Opportunity,

 

If you are fortunate enough, to live in a Western Democratic country, you have the freedom, the opportunity, to engage in Embodied Language (EL), instead of Disembodied Language (DL). Although this opportunity exists, DL rules, even in so-called free societies. Those who have the chance to be individuals, for the most part, waste this opportunity, because they refuse to do the work, to acquire the language, needed to be an individual. They rather immaturely, irresponsibly, irrationally scream and whine about freedom, than seriously talk about it, with EL.

 

There has always been a lot of phony talk going on – in DL – about the presumed possibility of turning a crisis into an opportunity. Instead of calling a spade a spade, we spin it, keep going on with stupid DL and make it seem, as if it is great. Moreover, we are so used to going from one crisis to the next, it seems, as if crises are needed, to create opportunity. This sick gaslighting bullshit is the essence of DL.

 

With insidious, manipulative, unnatural DL, we are constantly told – and this is why we keep telling this to ourselves – we can reframe how we view the unfolding of the crisis. Yes, we can magically take advantage of it, provided – and here is the catch – we learn to stop resisting unwanted change. In DL, we are supposed to welcome these unwanted things, struggle and fight and get out of our so-called comfort-zones – which, of course, weren’t comfortable anyway – and that, supposedly, will make us better. This is such horseshit.  

 

We can only create our own opportunity, to be an individual and to live like an individual, after we have stopped listening to the DL of others and ourselves and started talking with ourselves and listening to ourselves and engaging in EL. A crisis – everyone repeats what everyone else has said – can become a turning-point? Toward where are we turning? Not to ourselves, not to our use of language and not to our intelligence. The real tipping-point only occurs, due to our deliberate switch from DL to EL, which can and will only happen, when we are not in a crisis, and are feeling safe and at ease. The sad fact is, with DL, we never felt that way. So, our opportunity to be who we are only reveals itself, if we turn away from DL. We must, at all costs, avoid it. Moreover, our active avoidance of DL, will have to be the largest proportion of our behavioral repertoire, let’s say 75%. This leaves 25% for two other types of behaviors.   

 

The remaining part of our biologically-driven, innate, autonomically-determined, behavioral repertoire, consists of escape and approach behavior. As living organisms, we only want to approach what sustains us, not what threatens us and from which we must escape. In other words, we must carefully discern, with our EL, what behavior is truly supportive, what creates an opportunity, what has positive outcomes? Thus, we keep our escape-behavior – which, in the worst of circumstances, can be lethal – to a bare minimum, let’s say 5%. This leaves 20% for our approach behavior. Perhaps this is even too high, and the proportion needs adjustment. We have to individually figure this out for ourselves with our EL. We have this opportunity, but we must take it. Perhaps, it is better for us to 85% actively avoid DL, approach only 10% and escape only 5%?  

 

The great opportunity, which is certainly going to be created by our ongoing EL, is that we no longer – involuntarily – have to engage in any kind of the forced, unnatural, neurotic, stupid behaviors, which were demanded from us, by our own DL. We voluntarily, consciously engage in EL and all the behaviors, which strengthen it. We are not bothered by the utterly false notion of inner language, private speech or our so-called mind. Instead of imagining, that we can create opportunity for ourselves, with our thoughts, with mindful, inner, meditative, presumably, non-reactive contemplation, we talk out loud with ourselves, we can listen to and hear ourselves and, therefore, we act and follow through on how we have been instructing ourselves.

 

With mechanical DL, we, inadvertently, focus on the loss of opportunity, rather than on the creation of opportunity with our language. In DL, in our conditioned way of talking, we use language incorrectly, since we don’t listen to ourselves. DL is based on fear, which makes us freeze, whenever we experience or perceive the unfamiliar. We can’t talk and we don’t want to talk about the new with DL, because our ears are trained to listen to others - who threaten us - not to ourselves, with whom we have the opportunity to feel safe, with our EL. Basically, our DL symbolizes anxiety and retreat, while EL creates opportunity and growth. All talk about opportunity with DL is an empty promise, the future, which never comes, while your life goes by. With ongoing EL, you are in control of and you are in possession of your own language, which isn’t happening – as you experienced in DL – unwillingly, but which creates and achieves opportunity.