October
30, 2015
Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S.
Verbal Engineer
Dear Reader,
Today, a lot
a waiting took place before I started writing. I didn’t want to write about
what I was thinking and waited until thoughts appeared which I found worth my
while. Such waiting increases the response rate of SVB, but writing or saying
something without waiting would increase the response rate of NVB. I am able to
wait as I have engaged in so much SVB that I notice the difference between SVB
and NVB, even in my own unexpressed private speech. There was a time, when I
needed to first express my negative self-talk before I was able to recognize
and acknowledge as such. NVB private speech is of course caused by NVB public
speech and SVB covert speech is of course caused by SVB overt speech. I am familiar
with these analyses and don’t need to think about them anymore. I have thought
about them already and they have been validated by my interactions with others.
It is a
natural aspect of our language development for our public speech to recede to a
private level. When we say our first words, like ‘mommy’, ‘pappy’ or ‘doggy’,
we are reinforced for our verbal behavior, but once we have learned how to
speak, read and write, most verbal behavior becomes private, that is, most
verbal behavior occurs silently when we are thinking and covertly talking with
ourselves. Ideally such thinking is a function of SVB public speech and results
into positive self-talk, but, as we all know, very often our self-talk is
negative. An increase of the response rate of our negative thoughts of our covert
speech, is always a consequence of our involvement in and exposure to overt NVB
speech.
These
contingency relations exist and evolve over time. Our response to a given
situation is not necessarily determined by antecedents which are available to
us. A person’s history of reinforcement determines the behavioral momentum of
his or her habitual thoughts. Thoughts that are a consequence of NVB public
speech are mechanical and will go on without any awareness, but thoughts which
are a consequence of SVB public speech are conscious and discriminate between
SVB and NVB.
The
environmental changes which occur during SVB and NVB are very different. SVB
public speech modifies the environment which is within our own skin. It does
that because the speaker is listening to him or herself while he or she speaks.
Due to the feedback mechanism of the speaker-as-own-listener, the speaker has
an entirely different effect on the listener as the speaker, who depends on the
listener for feedback. The NVB speaker demands and dominates the
listener’s attention and wants them to listen to him or to her. The listening
that is involved in SVB is completely different than the listening that is
involved in NVB. In the former, the environment within the skin of the listener
is affected by the induction of positive emotions, but in the latter, all
attention is drawn to what happens outside the skin of the listener. What
happens inside the skin of the listener is of no importance to the NVB speaker.
Not surprisingly, the NVB speaker induces negative emotions in the listener.
The listener who is made to listen to the NVB speaker is taught to tolerate these
negative feelings, by distancing him or herself from his or her private speech.
Stated differently, NVB speakers condition the listener to dissociate from what
he or she is thinking. Thus, conditioned by NVB, we disconnect from our
negative emotions and we use others to experience positive emotions. All of
this continues to occur because NVB prevents us from bringing our private
speech into public speech.
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