May 4, 2016

May 4, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

As long as you expect others to have Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB) with you, you are not going to have it. Such expectations signify that your knowledge about SVB is lacking, that is, you haven’t explored it often enough on your own. The negative experiences of your interactions with others will create the Motivating Operations in which you will begin to have SVB on your own more often. If you can’t have it with others this signifies that you are learning to have it with yourself. Once you know how to have it with yourself, you are able to have it with others, who, like you, also don’t know how to have it by themselves. We can create the possibility for others to have SVB, but each of us must go on with it by ourselves to further develop it. We didn’t learn SVB from our parents, because they didn’t know about it. At best they knew some of the bits and pieces, but it is up to us to put these pieces together. 

People may actually grow up with all the pieces available and still they don’t know how to put them together. The person who grows up in a family in which he or she was taught the ingredients of SVB, doesn’t learn how to have SVB, because he or she still has to deal with the world which is so different from his or her family. The more ingredients the person has learned in his or her family, the more problems this person is bound to have with the world in which people know less about these ingredients than in his or her family. Unless this presumably privileged person begins to work on him or herself, that is, unless he or she begins to listen to him or herself, while he or she speaks, he or she is not going achieve SVB with others. A background that consists of many or perhaps even all the pieces of SVB, doesn’t guarantee that the person who has such a background grows up to have SVB. To the contrary, often times, this person suffers tremendously, while only others learn from their suffering. Unless this suffering person becomes aware of his or her individual suffering, he or she will unable to have SVB with others.