November 19, 2015

November 19, 2015

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader, 

Although, obviously, the speaker and the listener are one within each person, you will very often not be able to experience this oneness. Your private speech, that is, what the speaker says to the listener within his or her own skin, is conflicted due to your public speech. Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB) private is speech that is caused by NVB public speech. When you talk out loud with yourself, you make your private speech public again. You could not do this during the NVB public speech which led to the NVB private speech. In NVB public speech you separate the listener from the speaker and, subsequently, you separate your private speech from your public speech. When you talk with your self you immediately experience that this separation was false. 

The separation between public and private speech was only there because of NVB public speech. When you talk out loud by with yourself, you effortlessly attain SVB again as there is in reality no separation between speaker and listener. That separation occurs because while talking with others we lose track of this oneness. Since we are used to NVB, we are used to experiencing the separation between listener and speaker. Since we only have had brief moments of SVB, we don’t experience the continuation of the speaker as one with the listener while we talk. If we would experience that oneness within ourselves while we talk with others more often, we would that find this oneness within ourselves will also make us feel one with whom we talk. In other words, when speaker and listener are experienced by the speaker as one within him or herself, then the speaker and the listener who is not the speaker are also experienced as one. In SVB the speaker and the listener outside of each other’s skin are experienced as one. This oneness is neither caused by the speaker nor by the listener, but by both simultaneously. Neither the speaker nor the listener is causing his or her own behavior.

Since speaking and listening happen simultaneously, they become joined. Thus, in SVB, by joining your speaking and listening behavior, the speaker and the listener within the skin of the speaker and outside the skin of the speaker become joined. All SVB communicators experience oneness and effortless agreement with each other. This agreement is based on the unity of the speaker and the listener. Speakers are not only ‘sending’ and listeners are not only ‘receiving’ as speakers are listeners and listeners are also speakers. The latter is where most of the work has to be done: SVB makes SVB speakers out of listeners.