Hear,  

 

You don’t hear anything, when you read these words. Unless you say them out loud, there is nothing to hear. This is a fact. When you speak about the tone of someone’s writing, you are not talking about sound, but about feelings that written words elicit. If someone claims, he or she hears voices, in his or her head, he or she is also, of course, not hearing anything, but only imagining that they are hearing something.

 

I wish you could hear yourself talking, because if you did, you would be engaging in Embodied Language (EL). You may not believe me, that is fine, but you are not listening to yourself while speak, that is why you, unconsciously, engage in Disembodied Language (DL) every day. DL isn’t working for you, because you are not in touch with yourself. How can anyone be in touch with him or herself, if he or she is not listening to him or herself? You cannot be yourself with DL.

 

Just hear me out. Even if I would talk with you, so that you could hear me, you still wouldn’t be able to listen to me, as you are not in the habit of listening to yourself while you speak. You are used to DL, and you don’t even know it. Reading my writing nor listening to me is going to make any difference. The only thing, which is going to make a difference, is when you speak out loud with yourself, so you can begin to hear yourself.

 

It is often said that people only see what they want to see, only remember what they want to remember and only hear what they want to hear. However, this isn’t true. If it was true, they would have EL instead of DL. This judgement, that we, as individuals, of course, have our own way of perceiving the reality – but, supposedly, shouldn’t – always indicates our adherence the idiotic, automatic, coercive group-behavior, which is our usual DL, we engage in every day.

 

The saying, seeing is believing, isn’t true either. With DL, we can’t even believe our own eyes and we remain blind for what is right in front of our nose. Moreover, we can’t believe in – and, therefore, we disconnect from and forget about – our own experience. DL keeps us unhappy, stressed, anxious and frustrated, because we never take time to speak with ourselves. And, even if we did, we are so used to listening to others – to authority outside of ourselves – and to finding that more important, that we don’t trust what we say to ourselves, with our own voice and what we can hear with our own ears.

 

If you, occasionally, accidentally, momentarily, briefly, produced some EL, because you were fortunate enough to be with people, who made you feel safe, welcome, relaxed and open, this never resulted in the continuation of your EL. To the contrary, you almost had a full-blown panic attack, after this short-lived instance of joy was gone again. No matter how hard you have tried, you couldn’t find it back, as you never realized, it had anything to do with how you used your language, that is, with what you actually heard.

 

Many people tell themselves, they hear what is really going on, as they detect the DL of others. Although this may be true, they still can’t admit their own DL, which remains their problem. The DL of others is never our problem, but our own way of using our language is self-defeating. Our DL only stops if we let ourselves know, that we are tired of listening to ourselves. However, to come to that point, we have to produce sound, so that we can hear the tone of our own voice. We must talk long enough with ourselves, so we can come to the necessary conclusion about our own dumb DL: I don’t want to hear that!!

 

In that beautiful moment, in which our DL stops and effortlessly and naturally changes in EL, you can hear a pin drop, as you are fully aware and awake. You experience, you feel, you hear, and you say, when this change happens. If there is any doubt about it, you are still engaging in DL. In DL, we are always straining ourselves to hear the conversation. It isn’t a real dialogue, just because a listener is still somewhat allowed to also sometimes say something. Whoever is in charge of the so-called communication in DL, he or she is always giving a lecture, a monologue.

 

We are all unknowingly, unwillingly engaging in DL. Nobody wants to listen to anyone and that is why we have so many problems with each other. Surely, we have to communicate to get things done. If talking is a big drag, listening is an even bigger drag. The bottom-line is, it is perfectly okay, we don’t want to hear any DL speakers. Understandingly, we hate to hear our own DL even more, than the DL of others. This is a good thing. How else would we ever get rid of it, if we didn’t experience our own tense voice as an aversive stimulus, which creates a negative contingency wherever we go?  

 

Many so-called conversations go on secretively behind closed doors. People literally don’t want their adversaries to hear what they are saying. This is a clear example of DL, in which we don’t talk with each other, but basically are just trying to force our way. During EL, we are never trying to convince, persuade or coax each other and there is no need to be secretive, competitive, argumentative or manipulative. In the name of DL, we are gas-lighting each other. Only when we know the difference between DL and EL, do we know longer fall victim to insidious DL, as we hear the difference and steer away from it.

 

Persuasion always deals with a belief or a set of beliefs, usually political or religious ones. If we look at the similarities for this word, which is at the core of our DL, we find: group, sect, party, denomination, faction, camp, cult or school of thought. Thus, DL is always about the group, as there no need in EL, to let others know what is real, because we are real with ourselves. I write this, as I can hear this. Anyone could hear this, if they speak the language of individualism: EL.

 

You will be so relieved, when you finally hear your own EL, as it informs you about who you really are and have always been. With your EL, you hear your Language Enlightenment (LE). We hear of certain treatments, which only work some percent of the time, or we hear, some people are not responding to the treatment at all, but with EL, we treat ourselves and it works all the time, because we say it and we hear it.