Integrity,

 

We can only engage in Embodied Language (EL), as long as we have the integrity, to fully recognize, that we have been conditioned and corrupted by our Disembodied Language (DL). Although many people pretend to have EL, they are unknowingly having DL, as they never even bothered to acknowledge the great difference. The creation of Gold Gate bridge in San Francisco, involved a lot hard work, from a lot of skillful people and unless that bridge was designed and constructed properly, with the right materials, it would have collapsed. The bridges, we believe to have built with psychology have collapsed, because  it is a fact, that DL rules the whole world and EL is nowhere to be found, anywhere. My writing on this blog, is the only place, where you can read about it.

 

Our society doesn’t encourage integrity, because it came about due to adversarial, divisive DL. Basically, we have all kept doing all sorts of weird, criminal, addictive, obsessive, coercive, fanatic, disrespectful, violent shit. We condone our actions, by making it seem, as if DL is normal and shouldn’t be stopped, but the problems we created, with our usual way of talking, are gigantic and are inevitably escalating. EL requires individuals, people who are able to speak and write from their wholeness, not some phony, actors, whose only aim is to delude themselves as well as others. Only the authentic individual, with his or her EL, stands alone against the whole society.

 

My dear Dutch friend AnnaMieke, is the only person who has the integrity, to explore her own EL. Here is the link https://klompanna2.blogspot.com/   Please, go and read her blog and compare what she wrote to what I have written and realize for yourself, it is possible to have our own unique EL. We must each have our own version of our EL, to reveal our own, equally exceptional, Language Enlightenment (LE). I view as the success of an individual, the integrity, to continue with EL and to fully embrace his or her LE. 

 

In DL, we keep talking about beautiful words such as  integrity, but, the ugly reality is, we are always told, to trust and, therefore, never question, the integrity of some authority, who as a speaker, is allowed to dominate or completely ignore the listener, as he or she, supposedly, is more important or powerful. All our talk about equality or integrity is meaningless, since we create and maintain, with our forceful DL, the social hierarchy, that sets us apart. Only if our actions are in tune or congruent with our language, do we have integrity, so first, we must stop our DL.

 

Obviously, throwing around words, like integrity, is not the same as having integrity. With our false DL, we create a smokescreen of words, which makes us lose track of what these words actually refer to. The reality, which – no matter how much we have said, written, heard or read, is always beyond words – is a fact, but with our dumb, insensitive, automatic DL, we don’t realize this, because we bluntly, stubbornly and ignorantly keep taking our words to be the fact.

 

Of course, integrity is the ability, to talk about the facts without getting carried away by words and so, EL is the language of the integrity or the wholeness of us, as individuals. It is said – with DL – a practical way to show integrity, is to work hard, even when nobody is looking. However, you continue to try to prove yourself, regardless of whether you are alone or with others, so someone, who has integrity, is not doing anything else, then just being him or herself.

 

There are various animals, who routinely damage the structural integrity of earthen dams. In Holland, which, for a big part, is below sea-level, there is a war going on against Muskrats. These prolific pests are destroying the country’s dikes with their incessant digging. Surely, also the integrity of a person can be damaged, due to trauma and abuse and we need to protect ourselves or recover from such impacts. Without knowing it, we all carry with DL, the whole miserable, conflicted, chaotic history of mankind on our shoulders. Once we switch from DL to EL, we realize what a great burden our DL was.

 

Parents should teach their children about integrity, by, on the one hand, allowing them independence and by expecting and rewarding honesty, but on the other hand, by illustrating their integrity with their own actions. If the latter doesn’t occur, the former isn’t going to work. Candor or the ability to be open, honest and straightforward, goes hand in hand with being reliable, stable and honorable. We have yet to begin to talk about this, with EL instead of with DL.

 

Absolute integrity requires the unflinching courage to admit again and again – each time that we catch ourselves, reacting from our old automatic pattern – the huge tragedy of our own and all of mankind’s   history of conditioning with DL. It is, initially, hard to believe, we are all on the same Titanic and changing the deckchairs, altering the so-called narrative, isn’t going to cut it. With EL, we will stop fooling around with our words, because we will be talking with and listening to ourselves. Our EL makes sense, because we treat our language as action, so there is no such a thing, as the difference between saying and doing.

 

Lastly, it is not going to be some imaginary higher power or political movement, which will liberate us from our long and dreadful history of conditioning with DL, but our own ongoing EL – the expression of our LE – which communicates and establishes our integrity, purity and sanctity. These words have real meaning, as they refer to experiences, which will be reliably acquired, when we finally manage to stop our DL and continue with our EL. Our impeccable integrity is characterized by our gentle-heartedness and charitable manners to ourselves, rather than projecting what we want for ourselves on others, as we have always unconsciously done with our DL.