Not,

 

Everyone knows that there are certain things that you should not talk about, because it always irrevocably leads to adverse consequences that you do not want. So we can – to avoid bad consequences – decide not to talk about things that could get us into trouble. It is one thing, however, to stop talking to others about those difficult issues, but it is quite another to start talking to ourselves about what we do not want or cannot talk about with others.

 

Talking out loud to ourselves, about what we cannot talk to others, is the first step towards Embodied Language (EL). When we first do that, we are amazed, aggrieved and hurt, that we can say anything to ourselves and know very well that it should be possible to say it to others in exactly the same way, but we don't, because we don't want to break the usual pattern of expectations. We know from painful experiences that talking to others as if talking to ourselves is not allowed. So there is really nothing else to do than to tell ourselves about what we could not or did not want to share with others. When we realize that our EL can hardly ever be shared with others, we talk to ourselves in a different way than when we still cherish the hope that others who only know Disembodied Language (DL) would listen to us, in the same way as we have listened to ourselves. This understanding of how things really are allows us to let go of the other.

  

The understandable, obvious fact that we 

are unable to talk to others in the way we 

can talk to ourselves is accompanied by a 

sense of frustration, dissatisfaction and 

struggle that we have about this. No matter

 what we do to get rid of that negative, nasty 

feeling, it doesn't ever really go away. As 

long as we keep wanting that bad feeling to

 go away, that feeling will never go away. 

When we talk about our negative experience,

 the word consciousness often comes up because 

we make it seem as if negative experiences 

could be avoided if only we were finally aware

of ourselves. They say: just look at it and suppose

 that the absence of that fantasized consciousness

 would cause us to have bad experiences.

 

Even if it is never properly addressed in our so-called unconscious DL, it is really the case that everyone - so to speak unconsciously - struggles with exactly the same problem, which is therefore solvable for everyone, by simply having EL, instead of DL. However, having EL and, in particular, moving on effortlessly with our own EL, never ever came about through prayer, meditation or some magical, higher, all-encompassing, divine, everlasting, exceptional consciousness, but through determined , patient, attentive, goal-oriented and free speaking aloud to ourselves, about anything and everything, which we apparently were not allowed, which we supposedly couldn’t, didn’t dare to say or didn’t want to talk about with others.

 

Only when we, while talking aloud to ourselves, bring up for ourselves what never came or could come to fruition, in the so-called conversation with others, only then can we begin to really experience what we have always experienced, but not could express in our own words and pace earlier. There is no escaping the fact that all of us, because of our hitherto undiscussed conditioning with DL, have been burdened with negative, but also positive experiences, about which we seemed unable to speak about with others. So if we continue to have EL, then by talking to ourselves, there will be an interpretation and understanding of connections, which we can make with our language, between the causes and the consequences of all our behavior.

 

It is often said that we miss what is happening in the here and now because we are too preoccupied with the past or the future. With EL we can explain this differently, because we can talk with EL about our DL and accept that no matter all our good intentions, any attempt to talk about DL with our DL was always doomed to failure. During EL we make known to ourselves and each other the lawfulness of our behavior. The causes of our own behavior always lie in our past and the consequences of all our behavior – which occurs in the here and now – always lie in our future.

 

If we wonder why others wouldn't listen to EL, our answer is short and sweet: they do, because that's what our ears are for. So with our ears we can hear ourselves as well as each other. In the genesis of our language, when we first begin to speak as children, hearing ourselves is still the same as hearing each other. However, as we develop our verbal behavior, speaking the same language becomes more and more important, but the innocent listening to the other, in the same way that we listen to ourselves receives less and less attention, until it is, so to speak, completely out of our consciousness and seems to have disappeared. Finally, when we let ourselves know – by talking with ourselves and speaking in a listening manner – that we can only have EL with those who, like us, can talk aloud with themselves, then we stop being busy with others, who only know DL and expect them to have EL with us. This releases the ecstatic energy in us, which makes us speak or write jubilantly, as I do here, about our Language Enlightenment (LE).