Not,

 

Everyone knows, there are certain things that you should not talk about, because it irrevocably leads to adverse consequences that you do not want. So we can – to avoid bad consequences – decide not to talk about things that could get us into trouble. It is one thing, however, to stop talking to others about those difficult issues, but it is quite another, to start talking to ourselves about what we do not want to or cannot talk about with others.

 

Talking out loud to ourselves, about what we cannot talk about with others, is the first step towards our Embodied Language (EL). When we first do that, we are amazed, aggrieved and hurt, that we can easily say anything to ourselves and we know very well, it should be possible to say it to others in exactly the same way, but we don't, because we don't want to break the usual pattern of expectations. We know from painful experiences, that talking to others as if talking to ourselves is not allowed. So, there is really nothing else we can do, than to tell ourselves about what we could not or did not want to share with others. When we realize, however, that our EL can hardly ever be shared with others, we will talk to ourselves in a different way than when we still cherish the hope, that others, who only know Disembodied Language (DL), would listen to us, in the same way as we have listened to ourselves. This understanding of how things really are allows us to let go of the other.

 

The understandable, obvious fact,

 that we are unable to talk 

to others in the same way

 that we can talk to ourselves, 

is accompanied by a sense

 of frustration, dissatisfaction

 and struggle we have about

 this. No matter what we 

do to get rid of that 

negative, nasty feeling, 

it doesn't ever go away. 

As long as we keep 

wanting that bad feeling 

to go away, it will never

 go away. When we talk

 about our negative 

experience, the word 

consciousness often comes

 up, as if these negative 

experiences could be avoided,

 if only we were finally 

aware of ourselves. They 

say: just look at it and 

suppose, the absence of 

that fantasized consciousness

 would cause us to have 

those bad experiences.

 

While it is never properly addressed in our so-called unconscious DL, it is really the case that everyone - so to speak unconsciously - struggles with exactly the same problem, which is therefore solvable for everyone, by simply having EL, instead of DL. However, moving on effortlessly with our own EL, never ever came about through prayer, meditation or magical, higher, all-encompassing, divine, everlasting, exceptional consciousness, but through verbal work, that is, determined, patient, attentive, goal-oriented and free speaking aloud to ourselves, about anything and everything, which we apparently were not allowed, which we supposedly couldn’t, didn’t dare to say or didn’t want to talk about with others or with ourselves.

 

Only when we, while talking aloud to ourselves, bring up for ourselves, what never came or could come to fruition, in the so-called conversation with others, only then can we begin to really experience what we have always experienced, but could not express in our own words and pace earlier. There is no escaping the fact that all of us, because of our hitherto undiscussed conditioning with DL, have been burdened with negative, but, most strikingly, also with positive experiences, about which we seemed to be unable to speak with others. So, if we continue to have EL, by talking to ourselves, there will be an interpretation and understanding of connections, we make with our language, between the causes and the consequences of all our behavior.

 

It is often said, we miss what is happening in the here and now, as we are too preoccupied with the past or the future. With EL, we can explain this very differently, because we can talk with EL about our DL and accept that, in spite of good intentions, any attempt to talk about DL with DL was doomed to fail. Thus, in EL we make known to ourselves and to each other the lawfulness of our behavior. The causes of our behavior always lie in our past and the consequences of our behaviors – which occur in the here and now – always lie in our future.

 

If we wonder, why others wouldn't listen to EL, our answer is short and sweet: they do, but they are in denial about it. They too hear EL, because that is what our ears are for, but they don’t talk about it.  So, with our ears, we always hear ourselves as well as each other. In the genesis of our language, when we begin to speak as nonverbal children, hearing ourselves, is still the same as hearing each other. However, as we develop our verbal behavior, speaking the same language becomes more and more important, but the innocent listening to the other, in the same way that we listen to ourselves, receives less and less attention, until it is, so to speak, completely out of our consciousness and seems to have disappeared. When, at long last, we let ourselves know – by talking with ourselves and by speaking in a listening manner – that we can only have EL with those, who, like us, can talk aloud with themselves, then we stop being busy with others, who only know DL and expect them to have EL with us. This releases the ecstatic energy in us, which makes us speak or write jubilantly, as I do here, about our Language Enlightenment (LE).