Approach,

 

Ideally, we only approach something, if it is beneficial to us and we avoid everything, that is harmful. However, if the situation is such, that we  have come closer to something dangerous, we try to escape or mobilize, as our autonomic nervous system goes into fight-flight-freeze overdrive. When we approach ourselves, by speaking with ourselves, by listening to ourselves and by taking the time, to let our language catch up with our experience, we approach a most exceptional feeling of safety and wellbeing, because we talk with our peacefulness.

 

It makes a big difference, if we talk with Embodied Language (EL) or with Disembodied Language (DL) about the proportion of our biologically-driven, autonomically-mediated behaviors. If we talk about it with our EL, it is clear, that it is healthy for us, to voluntarily avoid negative stuff as much as possible, to escape dangerous stuff as little as possible and to spend as little time as possible, identifying, focusing on and approaching helpful, useful, valuable stuff. In other words, with EL, we are instantly aware of our  Language Enlightenment (EL), we effectively avoid danger, we don’t need to escape, as we feel safe.

 

Since we, unconsciously, engage in DL, every day, we talk about our so-called happiness – the good things, we presumably want to approach – in a very different way than in EL. Our usual way of talking, DL, maintains our belief in what, supposedly, makes us feel happy, but when we talk about it with EL, we realize, that with our DL, we have involuntarily, obsessively, fanatically been approaching all sorts of dangers, from which we have had to escape or couldn’t even escape. In other words, with DL, we inevitably, approach and remain busy with all sorts of meaningless stuff, which has nothing to do with us, drains our energy and endlessly frustrates us.  

 

The proportion 85:5:10 would be an example of the percentage of avoidance/escape/approach behavior, when we engage in EL, but with DL, it may look more like this 50:20:30. These provisional numbers show us, that as long as we engage in DL, instead of EL, we are less capable of avoiding, and, therefore, we are bound to approach more danger, from which we more often have to escape. And, it all remains to be seen, whether we manage to escape and survive. We must approach food and water to survive, but to continue with our EL, we choose to be alone.

 

Although we certainly can and will have EL with others, who, like us, have kept it going – by being alone, by talking out loud with themselves, by listening to themselves, by writing about their EL, by reading about their own LE – we spend most of our time by ourselves, because we avoid the DL, which is going on everywhere, twenty-four-seven. During our time with ourselves, we approach silence, by talking and writing about it. In DL, we have always feared and avoided our own quietness and solitude, but with EL, we move towards it willingly, knowingly and with a sense of wonder and gratefulness. We have never before believed that we could approach and achieve such extasy with our own language.

 

When you approach me or anyone else who is able to have EL, you approach yourself. It would be great if you approached and talked with my dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke and also with me, then, you could hear and see two versions of EL and LE. Even if you have never approached yourself with your own EL, my EL or the EL of someone else, introduces you to yourself. Of course, the EL of me or someone else can only be received by you, if you allow it and trust it. By reading this, you approach it and can feel the truth of it. However, there is more to this approach, than accepting the invitation. If you experiment by talking alone with yourself, you find, everything you have read is true. You could approach AnnaMieke or me and talk with us, so that we can share our EL and our LE. It will be a great day, when you do that. Here is the link to her blog: Natuurlijk Ontvouwen. (klompanna2.blogspot.com)