October
23, 2015
Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S.
Verbal Engineer
Dear Reader,
This writing
is not to convince you, to sell you on my ideas, to make you buy my book, my
videos or to get you to pay me as a so-called public speaker. All of that is a
bunch of nonsense. During my high school years I was involved in acting and
singing. I remember being in one musical and knowing all the lines of everyone
who was in it. After finishing the Dutch equivalent of college, I wanted to go
to acting school. I participated in preparatory acting classes for about one year
and was delighted to be accepted after my audition. However, it soon became
clear to me that I didn’t like to act. Acting had been a way for me ‘to be
myself’, but I discovered in acting school that acting prevented me from being
myself. After a year, I left acting school in utter frustration.
Speaking is
not acting and speech, which like acting is rehearsed, is per definition NVB.
No matter how great an actor may be, nothing replaces real human interaction.
Nothing can replace it, no book, text, film, play, adventure, thrill, money,
wealth, fame or even knowledge and skill. SVB is only for those who recognize
this. Those who remain enthralled with all of this hype will keep on missing
it. Be realistic, my dear reader, I am talking about you. Only in certain
environments, in certain cultures, is SVB possible and when you create and
maintain these environments and cultures with the people who stimulate you in
the correct manner, it will predictably happen. It is because you don’t know
how to do that that SVB cannot happen. It will begin to be possible by
listening to this.
This text is
written so that you can listen to it. This is how you sound. It doesn’t matter
whether you like it or not. You sound the way you do and attention for your
sound brings you in the moment. Your sound is in the now, listening is in the
now. This text gives you an opportunity to hear yourself in the now. There is
nothing to do other than to listen to your own voice. You don’t need to
understand this and the thoughts you might have about this are not the point of
this text. To the contrary, when you calmly read this text, you will find less
and less thoughts. It gives you permission to stop thinking for a while. You
can continue to read, but there is no need to think about what you are reading,
you just listen to how you sound and that’s all. If you notice that your
thoughts are calming down that is a good sign. If you notice that there is
nothing to grasp or understand, you are on the right track. Be okay with that
for a while and let you voice express the relief which comes with that.
You can
also briefly stop reading and be quiet for a while if you feel like it and
experience the silence which envelops you by just listening to yourself. This
is not hypnosis, but just you listening to your sound, while you are reading
these words. Allow boredom or irritation, which may come from reading this uninteresting
text. There is not much to these words. They were not written to impress or
amuse you. Their purpose is let you speak out loud and to make you listen to
your own voice. You can get a lot from doing that. You don’t have to take my
word for it. Please, do it. When you do it you hear something you didn’t hear
before. Do you hear it? If you don’t hear something new, it means you are not
listening to your sound. Probably you gave up reading out loud and you started
reading quietly. Reading quietly, like thinking covertly, cannot bridge the gap
between private speech and public speech. This bridge cannot be seen, but can
be heard.
If others
were there, who are familiar with the SVB/NVB distinction, they would
acknowledge the difference, but since you are reading this by yourself, you must
wait until you hear the difference. Yes, you must listen to yourself, as if you
were listening to someone else. This is what happens in SVB: we listen to each
other in the same way as we listen to ourselves. In NVB, on the other hand, we
have two different ways of listening, one in which we listen to ourselves and
another in which we listen to others. The other-listening in NVB prevents and
excludes self-listening, but self-listing in SVB includes and stimulates
other-listening.
During SVB your
sense of a behavior-causing self disappears and your thoughts about others who presumably
cause their own behavior also no longer occur. Stated differently, in SVB we will
talk with each other, but in NVB we will
talk at each other. Thus, SVB is
bi-directional, but NVB is uni-directional. One of the most profound aspects
about SVB is that we all agree when we are having it. When that happens we are
all in awe that this is even possible. Such a big surprise indicates how stuck
we are with NVB. We experience SVB and this experience doesn’t evoke any
thoughts. As a matter of fact, the absence of thought makes it very easy for us
to think. Our thinking is stimulated in SVB by the sound of our voices.
Nothing
stimulates our nervous system more appropriately than the sound of our own calm voice.
Our audience will hear this and validate this. Our unanimous agreement makes it
possible for us to say things which could not be said or thought in any other way. We
could think them, as we could not say them. In SVB as we can say these thoughts, we
can think them. In SVB as we can think out loud, we can understand many things
which we couldn’t understand before as NVB was making and keeping insensitive and numb.
NVB is really a form of verbal abuse, which prevents us from being conscious and having our own
thoughts. All our pathological behaviors derive from our inability to have and
accurately express our own thoughts.
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