go of your DL, but with becoming knowledgeable about your conditioning history with DL. It is always about fear, fighting, fleeing, escaping and dissociating. The more you know about DL with EL, the more you will be able to have EL, even when nobody recognizes it.

 

Misery is always exploited, but happiness cannot be exploited. Certainly, miserable people are constantly befooled into believing that someone or something will make them happy. Someone with EL, however, is already happy, and, therefore, isn’t deluded by or sold on any too-good-to-be-true deal. He or she can’t be manipulated, as he or she is the real deal. This triumphant certainty can only be acquired with EL. In DL, we brag and pretend, but we don’t listen to ourselves, because if we did, we would have to admit, we are not as happy as we claim to be. We want to be happy, because misery is our reality. 

 

Someone with DL, is per definition miserable. You may try to put up a happy face for others, but when nobody looks, you look miserable and ugly. These two always go together and the more miserable you are, the uglier you look. Certainly, with DL you also sound miserable. However, you pretend to sound upbeat, motivated, passionate, friendly or patient,  but someone like me, who knows the difference, can hear the difference. I always hear your misery in the sound of your voice, even when you are angry, frustrated, stressed, anxious, panicked or violent.

 

One day, in my early twenties, it was short after I had discovered my Language Enlightenment (LE) with my EL, I had put an advertisement in the local paper. It read: whatever it is, we can talk about it. I wanted people to know, what I had come to know. I heard the bell ring, opened the door and looked up at a giant of man, who was at least seven feet tall. I immediately felt alarmed, but not by his seize, but by his energy. I let him into my house, but he didn’t want to be seated. While we were walking down the hall, he already began to ask me, how that talking was supposed work and I answered him, that I will help him, as best as I can, to listen to himself, so he could make a wise decision. He looked bewildered and I was afraid he was going to get angry with me. I told him, that I was listening to myself and hearing myself and he could do the same thing and feel the benefit, which effortlessly reveals itself. He asked,  but what am I supposed to say? I told him: whatever you want to say. He then blurted out: I’m not going to do it! He was stunned and wanted to leave, but I asked him, what was it, you are not going to do? He then told me, he was very angry with someone and was about to go beat him up and perhaps even kill him, but he said, he was not going to do it. He stuck out his hand and shook my hand and squeezed it so tightly, it hurt, but he had, in one moment, changed. He thanked me profusely, walked himself out and I was totally baffled and relieved, that it all went well. I didn’t even have the chance to ask him for money.