Self-Awareness,

 

Embodied Language (EL) is about self-awareness, but also about self-love. Our ability to love others begins with our ability to love ourselves. Moreover,  a sense healthy self-esteem remains the very basis for all relationship, throughout our lives. However, since we don’t listen to the sound of our own voice, while we speak, we unconsciously, mainly engage in Disembodied Language (DL), every day. Therefore, our ability to truly care for ourselves, is undermined by the insensitive way in which we habitually speak. Moreover, since DL remains, unknowingly, our usual way of talking, we consider the process of stopping our DL and engaging in EL, as an act of narcissism.

 

Although we don’t know, how to even begin to talk about the difference between DL and EL, there are, of course, very serious psychological consequences to the over-development of our self-love impulse. Since we can never succeed in loving ourselves with DL, it is an urgent, unaddressed necessity, that we begin to talk, as conscious human beings, with EL, about the absence of self-love in our lives. With DL, we keep wanting and demanding all sorts of things and we consider others merely as instruments to be used in the gratification of our own ends. No matter how often we succeed, in having our way, in doing  whatever the hell we want, in believing whatever we supposedly freely chose to believe, we are never really satisfied. We cannot be fulfilled, as long as we keep mechanically engaging in DL. What we have called our spiritual needs, can only be accomplished by EL, a different way of dealing with our language.  

 

Once we have acknowledged the great difference between DL and EL, it is shockingly clear, that none of our emotional, intellectual, spiritual or aesthetic  needs were ever met or could ever be met, by our common way of talking (DL), which sets the stage for how we treat our language, ourselves and, therefore, all our other behavior. Since we were raised by parents, who didn’t know anything about the difference between DL and EL, we have all been raised with punitive DL and only with brief, sporadic moments of EL. As a result, we lack self-awareness.

 

When we begin to have ongoing, stable, deliberate, skillful EL – rather than only a few, haphazard, brief moments of it – we are inevitably going to discover our Language Enlightenment (LE). In doing so, we find, our self-adoration is enjoyable and needed. However, our genuine admiration for and devotion to ourselves, doesn’t involve posting of selfies on social media, but is about having meaningful and healthy conversations and relationships, that make us happy, alive, productive and proud of ourselves.

 

From the moment that we for the first time become aware about the difference between DL and EL, we only want EL, as we realize that DL – that is, the way in which everyone, everywhere talks –  never could give us what we had really wanted. Since we know that EL fulfills us, we only want EL. Although, in the beginning, it is frustrating for us, to fully admit the truth of our LE – because we keep having DL, which cannot express it – as we withdraw from DL, we are less and less effected by it and we engage more and more in EL. Our EL develops a new self-awareness, which prevents us from getting drawn into DL and we don’t expect others to fulfill our expectations, as we know that DL has forever lost all its glamour.