Consider,

 

I personally consider it a form of psychological hygiene, to spend a substantial amount of time, every day, with my own language, instead of with the language of others. You might want to consider doing this as well. Talk with me and my dear friend AnnaMieke on Skype tomorrow, Sunday at 4:30am Pacific Standard Time and get a sense of why such a consideration might change your life forever. My skype name is limbicease and you can join us without any strings attached, free of charge. We are not a group, but we would like to hear others put an end to their Disembodied Language (DL) and discover their own Embodied Language (EL) too.

 

No matter who you are, where you turn or what you do, the language of others (DL) is everywhere and,  whether you believe it or not, you are conditioned by it, in such a manner, you don’t even know about it. If you did, getting to your own language, almost seems like an impossible task. For the most part, people keep failing to have their own language and give up on it, because every time they tried it, they were punished, side-tracked or overwhelmed by the language of others. After you have felt, for the first time, the difference between your own language and the language of others – which I describe as EL and DL – it either becomes a daily necessity, to actively withdraw from and avoid your conditioning history with DL or your DL will continue as usual and your EL never gets any chance to grow and blossom.

 

Our DL turns our lives into an endless struggle and conflict. This is the sad situation, which everyone, unknowingly, is in. In DL, people say: you’ve got to pick your battles. Presumably, certain fights aren’t worth it, while others, supposedly, are essential and requiring all our energy and attention. However, in EL, there is no battle at all and the whole issue of choosing your battles seems ridiculous. With EL, we never voluntarily go into battle. In other words, we are always only with DL coerced to fight, defend, flee, freeze or hide, as we are scared or stressed, by how others talk with us and treat us. We, who can have EL, acknowledge, our EL is never reciprocated. Quite to the contrary, our openness, kindness and patience, is constantly taken advantage of by those who continue their DL, regardless of our empathy.

 

Only when we, finally, take our EL completely for ourselves – it has taken me many years, to come to that conclusion and to stand by it – and, therefore, have given up on trying to share our happiness with others, we will meet those, who do as we do and can we, whole-heartedly, respectfully, confidently, joyfully and continuously, engage in EL with others. The selection-process, which takes place, due to our continued EL, is relentless, as everyone with DL is abandoned, no matter how challenging that me be.

 

Truly stopping our own DL and continuing with our EL, is an incredibly drastic change, for which we, given our dreadful long history of conditioning with DL, aren’t ready. It is inevitable, we go through, talk with ourselves about and fully acknowledge, all our painful, negative, troublesome experiences, we will leave behind, when we continue with EL. Once we do it, we feel so good, but before we take that jump, we suffer more than others, as we have become aware of our language, as our source of suffering.     

 

To be free, we return to our EL, which, initially, we seem to be unable to share with others, because it can only be shared with those, who like us, are free. We immediately recognize each other, even if it was only for just one second. Our freedom is our nature. Although – because of our DL – we keep missing out on it and, supposedly, forgetting about it, it never goes away. In spite of us turning our backs on our own freedom, it is always effortlessly there, when we speak again with ourselves, listen to our own voice and adhere to our own language. There is no other way, than by talking with ourselves, that we can become aware about our own language.

 

People have made so much unnecessary fuzz about what they refer to as religion, prayer, redemption, higher power, forgiveness, kindness, meditation, becoming conscious, enlightenment, non-duality or finding inner peace, but when we have EL, we can’t avoid the conclusion, that all of these, were merely failed attempts at acquiring our own language. Also, people have changed religion, divorced from their wife or husband, lived in communes, monasteries or gated communities, gone off the deep end, become addicted, climbed the Mount Everest, achieved a Ph.D., colored their hair, have tattoos or become gender-fluid, but none of this did or could result in EL. We’ve done everything to forget ourselves, but we haven’t turned towards our own language, by speaking with and by listening to ourselves.

It is interesting to consider the fact, that in DL, we abandon everything that is good for us and that is why, if we continue with EL, we can’t be bothered by or busy with anyone’s DL. Our courageous ability to permanently leave DL behind, is our Language Enlightenment (LE). While we still experience the pull of our history of our conditioning with DL, our LE is pulling the other way. Our EL makes this clear.

 

If we surrender to our EL – to what it wants us to do or not do, to how our EL can continue and to how we will be able, to enjoy the magnificent outcomes of our new way of dealing with our language – there is no conflict, but as long as we aren’t clear about why DL and EL can’t go together and never come together, we are our own worst enemy. Everyone who is ignorant about the significant difference between DL and EL, inadvertently, is trying to prove to themselves and to others that DL is the real deal. It is devasting, the great lengths that people will go to prove their point. The only way for them to be right, is by forcing their DL on themselves and on others and the price they pay for this is: conflict.

In DL, conflict is always viewed as if it is between people, but never between the conflicting behaviors in our own repertoire. Consequently, in DL, people purge all behavior, which is authentic, natural and effortless, as these behaviors will make them aware that their phony, dreadful, forceful behavior always prevents freedom. The often-mentioned struggle for freedom is ridiculous, as it can’t be fought for, but, due to DL, our idea of freedom has remained linked to struggle and conflict. In EL, we find our freedom so easily, that many people immediately say, it is too good to be true. Yes, we give up our fight in EL, as we understand – verbally – it is actually impossible to fight with ourselves. Our imaginary conflict with ourselves was created and solved by the way in which we deal with our language. If we manage to go on with our EL, we realize that everyone is stuck with their DL. We couldn’t continue with them, as  our EL made us consider, reflect on, contemplate or meditate about living a very different way of life.