Better Than Fantasy,

 

Embodied Language (EL) is better than fantasy. You keep having the latter, because you don’t know how to have the former. You can’t have EL as long as you haven’t accepted, understood and applied, the difference between your Disembodied Language (DL) and EL. Unless you stop your DL, you can’t have EL. Once you know the difference between your DL and your EL, you will know, your EL is better than your DL.

 

Unconsciously, everyone wants to have EL, but they don’t know how to have it. In effect, they continue to have DL imagining that it is EL, but they are merely living in a fantasy. Surely, such a fantasy is afforded by our ineffective use of our language, as in DL, we don’t listen to ourselves while we speak and, consequently, we believe in inner language, so-called thoughts or mind.

 

I feel better than ever, because of my ongoing EL and my ability to stop my DL. It is still a revelation to me, I am really not the person, I believed to be. With my educational and employment background in psychology, I have for a long time viewed myself as someone who was helping others, but I have left this fantasy. I don’t care people engage in DL and as a result do horrible things to each other and themselves. I don’t wish anyone to go to hell, as I know, they already live in it, with their DL.

 

They say, there’s no place is better than home, but we can never be ourselves with DL. When someone says that someone else, supposedly, thinks they are better than others, they have always said something, which made the other person, supposedly, think, but also say – usually behind their back – they were, supposedly, thinking they were better than them. In other words, in DL, we are always saying, that we or others are thinking something – which we are actually saying – because in DL, we are unable to say it. Whatever we say we are, supposedly, thinking is always what we have been saying. Obviously, the latter is better than the former, because the former isn’t true, but the latter is.

 

Reasoning with EL is simple, but with DL, we are incapable of formulating something presumably complex – our communication – into something simple. Words, like numbers, have meaning, but in DL, we are manipulatively messing around with the meaning and everything starts to get totally confusing and messed up. 2+2= 4 is said to be correct, good, right or valid, but 2+2=5 is considered to be incorrect, bad, wrong, invalid. I don’t think – with EL – I am better than others, who have DL, but I certainly know something, which others don’t know but claim to know.

 

When someone, who, previously, was feeling bad, is now feeling better, we say, that he or she is in better spirits. This is total nonsense, as we could all see and hear, he or she was unwell. He or she wasn’t having a hard time or, as we say, a bad day. However, with stupid DL, we can never address what is really going happening and so, we use these euphemistic expressions, to, indirectly, describe what, supposedly, is going on. To have real relationship, however, we must be open, direct, honest and sincere. Fantasy doesn’t cut it and this is why we have so many problems.

 

Only spoken communication, in which we abandon DL and have EL, improves relationship, which, as of yet, is in a profound crisis. Due to technology, we can no longer beat around the bush, as our lies are recorded and on record. Books or texts don’t make us any better or wiser. We can’t study our way into living better lives. This is the big hoax of psychology. Freud or Jung or hot shots, keep telling us something important about ourselves, which is so much better than what we can tell ourselves. This is an enormous falsehood. DL removed us so far from ourselves, that we prefer to listen to others, rather than talk with and listen to ourselves.  

 

What do you mean, when you say, you like to be better with this person, than with that person? You feel something within your own skin, which can only be properly addressed, if you listen to yourself while you speak and have EL. Most likely – albeit unconsciously – you can actually already have some EL with such a person, who doesn’t make you feel threatened and stressed. It is astonishing, that we haven’t acknowledged the great difference between DL and EL already. Every intelligent person should speak about it.

 

We all know a computer can do some tasks better than a person, but no computer will ever be able to have EL, only living human beings can. Similarly, EL cannot be acted. Our infatuation with acting, films, movies, written books, texts, social media or visual stimuli, is the result of our usual way of talking – DL – in which we don’t listen to ourselves, while we speak. We are living in an increasingly noisy world, because we are expected to block out and not pay attention to what we are hearing. With EL, we hear, the DL-emperor has no clothes.

 

Fantasy or wishful thinking isn’t, as is often said, a defense mechanism, but it is our inability to stop our DL and to have EL. Yes, we lack the skill to be able to produce EL and we are helplessly stuck with our dumb, tiring, blunt, insensitive, repetitive, coercive, unnatural DL. Yet, technology shows us the consequences we still refuse to see, if we would listen to ourselves while we speak. Thus, we cannot escape the devastating results of our unscientific, unrealistic way of talking. Whether we admit it or not, our DL is on its death bed, regardless of the fact, that we keep dragging our heels about our need for EL. Our fantasy is based to our need for authentic EL. We are only going to feel better about ourselves with ongoing EL. P.S. In case you still imagine, I am just making this up, check out my two You Tube channels: 1) Maximus Peperkamp and 2) maximuspeperkamp-hw8sw