Macho,

 

There is a lot of nonsensical talk about gender going on these days. In this writing, I will address the word macho from two different perspectives, on how we deal with our language. When we consider macho from our common –  but wrong – understanding, we must acknowledge, that our faulty perception, is created and maintained by automatic Disembodied Language (DL), but if we would stop our DL, so we would finally be able to have Embodied Language (EL), we would immediately understand, there is nothing negative about being macho and there is, actually, a need for more and not less, machismo.  

 

DL is based on posturing, intimidation, coercion and violence, but EL is rooted in genuineness, liveliness,  openness and truthfulness. The word macho or tough guy comes from Spanish, male animal, a noun use of the adjective meaning masculine or virile. Macho derives from Latin, masculinus, masculine gender and from masculus, which means male. The English version, masculine, means, worthy of a man and – people, who believe in transgenderism, try to prohibit us from saying this – having the appropriate qualities of the male sex, being powerful, virile and manly. In Western culture, Machismo or masculine pride is no longer allowed, but gay pride is praised.

 

The famous song Macho Man, by the Village People, is of interest for my analysis. In this song, six gay men sing about their professed love of their body, but they definitely don’t sing about embodying their language. I would say, that being gay is actually just another failed attempt at addressing DL. Many gay men either try to sound feminine or they hilariously attempt, as they do in this song, try to be a Macho.  

 

Here is the first part of Macho Man:

Body, wanna feel my body,
Body, baby, such a thrill, my body
Body, wanna touch my body,
Body, baby, it's too much, my body
Body, check it out, my body, body,
Baby, don't you doubt, my body
Body, talking about my body, body,
Baby, checking out my body

 

It is really remarkable how often the word body is used in this song. Please look up the lyrics yourself and pay special attention, to how in our usual way of talking, we don’t embody our language. That is why DL is everywhere. Of course, many people don’t feel happy with their DL. However, as long as they haven’t addressed their DL appropriately, it will not stop, and they remain incapable of having EL. Also, transgender people have many issues with their body. They believe to be a woman in a man’s body or a man in a woman’s body, but they never address their DL, which creates and maintains their body dysphoria, the term, which is used to describe the emotional distress, that is – said to be – caused by a mismatch between one’s body and one’s identity.

 

This writing is not about what the reader usually associates with the word macho – because macho, as it is understood with DL, is merely about image – but it is – with EL – about our survival and survival is about living and being alive. Stated differently, in DL, men act macho, but they are phony. Real men, who have EL, don’t need to pretend, as if they are manly, as they are full of life, strength and energy. It is only the uncomfortable men, who have to prove what a macho they are. They are uncomfortable, because they, unconsciously, day in day out, engage in DL.  

 

Ultimately, we are endlessly competing and trying to outdo each other, by pretending to be stronger, smarter, better, holier and safer than others. While with DL, all men are trying – in vain – to be an alpha male, the undeniable, biological fact remains, there are only a few dominant males. In other words, due to our DL, most individual men, have never really been the man, they truly were, and, also, the vast majority of individual women, have never really been able to be the woman, they were, as there was always some kind of struggle going on, between those, who were more and those who were less powerful. Yes, there are alpha males among men and women, and this is more a matter of nature (genetics) than nurture (learning). The multidimensionality of masculinity as well as femininity can only be expressed by our EL.

 

With our ongoing EL, which expresses our Language Enlightenment (LE), the word macho – which can be applied to men as well as women – takes on a new meaning. We are inspirational and at the top of the social hierarchy, because we have acquired genuine self-knowledge, which stands in stark contrast to the superficiality, foolishness and utter meaninglessness purported by those, who unknowingly engage in DL. Moreover, our powerful, unique, fortunate position, isn’t necessarily because others have recognized us for who we are, but because we have - with our own language - recognized ourselves for who we are.

 

The machismo of those very few people – who dare to speak about and assert their LE with their EL – definitely illustrates a superior sense of willpower and independence, because they are able to stick to their own language, in spite of the irrefutable fact, that everyone engages in DL. They only want to be around people, who know what they want and they  rather remain alone, if they can’t find them. While they care for others, they care mostly about those who, with EL, know how to care about themselves.

 

Macho men, with their male machismo, have much to answer for, because DL has never been correctly addressed. Experience has taught me, that women are much more open to having EL than men. The relationship between patriarchy and machismo is, of course, maintained by our DL. Patriarchy, the system of subordination of women to men, has been going on forever. There is no evidence, there ever really was a matriarchal society. With DL, machismo is said to be a set of beliefs, cognitive biases and attitudes that predispose people to act as if women have less value than men, while patriarchy – with DL – is defined as the social phenomenon that historically has been the engine of machismo and certain privileges that only man enjoys. Certainly, it was always our way of talking, which has determined how we dealt with our language, with each other and with all our other behavior. Only our ongoing EL can set the record straight.

 

As I have stated – with EL – we need more, not less machismo, as this will not only result in becoming conscious about our LE, but it will also pave the way for happy, healthy, stimulating relationships. To put it squarely, with DL all of our so-called relationships suck. With EL, we protect and care for each other, but with DL, we have always backed out of true and authentic relationship, including our relationship with ourselves. No matter how much we manage to impress others – who are tricked by manipulations of our external appearances, particularly, by the way in which people use their voice while they speak – all the world’s DL- machos, regardless of their dumb bravado or their paranoid dominance, are eternally dissatisfied with themselves, because they cannot be content with themselves with unconscious DL.

 

It takes great courage, to acknowledge your own LE with your EL and to honor your self-nature, by being the master of your own language. Your worthiness is the result of the positive outcomes of your actions. When you do something, you do it totally and that is why you succeed. You don’t do what you do, to be admired, but to be satisfied and to be enough to yourself. With EL, you are macho about your LE, which is to say, you insist, everyone can have what you have and your life will be the example of that. With DL-machismo, you have been denying all your emotions, as if they aren’t real, valid or worthy of being expressed, but as an EL-macho, you are able to talk about your feelings and acknowledge that your stress, depression and aggression no longer occur, because you feel peaceful and fulfilled.