Needed,

 

Many people have talked, written, listened to or read about the, presumed, importance of being or finding your true self, speaking with your authentic voice or becoming who you, supposedly, really are, but this return to our original, reliable selves didn’t and couldn’t result in our Embodied Language (EL). Such so-called spiritual quests – which, of course, nowadays, must also involve writing another boring book, to, supposedly, tell your sob-story, giving a well-worded, dramatic speech about all the traumas you went through and have overcome, and posting your writings, videos or podcasts on social media – have nothing whatsoever to do with discovering  your own language, which uniquely fits with you.  

 

Although others, who also have EL, can hear it and can enjoy it with you, they don’t need to have your EL, as your EL is just for you and that is why, you can never go wrong with it. You go wrong with your mechanical Disembodied Language (DL), which is how you were conditioned to deal with language. While you may be highly educated and affluent, your obsession with words, which you call your mind, doesn’t allow you to say what you want to say often enough – and repeatedly enough – to make you hear, experience and understand the difference between your own DL and EL. In EL, there’s no problem in saying or writing what you have already said or written, as you know, absolutely sure, you have never said or written, what you are saying or writing at any given moment. Indeed, in EL, you are always new and your newness is determined by the fact, that your language is as alive as you and free from fear, frustration, stress or anxiety, as you enjoy expressing, what only you are capable of expressing.

 

In EL, you produce an attuned sound, a voice, which not only fits with, but also nourishes and energizes your body. Consequently, your nervous system and your brain is very happy with the aural vibrations of your own language and this is tangible, by how you feel about yourself. In EL, you just feel great, for no apparent reason. However, you do speak out loud, alone, with yourself and you realize, your language is really only about you. Initially, this may strike you as strange and almost unbelievable, with EL, you don’t need to be heard by others anymore, since you are now listening to yourself. By discovering and exploring your EL, you acknowledge, there truly is a language, which is produced by you, because it is strictly meant for you. Up until that very moment of recognizing your EL, you had never believed, that you would find or could find your own language, but suddenly you know, with 100% certainty, it exists.

 

Once you begin to have some EL instead of DL, you know you can always speak and hear it. Each time you speak and hear it, you are again reminded, a new phase of your life has begun. The change which occurs when you replace your DL with EL is needed. When you get to it, you feel so happy and satisfied that you have really changed. Positive, enduring behavioral change is impossible with DL. Since you were mostly conditioned by DL, you are – whether you know it or not, are aware of it or not or accept it or not – stuck with a burdensome repertoire of negative behaviors, which somehow will have to be stopped, if you want to continue with your own EL.

 

The conflict, you seem to be having, with yourself, which gives rise to – what should be described as an auditory illusion – what you refer to as your mind, is  about the extent to which you have experienced EL and DL while growing up. While it is certainly true that some of us have experienced more or less EL or DL, none of us have experienced steady, stable, conscious, skillful, confident, intelligent EL. In other words, nobody really knows what it is actually like, to continue with EL, as we have only been able to have accidental, brief, haphazard moments of it.  

 

Since the distinction between DL and EL, was never clear – before my elaborations on it – nobody has ever been in the position, to be able to deliberately, increasingly, more skillfully, continue with their EL. I know this sounds awfully pretentious, but I have lived with and investigated this concept for more than 40 years. Either I am lying or I am right, but I assure you, I am right. You agree when you explore what I am talking about. Before your discovery of your ability to decrease your DL and increase your EL, you were simply acting, unconsciously, out of your conditioning history with DL. Those who have had the good fortune, to experience more EL than others, while growing up, experience more conflict in their lives, than those who experienced minimal amounts of it. This is the great paradox of life, that those who have experienced more love, tenderness, care, support, sensitivity, beauty and intelligence, are inevitably more aware of the gigantic lack of these positive behaviors in themselves and others.

 

Without actively seizing on the possibility of having ongoing EL and, thus, reaping the many fruits of our Language Enlightenment (LE), we are totally unable to address and solve the enormous problems, which were all caused by our DL. Regardless of how well we were raised, our DL keeps wreaking more havoc and ultimately destroys our lives, while our EL, if it was ever remotely addressed at all, has no chance to blossom. EL is our new way of dealing with our language --in which we do what we do, because we have repeatedly, trustingly, joyfully, told ourselves, to do it and in which we don’t do and, eventually, completely stop doing the self-defeating behaviors, as we told ourselves, to stop doing it -- which only has positive outcomes. Our very own language, EL, is only known to us and it can and should only be shared with others, once we assured ourselves, we can continue with it, in spite of the fact that others aren’t interested it all. Our LE, expressed by our EL, makes us brave enough, to let everyone with DL know, that their EL is needed. I may not be able to have EL with you, but I felt, I needed to write this.