Alone,

 

Being alone is an entirely different matter with Disembodied Language (DL) than with Embodied Language (EL). With DL, you don’t want to be alone, but with EL, you enjoy being alone. I used to feel sad about being alone, because I wanted so badly to be with others, but now that I know, that being with others mostly means, that I can’t have any EL, I like to be alone and continue with my EL. 

 

Being alone, allows me to wait for the right words, which I like to say, hear, write and read. Everything which is important to me, is expressed exactly in the way I want to say, hear, write and read it. Although you can read, on this blog, about my EL, it is only for me. My EL can only do any good for you, if it makes you realize, you need to have your own EL. You need to be alone, by yourself, talk out loud with yourself, to be able to listen to your own voice and hear the beauty of your EL, which, effortlessly and naturally, expresses your Language Enlightenment (LE).  

 

When people, with DL, consider the notion of being alone, they talk about being by themselves, that is, of being without someone else. However, being alone, in EL, has a different meaning. In EL, you are always alone, even when you are with other people. In other words, aloneness is the essence of your EL. You have no problem with it, as your exploration of EL, made it clear to you, this is your LE. I never ask anyone, to leave me alone, for a moment. People always leave me alone, but without any question.  

 

We have all heard the statement, that we are all born alone and we all die alone. Of course, it is a fact, but it is utterly meaningless to us, because in DL, we merely repeat what others have said and by doing so, we completely disconnect from ourselves. When people casually speak about death, they talk about their preference of being buried in a grave, next to their loved ones or of being cremated and having one’s ashes spread out somewhere or taken home in an urn. They are more concerned about what happens, after they die, then when they live.

 

Being alone – and, therefore, being yourself – is only possible with your EL and not with your mechanical, insensitive, repetitive DL. You may have had some moments in which, perhaps, you have noticed, that being alone didn’t seem so bad after all. It implies,  you too have tried so hard to be with others, but you nevertheless ended up all by yourself. People only say in DL, it was a blessing in disguise, because in EL, everything is revealed. Actually, there are no disguised blessings in EL, as you know, it is your LE.

 

What happens, in that moment, when you expected to be with others, but you find yourself, being alone, is that, to your own surprise, you enjoy it, as it is a relief. Thus, the so-called blessing, is only disguised by your DL, but not by your actual experience. As a matter of fact, your direct experience sets the stage for a new way of dealing with language and this old expression – it was a blessing in disguise – should be changed, in simply: it was a blessing, to be alone.   

 

When you, for the first time, switch from your usual DL to EL, you witness a big change, from perceiving yourself, as a crowd of fragments, to experiencing a sudden sense of oneness, you had always felt, but never had the words or the way to express. It is very moving, to be, finally, verbally alone and to discover, with your EL, that you really need to be by yourself. Moreover, you will know it, when you deliberately step out of your long conditioning history with DL.  

 

In DL, we, unconsciously, keep talking talk about our crazy, busy, troublesome, stressed-out lives, in which we hardly ever have one moment – alone – for ourselves; about finally being able to speak with someone, alone, for ten minutes, who was so hard to get a hold off; about experiencing the burden of being together and wanting to be left alone for a while; about feeling so miserable, helpless, hopeless and meaningless, as we are feeling so alone; about not being able to leave each other alone; about not being able to leave it – whatever the hell it may be – alone; and about screaming – alone – in the desert.

 

Being alone has been dreaded by millions of people,  because, the reality is, that we, unknowingly, dread our own DL. Once we acknowledge this, we come to terms with being alone, with being ourselves, with being an individual and with having language, that fits with our natural way of being. Surely, DL is a  survival-group-behavior, which dominated mankind  ever since human beings became verbal, but, due to individualization, it has lost its value. Being together and staying together, has always been praised as the highest moral value, but with EL, we discover, there is much more to our own lives, than to only fulfill our duties, as members of the groups, we believe, we have – because of our conditioning – to belong to. Moreover, with EL, we don’t want to belong to any group, as our freedom is about being alone.