Full,

 

It is full moon today. You have probably heard the quasi-meaningful question: is the glass half empty or half full? I don’t really care. To me, what is important is, if the glass is full or empty. In other words, are you finally engaging in effective, satisfying, natural, interesting and enjoyable Embodied Language (EL) or are you still engaging in your meaningless, pretentious, retarded, forceful, unconscious, repetitive, energy-draining, involuntary Disembodied Language (DL)?

 

For those who are spiritually inclined, full moon symbolizes a time of release and completion, but few people seem to realize, spirituality is only of interest to those, who have DL, who like to believe, some full moon ceremony or some language-denying meditation, brings about EL. Anyone, who knows about the difference between DL and EL, is aware this isn’t true. No spiritual ritual has ever brought about EL. The fact, that DL is going on everywhere means all people who behave spiritually are actually full of shit.  

 

People, who are full of themselves, bother us very much. Why is that? Presumably, they are self-centered people, who demand and drain our attention. Why do we get so exhausted? It seems impossible, to have a conversation with them and any attempt to do so, felt as if we were walking through a desert. However, with DL, we are all concerned solely with our own desires, needs and interests. With DL, we are unable to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, as it is always my way or the highway. In our insensitive DL, which is our usual way of talking, everyone, unknowingly struggles to get each other’s attention and tries to become the center of the attention. We all know about this continuous, ridiculous competition of joys and anxieties, but we never acknowledged the full picture and called it DL. Everyone with DL coercively assumes others share their values and way of seeing life. In DL, everyone is full of themselves all the time, because they are fake.  

 

When we have EL, instead of DL, we discover ourselves and we are full of surprises, as we are continuously saying new, interesting things. In DL, by contrast, we are bored with and frustrated about, ourselves, that is why we are always busy with others, but never with our selves. So, paradoxically, being full of ourselves, means, we are always preoccupied with others. DL gives rise to the false consensus effect, in which we believe – against all odds – the vast majority shares our habits, preferences and opinions. Moreover, if we find out, they don’t, we believe and say and insist, they should.

 

Another weird thing about people, who are full of themselves – while they are never truthful about themselves – is that we keep saying, they like to hear themselves talk. Fact is, they don’t hear themselves, as they don't listen to themselves while they speak and they certainly don’t like anyone who says: hey speaker, it is not what you say, but how you say it. Yet, we commonly say, with DL, they like to hear themselves, because they keep talking, without being open to signals of disinterest. Vacuous people, with automatic DL – basically everyone – are always extremely uptight about any form of feed-back or criticism. Bottom-line is with DL, we are all constantly walking on eggshells, around anyone who is more important than us. We are always walking on a tightrope around those who we consider to be superior to us, because we are inferior to them and superiority as well as inferiority go hand in hand in our usual DL.

 

With EL, conversation is full of meaning, energy and reason. No one is above or below others or forcing anyone, to listen, but not speak. Nobody gets any preferential treatment. Interestingly, in EL, we view our own behavior as fair, effortless, good and satisfying, but consider behavior of those with DL as unfair, stupid, careless and unintelligent, yet we are not self-centered. To the contrary, in EL, we are full of love, patience, laughter and understanding. Moreover, we are keenly aware, that all our successes – which deal with the continuation of our EL – are due to our own behavior and all our failures – which are due to our DL – are due to those, who don’t admit the difference between DL and EL and, therefore, force their DL on us. With EL, we are full of the truth, and we are no longer taking the blame for our DL.   

 

The full significance of EL only becomes clear, if we manage to continue with it. Of course, this means, that we must have stopped our DL. To accomplish this, we must radically move away from our tendency, to have DL with others. And, this is absolutely not a matter of introspection, because there is no language inside of us. We must detect DL, we can hear and experience and get better at avoiding getting involved. It is only necessary to notice if – according to us – someone has DL or EL. If you wish to be able to have ongoing EL and, consequently, enjoy your Language Enlightenment (LE), there is nothing else to be learned from or about others. You can never be too full of yourself, as you are no longer bamboozled by the gas-lighting of DL.