June 11, 2016

June 11, 2016

Written by Maximus Peperkamp, M.S. Verbal Engineer

Dear Reader,

Our spoken communication is a bad as it is as we keep referring to what others have said and thought and we keep preventing ourselves and each other from saying what we ourselves think. Yes reader, believe it or not, you have your own thoughts, which can be verbalized.

As long as unexpressed thoughts only remain part of thinking, they become disconnected from public speech and will cause you trouble. This is what happens due to Noxious Verbal Behavior (NVB). We believe in freedom of speech, but our private speech separates us from and contradicts with the reality of our public speech. 

We don’t want to say what we think because it can get us in trouble. However, this is only the case in NVB. In Sound Verbal Behavior (SVB), on the other hand, we can say what we think and we are reinforced for that. 

In SVB there is no separation between our public and private speech, they are one and the same speech, but in NVB, we are bound to get stuck and identified with what we believe to be our own thoughts and beliefs. 

In SVB, communicators don’t need to pretend to have an identity, but in NVB they are punished if they don’t identify with parts of overt public speech occurring at a covert level, which seem to have a life of their own. 

In SVB you bring your private speech into public speech by talking out loud and by listening to yourself. You will be surprised to find out how reinforcing it is to be alone and to express what you think all by yourself.

Although you have been conditioned by NVB to punish yourself for expressing your covert speech in public speech, if you listen to yourself long enough, that is, if you pay attention to how you sound, you will notice that the punishment decreases and eventually completely stops. By that time you will be having SVB by yourself.